Heels in public

[newlybronwyn]

Has anyone else ever been out in public in heels, but with otherwise fairly manly dress? I have a new pair of 3 inch block heel ankle boots I am desperate to wear outside but I'm not sure what the reaction would be. They would be worn with skinny jeans and a smartish masculine t-shirt (I struggle with feminine tops because they show a lot of chest hair!).

My wife is very happy for me to wear them on date night and it helps she's several inches taller than me so would still be the taller one of us.

Anyone got any experience or advice?

[Stephanie Nicole]

the closest I have come is going and trying a pair on that I saw in a store window while dressed in drab

[Jean 103]

Yes I have worn ankle boots in guy mode. I don't remember if anyone even noticed .

[IleneD]

I too have a pair of heeled ankle boots; clearly femme footwear.
I wore them with (male) skinny jeans a couple times last winter.
AND.... no one except me seemed to notice.

[Micki_Finn]

Is a dress "manly"?

[Tracii G]

Sure no problem I do it all the time.

[Mgreenva]

I wear heels with man work pants and mans polo work shirt all the time I get compliments and only ever had 1 negative from and early 20s girl going in a mall. I go in convince stores daily and a few times a week walk around shopping centers. I wear my Nine West into 9west. Try it it is a lot of fun

[Pumped]

I wear these in public all the time. i have yet to get a comment, but I have gotten a few funny looks. Just rock it and strut your stuff.

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https://www.amazon.com/Musse-Cloud-Womens-Josie-Western/dp/B01L6S07WA

Amazon lists the heel at 3 1/4", but they are all of 4" heels.

[Ariana225]

Pumped, you're so lucky your feet are small! It can be a pain finding shoes that fit over size 10.

[Ressie]

I've only done this with flats while walking the dog. Haven't got the nerve to to it in stripper heels ;) too many potholes and nosy neighbors.

[Suzie Petersen]

Is a dress "manly"?
I think it can be, just like an Ass can be "Smart"!! ;)

[Sami Brown]

I have worn some black sandals that have two inch heels a few times in male mode. Once I wore them to a restaurant. I guess the wait staff noticed because half a dozen eventually came to the table to ask whether we needed anything. Got great service while they were checking out the dude wearing heels!

[Tracii G]

Ressie nobody really wears stripper heels.
They might say they do but I doubt it.

[Alice_2014_B]

I only wear heels in public when I'm out fully dolled up.
:)

[AlanaG]

Yes, heeled ankle boots and heeled oxfords.

[AmyVanessa]

I do sometimes go shopping wearing my 3 inch pumps, sometimes with ladies' jeans but usually with man pants and a ladies' top.

[Jodie_Lynn]

Ladies & Gentle Beings, it has been my experience ( so far ) that no one notices. Or if they do, they seem to keep their opinions to themselves.

My advice, for what it is worth, be yourselves! Enjoy the ride and savor the experience.

[Teresa]

No only done it fully dressed ,Even then I've only worn women's trousers ( not jeans ) out once with heeled boots, I sat having breakfast in a hotel.

[Anita Havasi]

Hello, I am newbie to this forum. I think it will be noticed.
I recommend hidden wedge edges like on the attached photo. I will buy this and wear in male mode . What do you think? It will obvious?

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[Leslie Mary S]

Pumped, you're so lucky your feet are small! It can be a pain finding shoes that fit over size 10.

Look for a Payless. They carry all the way up to size 12W in womans.

[DeniseJohnson]

I have wore women's boots out but with no heel. Wore mans jeans and that covered most of them and of course ran into someone I know she said nothing and neither did anyone else. and I was underdressed was a good day.

[Ressie]

Ressie nobody really wears stripper heels.
They might say they do but I doubt it.

Of course they do Tracii. I've seen photos of Miley Cyrus wearing them.

[Krisi]

You can wear cowboy boots in public. They have heels. Wearing women's shoes (especially heels) when otherwise dressed as a man will get you some stares at best. If you really want to do this, I suggest going to another town where friends, family, co-workers and neighbors aren't likely to see you.

Otherwise, you'll have some explaining to do.

[Teresa]

Krisi,
Cowboy boots work in some parts of the US but stand out very much in the UK, they don't blend in unless you are line dancing.

[deebra]

Newly I have. Two and one half inch heel in black ankle booties bought at Kroger grocery in women's clothing section. Worn with long black boot cut girl jeans they are never noticed, bottom of heel is one inch by one and one half inches. Same jeans went to the mall wearing three inch smaller heel women's black sweade boots and everyone noticed. Wore the same boots and jeans at another mall and didn't appear to be noticed and blended. Hard to figure isn't it???? Like the experienced CD's say on here, just wear it and be oblivious to any looks. One thing I don't fully understand, all the SA's in departments say I look nice in them and want to make friends with me, that said then everyone else should be O.K. with it. The only heeled boots for men are cowboy boots, so what does that leave, you guessed it, tons and tons of women's boots and ankle boots. Don't forget, they fit better wearing nylons and panties on top.

And the ones shown in the pic should pass just fine with the long boot cut jeans, can buy at Walmart.

[Krisi]

Krisi,
Cowboy boots work in some parts of the US but stand out very much in the UK, they don't blend in unless you are line dancing.

They're going to blend a lot better than 3" pumps.

[SheriM]

I have worn women's sandals and a few times heels in public. Have had some, but not many comments. If you wear skinny jeans/pants, people will notice. If you wear boot cut jeans/pants, I doubt anyone will notice. I bought a pair of dress slacks yesterday to wear with heels.

[Teresa]

Krisi,
That doesn't worry me I love my heels too much !

[Kayliedaskope]

Is a dress "manly"?

Well .... kilts can be ...��


By the way, cowboy boot wearer here. My male attire Tony Lamas have 2" Cuban heels.

[Lana Mae]

I have worn my 2" heeled booties with women's bootcut jeans to the grocery store! When crossing the parking lot saw a women talking to husband as if she noticed but it could have been my walk too! LOL Hugs Lana Mae

[JeanTG]

I once went shopping in semi-drab. I was wearing a bra and panties, no shirt but a men's v-neck sweater that was fairly unisex, male dress pants, and clearly feminine wedges. All topped off with a touch of subdued lipstick and women's glasses. If I were to do it again, I'd add earrings. I kind of liked the look, rather androgynous, which perhaps well defines what I actually am: neither full one nor the other; sometimes more of one than the other, other times more in the middle.

But this was to go to a store where I was well known by the staff. I parked directly in front of the store, walked in, overheated my credit card, got back in my car with my haul, and drove home.

[Jennifer_Ph]

This is me at work yesterday - it was slow so I could wear heels. Today I have a lot of stuff to move around, so while still in a skirt, I'm wearing boring old durable mens shoes.

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[mechamoose]

Yes, but over 2" feels 'off'.

<3

- MM

[BrendaPDX]

I have worn some boots with stiletto heals, they were under bluejeans, I was still noticed as they hurt like heck after only a few minutes of shopping, I relied heavily on the shopping cart to take some of the weight. I had almost forgot about that moment of my life:) Thanks for asking. Brenda

[deebra]

And a word of caution or should I say pain. You can walk inside your house in 3 and 4 inch heels/spikes and think you've mastered it; then get out of your car, walk to the entrance and then through the mall and your calves and feet will make you think a mid evil mascoist got a holt of you.

Like Brenda I was noticed with stiletto heel boots under jeans, sucks doesn't it. Women are admired, CDs are trashed; both have feet and jeans, why different treatment???

[Krisi]

............. Like Brenda I was noticed with stiletto heel boots under jeans, sucks doesn't it. Women are admired, CDs are trashed; both have feet and jeans, why different treatment???

Why different treatment? Because men are supposed to wear men's shoes and women are supposed to wear women's shoes.

You don't have to like it but you should understand it.

Many major cities have areas where it's OK to dress how you want and act how you want. Shopping malls are not in those areas though.

[Jennifer_Ph]

I remember the first time in the mall wearing heels, I found out quickly that those floors are SLIPPERY! :D

[JenniferMBlack]

I have several times with seemingly no notice and a few with the odd glare. Once I did have a guy ask me if it is hard to walk in heels and do they make your feet hurt. I told him not really and yes some so. It is important to get the right fit. He thank me and that was that.

[Ceera]

This year, around the start of April, I started wearing feminine cork wedge sandals with 3" heels in both male and female modes. I hadn't worn obviously female footwear in public as a guy before. But one night I was relaxing around the house in guy mode, and I was wearing a t-shirt from Hot Topic and women's jeans with highly embellished back pockets and a cute pair of women's cork wedge sandals with 3" heels and black straps (see pic attached). I was otherwise entirely male - no wig, breast forms or feminine makeup or jewelry. I decided at about 8:30 PM that I needed to get a dart board from the local sporting goods store. The sandals I had on were unquestionably women's shoes, but they were comfortable and I wanted to get to the store before it closed. So I tossed on a women's jacket (Black with a grey fake fur collar), and off I went. Ended up going to the sporting goods store, and to Wal Mart, and to a hardware store, and had no problems at all.

After that, I wore the ones in this pic for 4 months, virtually every day, until I literally wore them out! Had to toss them when the side straps started to tear out. But they were a fairly cheap pair.

Since breaking the ice with that, I started wearing whatever I felt comfortable in. Women's boots or women's sandals with 3 to 4 inch heels in guy mode. I still haven't done stiletto high heels as a guy, but no one seems to blink at wedge heels or chunky-style high heels like on block-heel sandals or women's boots.

My daughter made the observation recently that one big reason why I have no trouble when I go out en-femme, or when I go out as a guy wearing girly things, is my attitude. I'm so obviously comfortable and at ease that no one thinks to question how I look. So that would be my advice to you. Just own it and act like you're comfortable, and people will likely not comment at all.

[mechamoose]

Gender identity has nothing to do with boobs.

Clothing? We rock it.

- MM

[Diane Taylor]

I rarely wear heels in public because I'm 6 feet tall to begin with. On those few occasions when I do, I'm always completely made over. I just don't like the look of heels with drab clothing.

[Underdressed]

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[newlybronwyn]

Thank you everyone. I've definitely decided it will be a case of if and not when. And bootcut jeans is a really good idea. Can't believe I never thought of that!

[Jenny22]

3" block heels, huh. If the heels didn't click-clack as you walked, the sound of which would draw attention to you, go for it. I have a pair that I need to check out as to sound. However, I'd wear male trousers to cover them unless I was out with the girls.

[Pumped]

I have wearing men's western boots for years so a two inch heel is normal for me and ho-hum. I do have a second pair of ankle boots that like much like the other pair I posted but with a three inch heel that I wear to work many days. I get a little crap about my side zip boots, but no one has mentioned the three inch heels. These boots have a "modified" western boot heel so they are not overly fem.

[ellbee]

Has anyone else ever been out in public in heels, but with otherwise fairly manly dress?

Yes.


I own a couple pairs of pretty cute booties. Same style, but one in a flat black, and the other in a medium brown.

Really comfy, and kinda look like some sort of motorcycle boots (if that's even a thing?), with a strap & buckle on the side. Toe-box isn't pointy, but somewhat tapered, anyway.


The heels on them are something like 1.5" to 2", I forget at the moment.

But the key thing? They don't click! The bottom of the heel & sole are some sort of rubber. Makes things kinda quiet for a much easier time at "stealth mode."


EDIT: Forgot to metion... The heels are pretty chunky. None of this thin pointy stuff! :)

[deebra]

Wearing heels that click is a great feminine sound and adds to dressing as a female. If I get into an area of other shoppers and don't want to be noticed I can change how I put my foot down and walk quietly.

[Mark B]

I wear 3" or 4" pumps when at work. When home I'll go more casual with my boots. I have 2 pairs that I wear on a regular basis One pair has a slightly pointed toe with 3" block heels. The other pair has more of a rounded toe, think combat boots, with a 2-1/2" heel. Both are black leather and have laces in the front, zippers on the side. Most of the time I am wearing a skirt and a man's polo, but at times I wiil wear my favorite 501 Levis. No seems to notice or care even when I wear the skirt.

[Mgreenva]

I've asked 3 ladies that have commented on my heels and asked them what made them notice and all three said they heard the sound and looked for the heels. All their comments were positive and I chatted with all of them. I have a new pair of heels that fit better than others but they are missing the sound due to a rubber anti slip bottom pad. For this reason they are not my favorite.

[Devi SM]

It's funny that I just got home from picking up my grandson from school.
I'm wearing women's short that my wife bought for her but they didn't fit and she knows that I don't like the normal short pants wear because they're too big.
After my foot surgery, that stitches were removed just yesterday, I should wear a boot (see sexy legs thread) but at home these are the more comfortable shoes.
I didn't notice up to when get out the car in the place, neither wife that I left home wearing them, while waiting my grandson I didn't see any mom looking at me, nor my grandson or wife when I got back home.

[Petra1]

I usually leave for work at 4am on Sundays (day off today). I've been know to make the drive in various combinations of dress. Sometimes full-out, sometimes partial. Sometimes, partial means I'm wearing Petra's heels and underthings while wearing my regular clothes. One morning, I stopped at DDs for coffee, no drive-thru so had to walk in. Dressed male except for the women's heeled boots. (I've always liked the way heels sound on hard surfaces.) A guy standing in line behind me noticed and, while he didn't say anything, had a very confused look on his face. I got my coffee and headed to work.

[Mgreenva]

I drive with my heels on every day. I stop and buy my Pepsi and gas. One morning The cashier was talking to a friend at the counter. I dropped something out of my pocket and bent over to pick it up the look on her face when I stood up was priceless. The next day I told the cashier that I think her friend liked my shoes. She now checks out my heels every time I stop. Another store I stop it also has a cashier that comments on my shoes. Life is short wear heels. I've overhear 1 comment from a young lady (I was wearing flats) but gotten at least 25 positive comments.

[dan.dan]

I went to a shoe store with a girl that knows. We went to the size large section where she picked out heels for me to try on. The attendant came over and asked if we needed any help while I was trying on high heels. That was kinda exciting, being in man mode and walking up and down the aisle in heels.....

[Sarasometimes]

I think in most areas a male wearing heels will be noticed fairly often, even booties or boots. I believe one only does this if the being noticed is not an issue regardless of who you bump into. You flatfooted height is also a factor in being noticed. Enjoy

[Mgreenva]

I'm 6 ft 265 and people rarely notice. The ones I've talked to say they heard the sound and looked. I personally not worried what some one will think. Like I posted before I usually get positive comments. Recently a lady came trotting up to me to tell me her husband wore heels in a race In our conservation she told me that was the only time he has worn heels and she loves them but thinks she is too tall to wear them. I told her nonsense and she should wear what she wants I walked 50 yards and another lady told me she had never seen a man in heels but she loved it

[newlybronwyn]

I did it! I wore my amazing new heels to the local store to buy a few groceries. I borrowed some trousers from my long legged wife which hid them and it felt wonderful. Thank you everyone for your advice.

[Lexi_83]

I've only done this with flats while walking the dog. Haven't got the nerve to to it in stripper heels ;) too many potholes and nosy neighbors.I can barely walk in 3" heels, flats or 1 1/2" are more typical.

But my goodness are high heels sexy!

[Ressie]

Me either Lexi. I don't get enough practice at it. I'm OK with 2 1/2" heels if they're comfortable.

I saw a very petite girl at the store yesterday that was wearing what looked like 6" heels and she was walking pretty good in them, but not perfect. In bare feet I would guess she was around 4' 8".

[Jennifer_Ph]

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I love these "combat" heels from Payless... 3" heel, treads on the soles, and quiet to walk in... This is me at work the other day.

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[deebra]

newly,
You said you wore your boots and wife's long jeans, did you also wear hose and panties to make it feel more feminine???
Next time add a bra.

[pedalgirl]

Many times I have worn all types of womens shoes and boots while wearing womens bootcut jeans. As for the clicking sound I ordered some rubber heel taps from Ebay that glues on. It muffles the sound of the heels making it easier to go undetected. I have yet to attract any unwanted attention.