worries about being exposed ...

[rian]

have you always worry what would happen if some day while wearing your ladies underwear ( bras , panties ..) and accident hit to be forced to remove your day clothing and expose all your hidden secrets to the public .....even though you cannot leave the house without crossdressing secretly ,, what would happen if you are laying at hospital for an accident and they remove your cloths to discover your real identity ...it scares the hell out of me ...all your loved ones will know who you are !!!!!!!

[kimdl93]

A pretty common phobia. In truth, if you're in a catastrophic accident or having some major physical event...stoke, heart attack...your undies will be the least of anyone's concerns. Talk to a para, EMT, or nurse. They see everything anyone has, and have pretty much see it all. A friend of mine recalled making emergency stops to address problems like conventional light bulbs and vegetables stuck in places not designed to accommodate them... considerably more difficult to explain than a cute pair of undies.

[Tracy Irving]

I can't see a doctor or nurse running into the waiting room to tell your loved ones your little secret. I would hope they are more professional than that. If you are unfortunate enough to end up in a hospital for an accident, your choice of underwear is the least of your worries.

[Traci H]

To be honest, I don't worry about it much at all. If something happens, as Tracy said, my underdressing is the least of my issues. Having been in a few medical situations over the past several years, (no dressing issues) I have seen how clinical it all is. Having to sit next to a 25 yo old nurse all exposed and catheterize yourself kind of makes it all seem rather tame.

Chances are they will take, rip, or cut the stuff off you without even thinking about it if necessary. I worry more living as that idiot is trying to beat a red light when I am ready to pull out into an intersection.

[Ressie]

I worry more about family members coming into my house as a result of being in the hospital for an extended period of time. Someone would have to take care of my dog and would probably take the liberty of looking through the house. Hospital staff have seen it all so I don't worry about them.

However, I can see that the OP being from the Middle East any exposure to CDing could be devastating.

[Fiona123]

The older I get the less I care about accidental exposure. I'm really tired of the shame. I want to come out (as transgender) anyways. I'm working with a therapist on that. Accidental exposure may be a blessing.

[rian]

the real problem of the exposure is when we live in a country or a regain were it is forbidden to exercises crossdressing ,,,,,,life might be in danger..of real shame

[Angie G]

I have thought of that. but then just thought f^*^ it. From the end of April I;v had mens underwear on 3 times for a total time of about 5 or 6 hrs.:hugs
Angie

[Traci H]

the real problem of the exposure is when we live in a country or a regain were it is forbidden to exercises crossdressing ,,,,,,life might be in danger..of real shame

I did not note your region when I stated I am not worried. As you and Ressie pointed out, being in the Middle East puts a whole different spin on things. Most of us have no idea of the consequences you might experience. Proceed with caution based on your knowledge of what could happen.

[rian]

I did not note your region when I stated I am not worried. As you and Ressie pointed out, being in the Middle East puts a whole different spin on things. Most of us have no idea of the consequences you might experience. Proceed with caution based on your knowledge of what could happen.

yes i live in the middle east ...and i got my wife to except the crossdressing ..but this is my red line limit ....if exposed then ...it will be hard to adapt ...

[Stacy Darling]

I've been in the Hospital situation rian!

It was a nervous brake down, not so much an accident!

Not worrying about my nail polish, lipstick and panties yet being more concerned about the breakdown from hiding who I was changed my life!

I would never say that one should tell! But I no longer will be worried!

It is good to be scared,
Stacy!

[Elizabeth G]

Hi Rian,

I'm not terribly concerned at this point. My wife knows and she is the only one who would possibly find out through such a scenario but even that would be unlikely. I don't see any reason for medical staff to reveal this secret and even if they did I honestly don't care since as I said, my wife already knows, so if my secret gets out to a wider audience I'm not concerned.

Elizabeth

[Bailee]

Have to agree with Fiona, the older I get, the less I care about being exposed.

[Bruce64]

I live in Canada and crossdressing or being caught crossdressing is not something to be worried about, besides that I passed fifty.

[Gillian Gigs]

I was in an auto accident and it did a good job of ripping my jeans into pieces. I was checked out by a doctor and nurses, before going for x-rays. My black panties were in plain sight for all to see and I heard no comments. What ever they may have said was saved for the coffee room. They have probably seen worse. I was glad that I was wearing black that day and not some of the lacy pink panties that I also have. Life is too short to worry about small stuff.

[CynthiaD]

It's happened to me twice. It wasn't any big deal. My medical problems were infinitely more important.

[audreyinalbany]

its in the same vein as Mom wanting you to wear clean underwear in case you were in an accident. Pretty far down the list of things to be concerned about

[Amy Lynn3]

In my long life I have been caught soooooo many times by family and friends dressed, it bothers me not to think some day an ER staff might see me underdressed. Actually, a PA did one day. I went in to see the doctor for a sinus infection and I was underdressed. Beautiful , blonde PA examined me and gave me some prescriptions. The problem came up when she said she needed to give me a shot......in the hip. UGH !!!

Well, I had to drop my pants and it exposed my white shadowline panties I had on. I pulled those down also. Not a word or suggestion came from her about what I was wearing. She was very professional and I have saw her since and no mention of my underdressing.

Your culture could pose a problem, but the Emergency Staff will not, so don't worry.

[Joni T]

It's not rocket science or brain surgery. There's a VERY SIMPLE answer if you're worried about being outed--just wear your drab, every day male clothing. Problem solved. I never got the under dressing thing any way.
Jon

[Susan Smith]

What Gillian said! Life's too short to worry about this stuff. JFDI!!

[Nikki A.]

If it happens it happens. That's the risk you take.

[Micki_Finn]

I really doubt the doctor is going to come out and say "Mr and Mrs Jones, your child is in a coma and is in critical condition. OH and did you know he had PANTIES on???"

I have to walk back my answer here. I just noticed that you list your location as "Middle East" and depending on where exactly you live, there may be actual reason to be concerned. If it's the case that your country of residence has strict "morality" laws, then you should probably take precautions to stay safe.

[RADER]

If I was in a Hospital, and needed Emergency treatment, The last thing I would be worried about is if someone
saw my bra and panties. I am quite sure the staff has seen them before,maybe not so many times on a man;
but have seen them before.
Rader

[Sage Rose]

Yeah i've thought about that from time to time...hopefully no catastrophic emergencies happen...for me, my wife is probably more worried about that than I am. It doesn't bother me anymore.

[Steph_CD_62]

I wear panties 24/7 and usually don't worry about being exposed. The only time I wore men's underwear is when I went to my yearly physical.

Every year I expect my doctor to ask me to drop my pants so he can check my prostate. For years he has told that when he draws my blood that he can check some level to see if I need to have my prostate checked. Every year it has been so low that he says he can skip the extra exam....

Well this year I actually wore panties to my appointment and of course even though my level of what ever he checks is low AGAIN, he wanted me to drop my pants. I panicked a little then just made sure my panties and pants went down together, not sure if he even noticed, but there would have been no way to hide the fact I was wearing panties..

[Vickie_CDTV]

You don't give a specific country in your region, so it could vary but...

Honestly, given the region you are in, you are completely justified in your concern. I'd think twice about underdressing in public.

[lingerieLiz]

Years ago I was in an accident with minor injuries. I could or probably should have gone to the hospital. I turned it down since I would probably know or the staff would know who I was. I recovered in a few days and was fine there after.

[Nicole Erin]

yes i live in the middle east ...and i got my wife to except the crossdressing ..but this is my red line limit ....if exposed then ...it will be hard to adapt ...

If crossdressing is illegal where you are, might be best to not risk it in public. I imagine most accidents in any country are traffic-related. You might be a good driver but you never know who is NOT paying attention. I learned that on the way to work a couple years ago when some idiot side-swiped my car trying to pull into a gas station. I was not hurt at all nor am I "closeted" with my dressing but still a wake-up call.

[rian]

Hi Rian,

I'm not terribly concerned at this point. My wife knows and she is the only one who would possibly find out through such a scenario but even that would be unlikely. I don't see any reason for medical staff to reveal this secret and even if they did I honestly don't care since as I said, my wife already knows, so if my secret gets out to a wider audience I'm not concerned.

ElizabethI am not worry about my wife knowing because she already knows ,,,I'm worried about being exposed to the community thru the accident , especially my relatives , friends and all my circle ,,knowing that in the middle east it is a taboo...

[T Gram]

I worry about this because of how society is and I'm kinda protective of "my girl". We know a lot of people where we live and do fear our lives would be ruined.

[Alice Torn]

I sometime worry that some thugs might pull my wig off, or even worse, pull my skirt down to my ankles, or try to beat me up.

[redtea]

To that fear I just say "oh well, I wanted to be outed anyways"

It's similar to fearing death, It's best to just live ignorantly assuming we will live beyond 100, tired and bored of life by the time we are done.

[Stephanie47]

That is a risk all have to face. I am mostly an in-home dresser. Not so much because I fear an accident that gets me into an ER, but, because I get more done around the house than walking the streets or driving a car. But, I do go out for an evening drive. If a DUI hits me I hope I am not killed. If it does occur there I'll be all dolled up in dress, hosiery and heels and clean panties too. I do carry a change of male clothes in case my car does breakdown.

When my wife is away and I do get the opportunity to sleep in one of my floor length nylon nightgown with matching panties I make sure none of my feminine clothes are strewn around the house....hanging up in the closet. If I do pass away in the night and someone family member finds my rotting flesh at least they'll postulate I have a fetish for nylon...which I do. Of course, I could always stroke out totally en femme when I am cooking, start a fire with an unattended pot on the stove, the fire department comes and I'm carted out to the hospital fully en femme. Maybe I'll just quit dressing................NOT!!!

[CONSUELO]

If you were taken to an emergency room at a hospital, I doubt that the medical staff would be too interested in what you are wearing but would want to get the clothing out of the way so they could assess and treat wounds etc. etc.
I only wear knickers, no male underwear. At a checkup with the dermatologist where usually only the chest, back and arms are examined, the doc suddenly decided that he needed to check my legs and asked for me to let down my pants. I was wearing a pretty yellow pair of knickers and neither the doc nor his nurse showed any interest at all being fully engaged in examining and taking notes. I behaved normally and showed no embarassment.
However, I do not believe in flaunting ones underwear, so there is always a fine line that has to be observed.

[sometimes_miss]

A friend of mine recalled making emergency stops to address problems like conventional light bulbs and vegetables stuck in places not designed to accommodate them... considerably more difficult to explain than a cute pair of undies.
Yes, but even those 'odd' situations are better than being exposed as a crossdresser.

I can't see a doctor or nurse running into the waiting room to tell your loved ones your little secret. I would hope they are more professional than that.
Even if they want to behave in an unprofessional manner, the threat of a huge lawsuit over intentionally revealing your personal information to outside members of the public is usually enough to keep them from exposing you to your family and friends. But as it IS potentially part of the information that might affect your medical care, the information that you are a crossdresser and potentially possibly more likely to engage in some type of socially or sexually deviant behavior could come up in conversation with other members of the healthcare team that is involved in your care. It's not definite, but it could happen, depending upon why you were in the emergency care area in the first place. A sprained ankle from falling off your heels would be a simple example of how your crossdressing impacted not only your current state of health, but how it will most likely affect you in similar ways in the future, so management of your care must involve consideration of how your crossdressing behavior can impact your health, as opposed to say, the risks that YOU are taking are not ones that the normal male will face. Damaged feet/toes/ankles/legs/back due to fem fashions, circulation problems due to constrictive clothing, skin issues due to make up, nail infections due to nail polish, pierced ear holes (and other piercings),scalp irritation from wearing wigs, diet changes in the pursuit to make the body more feminine looking, the potential for non prescription drug use (hormones/nutritional supplements not being regulated by a physician) are some of the issues that I would consider potential problems that I'd discuss with a crossdressing patient when discharging them from my care. Usually none of that would be discussed with anyone other than the patient or other currently involved pertinent member of the healthcare team.

[Sharon budd]

As long as it is clean, no problem. My mam insisted I could not go out in dirty underwear.

[Judy-Somthing]

When I was in my teens I loved underdressing in All-in-ones.
I stopped after a female friend hugged me and I thought she must have come to some conclusions on what she felt?

Also you all know the indentations girdles leave on your skin for about an hour after taking them off, very distinctive!

[Alisonforme]

I've been thinking about that recently, Rian. How my mother used to say "You don't want to be wearing dirty underwear if something happens to you."
What a crazy thing, but you're right that it could be very dangerous for you. I admire your courage to be who you are (to whatever degree you are able).

I've pretty much switched to wearing panties full time. And, I think I had my first public showing the other day while eating at Panera and my drab shorts came down and I was wearing an old t-shirt that hiked up. There were only two people who could see me from behind, but my white thong was on full display!

[Dana44]

Heck I woke up in ICU once. I had on stockings hospital white stockings with lace on the top. After i was moved from ICU, I asked the doctor about them. Like how long should I wear them. He said stocking feel good and you can wear them any time you want to. LOL don't even worry about it rain. Because they put stockings on you so yo don't get a blood clot that kills you.. Undies will not be a problem.

[Cherylgyno]

I suffered a heart attack 8 years ago. I was in my room (pretty loopy from the drugs) when a nurse was updating my wife. The nurse told her about my BP yada yada yada and then added Oh and he needs clean clothes including panties. My wife said that she would bring clean panties that afternoon.
Rian. I live in the United States so things are different. I wish you the best.

[Teresa]

Rian ,
Too late for that, the family all know, besides the medical teams have seen it all before !

One question Rian , if you were in that situation would the medical team report the incident if it's an offence to CD ?

[Stephanie47]

Also you all know the indentations girdles leave on your skin for about an hour after taking them off, very distinctive!

One summer I stayed home while my family went to my grandparents' home upstate. I had a medical appointment for a physical for a summer job with United Parcel Service. I spent the morning wearing my mother's pull on open bottom girdle. When I took it off my skin showed every every seam from that girdle. I work feverishly to try to get rid of the marks. I don't think I succeeded. It was something I always remembered. I never wear girdles or bras that are so snug as to leave indentations. It also made me aware of women around me you wore ill fitting bras that looked like meat stuffed into sausage casings.

[krissy]

HA!HA!HA! Cant be any more embarrassing than having to go to hospital with something stuck inside of you because your wife wanted to try something lol:eek: