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Zoeytgtx
10-05-2017, 12:02 PM
This past weekend a TG friend and I were eating dinner in a restaurant we frequent before heading out for a show in the DFW metroplex. We were dressed nicely and had not attracted any attention all day long.
At the end of the meal as we were settling our bill a woman comes up to our table asking if she could ask us some questions. She told us her early twenties son had just started to crossdress and she wanted to be a supportive mother but had no concept of what type of support she could provide. She admitted she did not understand the need to dress but would support her son. We were addressed as ladies and were told how nicely we were dressed, but obviously we were the only ones in the restaurant being quizzed about transgender matters.
We were both somewhat astounded that we were even approached about this since we ordinarily just blend in every where we go. In fact, later that evening no strange looks as usual.
My friend who is on the transgender advisory committee at her local church told the woman to first of all try to maintain the correct pronouns when around her son when he chose to be dressed and use her chosen name. She also let her know that there were LGBT friendly churches in the area that provided support groups for families of crossdresser and tg people.
What else would heve you have suggested especially since we were somewhat surprised by being approached in this manner in a public setting?

Tracii G
10-05-2017, 12:14 PM
I tend to give people like this lady that are trying but just don't know how to ask a pass and try to explain like your friend did.
I generally point those people to our local trans group or tell them to contact our local LGBT office.

Tracy Irving
10-05-2017, 12:15 PM
It seems like she is already supportive of his decision to crossdress so shopping for clothing might be a fun way for them to bond. Perhaps joining here might provide some valuable insight and advice for one or even both of them.

Teresa
10-05-2017, 12:16 PM
Zoey,
I would have asked if she minded giving details so she could make contact or contact her. I would have also given details of my social group.

As for being read there are always tell tale signs, voice , certain actions , no matter she addressed you politely , maybe you should feel grateful that she trusted you both enough to open up to you about a problem that's been bothering her .

Kayliedaskope
10-05-2017, 03:29 PM
Ladies, thank you for being ambassadors to help welcome a supportive mom and her son.

Rachael Leigh
10-05-2017, 03:38 PM
Sounds like you gave her sound advice. It’s nice to know there are folks who do their best to understand and get educated.
Also being read I’ve finally come to the conclusion if I am that’s fine I’m a trans women in my 50s of course I will be read when I’m not looking my best that day. I’m good with that
Rachael

Jenny22
10-06-2017, 02:28 PM
Interesting situation, and handled well. What might I have said?? She doesn't know why she does CD, but it's an evolving process that she can't understand. Congrats for being there for HER. Let her butterfly emerge.