Leelou
07-29-2017, 02:44 AM
I must admit that my coming out story is a bit unusual. I’ve known the woman that I just came out to as a crossdresser since we were about 15 years old. We’re both 52 now. We were high school sweethearts. We broke up before the end of high school and I moved to the Seattle area after high school. I came out to a couple of women in my 20’s and was accepted both times.
When we were in our late 20’s, my high school sweetie and I got back in contact and we rekindled our relationship. I moved back to Spokane and we moved in together, and after a couple of years we were married. Even though I’d been out to women in the past, I was too afraid to come out to her at that time. She had 2 young children in the house, and we ended up having a daughter of our own. We divorced after 6 years of marriage for reasons unrelated to crossdressing. I still dressed while were married, but it was limited and my small stash was never found.
So here we are in our early 50’s and we’re back together for a couple of years now. We were talking about getting a place together, so it was obvious to me that now is the time to come out to her. It’s been a few months now since I came out to her, and all I can say is that her level of acceptance is complete and wonderful!
As mentioned, I’ve been out to women in the past. And I’ve been on this site for a while, so I knew how to quickly lay my cards on the table. I told her that I liked to wear women’s clothes—that I was a crossdresser. I informed her that I wasn’t gay, don’t want to transition, have been dressing since my early teens, and was too afraid to come out to her in the past because society does not always accept crossdressers. I encouraged her to talk to her counselor about this, and she did. She really appreciated that I made it clear that I was OK with that. I offered couples counseling, but she’s not thinking we need that with everything she’s learned from me, the internet, and her counselor.
I love this woman. I made it very clear to her that I was willing to introduce this part of myself slowly and she was having none of that. She actually nudged me into to wearing a dress in front of her for the first time. And she’s worn my lingerie to bed with me. That’s all I have to say about that. Lol.
We had vaguely talked about marriage before I came out to her. But at our age, with our children grown, it wasn’t something that was on the immediate horizon. Once her full level of acceptance became apparent to me, that changed. She said yes!
We plan on going out on Halloween as our first time out together. I’m going to get some professional help with makeup, and she’s going to the wig shop with me to help me pick. After that, she’s all in to go out whenever we want. I’m sure I’ll post some pics!
I’m sorry for the long post. But it feels great to write it all out. It also feels so wonderful to be in an open and accepting relationship again. I’ve been very fortunate and the women I’ve come out to have been accepting.
When we were in our late 20’s, my high school sweetie and I got back in contact and we rekindled our relationship. I moved back to Spokane and we moved in together, and after a couple of years we were married. Even though I’d been out to women in the past, I was too afraid to come out to her at that time. She had 2 young children in the house, and we ended up having a daughter of our own. We divorced after 6 years of marriage for reasons unrelated to crossdressing. I still dressed while were married, but it was limited and my small stash was never found.
So here we are in our early 50’s and we’re back together for a couple of years now. We were talking about getting a place together, so it was obvious to me that now is the time to come out to her. It’s been a few months now since I came out to her, and all I can say is that her level of acceptance is complete and wonderful!
As mentioned, I’ve been out to women in the past. And I’ve been on this site for a while, so I knew how to quickly lay my cards on the table. I told her that I liked to wear women’s clothes—that I was a crossdresser. I informed her that I wasn’t gay, don’t want to transition, have been dressing since my early teens, and was too afraid to come out to her in the past because society does not always accept crossdressers. I encouraged her to talk to her counselor about this, and she did. She really appreciated that I made it clear that I was OK with that. I offered couples counseling, but she’s not thinking we need that with everything she’s learned from me, the internet, and her counselor.
I love this woman. I made it very clear to her that I was willing to introduce this part of myself slowly and she was having none of that. She actually nudged me into to wearing a dress in front of her for the first time. And she’s worn my lingerie to bed with me. That’s all I have to say about that. Lol.
We had vaguely talked about marriage before I came out to her. But at our age, with our children grown, it wasn’t something that was on the immediate horizon. Once her full level of acceptance became apparent to me, that changed. She said yes!
We plan on going out on Halloween as our first time out together. I’m going to get some professional help with makeup, and she’s going to the wig shop with me to help me pick. After that, she’s all in to go out whenever we want. I’m sure I’ll post some pics!
I’m sorry for the long post. But it feels great to write it all out. It also feels so wonderful to be in an open and accepting relationship again. I’ve been very fortunate and the women I’ve come out to have been accepting.