Gifts with hidden meaning

[Tina Davis]

I recently celebrated my birthday (not the date in my profile), and while I enjoyed two very nice dinners and the cards and presents from my family, there was one gift that was a surprise. My wife got me a gift certificate for 3 manicures at a local salon. Now, I know this is great news for me as I have enjoyed getting manicures before.

BUT, my wife has always been opposed to my dressing and would hit the ceiling if I got color on my nails. She has constantly emphasized that I get a "male" manicure. I am actually a little confused about what I want to do with this gift. I am considering just getting a clear polish when I go (in drab) the first and second times. But I really want to get a pale color similar to the one I got at a different salon a month ago while dressed as Tina.

I had been fine with not being able to dress during the summer, but this has brought the feelings back much sooner. I'm not sure how I can handle the urge without ending up in a major argument. I know I should talk with her, but it's been so many years that I've kept myself hidden, it's tough. I will keep on believing that this journey is its own reward, and any obstacle can be overcome.

Toodles,
Tina

[Micki_Finn]

My advice would be not to push it. She has made her limits known, so it would be a double slap in the face do flaunt those using the gift she gave you. Not sure how she would feel about this but why not take her with you and treat her as well. Then while you're there together you can feel her out about the color so you're not doing it behind her back. If she won't go, at the very least I would avoid overstepping her bounds. It may not have been easy for her to give you that gift and you don't want to give her the idea that for everty inch she gives you'll take a mile.

[Stephanie47]

I really don't known if the gift has a hidden meaning. If your wife knows about your dressing and apparently tolerates it to some extent, she may be giving something you would enjoy..but with limitations. In this post you did not indicate what causes a summer off from dressing. If it is because young school age kids are home for the summer it would be tough to find time to relax in the back yard en femme soaking up the sun. If the kids head off to grandparents for an overnight or a weekend trip maybe discussing your desires is in order. My wife is a school teacher and I am a retiree. Mid June usually brings on a shut down until the first Wednesday after Labor Day. So I know your pain so to speak.

Talk to her. You have nothing to lose. Frankly, if I was a non accepting wife I would not give my cross dressing husband any gift with a mixed message. I would think it would be cruel.

[Tina Davis]

Stephanie, my wife does not support my dressing at all and would rather I stop completely. I do not dress unless she is away from home for at least a few hours. With my daughter home for the summer, I don't expect any time to dress. What I find ironically amusing about this gift is that I have gotten manicures before. But they have been shape and buff types, not anything with polish. I did get a top coat of clear polish twice but that's it. I would do that again in a heartbeat and she would be okay with it. My CD urge is to get color, which she would not be happy about. I don't think she got this to be cruel at all.

Micki, this salon is her usual, she just got hers done as well as getting the certificate for me. I would certainly go with her if she wanted to get hers done at the same time.

[Teresa]

Tina,
Simple answer , ask her what she like you to do with the gift tokens ? Does the salon offer other services which your wife might intend you to use and something she would be OK with ?

[Sandy Storm]

My advice would be not to push it. She has made her limits known, so it would be a double slap in the face do flaunt those using the gift she gave you. Not sure how she would feel about this but why not take her with you and treat her as well. Then while you're there together you can feel her out about the color so you're not doing it behind her back. If she won't go, at the very least I would avoid overstepping her bounds. It may not have been easy for her to give you that gift and you don't want to give her the idea that for everty inch she gives you'll take a mile.

completely agree!!!! respect her wishes while she still gives you something you want, I would just do clear or I never get anything on my fingernails, just cleaned up and shaped