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deebra
05-12-2017, 06:22 AM
This is for GG's that say they are accepting and fine with going out in public with their mate dressed and presenting as a female or androgynous dressed? Honestly would you rather she/he wore male clothing? There wouldn't be an stares or whispers. Do you prefer she/he dress feminine to what ever degree rather than male? Do you or have you come to prefer your mate wearing panties and a bra rather than when you use to see she/he in tightie whities, same for girl jeans, fem top or tee, shoes, etc? Do you think the soft, more color, tighter, form fitting female clothing look better on him than male?

greeneyes
05-12-2017, 07:29 AM
Very interesting question, thank you for posting it. I found out about Joni's dressing eight months ago, so I think we are still finding our groove so to speak. However, I have thought about this. I actually have no preference. We have only gone out publicly four times. We have shopped for stuff for Joni while DRAB often, but not as Joni. I am not sure if I have enough experience in the public arena. For the most part, I don't really give a rat's ass what people think...so, my concern when we are out is that Joni is comfortable and feels safe. But again, I think we would have to do it a little more for me to say what things might bother me. Our days alone, we could do either. Joni usually kinda leaves it up to me, but I find I suggest/prefer/choose her to dress during our private time. For a few reason's. #1 it makes her happy and I love her, so I like her being happy! LOL. #2 we have 4 teenagers in the house so dressing time is VERY limited. #3 I just told her this the other day....Her energy is different when she is dressed, and I enjoy seeing that, it makes ME happy. #4 as far as bedtime (for sleepwear.....LOL) either is fine with me. I do not see any difference, what ever she is comfortable in that night is fine with me. Sexy-time.....I enjoy loving her/him either way equally. It was a little different in the beginning...but I was committed to giving it a chance, when we first started this journey (which means I kept an open mind) and now I do not really have a preference. We also communicate about this A LOT. about how we are each feeling...I know at ANY POINT, I can ask for a DRAB day and she would be fine with it. Each step of her dressing..(shaving etc) we discuss beforehand...usually my response is...go ahead and let's try it, I will let you know if it really bothers me. For example..she really wants to try colored contacts...I like her eyes...so I am not sure if that will make me uncomfortable...but I won't know unless we try. And I do not think I should just say no....maybe I won't care (sometimes) maybe I will..so I reserve the right to say...I really would prefer you.... don't at all, or only occasionally.
I always look at this like, if this is something I would like to do, would I want my spouse to tell me no? would I think that was fair? We are a team..not a dictatorship. Of course what I feel and think matters also, and she respects that too. I think this is how it should be and It is working for us!!

greeneyes
05-13-2017, 06:29 PM
Where the heck are the rest of the GG's on this???? LOL Don't leave me hanging!!!!

deebra
05-14-2017, 08:11 AM
Amen to that, how about your input Reine......and the rest of you(GG) too.

Sandra
05-16-2017, 07:35 AM
Nigella wears clothing for the female form all the time, of course being TS it would be strange if she wore male clothing :D.

It has never bothered me what she is wearing unless it doesn't look right, then I will say something.

Di
05-16-2017, 04:49 PM
Sherlyn and I met with her dressed and over the years have gone everywhere and done everything.Its part of our life together and part of who she is.Of course I do not prefer male clothing over her style. Although she wears guy clothes for work.... I do not care either way I love her and none of this is a big deal nor has it ever been. But we started out as Sher and Di so that prob is a lot different than most relationships.
Everyone has to find what works in their relationships :)

Add : also our kids are grown and on their own so it was just us exploring and living life how we want.

ReineD
05-17-2017, 04:27 PM
Sometimes I prefer my SO to present as a male and sometimes it makes no difference to me.

I like my SO to present as a male (and my SO feels the same way) when we do things with work associates, when we spend time with our families, when we hang out with local non-LGBT friends, when we go out in our immediate surroundings (local restaurants, running errands locally, etc), and when we do more romantic things like take ballroom dancing lessons.

I don’t mind and in fact I support my SO dressing up when we go out dressed in the next town over, although neither one of us would appreciate running into someone whom we don’t wish to tell about the crossdressing.

At home, it makes no difference what my SO wears although I do think my SO looks sexier as a guy. This makes sense because I am hetero - I have always been naturally attracted to men and not women. However, I do recognize that my SO enjoys presenting as a woman and so I am happy when my SO is happily dressed.

I hope this answers your questions.

deebra
05-19-2017, 07:51 AM
Reine thanks for responding, a lot on here value your input and were waiting for your reply. You said what I thought, most women prefer a man to dress in men's clothing but where it means so much to him they go along. No one knows but the CD what comes into your mind to do a problematic thing as dressing in women's clothes and pretending to be a woman or something similar. Wish GG's could feel what he feels to make him do this.

Just curious ??? When your SO is dressed in just sexy bikini panties and they hug his shape more so than boxers or briefs, does he look better?

ReineD
05-20-2017, 01:47 PM
Deebra, you place a lot more importance on underwear than I do. The contours of the body are the same, whether it is large or small underwear.

I understand that you think bikini panties are sexy. But this is because you love bikini panties. To me, they're just a pair of underwear, whether they are men's bikini briefs or women's.