Today

[SamanthaToday]

Just an update,
Things are going much better, finding more me time again.
Wife and I had a talk and decided no cross dressing talk for a month.
If I wanted to dress terrific, but enjoy it for the time I have and not talk about how much more I wanted.
Glad we did it the dressing became gloom instead of the fun it was meant to be.

Pic courtesy of my Wife.

Thanks all, for all the advice

[Stephanie47]

I was perplexed as I went back and reread your posts. I surmise your wife is accepting since you stated she was and in fact ordered Avon cosmetics for you, etc. Was dressing becoming more and more frequent as to block out other aspects of your life with your wife? Lack of balance?

[Teresa]

Samantha,
It would great to think you could drop the Today part of you name and dress more as you chose .
At least your wife is prepared to see you dressed and will even take your picture, maybe you can turn it into an avatar now you have come out to this stage with the members here.

We all know we mustn't push the issue but it's hard when you have so much going on and the need to talk is often there . The forum is here to help with that , I also find a social group is great for finding the balance you may be looking for.

[Tracy Irving]

Just remember that communication is a key component to a successful relationship. Yesterday my wife told me to error on the side of too much information. But that had to do with her cousin in Florida texting me. When it comes to crossdressing, I am sure I share enough already. Balance...

Glad things are getting better.

[MarisaRose.]

Samantha,
One day at a time, keep it all in perspective, we're here for ya!!! If that's not enough look for a local support group of even a gender therapist. Talking and communication with others will really help smooth out some of the emotional bumps. It's always good to know how others have dealt with life's daily issues.

M,,,

[kimdl93]

Its much better to "do" than to talk! Seems like a very reasonable agreement!

[Dana44]

You are putting to much pressure on yourself. Lighten up and let it flow and balance yourself . The gloom will go away over time.

[Cherylgyno]

Samantha. I am glad to read that things are going better.
We have an agreement here about talking about me being me. If my wife is the first one to mention Cheryl, the floor is open to discussion.
Flip side is, 1 time I was very tired. Wife walked in I was still in a suit. Wife felt my forehead and asked if I was okay. I told her that I was tired, she went to the bedroom and laid out some clothes and helped me dress. I felt a whole lot better.
Again, Glad to read that your wife is supportive.

[SamanthaToday]

Stephanie47
My wife doesnt care if I dress, in fact told me She is getting used to it, and knows how happy it makes me and wants me to be happy. It's the frustration of starting to find one self only to have the brakes put on because of uncontrolled cirumstances, in this case a child moving back home.
It's not possible to have our daughter move out, We all have a 3 year plan for School and start of a career.
I told her if we divorced over this, our child would know anyway, so why keep it secret.
But She wants me to wait until She retires (3 Years) , for various reasons.
We plan on moving away and I can dress as much as I want. I told her that makes no sense, because the same people our in or will be in our lives.
My plan is to move forward and discover myself the best I can and see where it all ends up in 3 years?
Not going to complain or mope about dress time anymore that's all, because it became a real downer for something that I find enjoyable and my wife is fine with. Don't want to attach dressing to a negative stigma.

Teresa
I planned on making it a avatar but thought that was the profile pic was for. Thank you.

Tracy Irving
Balance for sure, it's finding the level during the fog at times.

Marisa Rose
It's weird how just posting and having others listen helps so much, I thank you so much.

Kimdl93
Yes spending so much time talking about not being happy about dressing in the future while being dressed, was not good. its the Fog I tell ya.

Dana44
Boy do I need to lighten up, the thing is im such a unhappy person most of the time while in male mode.
Female mode the World is so much lighter, I dont know what it is , im just happier .

Cherylgyno

You wife sounds amazing