It Happened Too Fast

[Steph65]

I was dressed up yesterday. Just got make up on and feeling good. I was just going to relax and then go for a nice drive and walk along a pier that goes out to the lake. Not many people go there at night as I have watched at what times it is usually busy.

I saw my neighbour go out as she was letting her dog out and then she gets ready to go out. I decided to wait and let my dog out to do her thing. After I saw her go in I walked out on the back deck and had my dog out with me. I walked down the stairs and went to walk to the back of the yard and walk back to the deck..... well I walked to the back yard heard the car leave (or so I thought) and next thing I know the neighbour is walking out their back door with their dog!!!! OMG my heart just Jumped into my throat and back down and back up. She called out and I could not avoid her at all she was waiting to talk...... I thought ok np just talk like nothing is going on. She was shocked it was me. She looked hard at me and said she thought it was some one else. I said thank you!!! Mean while her husband walks to the window and see's us talking....... gig is up!! I told her This is what I enjoy doing and that I do not care what other people think... I said it is better than living beside a real freak and has loud music ect ect. Her husband come out and he asked what was going on.... I had to say hi I am Steph!! He said I look better dressed than in regular mode. He was not approving of it at all. My neighbour asked me if I can walk their dog. I told her yes I can. They both looked at each other and both smiled. What ever that meant.

He left and she said no worries she just wanted to make sure I was not into anything strange or really perverted. She was all smiles after and I said to her if your not comfortable with me dressing too bad it is what I enjoy. If they do not like it close the drapes and put blinders on the kids. Well she did take a little offense to it and said she would let me wife know!!!! I said that is fine and left it at that..... My wife knows and is very supportive. I want to see what is said. Will do and up date and see what was said stay tuned.

Hearts a thumpin!!!
Steph.

[AlissaMurray]

HEY NOW, I love to crank up the old tunes like Bob Seger, Eagles, FleetwoodMac, DefLepard, ect... And that makes me a freak? I seriously take offense to that. I am old school. Love my old cars and love my old music. Don't missunderstand, I live in an apartment and have never had a complaint from a neighbor ever. But when I lived in a house that was a different story. I had neighbors but they were a short distance off, I'd blast some good tunes in the house and be out in the shop getting things done and never had a complaint. If I had neighbors on top of me on both sides I would be curtious but....just be careful were you step there. I can see were there are some people who could think I am a freak but it ain't because of my smoking or my music!

[Tracii G]

You could have been a bit more tactful but the cat is out of the bag.
I will ask does your wife no what happened?

[Steph65]

AllisaMurray it was said as a generic that we are not anything to worry about that we do not have the cops at our door. It was meant as a general statement.

What I was saying was about the blinder was my own thoughts this was not said directly to her. I really hate typing as it does not show or tell the whole way it went down without getting into major detail.

Tracii G. I told my wife what happened and she said oh well thats their problem if they don't like it not our problem. There are more important things to deal with in life. Do what makes you happy because once your gone you do not want to be saying wish I did this or that.

[Lauri K]

When you are busy walking dogs the cats will come out of the bag to play, what an encounter but at least they (neighbors) know where you stand.

I have many thoughts on this, but applaud your stance that if they don't like it too bad, close the drapes etc. but the tone came off a bit gruff reading your story........but I am sure it was not as contentious as it seemed or maybe it was

I feel the same way in a sense, because after all they are just neighbors and there is no way to please all your neighbors regardless the subject..................

[Kelly DeWinter]

In lacrosse Walking the Doq was to perform a trick where the ball rolls down the shaft, and then is caught in the head of the lacrosse stick. The really good player were Big Dogs who could do it with a Pair.

[Helen_Highwater]

For me this is one of those situations were it would be good to revisit and by that I meant next time you talk to the neighbours say something along the lines of, "Sorry if I sounded a little off the other day but it was just that you caught me off guard and I got a little defensive". Having good relations with those next door is never a bad thing and besides it won't do any harm.

[Steph65]

Helen_Highwater I agree and will find out soon. I think the neighbour had to take a different take when her hubby was around but she did not say anything negative. She still wants me to walk her dog. so I will talk to her

[IleneD]

Steph:

This is an interesting story, and one from which we all may learn.

I am facing most of the summer (6-8 weeks) of being alone at home while The Wife travels. She has obligations to serve and I can't attend, so I'm staying home. Already in my mind I am planning on spending most of that time in Ilene mode. I've already mentally envisioned going out in the yard or working in the garden in a long skirt, for example. There may be open exposure when I transit to/from my vehicle. The neighbors will ask themselves "Who is that very tall woman living at the house across the way?" Darting out of my Bat Cave in the convertible and in Femme Mode will be in interesting exercise.

I know there are some genuine stories out there about first encounters with next door neighbors or folks in the neighborhood; some that went well and some that perhaps ended rather strange. Please share because those stories add to my own learning curve, and how much and how fast to enter the public domain as Ilene [more and more].

[Tracii G]

Kelly you need to stop with that balls,shaft and head talk I was starting to get excited.
I may need to start watching lacrosse matches from now on sounds like a sport I could get into. :)

[lingerieLiz]

I don't know why one must tell others like it or tough. My neighbors have known for years. As have neighbors where I've lived before. I've never given an explanation unless asked. It doesn't take a genius to know I'm wearing women's clothes. If they don't like it they are smart enough to avoid me. None have. The fact that she asked you to walk the dog means being friendly enough to ask a favor. Telling them accept it or keep your drapes closed is an attack on them. It is their window and they can do as they please.

[Sami Brown]

Having a nice chat with the wife next door is a great idea. I agree with Helen that explaining your gruffness due to being caught off guard is the way to go. Good luck with this, and let us know how it goes.

Sami

[Kelly DeWinter]

LOL Traci, Yeah Lacrosse is full of terms that can be taken many ways ;)

[Danitgirl1]

I am sorry that happened Steph... It was an uncomfortable experience I am sure and no matter how hard we try and prepare for these situations, when they happen they still catch us by surprise and we can become defensive.
I would endorse what others have said and see if you can try and repair relations with your neighbours... Whilst you were not wrong to react like you did (it seems to em they were giving you at least slightly negative vibes) perhaps you could (in hindsight) have handled it differently. The sooner you go and talk the easier it will be and who knows you may enhance your relationship with them...

FWIW the Urban Dictionary has a few different meanings for 'walk the dog'. None of them are exactly complimentary and most relate to masturbation and drug use, so I do not think your neighbour was exactly being nice when he asked that. especially as they seemed to share a knowing look.

Hope things pan out well for you and that relations improve.

I suppose this just reiterates that if you don't want to get caught, don't dress... If you dress, accept that you may get caught... If you get caught try and keep your cool as best you can... All much easier said than done. Especially if you are not (yet) fully comfortable with YOURSELF en femme...

[ash246]

Definitely sounds like you were a little bit combative. That'll put people on edge even if they aren't planning on being hostile or rejecting, so I concur with the others who said a followup visit to the wife would be a good idea. It's easy to feel defensive when you're put on the spot like that, though.

[BrendaPDX]

Love it! Cat's out of the bag. LOL

[Steph65]

Ok I have no idea about what slang people refer to about walking the dog. Does not make any sense at all. They have a small puppy dog. She wants me to take it for walks when I go out and take my puppy out. Sorry you all seem I was gruff. You have to put yourselves in the other shoes Panic and anxiety make the situation harder to think straight. Like the title says It Happened too fast!!! Don't be so quick to jump on the gruff band wagon.

Just to give you all a heads up I talked with them this morning. we both agreed with how things happened it was a shock and happened too fast. They are fine with what I do. They understand I am not a weirdo or anything like that. In fact The neighbour told me they would like me to take their PUPPY dog for a walk when I take mine out.

By the way they are new neighbours who moved up from the city so they were not expecting to see this in the country.

[Nic J]

It's really great that you have made a positive breakthru with your new neighbours :)

[CONSUELO]

Glad your neighbor decided that there was "nothing strange or really perverted going on".

You handled it in the only way possible. Complete honesty. Best wishes in walking the dog for them.

[Leelou]

I think it's great that you talked to the neighbor and all is well. I can see how everyone was a little stressed by an unfamiliar situation.

That's cute about them not expecting this out in the country! lol. The good news is the cats out of the bag and you don't have to worry about them seeing you outside dressed.

[docrobbysherry]

U r doing your own thing, good for u, Steph! But, that's not everyone's cup of tea. My neighbor saw me doing a shoot in my back yard the day he thru a big BBQ party. He called the next day to complain that the fence extender I put up wasn't working. I suggested he shouldn't let his guests peek over our fence and we left it at that!:straightface:

I have no interest in discussing my dressing with neighbors and go to great lengths to avoid them seeing me. It's none on their business. Period!:Angry3:

[lingerieLiz]

Glad you worked it out. It is nice that you can be you. They sound like people you can be friends with and open with.

[Dana44]

Steph, Glad it worked out. I do wonder here at times i am outdoors many times en femme. So I think many know. But has never said anything.

[Barbara Black]

My new neighbor waved and yelled at me from across the yards. At the time I was wearing a blouse and skirt (knee length). I don't know if he could see well enough to tell what I was wearing due to the bushes etc., but later, I was in the front yard and he called me over to discuss another neighbor's fence that was falling. I was wearing my forms under my drab clothing, in particular, a T-shirt, and it was clearly visible that I had a good sized chest under my bra. No worries, he didn't stare, or run away. I followed him to the problem with the fence, talked about it, and nothing was said or notable about his reactions. So I know I'm outed to him, now to run into his wife and see her reaction... Surely I've been discussed by now. But I'm glad that I don't have to worry about him anymore.