Using long drive as opportunity to dress

[Karen's Secret]

Hi Ladies. I'm not passable so I have limited my outside time to just a few occasions in which I've dressed in a skirt and blouse with breast forms while on a drive. Since no other drivers would even notice, and if so who cares, I've felt fairly comfortable doing this. Now that both kids are off to kids and my wife and I are alone in the house, I've been able to dress fairly regularly in the home. My wife has been great and has no issues with it. She doesn't know about the few drives I've taken so I'm thinking of asking if we can go for a long drive with me dressed. Her big concern of course will be that other will notice. What is your honest opinion... if I'm in the passenger seat of a car, wearing mostly generic women's clothing, do you think other drivers will pick up on the boobs and blouse?

[Elizabeth G]

Hi Karen,

I have driven in forms and number of times with varying degrees of other feminine trappings as well (wigs, earrings, lipstick etc) and if anyone has noticed they haven't called me out on it.

Elizabeth

[Robertacd]

I have driven many many times dressed and never even got a second glance that I know of.

[Kayliedaskope]

Unless there's a trucker or someone in a jacked-up 4x4 beside you, no one is going to notice, and probably not even then.

But you could flash some leg at the truck driver .....:p

[Jean 103]

Yes the drive is safe , no one will notice or care. It's your SO that you will have to make understand.

Enjoy the drive, you have some beautiful country up there. I lived in Bend for a few years.

[Helen_Highwater]

Karen,

Going for a drive dressed is one of the most common ways folks here begin to venture out and about. Do people notice, on very rare occasions it's bound to happen but ask yourself this. When driving how often do you look at the drivers around you. Those coming towards you tend to be hidden by the reflection of the screen. Those following can't really see anything. Those to the side may glance but even then what can they really see?

If you're modestly dressed you're not going to standout. If you wear a wig then I would say wear a little makeup to add to the illusion. And of course driving at night hugely stacks the odds in your favor.

As for truck drivers; I was out fully enfemme and stopped to allow a truck heading towards me to pass through a narrow gap. He stopped his cab next to me and looked down grinning like a fool. Now this could have been that he read me and was amused by it or it could just as easily been he liked the look of my cleavage. We'll never know. Either way, it bothers me not a jot.

[Stephanie47]

I've gone out numerous times in the evening for drives and strolls when the opportunity arises. I've always been totally en femme other than foregoing makeup other that lip gloss. That takes too much time and effort applying and cleaning off. You should check with your wife. Her reaction is based on the potential of an unintended reveal due to an accident. And, sometimes I have encountered friends and relatives even in other cities just by chance. She may be more agreeable to an evening drive if you drop the kids off at grandma's or a sleepover. Darkness seems to give the feeling of less chance of being noticed.

[Kelsey dresses]

Yep 45 min drive to and from work, cami top skirt and heels couple day a week and most day just shorts and lace bra or sports bra no top and a nice set of double d's to show off I love it makes me happy.

[Aunt Kelly]

Let's fill in some blanks. What do you look like from the neck up during these outings? A guy, with boobs, wearing a blouse, might attract inquisitive stares, and deservedly so. If you're made up and have hair (wig or your own) in a style that more or less lines up with the rest of your appearance. It's unlikely that anyone will even notice.

Again, for part time cross dressers, "passing" is a myth. We don't. The best thing to do is accept that and move on. If being clocked while out in public bothers you (it shouldn't, but that's another thread) aim for "blending". For most of us, that's an approachable goal.

[Jenny22]

Driving while Pretty ... I posted this in January, 2016. Check it out, and the comments. Here's the content:

I've done it for years here in Southern California and wherever I've been en femme, and never really had a problem from others in a car alongside or people on the street. I'm sometimes in full make up. wig, etc., but mostly just a beautiful lipstick with jewelry, including earrings and sometimes my cigarette (I know, I know) showing with much lipstick on it to others. Yes. I don't try to hide it. Here's how I do it....

I put a black, suction cupped screen on the driver's and front passenger's side window. That makes it less easy for people to peer in, and I never worry, because while stopped at a traffic signal, I also use barriers so people can't see my fem persona. They are, seriously: the door posts of all cars and the head rests. If you stop and make side glances, you can move your car so people cannot see because of the blocked vision of the posts and head rests. I've wanted to share this for SO LONG !!!

AND, when you approach a red traffic signal, slow down more quickly then passing cars. Let them get ahead of you so that you can ease up to the traffic in front of you and use the above to place your car where you can still enjoy your prettiness, but others in the side cars cannot see!!

IF your car has tinted driver and side passenger windows, even better (illegal in most states).

Now, put on your make up, lots of red lipstick, earrings, pretties of all kinds and go for a drive. You'll love it !!

[Cherylgyno]

Karen. I don't think that any one really pays attention.

[Micki_Finn]

How exactly will you know if they do notice? Do you think they'll start honking wildly? Or run you off the road? Or follow you home to tell you how unnatural they think you are?

Does it really matter?

[Heidi Stevens]

Hey Karen, not that many will notice. The ones who may figure it out will most likely be a bored passenger. You only need to worry if a car keeps pace along side. Slow up and see if they do to. If you feel threatened, phone the police.
I attend large, four day gatherings like Keystone and Erie Gala each year. Most of the time I do the two day drives to the event and the two days home to make it a week of dressing. Never had any problems and enjoyed the ride. You should too!

[Tracy Irving]

Even if somebody notices you wearing clothing they won't do anything about it. They are wearing clothing also. Never heard anyone shout out their window, "Hey, take those clothes off!" Just not going to happen. Most likely nobody cares and, in reality, it is none of their business what you choose to wear.

[kimdl93]

There is really nothing to fear. As has been stated many times, its unlikely anyone will bother to look and a remote possibility that anyone will both look and care. With your wife's past support, this may be a great opportunity to take baby steps outward. One day, maybe never, but maybe one day the two of you may venture out and decide to stop for a snack at that cute little coffee shop. And then your shared experience can grow.

besides that...forget the passable limitation. Today I stood next to a very tall, heavy set woman at our clinic - easily my height or a bit taller and most assuredly a GG with child. People come in so many varieties of appearance and stature. If you are dressed and made up as a woman, you'll be accepted generally speaking, for the person you're presenting...regardless of "passability". Thats as much as most of us can hope to attain.

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There is really nothing to fear. As has been stated many times, its unlikely anyone will bother to look and a remote possibility that anyone will both look and care. With your wife's past support, this may be a great opportunity to take baby steps outward. One day, maybe never, but maybe one day the two of you may venture out and decide to stop for a snack at that cute little coffee shop. And then your shared experience can grow.

besides that...forget the passable limitation. Today I stood next to a very tall, heavy set woman at our clinic - easily my height or a bit taller and most assuredly a GG with child. People come in so many varieties of appearance and stature. If you are dressed and made up as a woman, you'll be accepted generally speaking, for the person you're presenting...regardless of "passability". Thats as much as most of us can hope to attain.

[Karen's Secret]

With your wife's past support, this may be a great opportunity to take baby steps outward. One day, maybe never, but maybe one day the two of you may venture out and decide to stop for a snack at that cute little coffee shop.

I am looking for those baby step moments.

[Lisa Roberts]

Driving En Femme is a blast! I've never had anyone pull up beside me and make a comment. Even gone into a convenience store as a MIAD. No stares or comments. Of course this is done in a town other than the one I live in.
Go... enjoy!!
Lace and Smiles
Lisa

[donnalee]

Drove 12 hours interstate each way dressed; the only interaction was with 1 cop, which elicited no comment as to my appearance, and a few gas stops, only 1 rather pointedly called me "Sir". Driving is pretty much a slam dunk as you can limit your interaction with others while being out and visible, leaving you in control of the situation.

[Teresa]

Karen,
It's very hard to say exactly what other drivers see and think. Obviously lorry drivers have full view when looking down from their cabs . I've been driving fully dressed now for nearly two years , on the whole it's the passengers who get the chance to get a good look . On more than one occasion I've had people overtake me and slow down to let me pass again so they can get a second look. I mostly look straight ahead and smile , never exceed the speed limits , my cruise control is a good friend, I know I'm not going to speed and can rest my feet if wearing heels . We all know it's the getting in and out that's the fun part, I do still get a good feeling looking down and seeing my legs in stockings working the pedals, I've always found that quite sexy when watching my wife drive .

[Tracii G]

I have gotten a few trucker honks.
Most people pay no attention to people around them so don't worry.

[Ressie]

do you think other drivers will pick up on the boobs and blouse?

For me, it would be more fun if the did notice! But since your wife is concerned, maybe go with very small boobs and a top that's not obviously female. And an average looking brunette wig won't catch the eye compared to a platinum blonde, big hair, drag queen wig. Light makeup too. If by chance anyone does notice your wife won't know anyway, she's driving.

[SaraLin]

How exactly will you know if they do notice? Do you think they'll start honking wildly? Or run you off the road? Or follow you home to tell you how unnatural they think you are?

Does it really matter?

How about passengers holding up a camera and trying to take a picture while laughing to each other and pointing?
That's what happened to me once.
But - it's the ONLY time I ever had a bad incident.

On the other side of the coin, there have been times where I'd get a smile and the driver would make room for me to merge into their lane, or some other such courtesy. That always feels good.

[faltenrock]

if you don't drive next to your neighbor, no one will realize anything.
I've been driving probably about 10.000 - 15.000 miles dressed, I never had an issue.
I've been to gas stations to fill up my car and pay inside and so on.

Just do it and don't worry.

[Maria 60]

All I can do is give you my experiences, my wife is a collector of many different items and sometimes goes far distance to see somethings. She doesn't like to go alone because sometimes she goes to small towns or even people's houses and prefers me there, so she uses Maria to get me to go. Almost like a win win situation, she gets me to go and I get to drive dressed. On one occasion we were stuck in traffic and I make a rule of head straight and don't make eye contact with nobody, for some reason there was a pick up truck on the drivers side that took my attention and for some reason I looked over. It was a old coworker from a few years ago with his wife, I didn't look surprised or stardulled I just put my head straight and said to my wife if the people in the truck next to use are staring at us. She said no and why I asked, I told her who they were and she said that it would be hard for them to recognize me. I told her because they don't know her it was ok but if that was our friends or family my wife would have outted me. That coworker had to double look me and the car and make the connection, but our friends would look at me see my wife and then make the connection that's me next to her. Saying that I stopped driving dressed with her and she was getting upset because she loves sharing this side with me, and knows how much I enjoy it and felt like we were not sharing this. I don't know why I haven't dressed with her in the car since, I just don't feel comfortable with her there, she tells me if I get seen to tell who ever sees us that she made dress like that for whatever reason. Sorry it was a bite long but I guess I just wanted to explain different situations of going out dressed, I'm sure others here have different ways of seeing it. I guess your going to have to go yours and gives us your feed back

[Karen's Secret]

Maria 60... thanks for that reply. I had not considered that scenario. So far, in my couple of solo drives, I've worn a rather simple blouse with breast forms and a skirt. No make up and no wig. My thought is that other drivers would simply see me as male and be oblivious to the fact that I was wearing a female top.

[Tracy Irving]

Assuming you are not wearing a flashy, look at me blouse, I agree that other drivers would be oblivious to the style of your top. Just keep it blendable or androgynous and you will be fine. How many times have you paid attention to the shirt of the male driver in the car next to yours? And, on the off chance you noticed he was wearing a womans shirt?

Exactly.

Nothing would come of it.

[Christina Page]

This summer my wife and I took a long trip in a motorhome. I drove many days dressed pretty. It sure is handy having a bathroom onboard and plenty of room to dress up.

[JenniferMBlack]

Let's look at this from another view point, the other driver.I drive a fairly large flatbed tow truck,one if you look you can see down into others cars. I put on average 250 miles a day in a large very populated city with traffic all day and night. With that in mind unless someone is doing something to attract attention I don't notice who is driving or what they are wearing. If there is other traffic in similar sized cars they aren't really going to see any thing and if your windows are up it is more difficult to see imto the car.

[BrendaPDX]

Take the drive and enjoy it, I have taken many drives, and short of a verbal warning from a State Trooper (for expired tags) I have never received a second glance. If you are worried carry a change of clothes in the trunk or back seat. Have fun:) Brenda

[Karen's Secret]

Hi Brenda... I was specifically looking at taking a drive through the gorge once 84 is opened to see what it looks like after the fire. I have not broached this with my wife yet.

[Renihoward]

I tested it out yesterday. I drove a 90 mile trip each way yesterday wearing a black lace bra and forms but no blouse. Nobody noticed. I even drove thru a 15 mile construction zone with many workers and thru heavy city traffic. I didn't get one honk, wave or any kind of notice. Most people just don't notice.

[NancySue]

Long drives, intermediate drives or short drives are always fun. I dress casually and go to a nearby park to walk, read or just enjoy the feelings of being out. People have walked by and a few say hello. I sometimes go to the gas station to fill up. I always wear hose when I'm out, which did get a glance and a smile. Made my day. It is what it is.

[Aunt Kelly]

Tested what, Reni? That no one would notice you driving in your underwear? Was there a point or did you just get off on some exhibitionist fantasy?

[Krisi]

........ Here's how I do it....

I put a black, suction cupped screen on the driver's and front passenger's side window. That makes it less easy for people to peer in, and I never worry, because while stopped at a traffic signal, I also use barriers so people can't see my fem persona. They are, seriously: the door posts of all cars and the head rests. If you stop and make side glances, you can move your car so people cannot see because of the blocked vision of the posts and head rests. I've wanted to share this for SO LONG !!!

AND, when you approach a red traffic signal, slow down more quickly then passing cars. Let them get ahead of you so that you can ease up to the traffic in front of you and use the above to place your car where you can still enjoy your prettiness, but others in the side cars cannot see!!

IF your car has tinted driver and side passenger windows, even better (illegal in most states).



Isn't a black tinted screen a bit unsafe? And wouldn't it be just as illegal as dark tinted windows?

I think driving differently than the other vehicles would be a bit unsafe but would also tend to attract attention, especially from the police.

Tinted side windows are not illegal, only dark tinted windows. My wife's new car came from the factory with tinted windows.

My ideas on driving (or riding) in a car while dressed:

Dress 100% female. Don't wear breast forms without a wig or natural long hair in a female style.
Shave and wear beard cover, lipstick and normal makeup. Don't overdo it.
Drive (or ride) like you normally would. Don't try to hide from other people. If you accidentally make eye contact with someone, smile, don't try to hide or look away.

A crossdresser in a car next to them is the last thing on anyone's mind. They won't be looking for you and unless your presentation is really bad, most won't realize they've just seen a crossdresser. Even if they do, they don't know you and you don't know them. Unless it's your own mother or brother, they are not likely to recognize you anyway.

If you are going out dressed with your wife or another female, have her drive. If there's an incident, things will be much simpler.

[Renihoward]

If nobody noticed me in a bra they aren't going to notice me fully dressed with wig and makeup.

[JaneinFL]

Love driving dressed! Just beware of where you're going.

[StephanieM]

I would imagine most people have no idea of who is driving or riding in a vehicle, so more than likely no one will ever notice anything.

[Beverley Sims]

Just get dressed as a woman, most people are trying to avoid other traffic, if you do get hit on, smile and wave back.

If they pick up on the boobs and blouse they may think you are just an ugly woman..

You don't want that to happen......

So dress up a bit. :-)

[Liz57]

At least once a month I have a four hour drive to our other house on Friday evenings. I've taken to wearing at the very least my breast forms, women's jeans and women's sandals. I've worn my wig many times as well. Hardly ever does anyone notice. At traffic lights, I sometimes can't help but thrust my chest out and lower my arms from the steering wheel hoping someone will notice. Only once, in broad daylight on the way back did someone do a double take. I was wearing a wig but my mustache makes passing impossible. I passed a truck with several rednecks and they caught up with me and passed to get a second look. That's all.

Last month, due to some good advice on the clothing section I stopped on the way at Kohl's to buy a body shaper. The only thing I wore that wasn't women's clothing was a generic tee shirt and a light jacket that hid my 'breasts' if you didn't look closely, I kept it open. (I'm still trying to get up the nerve to go dressed and not worry about it.) I spent a fair amount of time trying to find what I was looking for and finally checked out. I don't think I fooled the SA but she gave no indication as to how I was dressed. I mean, after all I was buying a women's body shaper.

Enjoy your forays in the car, nobody notices. These days most are on their phones anyway, not even paying attention to driving.

Liz:battingeyelashes: