Solicitors at front door

[Karen's Secret]

Have any of you answered the door en femme when a solicitor rings or knocks? How did they react?

I ask because I've always lived in fear of someone coming to house while I'm dressed. I've always had the curtains down and the doors locked but still get panicked when the doorbell rings. In male mode I'm in the habit of having a few morning cups of coffee at my computer in the den which has a large window facing our front yard. Anyone who approaches the front door walks right by this window. As part of my effort to break down my anxiety over getting caught and to feel more comfortable about myself I have started to enjoy my morning coffee while wearing a basic blouse, skirt, panties, and bra with falsies (no wig, make up, etc). I'm confident no one can see me from the sidewalk because of the window glare and even if they did it would be hard to see that I'm wearing women's clothing.

Unfortunately I still need to worry about the occasional solicitor who might come to the front door and walk right by the window. This happened yesterday but I just happened to be in male mode at the time.

I'm not ready to answer the door en femme but would like to live vicariously through your experiences so I can get an idea of the various reactions.

[Tracii G]

Sure I have had Jehova's witnesses come to the door, Lawn care dudes,roofing contractor guys you name it.
So what exactly are you afraid of?
The "I'm confident no one can see me" makes me think you have an 'I want to get caught' fetish hiding in you somewhere.
Just answer the door and see what happens the world isn't going to end I can tell you that much.
You worry too much about it.

[Karen's Secret]

makes me think you have an 'I want to get caught' fetish hiding in you somewhere.

It's more of I want to stop hiding as opposed to wanting to get caught. Of course it's goofy on my part but I'm really in that middle ground where I want to be able to wear what I want in my own home but not necessarily make it obvious. I hate solicitors to begin with as I find it an extreme intrusion on my privacy for a stranger to knock on my door. If I could afford to put a fence around my front yard with a locking gate I would in a heartbeat.

[NicoleScott]

My wife and I peek through the blinds to see who is knocking. If it's obviously an un-asked-for solicitation for a product, donation, my vote, or participation in their religion, we usually choose to not answer and let them go away. Building supply and hardware stores sell "no soliciting" signs which I am considering posting on my door but I haven't yet.
It's your door and your decision to answer or not.

[Robertacd]

Why worry about a random stranger?

It's not like they will remember you beyond "Remember that guy who answered the door in a dress?" conversations with coworkers, I am pretty sure the other person in that conversation would answer "Which one?".

[Krisi]

I know of a guy who sold "No Soliciting" signs door to door but of course once he made a sale he could never go back!

So what's the point of dressing but no wig? You will attract less attention either in all female mode or all male mode. A dude in a dress with boobs stands out and is noticeable.

Have you considered curtains or blinds on that window? Or not sitting in front of that window?

Have you considered a "No Soliciting" sign?

And lastly, you are not obligated to answer the door. It's your choice.

[Tracy Irving]

Do what I did and unplug your front doorbell. 15 years later and life hasn't changed one bit. The packages still get delivered and guests still drop by. Solicitors? Haven't had one since...

[Dana44]

I go and answer the door when they knock. Yeah I have signed the ups guys computer when he delvers stuff. No issues. Most around here know I feminine anyways. .

[Jenny22]

When I'm fully dressed and there's a ring or knock on the door, I just don't answer the door, period! Its that simple.

[RADER]

Once I had to sign for a package, and I was dressed in a long jean skirt, and top.
No wig or makeup, just a Guy wearing a skirt.
When the door bell rang, I went to the door not thinking of what I was wearing.
I opened the door, about half way, partly standing behind it. I reach out for the
device to sign, and retrieved my package, returned the device and closed the door.
I do not think the UPS even noticed what I was wearing. All went well that time.
Rader

[Stacy Darling]

Marrying Solicitors has been my downfall!
Daughters as barristers has killed me!

Open the door and allow the air to come in!

But only if you are up for it!

Stacy!

[Alice B]

When or door bell rings it goe to our phone, so I can answer without going to or opening the door. Did once have a neighbor at the door and told her that I had just gotten out of the shower and could not come down. Made contact later.

[Tracii G]

The only one stopping you from wearing what you want in your own home is you.
People aren't going to park or gather in front of your house because you have a bra on, wear what you want nobody really cares what you wear.
Maybe it's your own homophobia holding you back.

[Ressie]

I only worry about a family member or neighbor coming to the door. My brother knocked on the front door the day my sister died and I was wearing girl's stretch pants. I let him in and he didn't say anything about it. That would have turned out much different if I were fully en femme. Oh my!

[Karen's Secret]

Maybe it's your own homophobia holding you back.

Interesting response. Not sure I understand why you would say that to me?

[Tahoegurl]

Hi Karen, for a starter, when I dress, I dress completely. So if someone comes to the door they get me dressed. My funny story is that I keep my toenails painted...bright coral. I was home after the gym...in shorts , tank top and barefooted. The UPS guy came to deliver a package. I stepped out front and signed the gizmo. All he said was nice toes. I smiled and said that life is too short to be boring. He laughed and said right on.

[carhill2mn]

Yes, I have. I have not had any bad experiences. One time it was not a solicitor but a neighbor woman. She did not realize to whom she was speaking. Later she asked if the woman who answered the door was my sister. I said "no, it was just a friend helping me."

[Tracii G]

Karen by that I meant your own reservations of being seen and have someone think you were gay thats all.
You personally may not be homophobic but when you are worried about being seen in womens clothes it kind of appears that way.
Whats the first thing people ask when they see a man crossdressing? Oh he must be gay.
Its very common.

[ellbee]

If it's the postal carrier or UPS guy delivering packages face-to-face, I really don't care. I've actually become a bit friendly with my regular postal carrier (a GG), always chit-chatting about this or that.

I broke it in gradually, wearing increasingly femmy stuff in front of her. I always catch her quickly sneaking a peek or two, and at first she was a bit surprised. But over time, it seems she's come to just be like, "Eh, whatever..."


One time the landline phone guy had to come into my apartment. I was in guy-mode, but wearing chick clothes. Didn't even realize it at the time, but apparently my bra strap was showing the whole time! :confused3:

Never said a word to me about it. And we actually had a very long conversation while he was there, LOL.



I should mention, I don't present as female (with wig, make-up, etc.)... So obviously it's a bit different for me.

But people like them are just doing their job, and are pretty professional about it. I'm sure they've already seen it all.

[CynthiaD]

I've answered the door many times en femme. I get no reaction whatsoever.

[Tracii G]

Actually saw a neighbor at the mail boxes today and she commented on my flats (grasshoppers) and said those are so cute where did you get them?
She said I should let her braid my hair but she is married and not quite comfy with her doing that.
She said maybe I need to make an appointment at the salon she works at. Maybe I will who knows.

[Lana Mae]

I answered the door the other day. It was after the next door neighbor's oldest boy cut my front yard. I did not think about it and answered it with my painted fingernails plus no shoes so painted toes too! He asked about the polish on my fingers and I explained about manicure includes polish and I want my money's worth! His reply was "Neat!" I am not sure if he told his parents or not but I have not seen them in over a week! Not sure if it is related or not! We will see I am sure! Hugs Lana Mae

[docrobbysherry]

"Not wanting to hide", means u want out of your closet, Karen. There a zillion ways of going out without your friends and neighbors knowing u dress. I've been going out all over the country for nearly 10 years. But, I'm still in the closet! I just don't dress out in my home town area.:daydreaming:

I don't dress so anyone can see me at home. Including my disapproving, adult daughter who lives with me. As for your front room, I suggest an inexpensive set of verticle blinds. When you're in the mood to get caught? Pull them wide open. When u want privacy? Shut them all the way. When you're not sure? Pull them shut but leave them slanted part way open!:heehee:

[Teresa]

Karen,
You do realise we use the term solicitor in the UK to mean a lawyer . Usually the term soliciting meant a hooker looking for business, so when I read your thread I wasn't sure what to expect .

I guess you were referring to cold callers and bible pushers, or possibly delivery drivers ?

Going to the door dressed appears to cure the bible pushers, they never call again, cold callers are on a mission so they don't care and delivery drivers usually drop the parcel and run without a signature. At home I'm usually in MIAD mode so I'm not too happy with them calling because I don't personally like being seen like that.

[MelanieAnne]

Put up a sign that says "No salesman, No Jehovah Witnesses"!

I also keep a pair of jeans or shorts and a T shirt and deck shoes or slippers, that I can put on quickly for a delivery man, UPS, etc.

[Tracii G]

I used to keep an inert one of these right by my front door just under a bush.
Not sure if it deterred any unwanted knocks on my door from sales people.

[lingerieLiz]

Putting up a no soliciting sign doesn't mean a thing. They will come anyway. No laws against it. I answer however I'm dressed. Neighbors too. Had one neighbor woman come to the door ask me to help her carry a box in. Went over to her house and helped her wearing a golf skirt and top with bra. She said thanks and I left. Never said anything about what I was wearing.

Answered the door for 2 very pretty Jehova's witnesses one day long ago when I fully dressed fem. It was very hot out. They came in talked and I gave them water and wished them well. Never sure if they realized I was a guy or not.

[Erin77]

Hahaha a claymore works like Tracii says.. but only if one knows what it is...

[Maria Blackwood]

I just don't answer the door for solicitors.

A red sign that says "Please do not dusturb occupant" works better. It has an ominous air about it and implies something medical going on.

This type of claymore is much more fun to use, speaking as a potental pirate queen, although the classic cutlass is hard to beat.

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[Karen's Secret]

Thanks all. Oddly enough the solicitor scenario played itself out today. I was sitting in my office wearing a dress when a person walked right by my front window heading to the door. He obviously noticed that I was sitting there because he waved as he walked by. I simply went to the door and, without opening the door, said I wasn't interested and have a good day. He walked off and that was that. No big deal.

[docrobbysherry]

I just don't answer the door for solicitors.
-----------------------------------------------------This type of claymore is much more fun to use, speaking as a potental pirate queen, although the classic cutlass is hard to beat.
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I see your cutlass or claymore, Maria. And, raise u a 2 handed broadsword!:devil:

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That's really me and my authentic broadsword!:daydreaming:

[alwayshave]

The doorman in my building collects all packages and at 8pm delivers them to our door by opening it and pushing them through. I have yet to be sighted, though my dressing has been much curtailed for the last year while my step daughter has been living with us. I'm moving shortly to a townhouse so my plan was to use a doorbell with camera in order to determine who is at the door and either tell them to go away if they are selling something or want me to join their religion otherwise answer and collect the package.

[Tracii G]

Last summer I was in my bikini laying out on my deck.
Two guys that work for the power company walked right into my back yard to trim the top of the trees under the power lines.
I got up, grabbed my beach towel and went inside.
Changed brushed out my hair and was dressed in my reg 50/50 mode.
Went to the mail box got my mail and one of the guys was at his truck and he said tell your wife we are sorry we disturbed her we won't be much longer.
I waved and said OK I will,you guys be safe and watch what you are doing.

[Ressie]

That's hilarious Tracii :battingeyelashes:

[~Joanne~]

Building supply and hardware stores sell "no soliciting" signs which I am considering posting on my door but I haven't yet.


Why waste the good money? they can't read lol I have no soliciting and no peddlers BOTH on my door and they still knock. I guess they believe they don't protain to them.

[Jennifer_Ph]

One time someone knocked at my door, she was selling Kirby vacuums. I was wearing a short tight skirt, hose, and some stripper-ish heels. And a t-shirt. No wig, no makeup. She asked if she could demonstrate her vacuum, and hell I was bored so said sure. 45 minutes later she was done, and did her best to sell me. I said, "Do you know how many pairs of heels I could buy for that kind of money?" She chuckled, but still tried to sell me... No I didn't buy the dang thing. And she never said a word or asked why I was dressed the way I was. I was having a ball.

And for what its worth, your mail carrier and UPS guy already know you crossdress by the things that they deliver, so I don't worry about them either.

[Tracii G]

You know I still have the Kirby Gen III I bought back in the 80's.
Not a great suck machine anymore but an outstanding carpet shampooer and I still use it for one.

[Allison Chaynes]

Tracii, I did the same, but rigged a wire to make it appear as though it was connected to the doorbell.

[Kayliedaskope]

Going to the door dressed appears to cure the bible pushers, they never call again.



Going to the door dressed MIAD in heels and carrying a double-barreled shotgun works even better. :p

[JenniferMBlack]

I have answered the door in all forms of dressed for many salesmen and religious poeple. I was asked once by a Jehovah witness if the crossdresser still lived here I said yes I do , and the gay man lives next door still.. As she kept on walking I asked loudly are we not welcome at your church. Strange they dint ever knock on my door now.

[Maria Blackwood]

Well, all I have is one of my ESO characters with an Assassin's Guild greatsword.

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This is Ogla The Odd. She's odd. Yes, that's a pot on her head.

[Krisi]

........ And for what its worth, your mail carrier and UPS guy already know you crossdress by the things that they deliver, so I don't worry about them either.

Most shops that sell CD specific merchandise (boobs, butt enhancers, wigs, etc.) label their packages discreetly. Nobody but you would know what's inside. And since these people deliver packages eight hours per day, five or six days per week, they don't really have time to care what's in them.

[Krisi]

I'm sitting here this morning expecting a new laptop to be delivered by FedEx. They often leave stuff on the doorstep but they may require a signature for this. It's supposed to be delivered by 8:00 PM. I'm set up for a quick change into male mode.

There are systems available where a push of the doorbell calls you on your cell phone. I'm wishing I had one of these so when the guy/girl comes, I could say "I'll be there in a minute."

[Ceera]

My experiences in this regard hardly count, because by the time they happened, I could already pass pretty well.

Shortly after I moved to a new town, where I come and go en-femme freely, I was about to go out to the mall and heard a knock at the front door. I was already fully dolled up, with makeup and wig in place, so I just answered the door using my female voice. Turned out to be a pre-teen neighbor boy, selling fresh baked pies for a school fund raiser. I would have to pick it up on one of two days a few weeks later, when the moms baked them. I was one of his first stops, and he didn't have change for a $20 bill. But I have a checking account as Ceera, so I was able to go get my checkbook and give him a check for my pie. He thanked me, and gave no indication he saw me as anything but a normal female neighbor.

When the day came to get my pie, I went en-femme. The pick up point turned out to be a community center that was also hosting a community craft fair! I found the kitchens, but they were just getting the pies into the ovens. So Ceera got to shop at the craft fair for an hour or so while I waited. When I picked up my pie, I chatted with four or five of my neighborhood's moms, including the mother of the boy I bought my pie from. She recognized me as living on her block, and recognized my girl name as the first person her son sold a pie to, and she thanked me for supporting her son's fund raiser. And once again, no one acted as if they saw me as anything but female.

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In a different case, a college aged guy came to the door, selling cleaning products. Again I was ready to go out, and this time I didn't want to waste time. So when I opened the door I was holding the collar of my 95 pound Bernese Mountain Dog, who was straining to "meet and greet" this stranger. The sales guy was totally unflappable! He asked to pet the dog and went right through with his sales pitch, despite my repeated insistance that I didn't want what he was selling. Took me several minutes to get him off my porch! He also treated me as a normal female.

More recently I put a no solicitors sign on my door, and now they rarely bother me.