This morning i got busted!

[Bobbi46]

This weekend was my birthday and one of my presents was a Windows 10 lap top but with it I want to load picas 3 for my photos but could not complete it properly.
Soooo I left a message on for one of my ex pat friends just down the road (he was out at the time) and normally he rings me back , BUT this time it was different I WAS DRESSED just finishing my lunch, the front door was open because it was nice and sunny, next thing knock, knock on the door, in walks Paul and there is me strap sleeve blouse, bra/forms and blue skirt!
Hi Paul says me I'll just go and change and like greased lightening I went and changed as whilst doing so managed to bring my beating heart back to normal. And I returned to the lounge, he had gone out to just by the front door and I told him come in Paul tea or coffee. and I proceeded to tell him what I was trying to do.
Almost immediately I noticed that things were like nothing had happened at all. Which makes come to think did he in fact know already that I was CD ? and had accepted me as such having found out on the grapevine before.
Who knows it would appear on the face of it all that maybe he knew already because his attitude to me did not change from start to finish.
Anyway if not the cat is out of the bag time with my close by ex pat friends!
Watch this space my friends as they say, the saga has not ended!

[jhasmine]

Sounds like you have a great friend who respects you for you and does not care what you dress like. With that type of friend, try asking them what they think of you dressed up or tell them you like to dress up and hope that does not make them uncomfortable. You may get something like hey, your braver than I am or Could you hide my stash for me. LOL :)

[Teresa]

Bobbi,
What are we to do with you ? Why give yourself a heart attack ? Stay dressed and , stay calm, all you had to say to Paul was Bobbi is in residence at the moment.
Now Supposing you had two more Cding friends sitting having coffee would we have manged to squeeze through the door at the same time, I'm sure two of us would have greeted Paul and made sure Bobbi did too.

[Bobbi46]

Do you think he already knew from gentle gossip in my hamlet?

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Teresa
You always have the answers! No my ticker is made of stronger stuff, but Paul is very much a macho man. and yes definitely two more dear cd friends would have clinched the whole scenario just nicely and yes you would have squeezed through my door most elegantly.
Also it was a good job he had not called just a bit earlier he would have caught me in my bra and panties because half way through dressing I decided to make some coffee!

[Teresa]

Bobbi,
I could add a comment to that reply ! It did bring to mind my mothers warnings about wearing clean underwear, but not a question you'd ask a lady !

[Bobbi46]

Teresa
If he had seen me in my bra and panties at least they would have been a matching set! the white panties have a lovely flower appliqué fixed just in front of the left hip. Reminds me which is front and which is back LOL!

[Teresa]

Bobbi,
Good point , otherwise when you've tucked things away you could go round in circles , I've just printed F and B on everything to solve that problem !

It was something I thought I would have trouble with dressing in front of another guy but Carole and I just get on with it, until I slip my boobs in and she gives me the usual look , I know she waiting for them to burst , funny thing was she was playing golf in her forms and split one ! Sorry Carole I owe you a drink for that one !

[Carole]

Teresa, I guess that was because I sliced one shot and hooked the next. Way to go Bobbi, unless Paul is being the macho man to hide other things, how many of us went into macho jobs to try and disguise our true leanings?

[Tracii G]

You didn't need to explain what you were doing why did you do that? Guilt,shame.afraid of being called gay?
Saying let me change was fine and by doing so gave him a chance to leave or stay.He stayed so chances are it didn't matter what you were wearing.
I don't think he knew maybe he suspected but what difference would that make now anyway?
Use common sense Bobbi and it will help you answer your own questions.

[Ceera]

Sounds like he either already knew and accepted, or else he decided not to make a scene over it, while he processed what he saw. Either way, I would talk to him about it the next time you see each other. Odds are good he will become a fully accepting friend that you no longer need to fear seeing your girl side.

I had a similar experience with a neighbor, shortly after I moved to a new town. I had decided to be out and open in my new neighborhood, and to not really try to hide anything. Neighbors might see me coming and going either in male or female mode. Well, until that particular day, every neighbor who had encountered me as Ceera seemed to just accept her at face value as a female neighbor (I do pass pretty well, and I also look 10 to 20 years younger when en-femme). Surely a few had noted my painted nails and pierced ears in male mode, but none had commented on it (except a few who complemented my pretty nails!) They knew the guy who owned my home had an adult daughter living with him, and I guess they either assumed Ceera was that daughter, or that Ceera was a relative or girlfriend who often visited my home.

Well, as a male, I had been talking to my back fence neighbor lady about splitting the cost of replacing the fence between our back yards. She had gotten to know me pretty well, and she knew I had a daughter, but she had not yet met my daughter. No mention had been made to her of my girl side. One Saturday morning I was all dolled up, in makeup, wig, breast forms, and a skirt and blouse, and about to go out to the mall, when the doorbell rang! It was my 'back fence' neighbor lady! I just answered the door and remained in-character as Ceera, using my female voice, and invited her in. She started talking about the fence project and, like your friend, she didn't seem to notice I was female all of a sudden. I went into the back yard to measure the existing fence just as my daughter came into the room from the back of the house. When I got back, the neighbor lady and I finished discussing the fence, and she went on her way without comment.

I mentioned to my daughter that the neighbor hadn't noticed, and she just laughed and said, "Oh, she noticed all right. While you were out back, when she met me, she did a double take and asked, 'Wait. Was that your dad?' I told her it was, and then you came back in, and she didn't say anything else."

The next time I saw the neighbor (in male mode), I thanked her for treating me so nicely when she saw me as a woman. We talked, and she said that once she got home, she did a bunch of Internet searches on cross dressers, transgender, and the like, to inform herself better! She asked several insightful questions, which I answered honestly, and by the end of the conversation she and her husband were both 'in the know' and fully accepting!

[DIANEF]

Different people react in different ways, some would be totally unfazed, others would recoil in horror. Fortunately your friend is in the former category.

[Bobbi46]

Tracii,
It was neither guilt shame or being thought gay It was just a matter that I thought it would be better for the situation and also a way of not forcing on someone another way of life for which I neither feel shame or anything like that.
Paul must have known previously about me, I have known him for years now to know now if he was out of his comfort zone over something. After all there is still a lot of prejudice out there against us as a whole and with that in mind I don't think Paul is/would be that sort of person. But still I did not think it right to force my lifestyle on him at this point.
Diane F
You have a good point there, yes I now think he was unfazed by it, surprised initially? yes but not on the other hand he must have known, we are a very small community here where everybody knows everybody else.

[Stephanie47]

Maybe Paul knew already. Maybe he did not know already. If he did she you wearing women's clothing and said nothing, then maybe he is the type of person to just accept things as they are. There would be no reason for him to strike up an embarrassing conversation if he saw you flee from the room in a state of potential embarrassment. Perhaps you should invested in a a simple hook and eye latch on a screen door so a person has to announce hisself or herself before walking into a home.

[Majella St Gerard]

If he saw you dressed, why get changed? Like closing the barn door after the horse got out.

[Bobbi46]

Maybe I should have foreseen this but at every other time I have had to leave a telephone message for Paul he always rings back first I did not think he would hot foot it up to my house, not that I am embarrassed at all about what happened.

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Majella
The reason I changed was as not to put him on the spot, some people could be surprised and not know how to deal with a similar situation, that is why I changed , next time might be different who knows?

[Dana44]

Bobby I would have just talked to him as you were and then tell him. He was probably wondering why you diapered so fast and went to the front door to wait on you.

[Sallee]

I would awesome you had a wig and makeup also. Sound like he definitely saw you and chose not to comment after you made a quick exit. I am sure he will comment to his SO and maybe to you at a latter time.
I have had similar occurrences with the same response. I never got the out right question "are you Trans" but I did get some unusual comments from the neighbor. Like "maybe you could use these cloths I am getting rid of"
NOw thinking back I kind of wish I brought it up. I don't dress often so it isn't likely they'll see me again but still it was heart stopping when it happened.
I think you made the right move.

[nvlady]

This reminds me of the time a bald guy at work came in one day wearing a brand new toupee.
I liked the guy, I knew he would be a little bit nervous about peoples reaction, and the last thing I wanted to do was make him uncomfortable.
I said good morning to him just like I did every other morning.
No matter what he had on his head, he was still the same person I knew.

[Bobbi46]

Very true, I will always be the same person, of course there will always be two of me the drab and the femme. Maybe next time it happens, should it do so I will brazen it out and explain our world to whoever it is. it is high time people accepted us as we are.

[jjjjohanne]

When I go out in public, I wear a skirt as a man. I never try to pass myself off as a woman. It was never my interest. People's reactions are very similar to your friend's reaction. They notice my outfit. They might glance down. Otherwise, they rarely mention it. They just play their role. If I walked in on a friend/acquaintance doing something unconventional, I would probably do something similar to what your friend did. However, I would probably apologize for intruding unannounced and offer to come back later. Since I am a CD, I might have said that it is not necessary for you to change if you don't want to.

[Bobbi46]

After Paul's visit yesterday I went out today got a 6 pack of beer and took it round to him as a thank you for fixing my Pc, and guess what he was nice as pie and no reflection on the way he had seen me which makes me think that he must have known through the village grapevine that I dress.
So no harm done and a livening up of my life in rural France. I love it give me more!

[Teresa]

Bobbi,
So good to hear you've turned that corner, it does feel good.

[Bobbi46]

At least the whole thing wasn't a total "Boob" on my part LoL!!

[Fiona123]

Your pal is a true friend.

[Invisible Emily]

Sounds like a good friend to have.

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Since he'd seen you and hadn't run shrieking, I'm puzzled that you felt you had to go and change? Why didn't you go with the flow?

[Bobbi46]

Nikki, for the simple reason that I did not know if he already knew of my lifestyle and also I did not want to put him on the spot with my dressing or for him to feel out of his comfort zone. I have always regarded him to be very much a macho man but with a wicked sense of humour, although outwardly easy going I did not think it right for me to stay dressed, however it might be different in the future, I will have test the water in that direction. You will see from my avatar where I am and in that respect ex pat friends round are few are far between so any possible upset is best avoided.

[lingerieLiz]

Neighbor walked in on me while I was moving into a rental. He never said a thing afterwards. Had on a dress nylons and the works.

[redtea]

This is probably the exact reaction my mom and sister would give me if I was caught er "discovered"?.

Though my fears can't help but think that there will be a moment of shock followed by a smile and a devastating dose of humiliation :daydreaming:

[Bobbi46]

To some or maybe all something like this is an OMG time but as things have turned out with Paul I maybe more confident and go and change but stand my ground as if to say well this is me this is how I am and I am not doing any harm. Sure everybody must know by now but all is well. But there will always be a fine line to tread. For me I think that line might get broken one day.