How do the Women in your life react when they find out you tried on THEIR CLOTHES

[Robbiegirl]

For those of you that have confessed to Mothers, sisters and S.O.s about your cross dressing was their any extra or drama attached to you having tried on their things ? For example when you told your mother or sister was she curious at all about what outfits you tried on and upset about it.

If I was to come out to my sisters I don't know if I could be honest and tell them all the stuff I tried on. It would be fun though to have them guess. I think even they would be shocked to know I tried on thier frilly babydoll nighties.

So do women ask or care about specific items of thiers you might have modeled ?

[Lisa85]

Are you a masochist? How would you feel if your brother put on your clothes or grabbed your toothbrush. Better ways to come out

[Alice B]

Was and is not a problem. She is a different size, but over the years have given me the option to go through clothes she is going to donate.

[Alice Torn]

I am sure my mom and sister knew i was raiding their clothes! My mom never mentioned it directly, but suggested that i go to a "shrink" at that time in life.

[sometimes_miss]

Only happened once, when I was 4 years old. Each day, mom would spend lots of time getting my sister all pretty to go to school. So one day, I went and took some of my sister's old clothes and put them on, then walked in and told my mom that I was ready to go to school, too. Of course, mom changed me back, and we walked my sister to school. When we got home, my mom asked me if I really wanted to wear the dress that I had picked out, but said it in such a way as to make me think I should say no, so I said no. That was the end of that. When my sister came home from school later that day, she came in and started beating the crap out of me, yelling for me to NEVER touch her clothes ever again.

Of course, about 7 years later I did anyway, but of course was much more careful to make sure everything went right back exactly where I found it. As far as I know, she never suspected I was wearing her stuff, because I was mostly picking them out of the laundry pile. It was simple enough to just re-wash anything, because my sister had plenty of clothes and didn't re-wear anything very often. This worked out well as I got into my pre and early teens, as most of her stuff wound up in the attic, and I had plenty of girl clothes to choose from. That, and being slim with long pretty hair, I made a decent looking girl until I finally reached puberty at 17.

[kimdl93]

Probably not a good conversation to have. Strongly advise that you get your own things and leave sisters & mom's things alone. When and if your interest in dressing becomes known to them, they will guess for themselves that it got its start with their things, but will appreciate that you moved on to your own.

[Maria_mtf]

My gf(now wife) was not impressed when I told her I wore her clothes, she wanted to know which ones and each one annoyed her. Her nice dresss she hadn't worn annoyed her the most. I have my own though though and she forgave me.

[Robbiegirl]

Thanks Jon MTF That was the sort of answer I was looking for. If you came out to your family later in life and told them you had been dressing since 7 lets say I would imagine they would ask whose clothes were you wearing ? And my question was would they be curious and ask for specific examples and how honest would you want to be ? For example I tried on my sisters frilly Communion Dress I doubt I would admit to that LOL ! Maybe one of the cute Easter dresses but not the Holy dress

[kimdl93]

Robbie, in your other thread you mention that your sisters dressed you up and along with your mom, teased you about it. So, I guess they at least know that you have worn one of their outfits. Right?

[Laura912]

The reply from my wife, "Meh."

[RADER]

When I was about 8 or 9 years old, My Mom found a stash of some of her old girdles
hidden under the mattress of my bed. I got a real talking to, and was embarrass to no
end. That is when I found a better hiding spot.
I made a false bottom to a chest of drawers in my room, and it worked very well.
Rader

[Amanda1963]

my SO would call me a certain name, rhymes with "itch", but is was in a playful way and then complement me on the way her jeans or dresses would fit me!

[Tracii G]

If you wear them thinking she will never find out you are fooling yourself.
She will know by how the dress fits her now because you are made differently.You put it on it stretches a bit and she can tell.
They know your scent too so get your own stuff.

[DIANEF]

I'm pretty sure my mum knew I was borrowing some of her things but never said a word, she probably thought I was going 'through a phase'. My sister was oblivious to my trying her clothes on. Until I bought my own stuff I did wear a few of my wifes things, but for a longtime now my golden rule has been never use anything that belongs to your wife. The fact that she is much bigger than me also helps in that direction.

[Amanda Monica]

Borrowed some of my wife's things years before I came out to her. Since then, she asked that I buy and use my own. If only because we are different sizes and doesn't want anything stretched out. She told me to get my stash out from my hiding places and into our closet(s). A great thing! Btw, no matter how good you think you are at putting things back in drawers and closets, it's never perfect even if you take photos as a guide. Somehow women seem to know instinctively when something of theirs is out of place. At least mine does. Haven't confessed to mother or any sisters yet. Sisters are all younger so never wore anything of theirs.

[gerri ray]

My sister let me try things on. My wife encourages it even though I have my own things. When she donates things, she let's me go through them first. She has even slipped clothes into my drawers if she no longer wants it.

[Kate Simmons]

Years before I got my own stuff, my wife usually was not happy.

[redtea]

I'm in a weird situation where I only tried on a couple things at the start 5 years ago and felt extremely guilty and decided to never do it again.

But deciding to take the moral high ground doesn't remove the sins of the past.

The shame gets to me and keeps me from coming out to my mom and sister. They don't invade my space but back then I so selfishly indulged and invaded theirs. No matter how many years go by the stain is still there.

The moral of the story is, Never ever try on another womans clothes without her consent. If you are curious, get your butt to the store and buy!
Nothing can undo this shame so I would advise anyone who hasn't started to avoid it at all cost.

[Barbara Black]

I wish we could have focused on answering the question, rather than a condemnation for wearing someone else's clothing, which we already know is a bad idea.
I unfortunately didn't dress up until after leaving my mother's house, so I only tried on my sister's panties occasionally, and my mother's girdle a couple of times. I'm not out to either sister's or mother, so that discussion never occurred between us. With three sister's, it's unlikely the blame for a disordered wardrobe would have been pinned on me, (although I suspect I was a bit feminine back then).
I love the idea of someone slipping clothing into my drawers for me to wear. That raises the excitement to a whole new level, not to mention acceptance. I just love trying on new clothes.

[Robbiegirl]

Thanks Barbara yes i do feel a bit guilty but also know I didn't stretch anything out . Plus when we played truth or dare my sisters were always making the neighborhood boys model theri dresses and skirts

[Judy-Somthing]

At age 16 my mother caught me dressed up in one of the dresses she had in storage in the attic.

She said when your done playing around put everything back the way you found them.
She said I was going through a phase.

[Mickitv]

When I was young dressed in mother's clothes. She probably knew but did not say anything. Wives were not the same size.

[Tahoegurl]

i started buying my own - when I came out to my wife she was a little freaked out and then she started helpinh m pick out outfits and close she couldn't fit into anymore..

[NikkiS]

I'm in a weird situation where I only tried on a couple things at the start 5 years ago and felt extremely guilty and decided to never do it again.

But deciding to take the moral high ground doesn't remove the sins of the past.

The shame gets to me and keeps me from coming out to my mom and sister. They don't invade my space but back then I so selfishly indulged and invaded theirs. No matter how many years go by the stain is still there.

The moral of the story is, Never ever try on another womans clothes without her consent. If you are curious, get your butt to the store and buy!
Nothing can undo this shame so I would advise anyone who hasn't started to avoid it at all cost.

Thanks for this insight.. especially on trying say SO clothes, if one intends to come out in front of her... definitely playful / permission first sounds like a good idea!

[Robbiegirl]

At age 16 my mother caught me dressed up in one of the dresses she had in storage in the attic.

She said when your done playing around put everything back the way you found them.
She said I was going through a phase.

LOL ! Do you recall anything about the dress ? Was it a special dress to your mom or sisters ?

[TrishaLake]

well I would never tell my biological family as I don't really like them much anyway! lol but my wife knows and we actually just combined out pantie into one because it became difficult to know who's was who...

[Jaymees22]

In general they don't act well, what they don't know won't upset them. Actually if your coming out goes well consider yourself lucky and don't push it, say you only wear your own clothes. Jaymee

[lingerieLiz]

Sisters knew and encouraged me to wear their hand me downs. On threat of death I did not wear their clothes without permission. Mother was usually in denial. She suspected I was wearing her clothes but played dumb. Later in life she swiped one of my favorite dresses. She and my aunt both bought me women's clothes.

I don't wear my wife's clothes. I did a few times and damaged them. We do share some clothes from time to time.

[Sarah O]

I haven't worn any of wife's clothes, but it's usually one of the first things she asks when talking about cding. I suspect from the relief I see in her face when I say no, it wouldn't go down to well if I said yes. ;-)

[NancySue]

I took the big leap of faith and told her of my dressing before we got married....thinking she'd dash to the nearest door. She didn't and has been totally supportive. I've never thought about wearing her clothes as I'd rather have my own. She has great tastes in clothes, having done some modeling. I always tell her how much I like her things. Sometimes, she buys me things she likes and thinks I'd like. So far..100%. 💁 She's helped me with makeup which is all mine not hers....even nail polish.

[Teresa]

Robbie,
Women don't have the same attachment to their clothes that we do , most don't get too upset when they find out, I was surprised even my wife didn't even to the point of giving me some of hers things.
Many other women have also given me clothes, even if it's possibly sexual they don't appear to bother , women don't have a problem with sharing clothes whereas men don't often do that.

It was my sister's swimsuit that was the start for me, whether she knew or no I can't say.

I must admit now I love shopping for my own things , specially now I go out,

[Stephanie47]

When my wife and I were first having the "Talk" she was vocal about the lack of appreciation for my desire to wear women's clothing. During one tirade she accused me of digging one of her nightgown (yellow nylon floor length halter) out of the trash and keeping it. I defended myself. Like she was at the time a petite 34B, and, I wore a size 40 suit jacket. No way I told her. Not true. I did, but, the reason was I could not see her throwing out a perfectly good nightgown rather than donating it. After a while she calmed down over the entire cross dressing issue and we drifted into thirty years of total DADT. Several years ago she cleaned out the back rack on her side of the walk-in closet. She was going to donate to Goodwill an entire sack of vintage nightgown. I told her I rather see some charity get some decent dollars out of the donation, so she freshly laundered and folded them into a Xerox box. I sadly watched them go. So sad. So sad they no longer fit. I would have loved to be able to wear them, but, alas me at six foot and 195 pounds. Them for five foot two and 115 pounds. Sniffle, sniffle!

[CD Tammy]

Back when I was a kid I overheard my aunt accusing her daughter of trying on some of her clothes. Apparently, I hadn’t folded them the same way she had.

[immike]

I was in the closet,when I secretly began wearing mothers clothes.We were about the same size,so I mostly got away with wearing her dresses,etc.

[Leslie Mary S]

Never wore anything of any women in my house. my size was/is bigger than any of them. For the record I will say I looked at them, desired some, but never even tried to see if they fit. Size 2 to 6 woman don't fit on a size 20-22 woman. The tallest of them was 5' 6" size 2 and a competitor in the Miss Alabama / Miss USA competition. My wife was 5" 1" size 4. Even when we got married I was already a size 8.

[silkiehosewearer]

Well. My mom found out when she caught me all done up and dressed 2 the nines..but one that didn't know until I came out 2 her waaaayyyyy later. Was my mom's friend. I would house sit for her and play dress up. As she had the same style of clothes I loved the buisness secretary look. But she didn't react badly at all. As she told me she was wondering but wasn't sure as a few things would be out if place or jst a little wrinkled but she wasn't freaking out about it or anything. She was ok with it. As for my wife total support actually she sometimes narrows things from me 2 wear..lol how is that for a change..lol

[Beverley Sims]

When I was twenty my housemates dressed me in their clothes.

Three girls.

I was never short of a wardrobe.

[Leslie Mary S]

Must have been nice. I had already out-grown all the women in our house and when in the military (Before getting married) there were no women allowed in the barracks. After marriage, my wife was half my size. 160 pounds me 85 pounds her. 6" tall 5"1' tall.
My wife's nick name at work was Mighty Mouse.

[Krisi]

It's a long story and I don't want to repeat it but when I showed my wife I was wearing a pair of her panties she gave me some old ones and asked me not to wear her new ones. Since I now had my own panties, I didn't wear hers any more.

She has told me many times since then that I am welcome to wear anything in her closet. I'm wearing a dress of hers right now. I like it and it may become "mine" soon.

[Sissy_Michelle]

Robbiegirl,

When my mom caught me it was in one of her nice outfits... She was surprised that it fit me so well, and with my long hair at the time she was first thinking that it was some stranger in her room. I was trying to put on makeup and didn't do a good job of it. I was very afraid that she would tell dad. She cleaned me up and told me to wait on the makeup, showed me clothes that if I wanted to wear I could as long as I put them back. We talked for hours till my other brothers and sister came home. Though she was initially upset finding me in her clothes, she did encourage me to dress when we were alone. She would always help me mix and match, what looked nice or casual or passable if I were to go out of the house. Once my girlfriend caught me then, she and her friends basically picked up where my mom left off.

It was a different time, so long ago...

@--}----
Michelle

[IleneD]

This was indeed a lesson learned. NO. Don't borrow their stuff; especially without permission.
During one of the more disheartening CD discussions I had with The Wife she mentioned her distress at seeing me dressed up, saying "I've gotten so I don't even like my women's clothing any more!" She normally does NOT dress very girly, [but womanly well just the same].
Another time when I had tried some of her things on, I mentioned that I fit in her very nice red pants. "That's nice, dear." Nothing more said about it.
A few weeks ago I went to the closet to find those alluring red britches. They were gone; GONE, gone as in probably donated to charity gone. Purged by the wife.

I wear only Ilene's stuff.

[nikkiwindsor]

My wife knew I tried on her things and she wasn't happy...angry! Wearing her things was more upsetting to her than when I shared with her that I had a feminine self. I have my own outfits and she has hers. And to inject just a little bit of humor into this serious discussion, my taste in fashion is much better than my wife's. She really doesn't have any fashion sense (and she doesn't care to have any) I'm the girly girl in our family...and my daughter is really into fashion too...so she got it from me...lol! Nikki

[OCCarly]

When I came out to my wife she asked me what I had been wearing (mostly short shorts and bikinis). She gave me just about everything I had worn. It was all stuff I had bought for her and was more my taste than hers. The four pair of Victoria's secret shorts (two denim and two khaki) are no longer made, and are among my more prized possessions. I enjoyed wearing them on recent trips to Vegas and Palm Springs.

[barbara gordon]

It is a huge violation to sneak and wear someone elses clothes , especially the underwear and bras. But this is what many of. Us do when we start out . Myself included .. with a moms stuff it can be oedipal. I think its good to come out to moms and sisters as. Eing a crossdresser/trans / crossgendered --but not really worth it to lead with the point out that we were wearing their clothes. They will probably figure that out but its best if they dont try to visualize it too much .. just my own perspective.

[AlanaG]

I have never worn anything belonging to anyone else. I dd try on my mothers but being a little tyke they didn't fit too well. Started to wear womens clothing while a full grown up and with my size my wife's stuff wouldn't fit either.


And to inject just a little bit of humor into this serious discussion, my taste in fashion is much better than my wife's. She really doesn't have any fashion sense (and she doesn't care to have any) I'm the girly girl in our family.. Nikki

Same here with me. My wife likes the jeans/sweat pants and tshirt fashion. Me I'm into skirts, blouses with nylons and heels. When we are out together, I'm always the better dressed one.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Robbie :hugs:, That comes under the heading of, Pick your battles wisely!

Although some of her Goodwill donations never make it to Goodwill...:daydreaming:...

[jack-ie]

My ex was on board with my dressing from day one and loved to shop so shopping trips became girly fun for us and I soon had a small but nice wardrobe. I could wear Her clothes though and She had excellent taste. I only wore them though when She offered them to me. She might mention that certain items might look nice and ask if I'd like to try them on. Thinking back, that might have been an excuse for Her to buy new and pass something on to me. I miss the shopping trips. It's a great way to have fun and enjoy your feminine side.

[Amelie]

My mom didn't wear goth style clothes so I had no desire to wear her clothes. I have no girlfriend or wife, although I did buy used clothes. So, someone wore them before I did, probably a cd.

[Dana44]

He he he , well I told my SO that I could fit one of her shorts that she could not wear. She said try it. LOL but was upset that they ft me. So now they are mine. But she was not happy about it. So I don't think any woman would be happy if we wore their clothes.

[Jaylyn]

My wife know I've tried on her tops and he ha even given me some. She has lost a great deal of weight and can no longer wear her new tops but she doesn't care about the ones she has packed away. I grabbed a few I like before we gave the rest to a local charity. I wish she wore size 14 heels... Lol

[HollyGreene]

Never wore any of my mother's things. Wore a pair of my sister's panties, but they were a pair that she didn't like and she never knew that I wore them.
I used to wear a girlfriend's clothes but not until after she knew I was a CD. She thought it was weird, but let me do it. However, I do think she might have secretly liked it because she once bought me some really nice lacy underwear which I would wear when we got intimate.

My wife once got me to wear a pair of her panties before she knew I was a CD and the rest of her clothes are too small for me, so that's never happened.

So for me, the situation of confessing about wearing somebody else's clothes has never really come up.

[Tahoegurl]

My wife went through her clothes and gave me the stuff she couldn't wear...it was a fun modeling session...but it was also the first time I had worn her clothes.

[Jocee]

My wifes clothing are strictly off limits. She says that she didn't share her clothing when she was young and she is not starting now....