Nikki A.
08-04-2017, 09:55 AM
The church that I attend has their own thrift shop that is run by the women's guild. I can't make it there often in that they are only open three days a week and those are my usual long days.
This week I needed to move my day off and I was able to stop in and do a little shopping. We started to chat and I mentioned that I always do try to be presentable and appropriate. Both of the women (one older and one younger) working there both told me that not only do I do that but that I do a good job with my presentation and that I blend in (her words), and that I'm usually one of the better dressed ladies. Now mind you I am about 6 ft tall and weigh about 250 (size 22 dress). So passing is not really an option for me,
It felt good to hear that and that they do notice that I try to look nice. I do always wear a skirt or dress ( in my old church it was very frowned upon for women to wear pants or shorts, so I do have that in my head). Besides I wear pants and jeans every other day of the week at work so why not dress up a little on Sunday to worship. I am the only CD/TG in the congregation at this point, but I feel I am accepted and over time I seem to have made more people comfortable with me, especially the older women who I thought might be the toughest to accept me, they seem to be my mother hens. They are always the first to say hi, we sit and talk and always include me in their conversations. They even made sure to invite me to their bus trip to Lancaster to see Jonah and dinner afterwards. I asked if it anyone would be uncomfortable if I went as Nikki, they all told me that if they did it would be their problem and not mine.
Long story but I am happy about all this and I hope that maybe some of you who are on the fence about showing your fem side can see that people can be accepting and that the world will not cave in.
This week I needed to move my day off and I was able to stop in and do a little shopping. We started to chat and I mentioned that I always do try to be presentable and appropriate. Both of the women (one older and one younger) working there both told me that not only do I do that but that I do a good job with my presentation and that I blend in (her words), and that I'm usually one of the better dressed ladies. Now mind you I am about 6 ft tall and weigh about 250 (size 22 dress). So passing is not really an option for me,
It felt good to hear that and that they do notice that I try to look nice. I do always wear a skirt or dress ( in my old church it was very frowned upon for women to wear pants or shorts, so I do have that in my head). Besides I wear pants and jeans every other day of the week at work so why not dress up a little on Sunday to worship. I am the only CD/TG in the congregation at this point, but I feel I am accepted and over time I seem to have made more people comfortable with me, especially the older women who I thought might be the toughest to accept me, they seem to be my mother hens. They are always the first to say hi, we sit and talk and always include me in their conversations. They even made sure to invite me to their bus trip to Lancaster to see Jonah and dinner afterwards. I asked if it anyone would be uncomfortable if I went as Nikki, they all told me that if they did it would be their problem and not mine.
Long story but I am happy about all this and I hope that maybe some of you who are on the fence about showing your fem side can see that people can be accepting and that the world will not cave in.