Men constantly hitting on me - Help

[jhasmine]

Well, some of you have read my previous posts but I will start out like this. I am a hetero male cross dresser. I am not into guys and I make that known on my facebook page and other social sites that I am on. I gotta say, Men are PIGS and they can't or refuse to read a profile before they send you a perverted msg or pic. My wife has fun responding to them but me, I kindly tell them I am happily married straight male cross dresser and they send more pics and suggestions to me until I unfriend or block them. I know some of you wouldn't mind this because of your reasons and that is fine, but I have a problem with people like that. I don't mind if you msg me with that 1 time, but when I ask you to stop and you keep going, it really ticks me off. I want to add that this has not happened here thankfully. It seems like I may have to close all my other Fem social media outlets because of this. I just want to make friends. I don't want to be anyone's bottom B or anything like that. :(

By the way, new pic. Think I can pull this off better if I tape my chest up a bit?



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[Krisi]

Well, I find your comment " Men are PIGS " pretty insulting. I do not think of myself as a "pig" and I don't think the majority of men are "pigs". Remember, you are actually a man. Are you a pig?

I assume this is happening on social media websites, not in the real world. If you are getting offensive messages, get off the sites. People react based on how you present yourself. Either change how you present yourself or stay away from these people.

Problem solved.

[jhasmine]

Well, I find your comment " Men are PIGS " pretty insulting. I do not think of myself as a "pig" and I don't think the majority of men are "pigs". Remember, you are actually a man. Are you a pig?

I assume this is happening on social media websites, not in the real world. If you are getting offensive messages, get off the sites. People react based on how you present yourself. Either change how you present yourself or stay away from these people.

Problem solved.

I am sorry. I did not mean this to all men, I am just upset with things and let my female side drive in the highspeed lane. Please excuse that comment and sorry if that offended or offends anyone.

[Tracy Irving]

People constantly think the internet provides them a wall of privacy when, in reality, it is an open book. Child pornography comes to mind. The Internet does provide a level of anonymity that allows for a more outgoing and outspoken individual. If you just want to make friends, try doing it the old fashioned way, face to face. Most of the "friends" on the Internet aren't and never will be real friends anyway

[jhasmine]

People constantly think the internet provides them a wall of privacy when, in reality, it is an open book. Child pornography comes to mind. The Internet does provide a level of anonymity that allows for a more outgoing and outspoken individual. If you just want to make friends, try doing it the old fashioned way, face to face. Most of the "friends" on the Internet aren't and never will be real friends anyway

You have a point. Old fashion is nice. You also have a point that the internet provides anonymity and stuff. I am actually extremely shy in person. I tend to stay home a lot. When I go out, its with my wife. If anyone has or can tell me where to find a list of social activities to do in the RI area as a crossdresser, it would be helpful. LOL. I tried looking online and its just full of nightlife stuff which is no longer my type of scene due to some things that happened when I was a little younger. ( too many club fights and stuff like that make me shy away from that life. Not me fighting.) I guess the issue would be me. I am comfortable going out dressed up but I think i may be a tad antisocial or something in person. Maybe more of an anxiety issue or the fact that I lost all my friends I had in my 20's due to marriages and stuff like that. Maybe I need a psychiatrist or maybe I just need to stop worrying about losing friends that I haven't even made yet. I guess I have some work to do on myself. Can't believe I am struggling to make friends at the age of 37. oh boy.

[Joni T]

There's a very simple solution to your "problem". STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM SOCIAL MEDIA!!!! It ain't brain surgery or rocket science. And no, not ALL men are pigs. Thank you for the insult.
Jon

[jhasmine]

There's a very simple solution to your "problem". STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM SOCIAL MEDIA!!!! It ain't brain surgery or rocket science. And no, not ALL men are pigs. Thank you for the insult.
Jon

it seems I have offended many. Sorry. It came out incorrect. I have a tendency to things like this and not realize it. And ok, ok, no more social media sites. I get it, but this site is also considered a social media site. Just saying.

[Kayliedaskope]

Thanks from a kind, caring, compassionate, and sensitive man that just got lumped in with the morons that do that crap.

I'm out.

[Jaylyn]

All men are not pigs, I for one am not insulted by what you said because I know the type men you are talking about especially if you are some of the sites that are out there. My suggestion is get all your S--t off that site and stay away from those sites. Also maybe your wife needs to guilt responding to the men that your on. This could be leading the men on in a way of them thinking its you answering them. It's really easy to delete those sites from your go to places. I appreciate the moderators here for not letting this site get out of hand. It's about the only site I go to daily.

[Tracii G]

If you put yourself out there you will get guys like that so you need to grow some thicker skin or stay off those sites.

I get dick pics frequently and I will comment "what is this a pic of I can't make it out" or "oh I'm sorry honey send that pic to your boyfriend" something like that.
They get pissed and block you so problem solved.
How you present yourself has a lot to do with the responses you receive. If you dress like a 2 dollar hooker thats the response you will get.
This site is not like 99% of the other CD sites. Those sites are porn and fetish sites and sex talk is more accepted.
I was on a few and I got off and luckily I found this site.
Just to say in response to you saying losing friends due to marriage honey most every guy has gone thru that when they get married.
If you have a hard time making friends its not their fault its has something to do with you.
Just saying you are shy or a geek or a nerd whatever doesn't change the fact its your fault if people don't like you or want to be your friend.
If you have problems dealing with life look at yourself first is all I'm saying don't blame others first.

[Sissy_Michelle]

Jhasmine,

I know how you can stop the "pigs". Don't use social media. Crazy as it sounds the people that you don't want will be the rudest forms of life. Narrow your focus. If people are sending you pictures or messages that you don't like then don't use that site.

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Michelle

BtW: I am not a "Pig" either. I can be the rudest a$$hole on the planet when provoked however.

[docrobbysherry]

I agree with Tracii, Jhasmine. Sherry gets about 3 Friend requests daily on FB. And, I get hit on quite a lot in posts and PM's.

U have to be very clear and the men won't bother u! I use a "3 strikes and you're out rule", before I block them. I tell them I'm not interested in men and don't send me dick pics, (some foreign men don't know what "straight" means).
That I don't CAM or SKYPE. They usually soon get bored flirting and disappear.:heehee:

[GretchenJ]

Please read the rules before posting !



Ridiculing members/non-members, or the manner in which they express themselves. This includes any complaint about the way females, males, transgendered, or any other cross-section of the membership dress, the way they express themselves (such as spelling and language skills, and any mention of religious beliefs, political preferences and affiliations, sexual preference, etc.)

Grouping all males as PIGS is both offensive and is inflammatory

Many people on social media are PIGS because they will exhibit behavior that they would not do normally because they are cowards and use the anonymity of their identity as their so-called sounding board.

As many as stated above, if you are going to be out there on the internet , you better have a very thick skin, no matter you and what you are, as there are cruel idiots who will criticize, insult, and demoralize anyone in order to make what they think is some kind of joke.

this thread is closed !