crossdressers ....are we bisexuals !!!!!!

[rian]

One night while I was having an honest conversation with my wife about crossdressers ( she already knows Im a crossdresser ) she raised the question whether Im a bisexual ? I have answered that Iam not ...yet in a sense it is true ..I am not attracted to males ....but thinking about it several times I loved the idea to share sexually with only a crossdresser like me ,,even though I had never done or will do it ...but sharing a special moment with only a crossdresser is a lovely thought ,,since both of us are attracted to the thought of a women make aroused sexually ...
Nonetheless when I'm in the mode of crossdresser I arouse to the idea of being felt like a women to be kissed kissed and love making as a woman but with another crossdresser and not a male .........how you feel girls ...are most of us the same ...and does this means Iam a bisexual or just a woman feels to be love sense attracted to others like her ?????

[Fiona123]

I identify as transgender. I am attracted sexually to females, not crossdressers. I do not see myself as bisexual. That's just me though.

[Stephanie Nicole]

No I don't consider myself bisexual, I love women. I am in a relationship with a very great girlfriend and cannot fathom the idea of being with another man, whether that man is a crossdresser or not.

[Krisi]

Being a crossdresser does not make you bi-sexual. Having sex with both men and women makes you bi-sexual. Actually, that's the definition of bi-sexual.

[Tracy Irving]

Krisi,
I think you only need to be sexual attracted to men and women to be considered bisexual. Either way, you are correct regarding the lack of relationship between clothing and bisexuality. Not all bisexuals are crossdressers either.

[Ressie]

I am. And if you've thought about it several times and liked the idea... you're bi-curious. Curious enough to try it still won't necessarily make you bi, but it could.

[Jean 103]

Ressie is right. I'm bi . Right now it's just a fantasy, the real world is a bit of a different thing.

[Nikki A.]

I'm not attracted to men only to women. However, would I consider another CD, probably not. I guess though I might consider a fling just to see what it would feel like being treated as the woman in bed at least once (more by a woman though) . So maybe I'm bi-curious, or a lesbian

[DIANEF]

The thought of doing anything squidgy with another male, whether he, I or both were dressed does nothing at all for me.

[Devi SM]

I'm bisexual.
Initially for my mind and memories I was attracted to have sex with men like a woman, I mean bottom but I wasn't attracted to look for men on the daily life just sexually.
So I must confess that my first homosexual experience with a man was in my thirties. Previously I play with toys.
I didn't feel good being with a man a lot of guilty, shame and remorse but I still looking to have sex again.
At the same time the crossdressing began but just panties, in a daily basis.
I was very promiscuous so I can tell that I have a lot of experience with men.
Crossdressing in me was taking more and more control.
It's just in the last 5 years, since I could release myself of religious belief including the shame, guilty and fear feelings, that I had more "freedom" to think about it and analyze it.
Everytime the crossdressing was more intense and the desire for sex with men was less powerful.
At the beginning in this site I couldn't understand how men that enjoy feeling, dressing as a woman couldn't have the desire to be with a man.
At the same time, in chats room like Kik, I've talked with so many crossdressers and probably jyst there most of them are looking to have sex with men but so many others look for sex just with other crossdressers.
I learn that the umbrella under crossdressers is so big.
After saying all the truth about my cding and bisexuality to my wife, being more than 6 months in gender therapy, reading so far 6 books about trasgenders, I found the roots of my croosdressing in my childhood and the homosexuality, (trying to explain or define the strong homosexuality) was a strong expression of my feminity and has dimished so much that even now still being aroused but sexual images in porn movies, I'm not longer interested in homosexual sex like I did so much, more in sex with others crossdressers but very femine and sexy, thought this interest is not enough powerful to cheat again on my wife since, now, she knows everything, is not condemning but supportive, I have not feelings of guilty and finally our sex has everything that can satisfy me.
So the evolution of my sexuality is very broad to keep thinking I'm bisexual.
I have not regrets. I really enjoyed sex with men but now I know what the reasons took me to do it.

About you? probably curious bisexual. It's hard to say since our world of crossdressing is so broad and weird. Who can explain our feeling and desires to be seen, dress, feel, to be seduce, to be used, to be abused?

[Aunt Kelly]

You can be bisexual and not a crossdresser.
You can be a crossdresser and not bisexual.
You can be both.
You can fantasize about being one or the other.
You can stop worrying about labels and just be what it feels right to be.

[Sage Rose]

For me, I do identify as Bisexual, even though I have never slept with a man before. My crossdressing is not dependent on my feeling sexual attracation towards men and women. My bisexuality isn't conditional upon being dressed. Everyone is different though, so I would examine as many possible anges on this for yourself and do some serious thinking and honest internal conversation with yourself.

I struggled for a while if I were straight, gay, trans, then came to understand that I am a Bisexual who is also a Crossdresser.

<3 Sage <3

[Stephanie47]

Generally, people who act out their fantasies are disappointed. I have absolutely no interest in the company of men. I suppose a person who is not a cross dresser would be perplexed as to why a man would emulate a woman and not be sexually interested in being in a sexual relationship with a man. I really cannot answer the question, but, it is a logical question to be asked.

[Dana44]

I have never felt shame being with a man. I am Bi. Sex is good with a male or female. Love females though. Men are just looking for sex and when I was with some gay guys they thought I was pretty manly. LOL I was girlfriend to a married guy and gave him his fantasies and what his wife could not.give him. That was nice and well I like men and love women.

[Teresa]

Rian,
Totally different things, I have no interest in men at all in an intimate way, it doesn't mean I don't get on with them but then I get on with most people no matter what gender. I still favour women and still wish to share my CDing with one. I don't mind meeting other CDers socially but it's not sexually stimulating .

[Robertacd]

I have no sexual attraction to men what so ever. Except for when I was younger I did have an occasional masturbatory fantasy about men, but it was centered around what it would be like being that girl in the porno and experiencing sex as a woman,.

[Jenny22]

As I aged and dressed more frequently in more sensual and sexy clothing, I became mentally Bi-sexual, as in fantasy thinking. What would it be like to be a woman with a man, to feel and do those things with a man that a woman might naturally do, sexually. I know I'm not the only TG or CD that feels this way, and it amazes me! One day under the right circumstances and with the right person, male or CD, who knows what might occur.

[kimdl93]

For the longest time, I accepted the then widely held notion that associated CDing with homosexuality, and I made assumption that I must be gay or bi because I liked to present myself as a woman. Toyed with the idea but, although I do find the fantasy of m/m erotic, in the final analysis, I don't find men sexually attractive. Ive tried....it just wasn't there. I have a lot of gay friends, but thats all...and I guess its too bad, because I could have a much more active social life if I could swing that way.

[Stacy Darling]

As a Crossdresser! my sexuality and preference is much the same as the type of dog and cat which I have! ( I also love my fish! )

It matters in No way!

[Tracii G]

rian just because a guy wears womens clothes on occasion does not make him bi sexual or gay .
They can be either but the CDing does not have anything to do with it.
I think you are assuming too much by thinking we all all pretty much alike and just have a fantasy about being with a man which is normal for a lot of CDs.

[docrobbysherry]

Fantasy is one thing and reality another. When I first began dressing at age 50+, I was sure I had turned gay!:eek:
What with all my fantasies of imagining being a woman with a man. Apparently, many dressers succumb to that fantasy!:battingeyelashes:

Plus, since I began going out dressed, I've met a few very fem dressers I was attracted to. But, I never moved ahead. Even if they seemed interested. Why?

Because parts is parts! And, there's nothing attractive about male parts to me. :doh:

If u have fantasies about being with males or CD's yet r attracted to females, u could be straight or bi.

If u like women but experiment with sex with males or CD's, u could be straight or bi.

But, the way I see it, if u like sex with males and/or CD's, u r gay or bi.
Because, parts is parts!:D

[CONSUELO]

In all of my reading I have not seen any evidence for correlation between cross dressing and sexual preference. A common quote in books and articles about cross dressing is that most cross dressers are heterosexual. But there are many who gay or bi- also. You may be just enjoying a sexual fantasy about being with a cross dresser. Or you may be attracted to the idea of sharing companionship with another cross dresser. I notice your geographic location may make it impossible to find groups of cross dressers with whom you can share your feelings and issues. If you could it might help you define better your boundaries and desires.

[Rachelakld]

For me, sex is about having something special with a person.
So far to date, those people I've had special connections to have been female.
I did have a strong connection to a CD, she was fun, witty and if the circumstances been right, well, I would have had sex with a woman who had a mans body.

[marlacd]

Fantasy is perfect. Reality isn't. I wouldn't claim my preferences based on fantasy.

[XemmaX]

I think the sexuality of the crossdresser is individual to the crossdresser themselves...

[Fiona123]

Good point. I view gender identity, gender expression, birth sex and sexual preference as separate things.

[Jacqueline1965]

I dont think I am bisexual...I like women both CIS and transgender only

[sometimes_miss]

I think the confusion might come about because one might mistake the desire to be feminine, and/or submissive sexually, with being attracted to having sex with men. While they are by no means always separate, those feelings aren't always linked, either. We see over and over again, some people here writing about how, when they are crossdressed, they are attracted to the idea of having sex with a man, but they emphasize that it's ONLY when they are crossdressed, as if they are trying to separate the desire to have sex with men from their 'true' self. This probably comes about from our upbringing where we are given the idea that homosexual behavior is such a terrible thing, that we feel the subconscious need to avoid any possibility that we might have ANY homosexual feelings. So there are probably far more bisexual people out there than we currently admit, all because of that pervasive homophobia.

[fullofwish]

I tend to feel that sexuality is more of a spectrum than a set of binary positions anyway. I would describe myself, for example, as probably 80% straight. My good GG friend recently told me she was "about 60% straight". I think it's quite rare for anyone to be 100% straight or 100% gay anyway.

[AlanaG]

I'm bisexual, but the guy has to be on the femme side, not a burly man. I've had one sexual encounter in my life with another male, only oral and I enjoyed it immensely. I would like to go further with the right person. It would be sex only, I can't see myself "falling in love" with a guy and wanting to live with them or marry them. I would love to find another crossdresser close by that I could be play mates with.

[pantyhoselvr kendra]

I am bisexual. My first few times that i slept with men i had to be dressed feminine. Lately i have been with a man undressed and completely naked which is something that i thought that i could never do but ended up being very erotic and fulfilling. Although the perfect man for me would be another crossdresser, maybe that will happen maybe not

[Ceera]

Some are, some aren't. There is no direct correlation between 'wanting to cross dress' and the genders we are attracted to. Certainly quite a few cisgender males post here who love to wear women's clothing but are solely attracted to women as sex partners - even when en-femme.

In my case, I knew I was bisexual (and severely repressed it) many decades before I ever entertained the idea of cross dressing or being transgender.

Now, I acknowledge that I still am bisexual, but I strongly prefer female partners. This essentially makes me a lesbian when en-femme, and straight when in male mode. But I am more inclined to be receptive to males when I am presenting as female.

[Tracii G]

I feel so strange on the forums sometimes because I am gay as a football bat and have no confusion about it.
So many here are in complete shambles trying to figure what they are.
Guess I'm lucky I don't have to deal with all that psycho stuff.

[jennifer0918]

Sometimes it's not all like,you think it is. Now are you speaking out of burning desire to be with another CD ?or are you bisexual?What's wrong with being heterosexual and liking woman and everything woman or femme? Try it once and see if it's your cup of tea. Cheerio

[Kate Simmons]

Something like this is not a "blanket" designation. It depends on the individual person. :battingeyelashes::)

[Jenny22]

Traci, what's a football bat?

[Becky Blue]

I think there is no relationship between gender and sexuality. I include CDing under the broad category of gender. Some people are both but many are not.

[HollyGreene]

I'm definitely not bisexual. I'm not attracted in any way to men, whether they are dressed like women or not.

[Mark B]

Definitely not Bi, in fact, I am just a bit homophobic which really confuses my wife. She's bi and doesn't see a problems with it, I however, have a BIG problem with it. The thought gives me the hebegebes....

[GinaSkirt]

Fantasy is perfect. Reality isn't. I wouldn't claim my preferences based on fantasy.

Completely agree and love your signature

[redtea]

I'm not sure of the definition of bisexual anymore.

I always thought it was someone who could have male and female crushes.

But there are people who have a wife and CD and indulge in the sissy fantasies of serving men. They then call themselves bisexual even though they have never done anything with a guy and if they are similar to me don't see guys as romantic potential.

[AllyCDTV]

Gender and sexuality are very complex and difficult to label. There really isn't much need to although it can be a fun game. After looking into my own situation, I've finally come up with a label that seems to fit me, "gender-fluid pansexual."

[Viggy]

No, I'm not bisexual, that's sure. As I begann with CD I only couldn't imagine to have sex with male. But now after two years CD, my aversion to males got growing, there's a proper disgust to males.

[danam]

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I went on a date once with a man, while in full Dana mode. It was one of the most erotic experiences of my life, while totally PG. There were a few moments when I was really excited! However, when it came time to hug and kiss goodbye, I wasn't really interested in advancing things. My natural instincts were not interested in going further.

I think of it this way--there are very specific situations in which a man could get me excited, however, it is not something I naturally gravitate towards or really think about.

[Bruce64]

I am not attracted to Men and I am not Bi Sexual, having sex with a Male isn't possible. Never.

[LilSissyStevie]

I'm not sure of the definition of bisexual anymore.

I always thought it was someone who could have male and female crushes.

But there are people who have a wife and CD and indulge in the sissy fantasies of serving men. They then call themselves bisexual even though they have never done anything with a guy and if they are similar to me don't see guys as romantic potential.

Ray Blanchard and Anne Lawrence, promoters of the autogynephilia idea, call this pseudo-bisexuality. Their idea is that the males in these fantasies are merely props for validating ones femininity. In my case, I think they are on to something but it's not quite right. The theory doesn't explain my female domination fantasies nor does it explain fantasies of being a gay bottom (sans overt femininity.) Their explanation would be that these are separate paraphilias. I think they are tightly connected by a common theme - emasculation. If fact, I can and have put them all in the same fantasy. Femininity, for me, is just a type of emasculation and so is being a bottom sexually (gay or straight.) And that is how gender and sexuality are connected.

[Cherylgyno]

I am 100 percent heterosexual. Nothing against any one that isn't.

[Alice Torn]

I must say, that normally i am totally turned off by anything physical with another guy. BUT, WHEN LOOKING GORGEOUS, i do fantasize about turning on certain older men. I met with four over the years, but, never allowed it go to any type of penetration. I must say, part of me really was thrilled, with a man caressing my legs. I get messages on other sites regularly by "admirers", but they usuall y want me to do things i will not do, so i delete them.. VERY CAUTIOUS. And the fantasy usually is far better than the reality.

[Lana Mae]

My fantasies generally are from the female view point! I am however heterosexual and find sex with a man distaste full for me! What is right for you is up to you! Hugs Lana Mae

[Brie84]

I'm not bi or gay at all. I desire to be with a woman all times regardless if I'm dressed or not. In fact, I'd love to one time go on a date with a woman and be dolled up, going through the beauty steps a woman goes through getting ready to go out.

[FrannGurl]

I guess it depends.
I like women but the other 80% of the time, I wish my guy was with me and prefer men these days

[Scarlett398]

I am heterosexual all the way. I have a gorgeous redheaded extra sexy wife and I simply can't keep my paws off of her! I have fantasies of being able to make love to her while I'm dressed as Scarlett and they will remain just that - fantasies - which is fine with me.

Sincerely Scarlett :2c:

[Adelina]

I would tell people I'm bi or pansexual, but it's weird. I don't go checking out guys and I don't think certain guys are hot — I have no outward physical preferences for them — but I'm sure I could feel an emotional connection with some and that's important.

I do find myself more sexually attracted to male pieces, so to speak, and much more turned on by playing a feminine role, particularly in the bedroom, though, and sometimes it's easier to find men to satisfy that.

[Karen Taylor]

I seem to have evolved in my sexuality. As I have gotten older and now having come to realize that I am attracted to men, more when dressed. I do have thoughts about being with a man when not dressed, but don't think I would ever pursue that. I do like women, but now more as friends. I would love to find another CD TV or Trans girl for a relationship. It is complicated.

[Taylor Dame]

I am heterosexual and have no desire to be with a man. I love my wife and she is my best friend. She knows I dress, but prefers not to see it. I do wish she would accept this side of me. I have thought it would be great to know another crossdresser with whom I could go shopping or out for coffee and a meal.

[Sarah Doepner]

First the question you pose is one about the community and there isn't a single answer that would be right for a group as varied as this one. Broad brush explanations tend to cover a lot of territory but don't explain much. Just reading the responses here illustrates how different each of our journeys has been.

For me? I have no idea, but like so many others I've had the fantasies that have never faced the possible test of reality. There have been bi-curious moments and nearly all of them have come when I was alone. Maybe some day the curiosity and the test of reality will happen at the same time and place and I'll find out, or I'll leave it as a pleasant fantasy that doesn't harm anyone or complicate my life.

[April T]

I can't categorize myself. Women turn me on immensely but, I am very excited by MTF TG. When I am dressed, I wish to be submissive and wish to service men. So what does that make me?

[DarthDaddicus]

A little over a month ago, I could have discussed the possible answers to this question. Now.....I'm 100% bisexual. I did not think so, but there I am, talking to guys at the gym and making dates. I'm not even playing. I'm learning a lot about what I like, though. I'm wildly attracted to assertive, confident, and intelligent women, and I am attracted to muscular, sweet, gentle men.

[penny lace]

Sexual attraction is very much in the mind so when we are fem I think their has to be a mental change to attraction gender wise. I am married and my major attraction has always been to women however their have been occasions when I have been attracted to men and this has always been lead by an attraction to them as person rather than male.
But hey I know I'm crazy!

[Alice B]

I think, like many here that making love to my wife while dressed is my #1 fantasy. It's not going to happen and I can live with that. Like many others I have had the fantasy of being with a man while dressed as a woman. That is also not going to happen, even though I have had the opportunity. It is one reserved for special moments with myself.

[caitlyn aguilera]

i think im bisexual but i like girls and other cross dressers but i dont like guy... i mean i like trans and cd´s ... i dont picture my self with a guy... i did tried once and it was ok.. but i prefer feminine partners...

[Littlebee]

Well, I cant say exactly what I am....I mean, I really, really love my wife. She is awesome woman....And, I guess differently form most of what I red, I don´t fantasy been with my wife dresses as a girl...I actually, don´t want her to be with me...In the past, I thought, I love som uch woman, than I want to be one..lololol....

When I am dressed, I don´t think about my wife, or woman, but men. I have a confused mind. I guess I separated my girl´s life form my boy´s life too much time, so now, I think differently when I am dressed...

may be I am bisexual...not sure, though.

[briana_betancourt]

I'm bisexual. However, I feel like labeling sexuality, much like gender identity, is slowly becoming a thing of the past. Why struggle to find one specific word that sums up who you really are? Identify yourself as "awesome". This is something I still struggle with to this day, although it's a heck of a lot easier now than it was before. When I'm Briana, my attraction to men greatly intensifies. Dating and being intimate with men as her is greatly more satisfying than anything I've done in my hetero life... which used to scare the life out of me. Now? I (mostly) embrace it. It got so ridiculous to sit here and think, "I'm supposed to be a guy who likes girls. But sometimes, I'm a guy who likes guys. Briana likes girls too, though... shouldn't she only like guys?" It's the kind of stuff that'll keep you up all night.

Whatever feels right to you is the right answer. We're all the same, yet so completely different. That's what makes us awesome.

[Angie G]

The only thing I want to do anything with is with a woman dress like a woman. But hay that's me others need to do what they need to do. I just a old hippie lesbian.:hugs:
Angie

[Kristy 56]

Always have been straight, but more & more feel bi-curious when dressed

[gabyespinotv]

when i dress up...i get so curious about being with a man as a woman... i think we all do..even if many say no

[Diane Smith]

I just can't work up any emotional or physical interest in men, regardless of how I'm presenting. Straight as an arrow (but a little kinky).

- Diane

[Kelsey dresses]

Yep iam bi dressed or not dressed.

[Sarasometimes]

Well, your post is making a very broad and incorrect assumption, confusing sexual orientation and gender identity/expression which are mutually exclusive. There can be any and all combinations but certainly NOT just one, such as crossdressers are bisexual. I certainly am not bisexual.
Another part of your post refers to"in my mind", which may or may not be what you would want to do. I know I have many fantasies, having sex with a man is not one, but I have others but that doesn't mean if I tried to actually do it that it would be enjoyable.

[Sabrina133]

My initial sexual encounters were with men. I admired women but didnt feel sexualy attracted to them until my mid 20s. I began to date women as camouflage because I was in the Army and needed to convince others I was straight. It wasnt until I began dating a particular woman on a regular basis and we became intimate that i discovered i liked women as well. And no, she didnt know I was trans - she just thought i had a phobia about body hair.

Today, I am married to an amazing woman who is also bi. We met when i was en femme so she fully knew about me as our friendship developed.

[Alice_2014_B]

I have never been attracted to men.

I can see a guy, like Robert Downey Jr., and be like, "that's a good lookin' guy."

However, I've never had any sexual attraction towards men; I've never even been curious about such.

But that's just me.
I have absolutely nothing against bi's or gays.

:)

[Rogina B]

Dating and being intimate with men as her is greatly more satisfying than anything I've done in my hetero life... which used to scare the life out of me. Now? I (mostly) embrace it.

Perhaps it is the satisfaction of "being a good actress" and playing the part well ! Do it often enough and you will begin to observe the male "weaknesses" that Women sometimes speak of when it applies to relationships. I am speaking from experience...It is fun to be an actress and also good when it's over.

[Kayliedaskope]

Being bisexual isn't a matter of clothing .. it is a matter of whether or not you are attracted to both men and women alike. I am bi, but I don't necessarily get dressed up to go play with guys.

But remember, ladies: if you are bisexual, you have just doubled your chances of a date on Saturday night!

[Beauty Parlor Bev]

How often does this type of thread come up? I love to read everyone's self justification of why or why not they are this or that, no wonder some CD/TV/TG/TS/etc. are so confused! As a whole, we just can't get away from labels and categorizing EVERYTHING! If you can get past the labeling, the categorizing, and the self justifying, I bet you will all have a lot more fun. I know I do!

[Tina_gm]

No attraction to masculinity. Knowing what is underneath the clothing pretty much would keep me from any attraction if I were single. No fantasies of men or CDers.

[Mickitv]

I am bisexual not because I am a crossdresser. I love being with men and women and I love to dress. However when I am dressed I prefer men but I have been with women dressed but not sexually. Wow now I am confused

[lingerieLiz]

Back in the 50/60s I didn't understand crossdressing. As a teen I dated only girls and never had interest in guys. When I moved to a large city and became friends with someone who was gay. I came out to him about CDing, but never wanted to have sex with him. He allowed me to dress and be out as a girl. It was a lot of fun. It gave him cover to have me riding around with him or going on make believe dates. I made a good girl and played the role. We never did engage in sex.

[RachelCD4]

I am definitely bi. As a man, I am attracted to both sexes. However, when dressed, my attraction to men goes through the roof, and attraction to women diminishes. My sexual encounters en femme have been strictly with men. For some reason, I am not sexually attracted to women, or even other CD's, when dressed. However, I don't worry about what to label myself. I just accept that I am who I am.

[Danielle Barton]

I am definitely straight. I have heard the phrase "lesbian trapped in a man's body" before, and I think it best describes me. Although I have heard from trans ladies that when they have had some time on HRT they find their sexual preferences changing.

[Venessa_48]

I'm straight haven't ever been attracted to men at all, I love women!!

[Susan Smokes]

I have been attracted to only Women all my life, but since I have started dressing I have become curious and confused about myself. So for now I will say I am not Bisexual.

[pinklilly211]

Well long story short. I've been crossdressing about all my life, Been married 3 times, I lost my last wife last Nov. All knew about my other side. Since then I've found a few other GURLS! I didn't think that I had a Bi or Gay bone in me! But I have met a very special gurl and have had relationship things that I never thought I would have. So sign me up to the BI TRIBE!! Huggs Lill

[Trione]

I like woman but if a guy catches my eye and shows an interest I wouldn't say no.

[jennifer fair]

I am bi for sure. I cross dressed the first time when I was 14. Never thought about gay then. Now that I am old I found through a chat I discovered making love with a man was wonderful. The experience had me going back to dressing. I love it and now I can feel like a real fem again and enjoy it with a man.

[michelle64]

No...all gg for me...cant stand males...less interaction with other guys during the day happier i am...guess i am a closeted lesbian

[HollyGreene]

I have no physical/sexual attraction whatsoever to men - in fact, quite the opposite. 100% heterosexual here.

[Ginni]

Can not make a general statement cross dressers are bi. It is an individual preference. I do not have any desire to have a sexual relation with a male. My sex Partners and fantasies are female. Although once as a teenager I had sex with another male.

[Zoe72]

I have never had sex with a man, but the mind does wonder what it would be like. Im married and very happy but my mind does wonder sometimes.:daydreaming:

[Ashleyrobyn831]

While I can't speak to anyone else's feelings or experiences, I don't believe crossdressers are inherently bisexual. I think most are either gay or straight, with crossdressing being a totally separate issue. However, I do believe it can happen that crossdressing can cause one to wonder what it might be like to, for example, be with a man as a woman, even though natural attraction is to women. Gender and sexual norms are so deeply embedded and heavily reinforced throughout society that when you're seeing yourself as a woman, it's almost inevitable for the mind to at least consider the idea of carrying out the role we've been conditioned to believe normal for women, despite the fact that nothing about sexual attraction is truly uniform to any demographic. For myself, having seen myself as female from the time I understood the difference between boys and girls, and having had a SO who accepts and supports me since age 13, I never experienced that kind of wonder or curiosity myself, but I've known others who have. Some have followed through with it, and invariably they report that it was not only nothing like they'd pictured, but also that it wasn't even particularly enjoyable because once in the situation they felt detached, just going through the motions, in large part because they weren't truly interested but just acting out what they thought they should want on some level. The one exception I can recall was a friend of mine who rather than being with a man, told her wife about the idea. The wife suggested that they explore the concept but with her playing the role of the man both in mannerisms and sexually, using prostheses. They both actually found it to be quite fulfilling, as my friend was emotionally invested, and her wife got to explore and express aspects of herself that she had suppressed because they weren't "ladylike". However, after hearing how the concept had been so great for them, my wife and I tried the same and got nothing out of it, so once again each situation tends to be unique to the persons involved.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Rian :hugs:, I a just a normal striate male who likes to dress feminine .>Orchid...:daydreaming:...

[Morgan lace]

Hi, I'd say I'm bi curious.

I don't find men attractive but ******** and convincing crossdressers make me wonder if I could.

[Leah Love]

I’m not sure if bi sexual is how I would describe me...I don’t like men..well, masculine men. I like CD, TS and TV. I’ve never been aroused by a guy not in drag. Lol try explaining that to your wife or girlfriend while you’re all dressed up!

[Jean. Ann]

I guess maybe I am different to some . When dressed I am
deeply and sincerely attracted to women , and if they are also
attracted it can lead to bonding on a very deep level .

JAS

[mechamoose]

I'm bisexual. I discovered the female part of me through that, but it isn't why.

It also led me to question more about what just a PERSON is, which again, isn't why.

I was born this way. The rest is just figuring it out.


While I can't speak to anyone else's feelings or experiences, I don't believe crossdressers are inherently bisexual.

To quote Robin Williams' golf sketch (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pcnFbCCgTo4) "Fahk NO!"

[jking90]

Sorry, I'm not bisexual. For everyone their own, just not what I am.

[Lindaa]

Hi Lilly new member here, i saw you live in Negaunee i used to live in Skandia many years ago. I didnt go out back then but liveing in florida now and go out at least once a week.. feeling so much better about it now. And yes to the bi thing for me. When im dressed and fully fem.. its the guys for me.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Bisexuals are bisexuals..

[mechamoose]

If I *like* you like that, then I do. It has nothing to do with presentation. I like *you* and want *you*. Perhaps it is the idea of being open to possibilities? The idea that neither you nor I had a choice in what genetics we were dealt?

- MM

[Pat]

Kaitlyn -- I totally agree. It's really just that easy.

[Sabrina.K]

I would class myself as Bi, I think....

I find women visually attractive. But I like men in a sexual way..... Only when dressed..... It's kind of complicated, I guess :P

[ShoeziQ]

Absolutely Bi-Sexual. Sometimes Try- Sexual. I do prefer to be in the company of men when I dress as a female though.

[Mickitv]

I am also a bisexual crossdresser. However, I was cross dressing at such a young age and became a bisexual but I never felt that my cross dressing was the cause of my bisexuality.

[Vintage4sarah]

Not to be glib, but I do believe that labels are for groceries on store shelves and bins of nuts and bolts in a hardware store. We are human and we frequently project a wide variety of personal preferences in our public and private lives.

That being said, over the earlier years of my life, I was always the typical male who had a love of women's clothing and manners and I never thought twice about how it would all work with other males. I just love women. Over the last 20 years that I got serious about being and acting like a female when dressed, something I never thought would happen. It evolved especially when out with other Tgirls and also my infrequent trips into the public eye. Now, after various exposures with these other Tgirls and when I as Sarah I am in the presence of males I start to feel the allure you possess and the attention you can get from them. It is quite a feeling which can lead to fantasies and desires that some times needs an outlet.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

not to be double glib, but that's called being bisexual

[Sarah S]

I`m bisexual with TV`S ,CD`S, and TS`S

[SamanthaR]

I am a bi make. But I found that I am particularly attracted to men when en femm. I had an experience dressed with a gg girlfriend and it just did not have the same thrill. As others posted I believe that it has something to do with the thrill of being taken as a woman, and the appreciation that is in it for all the hard work getting to look that good. I have a different feeling when I have not been dressed and had a male lover... a bit confusing but it works for now. Thanks

[Angie G]

NO!:hugs:
Angie

[xdress408]

That's a no for me. I love being with my wife. :D

[racheldresses]

I read this thread about a week ago and I've been think of a suitable response ever since. Here it is.

I love women, I love their shape, their curves and their touch. I have never been with a guy, but when in girl mode (and feeling very sexy) I do like to fantasize about being with men. As yet I am not in a rush to find one, and there are plenty of "toys" out there for just that. Does this make me bi? I don't know and I don't try to categorise. I am just me.

[josie_S]

I love all things feminine...I guess one of them is how the feminine attracts the masculine. A fancy way to say I've "been there, done that" lol. It is what it is. I think some of us resist the "bisexual" label because it can have such negative implications/connotations. But who cares? Be safe, don't hurt anyone. We are only here once...enjoy the trip as best as you can!

[Alice B]

We all have those thoughts and are mostly fantasy and something most of us will never act upon. Having such thoughts does not make you busexual

[Kayliedaskope]

I`m bisexual with TV`S ,CD`S, and TS`S

This. Thank you, this is me, too.

[jessica_brink]

Purely speaking for myself, I'm a straight person, but during my first and so far only crossdressing adventure in public ( read about it here https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?251175-An-interesting-proposal&highlight=) I did fantasize with and talk to a GG about 'making men happy'. I didn't play along, it came quite naturally being dressed and acting as a girl. I guess it was part of the full illusion and act of playing a woman. Being with a man (or the thought of it) makes you (or at least me) feel more feminine

[Robyn mac]

I don' the label myself as straight ,bi ,or gay. I am me. If I want to be with a male or a female I will be. Yes I have been enjoying being with both sexes before I started to dress. Yes dressing gives me more of a desire to be with men a little more often. It is not so much about their gender as it is about the person

[BiancaEstrella]

I don't really get into labeling my sexuality, but men simply don't do it for me. I try to avoid cis men as much as possible, and don't really see it for FtM trans men.

[irene9999]

I’m a bi crossdresser. Like many here, I initially thought I was a straight cd and “bi-curious” but going out dressed one thing led to another and ended up fooling around with men and ended up liking it a lot. Took me years to come to this realization though. I do still prefer women as aesthetically they look better (hence why we crossdress to look like them lol) but I’ll admit a fit muscular guy can be really attractive to me. To each their own I guess, my suggestion is if you’re curious, try it if you get the chance, you might like it

[Rayleen]

for me, only attracted to women, their sensitivity and have mostly women as friends.

[michelleg]

Being honest I have fantasized about being with a man when I'm fully dressed as a woman. I guess that makes me bi-curious, if the opportunity presented itself maybe.

[Devi SM]

I don't criticize a crossdresser mtf who says that doesn't have interest in men but I can read in this thread that dressed some have fantasies, some have desires and so e have fulfilled those desires or fantasies. Other define themselves bisexuals.
I personally think that if we enjoy dressing as woman, so.e enjoy going out dressed, it would be the more normal and natural to have women's sexual desires and fulfill them.

[Janine cd]

I identify with Jenny. If the opportunity arrived that would allow me to experience what it was like to be a woman being loved my a man, it might be truly a rewarding experience.

[renee elizabeth]

i'm only interested in women, i have no romantic interests in men or other t-girls at all,

[Lacey New]

I'm sure some crossdressers may be gay or bisexual just as gay and bisexual men are part of the general population that does not crossdress. Personally, i have never been attracted in any way, shape or form to another male. Any romantic or lustful interest that I feel or have ever felt is urge is solely for genetic women.

[ChubbyLeahCD]

I am a CD. And I am also bisexual.
I fantasize of being with men and/or women while dressed as Leah and fantasize of being with men and/or women when I’m as a man.
Ironically enough, the idea of me and another CD doesn’t do much for me, now a transsexual woman is a different story lol

[Claire_ORFL]

Can you be bi if you have never been with someone of the same gender and opposite gender? I've certainly had fantasies about being dressed and being with a man.

[Kayliedaskope]

I believe that would fall under bi-curious, Claire. You may simply have to do some "personal research" on the matter to be sure. ;)

[ChubbyLeahCD]

Can you be bi if you have never been with someone of the same gender and opposite gender? I've certainly had fantasies about being dressed and being with a man.

Yes.
I’ve never been with a man willingly, but f stasise and am attracted to them.
My counselor looked at me in the eye and said: “just because you never had it, doesn’t mean you don’t want it. You’re bi and that’s ok!”

[Pat]

I believe that would fall under bi-curious, Claire. You may simply have to do some "personal research" on the matter to be sure. ;)

It's an interesting stance. Are heterosexual virgins "straight curious" under those rules? Or do they get to be who they are with no experience?

The present thinking is that people are imprinted with their sexual orientation in the womb. If that's the correct, then you are what you are experience or no. That said, I did know a guy who had convinced himself he was bi and decided to do "personal research." He freaked out when a guy leaned in to kiss him and bolted out of the restaurant. (Then blamed me for taking him there.) So I think the answer is if you're bi you're bi. But if you are obsessing on some fantasy a little reality will settle the question Real Quick.

[Karmen]

I'm definitely bisexual. I'm not sure if it has anything to do with me crossdressing. But I definitely get turned on more often by crossdresser than a naked men or in drab. I fantasied for long time about sex with another men, but until recently I never tried it. Because I'm naturally a submissive person, I was playing a role of a "women" on my first and only attempt so far. I know now I love giving oral, but not a fan of receiving anal. It hurts too much and I can't enjoy it.

[Claire_ORFL]

I believe that would fall under bi-curious, Claire. You may simply have to do some "personal research" on the matter to be sure. ;)

I doubt I will get approval to do "personal research" but you never know...

[Jenny22]

I stated in my profile that I'm bi-curious, but I've never acted on it. If I ever got to experience being with a man, as a woman, and he was a gentleman type, and asked me to perform sexually as a woman, I'd probably experience my fantasies.

[CallieBelle]

When I came across this thread and one other some months back I knew this community was for me. A closet CD I had just begun to ask this question of myself. And the responses I read gave me greater clarity, though not answers, about myself. Plus they allowed me to give Callie the same permission to be herself that I'd always had when presenting as male.

As a genetic male I have always been straight and perfectly comfortable with it. I have had no issues or concerns about my sexuality. It just was an accurate reflection of my desire. I have adored women greatly and they have often pointed that out to me. Nonetheless, the discovery of very femme CD and TG females strongly provoked my interest. Maybe that's bi to some...or not. It wasn't a question I ruminated over. The commingling of the male genitalia with a strikingly beautiful feminine body and face provoked sexual curiosity and interest. It continues to do so.

Callie's life has been briefer and she is pure virgin. Her lustful thoughts would most likely be pseudo-bisexual from the information about that phenomenon that LilSissyStevie provided. Yet, her erotic focus isn't truly men. It's pleasuring men. It's the seduction of the masculine archetype more than the man. It's bringing men arousal by stimulating their sex organs. The penis and her performance with it are the keys to her fantastical arousal.

For me it has nothing to do with homophobia or shame. It is the mindset; the different physiological paths that might be taken to achieve emotional and psychological arousal. Callie's desires feel unique, personal and independent of those I've had throughout my life presenting as male. I never sat down to distinguish them, and force differences they have just always seemed to be there. But en femme Callie has never had the opportunity to see if what arouses her alone with her imagination would also be what would arouse her in a true interpersonal dynamic.

I have no indications that Callie would be any more interested in a relationship with a male, and being nude in male form with another man, than I have ever been. My inclination is that she would not. That her pleasure is less from the man, than the idea of a man, of being an object of satisfaction capable of satisfactorily providing feminine pleasures. That's what I think today. It could change tomorrow, next week, next year, etc., progressing linearly or seemingly randomly and contradictorily. I think this authentic discussion has freed me from feeling as if I must self-label and reminded me to just live the moment. Let the moment define the moment and what I want right then. And then let the next moment do the same. Once it's all said maybe it will bring clarification to those around me or those who find clarity through labeling. I doubt it will be of much, if any significance to me. My hope will be that I allowed myself to feel authentically and, therefore, to make my choices, freely. And I hope that means that when presenting as male and as female that each path is unique and true.

[newlybronwyn]

I identify as bigender and bisexual. But the two things are totally unrelated to the other. I first kissed a guy aged 16, many years before I considered anything about my gender.

[Kas]

I consider myself straight, but I sometimes fantasise about being with a man sexually while dressed. The thought of actually doing it in real life turns me off though for some reason... I don't think I could bring myself to touch another man.

[kkaye]

I lived my life as a straight guy. I have crossed dress going back to a child putting on my mother's clothes. I went on to live as an average guy with a guilt although urge to cross dress as a man. Between my up bringing and religion, I stayed away from it but after just not caring about what people think, I started crossdressing as a man, but when approached by men, being called Maam, Mrs, I never have got comfortable with it. I have like many of you had my bisexual attraction to other guys at times but only liked other cross dressers or fem guys.
I took it further and had some bisexual encounters but, I am dominated by my straight genes, yet willing and able to have sex with another guy. I have an S O. When she found out, I cross dressed. She popped the question of whether, I had sex with another man since with her. A relief. I was able to keep it a truthful relationship by saying no. Athough, In my first marriage , I told her, I have had sex with other guys, Being an open minded person. She had the attitude that things happen like that, It is posible for men to be a top and that all guys will top another guy and still be 100% man.
I firmly believe a guy topping another guy can do this without guilt or second guessing himself, But being a bottom is much different. I have bottomed and topped while living without guilt, Sure of myself at all times. And realizing where it came from in me. I like women, I love their clothes, I see some women and want to look like them, I am attracted to other men like me. So by definition, if this is what, I do and , I do this with men and women that makes me bi. If, I just do it here and there, the same. However all must agree. I one just does it with another guy. Never revisit it, your not bi. You had a bisexual experience regardless of what your feelings are.

[Charlene Wilson]

Like many others here I have fantized about being with a man while dressed and acting like a woman. As I have become mote adventuresome I have had the opportunity to act on that fantasy. The many years of guilt took much to overcome but I have discovered that I enjoy being treated like a lady and enjoy sharing intimate moments with a man. Also very much enjoy being with other CDs.

[nikkim83]

For me NOPE, tried it once, I do not find men attractive at all, and not chance of me trying it again.