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Sissy_in_pink
06-12-2017, 07:20 AM
I know my ex-wife hated me cross-dressing right from the day she found out, but I liked doing it too much to stop, after many years she finally told me she wanted a divorce, I had been married 27 years by then, it was a shock at first, but then became a relief as I had had enough of her for many various reasons. I got to keep the house as she had no way of paying me half, so I had to pay her half to keep it.
After the settlement she moved to the UK and married a guy that was almost her double in every way.
After the divorce I started cross-dressing even more and joined a support group, now I have been out in public, to the shops, to trans-formals, a Christmas Party and social meetings that are held once a month, I've only missed a couple since joining. I was going to join the same support group while I was married, but there was no internet back then, so snail mail was the only way I could join and that would have meant the wife would have found out for sure, this was before she did find out.
I have dated 8 ladies since my divorce and only told one, she was ok with it at first, but I think I pushed it too far and that caused the end.
I have come to realize that telling ladies after you meet them is not a good idea as they sure as hell will not like it, so now I present myself as much as possible as a cross-dresser without wearing a dress or obvious makeup, just a bit of makeup, perfume, some jewelry and a bra and small breast forms that can be seen but not so obvious, I have also had Shellac nail finish in a natural pink colour on my finger nails, it can be seen, but only if you look hard.
By doing it this way I hope to meet a lady that can see that I'm a cross-dresser right from the start. Well I’m 62 now and still hoping it will happen, but anyway I am happy in myself and will never give up cross-dressing, I have come out to a couple of friends that are cool with it and I think they know at work, but no one ever says anything.
But now with the support group that I go to, I get to talk to others like me whilst fully dressed, the worst part is when the meetings are over and I have to go home and wait another month for the next meeting, the meetings take an hour to drive to and on the way home I always hope that I will get pulled over for a random breath test, but it hasn’t happened so far. The first time I went I forgot to fill the car and discovered it after I was on my way, I had enough to get there, but not home again, so I had to fill up on the way home, that is the very first time I ever interacted with someone whilst dressed, I was surprised how calm I was and how the guy behind the counter didn’t bat an eyelid.
Anyway here's to Cross-dressing, hope we can do it for many years to come.
Cheers Rhonda

Barbara Black
06-12-2017, 07:25 AM
Congratulations on your decision to do 'wear' what you like. I hope you find some other outlets for dressing to fit between your monthly meetings. Meanwhile, this forum is good for getting dressed up for also. I know we will also enjoy it.

NicoleScott
06-12-2017, 09:20 AM
My life after divorce is different than yours. I dressed up more often (a lot more) and went out a lot, but go out or stay in I kept to myself. It's about me and my transformations.
Divorce can be scary and at the same time exciting at the prospect of freedom. A good divorce is better than a bad marriage. There IS life after divorce.

Sissy_in_pink
06-12-2017, 09:44 AM
I do dress most of the time at home, have even excepted deliveries at my door dressed, I also go shopping dressed even if I don't actually need anything and if I do buy something the interaction with the sales assistant is very exciting.
I had a motorcycle accident 7 weeks ago and was very badly injured, but before that happened I would go for anything up to 10 kilometre walks in the morning dressed in female athletic gear and no one passing has ever said anything other than good-morning to me.

LeannS
06-12-2017, 11:51 AM
Thanks for posting Ronda I do hope this can help some of the others here.

Leann

StephanieJ
06-12-2017, 03:14 PM
Well done. I find myself in the exact same situation. I still have teenage children at home and for their sakes, I don't go out dressed much.

I'm also not interested in dating, but the thought has crossed my mind that IF I was, I would use an internet dating site and create a profile holding myself out as CD/TG from the beginning. That way there would be no secrets. Has anyone else done this with any success?

Dana44
06-12-2017, 03:25 PM
Rhonda, Very nice story. Hope you recover from your motorcycle accident. Keep on dating and finding the girl for you. They are out there. Not every woman is against us.

Ally 2112
06-16-2017, 08:16 PM
Enjoy yourself in the right way that makes you happy .Take your time and enjoy the ride

Fiona123
06-17-2017, 07:32 AM
You sound happy and centered. I'm sure you will find a companion eventually.

kimdl93
06-17-2017, 11:38 AM
I'm happy for you - nice to know that you've found a comfortable existence after your divorce. On the other hand, I'm very sorry to hear about the cycle accident!

I should think that convalescence has given you plenty of opportunity to ponder your future self. It seems you may want to continue to explore life outside and interactions en femme. From personal experience, it really becomes quite easy and natural after a few outings. And since you've done the 10 km walks with courteous reactions, if any at all, I'd think you would find a shopping excursion equally non-eventful.

Nikki A.
06-17-2017, 12:49 PM
Rhonda I hope you're feeling better.
I'm widowed and have a similar story as yours, with the difference that my wife understood that it was a part of me and we set ground rules while she was alive. Dressing to a point at home was ok, no going out (other than Halloween) in public.
After her death and once the kids were off to college, things changed and I started going out in public as Nikki. I've also gotten to the point that I do go out regularly to church, shop and do normal mundane things with little or no problems. I am seeing someone, and have reached a point where I have hinted but not come out fully to her. This will happen in the near future, she lives in Fla 3 weeks or so/month and only a week up here and it seems with everything going on in her life (family and work and her health) I did not want to add more to her plate.