Not a cd anymore!

[Lovely Rose]

Hello everyone,

So two months ago I started to feel less excited about crossdressing, I thought I was bored with my current fem clothes.. so I purged everything at once.
Now it's been about a month since the purge and I still feel that crosscrossing is not very exciting. No major changes in my everyday life or sexual activity, which leaves me wondering about why my feelings changed, sometimes I get the feeling that crossdressing is a very awkward act.

Any advice/similar experience? What happens next?

Love.
Rose.

[Lana Mae]

Well,Rose! I went for 34 years with only panties 4-5 times in those 34 years! After my wife died, it hit me like a ton of bricks or more like a pink fog tidal wave! Not good to purge! It will most likely return sooner or later! Best wishes Hugs Lana Mae

[Aunt Kelly]

What happens next, is you wait for it to hit you again. Odds are high that it will, hence the rule, "Don't purge." Put it away. Put it way away. It's not the trappings that will be calling to you. The stores are full of new trappings that would call to you just as loudly. Maybe more loudly. The truth of it is that what you are experiencing is that nature of this thing for some of us. Your waning desire might last for months. It might last for many years. But it almost certainly will come back because it's who you are.

[sometimes_miss]

If you crossdress for a thrill or sexual excitement, then it's not unusual for you to get tired of one thing, and need a change of pace to get your jollies once again. But even those of us who don't get any thrill from it, get tired of particular items of clothing. We need a variety of things. As above, just don't purge (unless you have unlimited funds to go shopping and replace all the stuff you threw out!). Put your girl things in storage or something and see if you really have outgrown your desire to crossdress.

[Nikkilovesdresses]

There's only 1 piece of advice: do what feels right to you.

[Tracii G]

Just because you don't want to CD right now doesn't mean you won't in the future.
It doesn't have to mean anything its just you don't feel the need to dress at this moment in time.Thats pretty normal actually many members here go thru that.
Where is this going or what does this mean I hear all the time and why people get all hung up on that train of thought is beyond me.
It doesn't mean anything or have to go anywhere. Just because you don't "X" doesn't mean "Y" will happen.
Put your stuff in a box or old suitcase and put it in a closet so its there if you ever decide you need it again.

[mbmeen12]

Ill bet you 100.00 dollars right now, you'll regret and buy again and emerge as Rose. That's what will happen next.
x Kara

[GretchenM]

Been there and done that; several times. Sometimes it was basically gone for several years and then all of a sudden, wham, she comes back. I am sure there are some out there that have purged and adapted to the more masculine side and never felt the feminine in any way strong enough to actually have a need to go that direction again. We just don't hear about them and it is highly unlikely they would be posting here. But, the more objective data shows that for most of us who have had this inclination "since forever" it comes back in some form or other. For most of us it is a part of who we are. Enjoy your change, but far back in your memory banks plant a thought that Rose may come back and may come back stronger than before. Or not. As for what happens next, well, that is very individualized. The only thing you can be sure of is that something will happen. The "What" cannot be predicted. It is called the adventure of living. And at 72 I have had a lot of adventures and followed many pathways. Some worked, some didn't.

[Ressie]

It's normal to feel this way sometimes. Sometimes I see a photo of myself or look in the mirror and feel that I look ridiculous! I think you've become bored with the clothes you have and since you live in Syria, it's probably quite a risk to go shopping.

I think many of us could use a rest from CDing once in a while. How long of a rest varies. But it's an activity of leisure for many, and we don't always have time for it. There are more important things to do.

[annecwesley]

Lucky you!

[Maria 60]

Well it's always good out with the old in with the new, a few years back I thought I beat it, I went almost a year without dressing of any kind.
Believe it or not all it took was, I was at a party and my friends wife was standing in front of me, I was sitting and staring at her pantyhosed legs. A few times her legs brushed against me and that was it, I believe I stopped at a convince store and bought a pair of pantyhose that same night.
I also find when I'm more stressed in life then usual I seem to dress more. If I were you I would just enjoy the freedom and piece of mind of not worry about it.

[Ally 2112]

It can really depend on whats going on in your life or just a passing phase .I pretty well quit for about 3 years a long time ago .When it came back it came back and has not gone away since .It has only gotten stronger for me .If you can quit and are happy go for it if not embrace it

[JamieG]

Well if you are happy with not dressing, I say enjoy getting on with your life. We are not some sort of cult that will try to convince you why you should keep dressing. However, many of us have tried quitting and been unable to do so. Know that if you do start dressing again, you are always welcome to find support here, with no judgment.

[kimdl93]

Best advice - who knows. Past performance (yours or ours) does not guarantee future results. It doesn't seem that you made an intentional decision to purge. If what I am reading correctly reflects your frame of mind, it seems the mood just hasn't returned. Probably no need to analyze it further.

If you must, then ask yourself what you want today, how you see yourself today. If it works as is, then you can ask yourself again tomorrow.

[Brandy Fromdaburg]

Rose, how long have you been dressing? I'm curious if this is the first time you felt no desire to dress. Like others have said before the desire can come and go.
I have never tried to quit but I have had times when I didn't think about dressing for many months and sometimes years. It wasn't even in the back of my mind. It was like dressing never happened in the past. But the desire eventually always comes back to me, especially during times of stress.
Unless you are consciously trying to quit I would advise not to purge. I would actually advise against it even if you were trying to quit. The desire will always return and just having clothes in your possession isn't what brings the desire back. It's way more complicated than that.

[NancySue]

Yes, comes with the territory....ebb and flow....ebb and flow...count on it. That's our world.

[krissy]

OH NOOOOOO ! LOL. you shouldnt purge we have all done this at one time in our lives . The feelings always come back Good luck .We are here for you any time:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[LelaK]

When (if?) I die, I'll have fem clothes under my drab clothes and be a CD or a real girl in the afterlife.

[Becky Blue]

I am sure a large % of the posters on here will have experienced what you are going through some on a regular basis, she will be back you can be 99.99% certain of that.

[Kate Simmons]

I would guess that what you do next depends a lot on you Rose. My advice? Find out who you are and enjoy being yourself my friend. :battingeyelashes::)

[deebra]

Me...I like dressing in girl clothes more than girls that dress in girl clothes. Can't really say I ever lost the desire to dress, but it has gotten stronger every day since I first started many years ago. Truly love how nice I look in girl clothes, how they make me feel and womanly.

[Cherylgyno]

Rose. So many have purged and became whole (cross 👗 Ed) again and again. It is in my will that I am laid out en femme and burried in my favorite ****ty LBD. 99.99 to 1 you will be whole again.

[Heather Anne]

I started buying clothes in 2000. Between 2000 and 2004 I purged twice. Both times got rid of everything. During 2004 started buying clothes again. March I had a makeover and then in April joined Sigma Epsilon in Atlanta. Have not purged since then.

[Teresa]

Rose,
Maybe your brain chemistry changed, did you have something traumatic happen that has changed how you feel about being dressed.
It's an even chance something clicks and the pink fog comes rolling before you know what's happening.

The more we do it the more the highs and lows even out, to me it feel comfortable and very natural , perhaps you're missing the high and it feels like it's gone away .

[docrobbysherry]

"Sometimes u feel like a nut. Sometimes u don't.":heehee:

But, since you're still here? You're NOT done with CDing------:battingeyelashes:

[Dana44]

Wow you feel male. That is good. But I would bet that in a years time or ten years time that you may become Rose again. Yep it will come back.

[Fiona123]

Statistically purging does not last. Most resume dressing. Its possible you are an outlier. I wish you the best though.

[suzanne]

While it's true that it usually comes back, now is not the time to remind her of that fact, because this could be the one that beats the odds, and we should be supportive of the OP, if what she wants is to stop CDing. Because the most important issue is the OP's well being, not her adherence to any statistical pattern. If things change in the future, we need to be supportive of that as well.

[Teresa]

Suzanne,
I'm not sure if I want to beat the odds anymore, I'm really looking forward to the freedom of living in my own home and dressing as much as I choose . Why should we look at it as if it's something terrible to endure , it's part of me I shouldn't feel ashamed of it .
I've never experienced the ebb and flow it's a continuous feeling so I've never purged .

[julia marie]

Do what's right for you. Many of use wonder if we should purge, and if we made a mistake if we did it. What you might not see on this site are comments from those who did purge and never dressed again. Simple, they don't CD any more, and they don't come here any more. You will feel the tug to dress again. What you do in response is up to you and only you.

[JeanTG]

When I don't feel like dressing anymore, or when events get in the way of dressing, I pseudo-purge. Everything goes into a old suitcase... well it's up to two suitcases now... and up into a hard-to-reach part of the attic.

When the urge comes back... it always does... down they come. I unpack them, put things into a little-used storage closet and into my dresser drawers with male things on top, and have fun.

The only thing that doesn't get put away are panties. I wear them 24/7 and have no urge to go back to male underwear. However when I'm not feeling the urge to dress, usually I wear my plain styles.

When I don't feel like dressing, it's usually because I'm tired of all the trouble it takes to be even remotely passable. I'm not interested in looking like a man in a dress. Well I'll never be mistaken for a woman but it won't be for want of trying. Thing is, it's a tough job and usually I can only get about 6 or 7 hours in at at time. However a while back my wife was away for a few days and I was able to dress at leisure, stay dressed, go to bed in nighties, wake up in nighties, have breakfast in nightie and pink bathrobe, shower, get dressed, do makeup, and so fort. Basically stay femme for 4 days straight. You can bet that if the opportunity arises again the stuff will come down from the attic in a flash (I'm in pseudo-purge as we speak).

I've purged for real in the past. It's just heartache because the urge does eventually come back and you have to spend a fortune rebuilding a stash.

[Cherylgyno]

A cross dresser is simply a man that wishes to be happy. I am a very happy man, I am a cross dresser. I tried to purge when my wife caught me. My wife told me that I would be wanting all of my clothes within a week. I didn't go 2 days. Don't purge, be happy.

[Julogden]

I would be VERY surprised if it never comes back. I hope that you didn't throw away anything that is expensive or hard to replace, as you'll probably want/need it again before very long.

[Devi SM]

No more?
I can see you still using Rose as your nameand see a femine figure in your avatar...

[Jean 103]

If that's the way you feel. Then maybe it's not your thing. If so run as fast as you can and don't look back. As for me if I can't be myself you might as well KMN .

[Bruce64]

I tried quitting, but as soon as I get to a Department Store I am in the Ladies section, so finally I told my Wife and she is comfortable with me and my Feminine side of Clothing. I know from my personal experience that this side of me won't go away easily, I am an admirer of Women Clothing and I wear them, good luck to you.

[Ressie]

wondering about why my feelings changed, sometimes I get the feeling that crossdressing is a very awkward act.

Any advice/similar experience? What happens next?

Feelings (emotions) are mostly caused by your thoughts. Maybe you aren't thinking about CDing and what used to be triggers for those thoughts aren't doing it anymore. Or you haven't encountered any of those triggers, which isn't likely. Getting rid of all your fem clothes would eliminate a great deal of immediate temptation. Kind of like keeping sugary snacks out of the house when dieting.

Yes, crossdressing is awkward if you look at it objectively. It sounds like CDing has to be exciting for you to keep interested in it. The excitement has worn off for many CDs but they've found other reasons to dress.