Keeping the line between crossdressed girl time / male time

[zicho12]

I like to crossdress and feel fully like a girl, but only when I crossdress. In my normal clothes, I want to be the normal guy I always was before I started to explore crossdressing (1 year ago), but recently I have a problem in keeping a clear line between those two "gender modes".
When I am not crossdressing, I realized that sometimes more or less, I unconsciously use female gestures I learned in my crossdressing time. I also act kind off a bit more "feminine", became less assertive.
How do you guys keep a clear line between your girly behaviour for chrossdressing and your normal male character? Or do you also have smilar experiences? If so, any tips to keep a clearer line?
I kinda started to hesitate doing crossdressing, because I don't want my male side to diminish.

[Joni T]

The line between Jon and Joni is different as black and white. When I'm Joni, I'm Joni. When I'm Jon, I'm Jon. It's as simple as that.
Jon

[Alice Torn]

It can be a problem, with me, too. I need a day or so, to return to mainly guy mode, but even then, i have always been a highly sensitive person, as a male, and have always lost in love for females. Non aggressive mostly. When i finally do get mad, i can be furious, but i work to be kind, and what some macho men would consider a bit fem, but i love fishing, sports, and working on things like my vehicle, and fixing things. When I am all dolled up for hours, or occasionally go out as Alice, i do find it "carries over" more than i would like. I suppose it is different for all of us.

[Lana Mae]

I let it be what it is! Generally there is a distinction but there are drifts. I just accept it and move on! It is all me regardless! Hugs Lana Mae

[Elizabeth G]

I'm in the same category as Joni - no carryover that I'm aware of and my wife hasn't mentioned anything to me about lingering mannerisms. Eyeliner maybe but not mannerisms:lol:

[DIANEF]

My wife commented recently that I 'sit like a girl', that is with my legs fully crossed. I said nothing and it's not been mentioned since. I don't think I do anything noticeably femme in drab, but maybe others have noticed little traits, again with nothing said. Even fully dressed I don't act particularly 'girly' either, just go about doing my usual stuff.

[bonnie puff]

I am recently starting to open up as a crossdresser after many years of being in the closet.
I see this change for me as a chance to open up and admit fully to myself and some select others who i really am and have been all along. So far I have been noticing and learning new things that as a man i never knew about nor cared about, such as how to launder and care for delicate clothes, and how to size and order women's clothes.

You bring up a very good point, however, as certain activities, like how to sit, how to walk, have binary answers to most people based on gender. The whole concept i have of being more fully who i really am seems to be agnostic about this, and thus inadvertently i may drift in certain ways to cross some of these conventional social boundaries unless I maintain 2 separate gender identities and switch between them based on my current outfit.

[Jaylyn]

I understand what you are trying to do. My wife has noticed that I have mellowed a lot since she found out I enjoy the CD'ing. She actually said I have been more understanding now. I was not aware of the but I guess she reads me better than I feel sometimes. If I'm nicer now then the cd is a good thing, I usually am a coarse old codger otherwise. Lol

[Bailee]

Initially I think I experienced much the same thing, but gradually I arrived at a balance. I'm a little fem sometimes when in drab, and probably a bit masculine when I'm dressed. I don't have two defined boundaries, I'm pretty much the same person regardless of how I'm presenting. I've always found CD's who go overboard with the fem mannerisms while dressed rather bizarre and unnatural. I've met a lot of women and they certainly don't come across that way. At the same time, I've always assumed that guys who are acting overly masculine were compensating. Maybe that means I'm a little gender fluid or whatever it's called this week, but I say relax, be yourself however you're dressed, and you'll find a comfortable balance.

[RADER]

I only dress while I am at home; and to that extent, I plan my time so I can have an entire day at home
to dress. I usually plan on Thursdays and either Sat and or Sunday as my Girl days.
Today, Thursday, i an dressed in a black Fax Leather Skirt, a cotton top, and comfortable house slippers.
I see the men working on the road outside my house, digging up and replacing Gas Lines. I want to go out
and talk with them on what they are doing; But I do not want to change clothes, so I will stay in the house,
And enjoy my Girl Day. Some times being able to wear what you want can be frustrating.
Rader

[Tina_gm]

I'm basically the same regardless of how I'm dressed. Naturally I'm a feminine person. I tend to exhibit feminine traits and mannerisms. I used to fight it, but more and more I just let myself be however it is natural to be.

[Robertacd]

I am the same person regardless of how I am dressed.

[Lilly Diadem]

I did try to keep the two parts separate for a long time which was a remnant from the early days when I loathed what I needed to to.
Now, many years later I recognise for that path lead to shame, regret and it was where the internal conflict lay.
Once I finally accepted that I am a man who likes to dress it became a whole lot easier, now I knew this for a long time but it still felt wrong to do as I didn't feel that part dressing was right if you get my drift.
I no longer go out fully dressed so have no requirement to pass so what I do is neither male nor female but simply me.

So in the same way that I would to a degree act differently when wearing a male dress suit and smart shoes to what I would wearing jeans and a tee shirt I act appropriately in female clothing.
Of course I don't wear a dress and heels to do DIY nor do I want to but if I did want to that kind of thing in girls clothes I'd choose something appropriate like leggings and a tunic with flats.

My wife is encouraging me to spend one day a week dressed and do all my usual stuff as it seems I've had more of an issue with my dressing recently than she has. So I sleep in my nightie, may spend time during the day around the house in girl jeans and a blouse then change into a dress and heels for our evening meal.
Lots of fun and helps me to break my self-destructive habit of repressing my dressing.
Seems to be working and if only I could have discovered this years ago :battingeyelashes:

[CynthiaD]

For me there's no line. I act however I feel like acting, regardless of mode. But I'm a woman with the wrong body parts, and I spent years pretending to be someone I'm not. I used to worry about maintaining appearances and not acting too feminine, but I'm now finished with that part of my life. Thank God.

[Mickitv]

I have been crossdressing for so long that my femme habits have become the normal. My smooth waxed and shaven legs are just a part of me in male or femme mode.

[Dana44]

I don't try to keep it apart. I have long hair, earrings, wear woman tennis shoes only.except when I am wearing cowboy boots as a male. My feminine side shows through at the male mode but is acceptable with anybody as I am a social. person. I am sure they all wonder though and that is alright with me. I have walked the streets with my SO in woman's shorts and no problems with that and have stopped to talk to neighbors. So when I fully fem, I embrace the feminine instincts and enjoy it. I would say my male side has diminished, but at sixty five I just want to live the rest of my life happy as a male or female. But when I was young I was too much male and that wears on you..

[Teresa]

Zicho,
The more you do it the more blurred the line becomes, why worry about it Cding isn't an act to me, it's part of me. Mny movements and actions aren't specific to gender, OK I may find I've stooped rather than bent down but that's suppose to be better for the back . Sme members of my social group could do a little work on being more femme, but then some GGs aren't that elegant in their movements .

[SaraLin]

How do you guys keep a clear line between your girly behaviour for chrossdressing and your normal male character? Or do you also have smilar experiences? If so, any tips to keep a clearer line?
I kinda started to hesitate doing crossdressing, because I don't want my male side to diminish.

I really don't think of myself as acting differently while dressed- well beyond being more careful how I sit. Sitting spread legged in a skirt isn't attractive, and some of the tighter skirts don't allow it anyway.
That said, I have been told that I am different in full-girl mode. I don't notice, but people say my voice gets softer, I move differently, and I'm somehow more "girly"- whatever that means, I'll take it.

As for diminishing your male side - I believe that what you wear doesn't change who you really are. Maybe some of the masculine "act" is slipping away to reveal the inner you?

SaraLin