Complimenting GGs

[LindaAnne]

I would appreciate anyone's views on this topic. I've always been super polite to everyone my entire life. I enjoy being nice to others and think it helps us have a nicer world to live in.

Although having cross-dressed the past 30+ years, it has only been the past few where I've become much more comfortable with my crossdressing and ultimately would like to dress in public. Having said that, I've now become much more aware of women's clothing, shoes, etc. and find I'm always looking to see what GGs are wearing so that I can learn more about what to wear when I do go out in public.

In doing this I've seen various GGs who are really "put together." They are very stylish and clearly take the time to look nice. Sometimes I see a dress I like, or shoes, or perhaps their hairstyle.

Is it appropriate to compliment a GG (a stranger) while in my man clothes? I'm so concerned they will think I'm some weirdo or something. It is purely about being nice and paying them a compliment. Even if everyone thinks it's ok I've struggled with the proper way to phrase it so they take the compliment as it is intended.

Thanks for any help girls!

Linda Anne

[Genny B]

I compliment women all the time. What's the worst that could happen, I get accused of flirting? LOL... to old for that!

Genny B

[Sometimes Steffi]

I also compliment GGs regularly and have always had a very favorable response from them. I am careful to compliment what their wearing, not how they look. Many times my compliment will be the start of a short conversation, and some have even told me where they got the clothes or shoes.

Just yesterday the opportunity came up again. I have been shopping in male mode and I was in line behind a couple at the cash register. They were buying a man's suit and tie for him and an evening dress for her, both in light earth tones. So I said to the woman, "That's a beautiful dress. It looks like you're going to a wedding in matching outfits." She confirmed my guess and we had a short conversation about the beach wedding that they were going to in Key West (Florida).

[Amy Lynn3]

I compliment them all the time also. If I like the color of their nails or lipstick I compliment them too. Just "nice nails" some times.

[Tracii G]

I do all the time but I'm sure I'll eventually run into an Ashley Judd type that thinks I'm being sexist for complimenting her.
I did have one girl get snotty at a flea market because I said nice earrings or hair bow,something trivial.
When she barked at me I looked at my friend and grabbed his arm and said honey lets move on this bitch is crazy as hell.
Those feminist nuts are out there so it might be wise if the girl has a neon hair color don't say anything to her and deff stay away from her.

[Jackie7]

It's easy to say "that's a terrific (whatever), you look so lovely," and most GGs will be pleased with that. Except when what looks so great is their cleavage. You can get slapped. Focus on the dress or the blouse.

[jack-ie]

So It's ok to say: "I love your blouse. It really accentuates your cleavage"? :-)

[Ceera]

I complement ladies quite often when I am in male mode. Usually, I use the same phrases I hear from GG's when they complement me when I am en-femme.

My nails are done 24x7, so even in male mode, if I tell a lady, "Wow! Your nails are gorgeous!", they take it as a complement from someone who knows nail care too. Often it leads to a fun discussion about where we get our nails done, just like any two girls would have. And often they speak first to complement my nails, which breaks the ice for my return complement.

I have yet to get a bad response to something like, "Excuse me, but I just wanted to say that I think that outfit you're wearing looks great on you!" It's usually also okay to make similar complements about how great their shoes look.

It's usually okay to complement how pretty or well done their makeup is, if it's a sincere and well-deserved complement.

On the other hand, a direct complement to the woman's personal appearance (beauty, figure, legs, how sexy they are) is skating on thin ice.

[Tracii G]

I agree ceera but then again you never know whats going to set them off.LOL

[Teresa]

Linda ,
They may well look well put together, but sometimes it's thrown on if running late, or something not so good is on their mind, so a compliment might just make their day. Not unless the problem on their mind is her husband's CDing then she may not give you a very pleasant answer .

It is lovely to receive compliments , it's something I hardly experienced in male mode but when someone thinks you've put it all together well in female mode it gives you a boost knowing the thought you put into it is appreciated . OK maybe they are chatting you up, but if they think it's flirting , where's the harm I love it .

[sometimes_miss]

Have to be careful. What one woman considers complimenting, then flirting, another will consider sexual harassment.

[Rachelakld]

Guilty -
Today, getting my Subway lunch
In my work uniform
Young woman (20?) walked and waited behind me.
I turned and complimented her on her lovely hair colour (dyed pinkish red which suited her)
She smiled and thanked me for the compliment
I picked up my lunch and left.

When I was younger, I used to give out flowers to pretty strangers, never had any issues

[Alice K]

One of the benefits of getting older is being able to compliment a lady on her appearance and not being taken for a cad. At least there is one good thing. 😊

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Given your age and positive attitude, you're probably fine just being yourself and giving the compliment. However there are certain women who get off on throwing a compliment back in your face. I learned this decades ago and found that the way around it is to ask them, 'How do you feel about receiving compliments?' Most will be amused, and the prickly ones? -their curiosity has always exceeded their rampant feminist suspicion...so far...

[deebra]

I agree with TraciG and sometimes, they have a strange, unpredictable mind set. I was on a cruise with my SO standing beside me when I told a server how nice she looked, she took offence and thought I was hitting on her in front of my SO. Nut Case. I was just trying to make a young woman feel good about her self. So where I use to compliment women I don't anymore, that female brain can go wacko on anything anytime as we all know. A lot of women are insecure about themselves and their looks, my compliments were to help them with this. I'm not the least bit interested in hitting on them. I have a great mate. Wonder what some of them are thinking when you don't compliment them or go gaga over their appearance when they think they look great. Many dress to bait a guy to be drawn to them and then get offended if he reacts differently than they want. Even women have trouble with other women. And I don't hate women, just know they are very very unpredictable.

[alwayshave]

I have complimented women on there outfits and have never had a bad reaction. However, I tend to not make such comments to young women who take the comment as being hit on, because they are always being hit on. I stick to women in my age group.

[Ressie]

Only if I really feel compelled to but even then I usually don't. Because in my case maybe I would be hitting on them and I don't feel that's a good idea if they're married or engaged. And most women I meet are married or engaged.

Moreover, I've given compliments before that were unanswered. The woman doesn't say thank you or anything. I think women like getting compliments from each other, not so much from men.

[Jodi]

So It's ok to say: "I love your blouse. It really accentuates your cleavage"? :-)

Say--I love your blouse, but no comments on cleavage

Jodi

[Jenny22]

I give compliments to cashiers about their 'pretty nails', and they always smile and say thank you. I think it gives them a bit of a lift having possibly had a bad day. Women do like compliments, if they have tried to present themselves nicely. It shows them that their efforts were worth it.

[Valery L]

I prefer to receive the compliments from women, which is what usually happens.

[Tracii G]

Same here Valery.

[Vickie_CDTV]

Because there is always a risk of a woman taking it the wrong way, if they are a stranger I don't. Nowadays everything is a potential so-called "trigger". It just isn't worth it. Being in the northeast it is even more so where people tend to keep to themselves.

[Stephanie Nicole]

Several times when I have encountered a GG when shopping ( whether in drab or dressed) and I see she may be wearing a blouse or dress or something that I like, I have said I like the blouse you are wearing could you possibly tell me where you purchased it. I am careful to word it in a way to show I am interested in the article of clothing and not sounding like I am harassing her or anything, and I have found that most of the time they are receptive and will usually give me an answer to the question.

[suzanne]

A compliment is welcome anywhere, anytime. And it's just as appropriate to give them to a TG as a GG. But I think you have to be specific about what you're complimenting. It's better to say "I love your dress" than "You look beautiful". The latter could be mistaken for an opening pickup line.

Also, once you have given the compliment, do not press for, or expect, a conversation to evolve. If she wants to converse, she will, but if she thanks you and continues on her way, take it as a sign she doesn't want to talk and let it go. But remember, that compliment DID have the effect if making her day.

[Nikki A.]

As long as you complement a specific item, I've never had a problem. If a conversation ensues then I may add that the whole look comes together. I've never had a bad response.
But some of you are right, I love getting complements too.

[Sometimes Steffi]

So It's ok to say: "I love your blouse. It really accentuates your cleavage"? :-)


Absolutely not. It makes it look like you're more interested in the cleavage than the blouse.

A better response is, "I love your blouse. It's a beautiful color."



Have to be careful. What one woman considers complementing, then flirting, another will consider sexual harassment.

I would never give a complement to co-worker unless I know her well. Too easy to be accused of sexual harassment.

[giuseppina]

So It's ok to say: "I love your blouse. It really accentuates your cleavage"? :-)

That's asking for a sexual harassment citation, Jackie. Compliment the blouse if you like, but forget about the cleavage.:rolleyes:

[Ellie Summer]

I think you're least likely to run into a problem if it's clear that you're being genuine and not just trying to get her attention with an empty compliment. I have complimented GGs on occasion, but it's pretty much people that I know. I've told a girl that I liked her earrings, no big deal. If I was staring at a girl's shirt that was showing some cleavage off, I'd keep my trap shut. As far as complementing women in public, I'm typically more reserved unless it's a very friendly non threatening situation. Women just have to put up with too many men approaching them looking for attention as it is, and in a lot of situations I just leave them be. A bike path with nobody else around? Nope. I just give them their peace. Someone who's out to a nice dinner and has obviously gone through the effort to make herself look nice? In that situation I think more often than not they'll appreciate someone noticing their style. Bottom line, everyone loves to be complimented because it makes them feel special, but sometimes people don't see if it's actually genuine.

[jack-ie]

Please, please girls, that was an attempt at humor. I would never say that to a stranger.

[ellbee]

What... We can't pay them a compliment on something *not* related to their body? :strugglin




I have been shopping in male mode and I was in line behind a couple at the cash register. They were buying a man's suit and tie for him and an evening dress for her...

Or at least that was what they wanted people to believe... :devil: :heehee:

[deebra]

How About:
Nice tits you are showing in your extremely low cut blouse and push up bra.
Nice ass in your skin tight skirt.
Nice legs in your ultra short and tight mini skirt.
Nice wig, see what years of bleaching and teasing has done to your natural hair.
Nice foundation, it almost covers years in the sun.

Just telling the truth, why give a false compliment, doesn't the way they display themselves deserve the truth???

[LindaAnne]

Thanks everyone! Really great thoughts and I do appreciate everyone sharing with me real-life experiences!

[Kayliedaskope]

So It's ok to say: "I love your blouse. It really accentuates your cleavage"? :-)

"Excuse me, miss. Not only is that a beautiful blouse, but you have a very nice rack."
-waits for the slap :p -

[LindaAnne]

I don't believe any comment like that is acceptable. I was trying to be polite in my response by acknowledging the very nice (and appropriate) responses that I received.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I just wanted to give an example of how it could make a girl's day.

My wife and I went to a restaurant (for the first time), and I had a chance to compliment the cashier/server. It was an order and pic up your food restaurant, so there were no waitresses as such. I told the girl something like, "You must hate your curly hair because it gets frizzy. My daughter tells me the same thing. But I really love how your hair curls." She was appreciative.

I went in maybe a month later and she was the cashier. When I got up to her, she said, "you were the one who complimented my hair last time you were here." So a month or so had passed, she remembered my face and the compliment. I thought that was pretty impressive. I'm not what you'd call good looking in male mode; I'm pretty average. So, I must have made some kind of impression.

[Ressie]

Gomer Pyle - "for a fat girl you don't sweat much".

[Kayliedaskope]

I don't believe any comment like that is acceptable. I was trying to be polite in my response by acknowledging the very nice (and appropriate) responses that I received.

Linda, hon, don't take it seriously. I was trying for a smile or a laugh. Not all people are boorish louts that would actually say something like this to a woman. I may occasionally come off sounding like an asshole, but I'm not THAT big of an asshole.


One of the things I have done on a regular basis is politely compliment ladies on their jewelry. (Being in Tucson, AZ, home of the world's largest gem and mineral show, I get to see a LOT of fine jewelry.) Sometimes I will ask, "Is that {insert gemstone here}? It's a really beautiful piece." Most ladies are surprised that I'm (mostly) able to recognize what gemstone they have on, and enjoy chatting about it for a few minutes.

You would be surprised at how many ladies are pleased to know that you're observant enough to notice a nice London Blue topaz, a sparkly mystic, or a gorgeous tourmaline. Diamonds may be a girl's best friend, but there are also many colors in a rainbow.

[LeannS]

getting some spa chemicals and gave the cashier (older gal) a compliment on her nails and she said yea they are a little long.

[SaraLin]

Not sure why this *really old* memory popped up this morning, but I figure I'll share it anyway.

Back in my younger days, I was at a party and was chatting with a girl who had a beautiful head of long red hair. Innocently (or so I thought), I told her she had really beautiful hair. Well- she spent the rest of the evening following me around like a lost puppy.

BUT!

I was there with my girlfriend - who was ready to rip that hair out by the roots.
She was there with her boyfriend - a jealous, crazy, ex-marine.
Luckily for me, he was busy arguing with someone else and didn't catch on.

I escaped with my skin, and have been really careful about complimenting women ever since. :heehee:

[Devi SM]

Just recently I realize that, as part of my strong femine personality, I always compliment women for their make up, dressing etc. but not in a proposal manner.
One day I notice that one of these women could get my compliment as a proposal so I immediately said, "please don't get me wrong, I'm a married and very well married men (so far 38 years) and please just take it as a compliment because I know that all women enjoy compliments but some husbands never give one to their wives"
So I'm very careful in the way, and tone I use so they don't get me wrong nut I don't lose opportunity to compliments and positive critics with some women, finally my girlfriends know me for that and some of them ask me my opinion.

[Dana44]

Last time in a restaurant our waitress had her eye makeup . Really nice and drawn out past her eye nicely. I called here over and told here her eyes were very pretty. I think it made her day she thanked me and had a big smile on her face. I think a nice complement is very mannerly and can make a person feel good about themselves.

[julia marie]

Great thread! Thank you for bringing it up. I was stunned when I started going out in public en femme and I got compliments from sales clerks on my shoes, my bracelets, and my necklaces. They would ask where I got things, and so on. Guys don't do that. Well, maybe they should.