Probably over thinking?

[Scarlett1975]

I was standing in line in forever 21 Gainesville. My wife had taken the kids to car and I wAs standing waiting to be served holding 2 dresses, lip stick and a some costume jewelry. Anyway a few customers in from of me was a very pretty young girl (19-21) when she finished she turned and said "those will look lovely on you " I said thank you but they are not for me but I appreciate the compliment.
I realise it was probably an attempt at humor but in Australia pretty young girls don't make conversation with men. So it got me wondering if it wAs a throw away line or if she guessed for some other reason

[Sami Brown]

My guess is that you are probably over thinking.

[Kayliedaskope]

Should have asked if she would like to see you model them. :p
Ah, well, missed opportunities .....

[Jodie_Lynn]

Maybe it was the giant lavender neon sign over your head, flashing: "I'm a Crossdresser!"

Oh, you don't have a sign? Then you're over thinking. :)

[Teresa]

Scarlett,
I assume she wasn't being sarcastic , but if you were in drab why would she say that ?

I was wondering what makes Australia so different that a younger girl wouldn't converse with a man , they don't have a problem in the UK .

[Scarlett1975]

Actually I'm suprised here that people are not glued to their phones like back home in oz. If you travel public transport in Sydney nearly everyone is one their phone in one way or another, in new York subway it was only a select few. The younger generation Now in Sydney anyway almost never make eye contact or initiate conversation. Good to know it's just a cultural difference and thanks for the replies

[Tracii G]

I find that an odd thing to say too why wouldn't a young girl say something to a man.
Perhaps you have been married too long.
You are in the check out line holding dresses all alone no wife or kids what is she supposed to think?
She probably thinks you said they weren't for you because you were embarrassed.
People are glued to their cell phones here too and its annoying as all get out.

[Teresa]

Scarlett,
Not wanting to sidetrack your thread too much but I say I'm not smart enough to use a smart phone, but that's the real reason , no one converses any more, they are glued to their I phones , I sometimes wonder what the I stands for , Ignorance, Idiocy or Isolation all I know is I don't feel I'm missing out without one .

I saw a situation in a coffee shop where a middle aged couple weren't talking to each other directly but through their Ipads !

[Scarlett1975]

It's clearly just a cultural / environmental difference, as I said cell phone usage is much worse in oz and people especially girls much more insular. May seem like an odd question but honestly back home that would be a very strange and I'm glad it's not that way here. Yes I've been married for a while but do work with a few females and have discussed it with older ladies who also notice it (in oz). Also yes there's very little intelligence in a smart phone and even less socialising in social media lol

[Tracii G]

To me a phone is just that something to make a phone call with.
I have a smart phone but not one app and don't even have have the internet activated on it.

[Jean 103]

What's wrong with talking with someone in line. It's a safe place. She could know or have a friend that is transgender. Everyone is not the same. I'm on the phone all the time, it's a communication tool, why would you limit it's use. I don't use my phone when I'm visiting with someone, unless I'm using the camera.

[Dana44]

I think she was being nice to you and she may be social and talk to anyone. So I think you were overthinking.

[Tracy Irving]

I have never had someone standing in line, especially in front of me, comment on my female clothing purchases. The women working the cash registers? You bet!

[Scarlett1975]

Yes was a new one for me too, we had a small convo after that so it was nice and friendly, just got me thinking but clearly a bit too much, if I saw a guy holding dresses in a line my assumption would be he buying for someone else though.

[Cherylgyno]

I talk with people when I am in a line. I really get bored if I don't.
At LB a few years ago I had about a dozen panties. A young lady standing next to the register commented that the panties would probably fit me. I commented that they were for me. An SA called my feminine name to check out. The young lady turned beet red and apologized. I said not to worry.
In line at a C store, I was wearing sandals. Guy behind me comments I see that you are wearing pantyhose. I said no... Nylons. Guy meekly shut his mouth. Woman in front of me heard the whole conversation. She commented he's a nosy arsehole isn't he, oh and I think your feet are pretty in your hose. I said thank you and that was it.
In the end people are going to think what they want. Own who you are.

[Jaymees22]

I think you're overthinking this. She was kidding, I've had similar conversations. I was getting some expensive moisturizer for my wife and the SA asked if it was for me, I said if it was it's not working!

[Becky Blue]

As a fellow Aussie i have to disagree with you Scarlett, pretty young girls have engaged in idle chit chat with me on occasion. I think you missed out on an opportunity to joke back with a line like "You think? I am usually more into skirts" and see her reaction.. 99% likely she would have presumed you were joking as was she and laughed.

I have had the reverse happen to me, I was buying an item of makeup for my wife - she asked me to get her something on my way home. The SA was joking with me and said this will go well with your eyes, I laughed and said nothing to confirm or deny.

[ellbee]

I talk with people when I am in a line. I really get bored if I don't.

And this, odds are, is pretty much it in a nut-shell.

She felt like talking, and cracking a little joke about the situation was just a way of passing the time & having some fun.

I sometimes chat up all kinds of strangers, regardless of who they are or what they look like or what they're wearing, etc.


Another small possibility, especially given her age, is that perhaps she has a friend/family member/fellow student/co-worker who may be at least a bit "gender-different" -- and this was potentially her little, innocent way of perhaps bringing up a deeper conversation about it? :strugglin

[docrobbysherry]

It's terrible here in SoCal. U have to assume every pedestrian doesn't see u driving because they r all looking at their phones.

I've become very careful backing out of parking spaces after nearly backing over a mother and her teen daughter. They were both to distracted by their phones to notice I was about to back over them!:doh:

[Sandra_Dodds]

I'd put it down to Aussie humour and a good natured ribbing. You have to admit, a guy standing in line to buy female clothes is a rare sight. Most guys are very uncomfortable waiting around for their SO in a store and wait outside; so to be inside the store AND comfortably holding clothes would have got you noticed. She probably saw you with your wife, hence the cheeky comment.

In those situations I always kick myself for not having an equally witty comeback, like "Why thanks, what kind of shoes do you think should I wear with these"

[Jenny22]

Every, and I mean every, item of my femme stuff I've purchased in male mode. I never tried to hide what I'm buying. Instead, if I do anything at all while in line, I'll hold it up as if examining it further and, if there's a female behind me, I may as her if she thinks its pretty (clothing or jewelry - not make up), and she will always say yes. A conversation usually ensues about women's clothing and how nice I am buying for my wife.

[Maria 60]

I was holding my wife's purse while she was digging the clothes racks, well she drifted away leaving me holding her purse. Two women middle aged were going threw a rack in front of me, I started feeling alittle uncomfortable with the situation and they started giggling and one said in a smirky voice that she liked my purse. I believe they knew that I was holding a purse for someone, so I decided not to look to much into it so I put the purse over my shoulder and told them I wasn't really sure if the colour matches my outfit. One of them picked a dress off the rack and put it against me and told me this matches much better. We started laughing and then my wife came back asking who my friends were and why she was holding a dress against me. Considering I was about to go on defence, I'm glad I didn't but some time we get caught off guard and don't know how to lie fast enough

[sometimes_miss]

What's wrong with talking with someone in line. It's a safe place. She could know or have a friend that is transgender.
She might be an SO of a TG person, or a family member. Or she might even be MtF TS; those who start early, are often indistinguishalbe from GG's. Those who understand, probably don't think twice about discussing it.

[Stephanie47]

So, my wife had the flu. She ran out of sanitary napkins. I offered to go to Target and get her some. She asked if I felt comfortable do that. Why not? I guess she thought some men would cringe at the thought of standing in line holding a package of sanitary napkins. Actually, when I shop for my wife I feel a lot more at ease than if I am shopping for myself, even though we wear the same size. It is possible she thought the purchases were for you and it was some failed attempt to make you feel more at ease.

If the marital status and age was not an issue it could have been a pickup line.