I had a purge and did not regret anything

[Bobbi46]

Looking through my wardrobe I was pondering on what I should I keep and looked right on me and what to throw out . About 1/2 an hour later only about 4 things went, a blouse together with a one piece trouser suit and two skirts that I decided were too short. So it all went and I have no regrets because I now have what I like best and wear often, and feel comfortable with.
I have no regrets with what I disposed of, have you?

[Sami Brown]

After reading several books about color and style, I have pared my wardrobe to about a third of what it was. This also includes my male wardrobe. More importantly, I now know what to buy in the future because I understand how it will look upon my frame and skin tone.

[IleneD]

I still affectionately cling to those first and early garments; the Impulse Purchase moments.
Some stay and WILL remain simply because that dress is an old friend long forgotten or a significant milestone item. The first dress I impulsively grabbed off a clearance rack that put me back in the CD game (so to speak), and was that first step to a wardrobe of a dozen or more dresses and outfits and a more dedicated approach to crossdressing.
Those garments may be difficult to eliminate. I've loved them all for some reason at some time.

BTW.... shame on you for baiting us with the term PURGE. Your's was a joyful perhaps melancholy purge; not one of desperation. LOL (good joke).

[mechamoose]

So long as you are not doing it out of guilt, then I guess it ok.

If you are doing out of taste, then have at it.

"I now have what I like best and wear often, and feel comfortable with"

Isn't that our communal goal?

Except that one little skirt. The one I wear for me. I'd consider it a 'guilty pleasure' if I actually felt guilty about it.

- MM

[Bobbi46]

Definitely not a feeling of guilt at all more of coming to realise that some things did not look right any more.
IleneD I liked the joke! as well and no it was not a purge of desperation. One of the skirts was a black satin pleated one which I realised that when I bent over would show more than I wanted! and also no good for gardening LoL !

[JenniferMBlack]

I think it's time for me to do this as well. Bonus is it makes room for new clothes.

[JamieQ]

I have never purged but I have got rid of things I didn't need/wear anymore...and yes, as others said, there is more room for new stuff... I never regretted what I got rid of...

[mechamoose]

No, no NO.

'Purging' does not help you. The 'urge' is only going to come back. You can't stop it, you can't help it, and it isn't your fault. It is part of you.

Please stop wasting your time and money by throwing away things you like. You are entitled to have likes, and you should not ever be made to feel sorry for them.

- MM

[Bobbi46]

I totally agree with not throwing things out that one likes but the 4 things I did get rid off, I did not wear any more and when ever I saw them in the wardrobe I knew deep down that they were no longer what I should be wearing or what I should look right in at the time. They were bought early on in my quest of femininity, which I think I have now found.

[NancySue]

I purge only when I run out of closet or drawer space 😉 Even then, "one never knows".

[Mickitv]

i have purged so many cute things in my lifetime. You should be proud if yourself not doing the same and only purging those not needed anymore. Congratulations.

[CONSUELO]

That sounds more like a "sorting out" which is a good thing that we should all do from time to time. The word Purge is usually used by members to indicate a discarding of all their feminine attire as if they want to turn away from cross dressing. Certainly that is the way I did it many, many years ago before I learned to just relax and love being what I am.

[Teresa]

Bobbi,
My count is still going up , I know some of the early stuff has to go, it's finding the time to sort through. Now I go out the choice is a little easier because I'm never going to wear some of it in public.

Don't worry I've thought through what might make it to France , I hope the French are ready for it !

[DIANEF]

I have not purged ever but I do have some items I know I will never wear again. They will probably end up at a charity shop.

[Sandin Meknickers]

Haha. Love the irony of people unfashionably wearing the other sexes clothes and then obeying the fashion police.

[ronniegirl]

I sorted out my closet a while back to make room for new clothes. Well in a very short time it"s at capacity again.. I think if I add another skirt, blouse or dress on that closet bar the whole thing may come crashing down...darn that pink fog....lol

[Bobbi46]

I like that " come crashing down" have you thought of all the time it will take to iron out the creases after! LoL having said that It is nice to have a range from which to choose from each time. As for when my next clear out will be I know not as what I have now is just right. But who knows fashions change but what goes round comes back again.

[Traci H]

Yep, some members have felt you are purging out of guilt when in fact you are just culling the herd a bit. Unless you have endless amounts of storage space and even then, too much just gets cumbersome, you have to cull once in a while. I have a hard time doing that, but on occasion get rid of something that just doesn't fit or look good. I'm overdue for such now.

[Bobbi46]

Yes purging was in hindsight the wrong word to use pairing down or clearing out might have been better. I can never see the time when I would turf everything out and replace with new. The beauty of having a sort out or clearing out is that I now know and can see and appreciate what I have and what is special to me. One thing I will never move on is a beautiful pale gold pleated sating long skirt with a speckled gold and black short sleeved top with a black sheer sleeved top to cover. Just right for evening wear and waiting for that special moment to come, it will. It all comes down getting used to what is right and wrong. Time for that as yet! LoL

[Micki_Finn]

The culling of ones wardrobe is necessary from time to time. Clothes get worn or fall out of style or just don't fit anymore. I don't think anyone really "regrets" that. It's just a natural part of not being a hoarder.

[Megan Nicole]

I agree with several others here. When I see/hear the word purge I think of everything going to the dumpster. I recently went through some of my girl clothes and got rid of items I hadnt worn in a long time. Kept all my favs. I just plan to add to my stash with some new clothes this year. I wouldn't call it a purge at all. Just out with the old and making room for the new. -Meg

[dawn459]

Purgining can be benifical&detrimental to your closet.Keep the clothes that you can now
Wear&make pictures of
the Clothes that are 2small
Advertise them for a yard
Sale if questioned about
Who owned them (if married say your wife Or
Special friend) put price on
Items &let them go. YOU
Reap the benefits of having x $$ to spend on
New clothes.

[Sandin Meknickers]

Ever heard if ebay?

[NicoleScott]

Sorry to nit-pick, but that's not a purge. It's culling what you no longer want, like, or fit. Makes room for an upgrade or update.

[Sandin Meknickers]

I'm gonna go for a purge right now. I do it regularly but I'm not sure if I'm doing it right. Maybe I can post a picture for ratings?

[Stephanie Julianna]

Stuff comes and goes and life moves on. No regrets.

[Stephanie47]

"Purge: rid (someone) of an unwanted feeling, memory or condition, typically giving a sense of cathartic release"

Clearing a wardrobe out of ill fitting, out grown styles or just plain too many clothes hardly qualifies as a "purge." If nobody "purged" then there may not be as many great bargains on eBay or at Goodwill. Don't rid or purge or let somebody else purge your belongings because of some psycho babble.

The only things I have ever culled from the wardrobe were items I no longer wanted; male or female.

[lingerieLiz]

Most of the women I know including family get rid of clothes on a regular basis. Some start over every year to be in fashion. Some look for classics to wear for years. BUT, everyone's wardrobe gets old and out of date eventually. My wife and daughters remind me sometimes, that has to go. Don't wear it again. You mean what was popular in the 80s?

[Becky Blue]

Agree with others thats not a purge, a purge is when you get rid of everything with the misguided belief at that moment that by getting rid of everything you will not dress. There should be a word for the next stage which involves buying new things because I have nothing femm to wear.

[Diane Taylor]

When I first started buying women's clothing I tended to just buy anything which meant that I didn't really have any nice "put together" outfits. After awhile I started making purchases that made for a nice look when I went out. I did throw out a lot of the early purchases and with no regrets.

[Kellitgdet]

I agree with some of the other girls, that is not purging. Purging is getting rid of everything and thinking you can stop the feelings you have to dress up. I have thinned out the wardrobe, just because I just wasn't into the item and have to much stuff. And I have done a mini purge to stop myself from doing a full purge. The mini purge helped me in two ways. 1st it satisfied the need to do a full purge and 2nd it stopped me from getting rid of all the items I really liked. And lastly it helped me understand, for me this will never go away. And I'm good with that because I feel amazing when I get my fem-self on and get all glammed up.

[alwayshave]

I am moving in two months and I'm planning on reducing the number off dresses. But when moving its always a good time to make a drop off run to Morgan Memorial.

[Bobbi46]

I think choosing carefully in the beginning can be a good thing, I am now careful with what I look at and consider is it going to be a one off wearing? if I think so then it stays on the rail. But it sure is nice to find something that will be worn over and over again.

[Jaylyn]

It seems every time I have purged I've always regretted it. I went thru a semi purge about two months ago. I had something inside me that said was thru with dressing and at first I piled every thing I had on our bed. I was looking thru the stuff I had. I started throwing things away. I got to my makeup and had second thoughts. I had already carried two bags of old clothes to the dumpster. I finally decided to keep my heels, makeup, and just a few of my skirts. My wife has lost a bunch of weight and her old tops fit me so I have been wearing them when I dress. They were far better quality than my cheap old stuff. Also she left them in the back of her closet as a reminder of what she used to look like. She bought her some new ones and I feel like I gained a bunch of new things.
I stated earlier that I have always regretted purging well I am missing a couple of sexy corset looking items I really wished I'd have kept. One older garter that I enjoyed also got into the purging frenzy I wish I had back.
Be careful when you purge it seems to always come back and bite you.

[Tama]

When a nicely folded group spills into a giant disorganized pile, then it is time to dispense with what is no longer necessary. I am in fact are about to that soon...