From no way! to acceptance!

[Pumped]

My wife came to me last night and wanted to talk. She knows of my "interest" in dressing but has been totally unaccepting. She said she was willing to let me indulge and wondered how far I wanted to dress and if I wanted to become a woman. I told her it was more fetish and a play thing and wanted her to participate, not sure how far I want to take the dressing but it was something to keep in the home, no interest in becoming a woman or trying to pass. We spent the evening shopping for girly stuff online and had a wonderful time messing up the bed sheets later. Not sure why the change of heart, but I sure am not complaining!

[redtea]

You should become her sissy maid and do chores around the house in a maid outfit :daydreaming:

[Elizabeth G]

Wow! That's quite the change. Good for you!

[Rachael Leigh]

If only had I done the same, keep it to my own home and maybe enjoy it for just my wife and me.
I'm so far beyond that now and unfortunately the boundaries I crossed have cost me

[ClosetED]

That is terrific, but be careful. My wife did a 180 turnaround from DADT to shopping in stores with me, suggesting I try them on there, letting me model them with wig/shoes/hose (no makeup). Then she asked to see my pictures, as I told her I think I looked as good as a model - I showed her a subset of what I had - and she admitted I did look as I good. She later also had me dress in bed with her. But I think that was too much for her, despite her asking for all of it, and she turned back into more of a silent treatment of that side. She did allow me this past weekend to dress, but she returned and did not sleep in our bed and has not kissed me since.
So take it slow - SO swing back and forth on acceptance.
Hugs, Ellen

[Pumped]

We were not even at DADT, just NO! I don't see us out shopping, that freaks her out!

[Alice B]

I would be curious as to why the total change of heart

[RADER]

What great Luck; But please go slow, do not try to over burden her real soon.
Hope will works out OK.
Rader:

[Stephanie47]

Hope your new found acceptance holds steady. Also consider what ClosetED posted. Women are free to change their minds. Sometimes I wonder if ED's situation is nothing more than a ploy to see how far a husband is willing to go. Then, it comes...the real turn off. I think if my wife came to me one day and asked me to go totally en femme I wouldn't do it. Not even for Halloween. It would rekindle doubts she may have had in the past.

[JocelynJames]

That's fantastic! I think some women actually do some research and find out it's more common than they think and that other women say it adds to the relationship.

[Lana Mae]

Sounds good! Do not push the limits and mess it up! Sounds like a very special wife and deserves some special attention from you! Hugs Lana Mae

[girlyman1977]

If your wife finds it kinky sounds like you found a keeper ;)

[docrobbysherry]

In my experience? When women blow cold and then hot? They tend to blow cold again in time. Be vigilant!:straightface:

[AlanaG]

Congratulations, this is a new direction for you. But like others have said, be wary.



... I told her it was more fetish and a play thing and wanted her to participate, not sure how far I want to take the dressing but it was something to keep in the home, no interest in becoming a woman or trying to pass. ...!

I used to say the same thing. I've progressed to wearing female clothing out and about while still presenting as male. Then a few weeks ago I did the whole make over thing with makeup and a wig and went out in public for the first time, which I enjoyed the hell out of. Now I've caught myself thinking about hormones. Argggg! My wife keeps saying that I keep pushing the boundary's. Which I am. Where will it stop?

[Ariana225]

That's awesome! Glad to hear your wife is coming around! It's a great feeling! Now do something special for her 👍

[Dana44]

I would be slow to introduce new ideas. I wonder what happened. I agree with doc on hot/cold. They always get that way.

[Suzie Petersen]

redtea said:
Today 12:51 PM
You should become her sissy maid and do chores around the house in a maid outfit

Yes, that is great advice right there!! Good Lord!

[Becky Blue]

Great step forward, hope she continues to be supportive ..

[Fiona123]

Congratulations! I would follow ClosetEd's advice though and take it slow.

[Jenniferpl]

Have a supportive similar to yours. Proceed slowly and cautiously. Her mood seems to go back and forth. There will be boundaries. Hopefully you will be able to fulfill your needs within those boundaries.

[Gennifer in LA]

That's very encouraging. My wife just recently found out and, while accepting, has not indicated any interest in participating or really having any intimacy at all. I know I have to give her time to process all thisand can only hope we will get to your point.

[Tracii G]

Just remember this is not a "green light" for you to do anything you want .
Take it slow and don't talk about CDing every waking hour of the day.

[Krisi]

My advice is what Tracii and several others have posted: Take it slow and his your all day, every day activity. You should be able to judge what she will accept and what she will not. Don't go beyond that.

As for shopping, it's no big deal. Many (some) men go shopping with their wives. As long as you're not dressed as a woman and don't try feminine things on in the store, nobody will know that the purchases are for you. Once you figure out your correct sizes, it's a piece of cake. And if you get something home and it doesn't fit, return it.

[Sandra]

First don't as suggested by one member, dress as a sissy maid and do the housework unless you speak to her first about it, as that's one sure way to going back to no acceptance at all.

Just take it at her pace, as Tracy has said it's not a green light,

[Pumped]

We have been talking about it off and on for a couple years but her reaction had always been negative. I had noticed her coming to me with more questions in the last few months, but not much discussion. After our talk the other day she said she has been doing more research about CD'ing when she had time. It appears this has been a six month or longer exploration for her so it was not a quick decision. Either way, the conversation is flowing and she seems very receptive. I told her if she comes home and sees me dressed and doesn't want to see it, to just let me know and I will change to something more manly. I just wanted the freedom to lounge around and not freak her out. She was more than ok with it. When she came home yesterday I was dressed on a tank, woman's shorts an heels and she gave me a sly smile, hopped on my lap and we talked a bit about the day. I stayed dressed like that until bedtime.

[Alice B]

That is great. She has taken the effort t do some research and is now trying to put it into effect. Just take it slow and let her set the pace.

[Ariana225]

That is such great news! If more of the DADT wife's out there just did some well informed research on the subject they would understand far more. They would get it that it is not some perverted thing, a choice, or going to go away. They would understand that it is a needed thing for our complete happiness. Keep reassuring what it means to you and your intentions are with it. My wife knew how much it meant to me right away and it took 2 months for her to come into full acceptance. She understands I need girly time and I understand that she needs me to also be her man. Put your wife before you and treat her right and she will see the benefits outweigh her negative thoughts about it. Don't ever dress with a dirty house, chores that aren't done, or when she is having a bad day. You want her to see that your crossdressing isn't interfering with the mechanics of the household or your twos relationship. Hope I gave good advice, I'm also fairly new to this. Good luck girl! 😘

[Jenny22]

You are in a wonderful position with her, now. I don't know how extensive your girly wardrobe and danties are, but you might suggest that she help you to get dressed as she would prefer to see you. That could lead to an expansion of your girly things. Wig? Forms? Lingerie? Shoes? Shopping? You get the idea.

[Pumped]

I know it has been only a few days, but I bought some panties and have been underdressing with her knowledge. We went out with friends, I was underdressed and she thought it was a little kinky, but enjoyed it. I have been showing her my purchases and she has been enjoying it.

I surprised her a few items too. Stuff I liked, but would not fit me. We talked a bit again and I took her in my arms and just held on to her and thanked her for her acceptance and participation. It has been good!

[MarieAnn]

Good for you AND her for opening up. Just take it slow and most of all enjoy everything that you both can. A relationship can be so good if two people can just relax and enjoy each other without having to add drama or closed mindedness. Congratulations to both of you.

[Pumped]

We talked a bit more the other evening. The change with her came because earlier she though she was going to lose me over this and now realizes I am not going anywhere. I guess the couple years of keeping it low key, but still subtle things like "window" shopping for girlie bits and high heels on the internet when she was around finally made her realize I was not going any where, and neither was my desire to dress.

It has been a total turn around, with her participating, like having a romp through the sheets, both of us dressed in lingerie. She seems very happy about it, and I know I am.

I bought a pair of high heel pumps with her blessing, and came home with a pair if high heel ankle boots the other day. I was wearing the boots when she came home. She just smiled, looked them over and said she liked them.