The good ole pic on your phone

[JocelynJames]

I know, I know-put the cd pics somewhere else, delete them, don't take them with a phone, don't show people pics from your phone...it's all been covered. This morning a co-worker was asking about work he needed done on a bathroom. I started to show him the work my brother had done and flipped to this pic for a half second. He's 78 years old but pretty sharp. Did he see? Did it register it was me? I don't know. He hasn't said anything . Don't crucify me, just sharing, lesson learned. Peace , sisters.

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[Tracii G]

If he knows you play an Ibanez guitar I would say he caught it.

[Jaylyn]

Yep I'm 68 and totally brain dead yet if he is pretty sharp still I would imagine he got a fleeting glimpse. Just depends on how fast you flipped to the next picture. I would bet though it might not have registered unless it was presented more than a few seconds. I've been looking for pictures by flipping thru my for a certain picture to show some one something and I've flipped by the picture I was looking for and then wonder if I had deleted it. Usually I had moved too fast for the brain to register.
Yours picture is a cute one though so he might have noticed a resemblance. I guess it's best to find the picture you want then show the phone just don't ever let them flip thru the pictures after you find the picture you want to show. Lesson learned I suspect.

[Karen RHT]

I made a very similar mistake just yesterday. My wife asked me to show our financial planner pics of our cat. When I opened the gallery in my camera, the first pic that popped up was one of Karen. Fortunately I was the only one looking at the phone at that point. I quickly swiped through to the pics of the cat and very carefully showed only that pic to our planner. Needless to say, the pics of Karen got deleted soon as I got home.


Karen

[Samm]

I've come close. I've never hit the back button so many times, so fast in my life.

[nikkim83]

Maybe maybe not, I have gotten to the point of MEH who cares. I am me I deserve to exist in whatever form I choose don't like it P*** off I take my pics on whatever device I so choose, because it is my device.

[NancySue]

Good advice. I, too, almost got caught as I forgot to erase some pictures. Maybe subconsciously, I didn’t want to delete? Fortunately, I caught in time...no harm...no foul.

[Beverley Sims]

I don't put any photos on my phone, they are in my camera, on cd's, my laptop, in photo form in a folder and then there are those I took more than twenty years ago.

I wonder where they are.

Yeah! You get the message. :-)

[Debra Russell]

I keep pics of me on my phone - a good friend saw one and wanted to know who the "good look'n babe" was - told him it was my sister :o ............................Debra

[irene9999]

That's why I don't keep pics of myself dressed on my phone! If that happened, I'd probably tell the other person that was my cousin or something like that

[Michelle_CD]

I think it has been mentioned here before but if you want to keep the pics on your phone download a free picture vault. It is an app that requires another password to view the pics. Just move the pics over to the app from your photo stream then delete them out of the photo stream.
I started doing this once my daughter was old enough to access the photos on my phone. Haven’t had to worry about it since.

[SaraLin]

reading through the thread and had an idea for a cute excuse to use (maybe???)

"Yeah, I was <fill in the location> and saw this girl that looked like a female version of me! SO - I snapped a picture of her. Weird huh?"

or something such...:heehee:

[Elizabeth G]

Hi Joss,

Having seen pictures of you here and then having met you in drab I would say it's unlikely that he made the connection. You look VERY different as Joss and if he saw the pic for such a brief time I seriously doubt he connected the fits. Even if he did and questioned you about it you could simply play it off as some Halloween thing. I wouldn't lose any sleep over this.

Elizabeth

[Sarah Doepner]

I have several folders of photos on my phone and keep a few images of Sarah in one of them. All the family, friends, house and garden, pets, travel photos etc. are all in other folders. This one has several photos of plumbing or electrical connections, bar codes that I can't see without tipping things over and things like that before the portraits.

The only problem has been a result of the phone having a google connection and occasionally google wants to download all the photos from my phone to my home computer. One day I noticed my screensaver that cycled through photos on the computer started to occasionally show photos of me dressed. I changed the screensaver pretty quick and deleted the images at least until the next time they back up.

[XemmaX]

i did care about having photos on my phone but tbh i dont care most of my friends know and i dont go showing my photos on my phone to random people..but if yer concerned about that stuff than be careful wit your phones girls!

[Alice Torn]

I have never put a pic of Alice on my phone. I might consider just one, but Murpy;s law, is it will be seem by someone i do not want seeing it.

[CONSUELO]

I understand all of the comments about taking care that pictures on phones or computers are not revealed but I also am a bit saddened that we feel so ashamed of our feminine selves that we have to always stay in the shadows.

[Tonya Renee]

Well, I have one worst than that! It was in the infancy of smartphones and I got my first iPhone at work and was told I did not need to keep my personal phone. My company has Att and our family account was Verizon so when my daughter broke her phone my wife asked if she could transfer my old phone. Me, not even thinking about the pictures I had taken on that phone said sure why not. I had some splaining to do and I am pretty sure that my 15 year old daughter never bought the story. Lessons learned! Not one of us here that have been cross dressing for our entire lives have covered every track. Someone knows and I am speaking from experience.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jocelyn:hugs:, Guilty as charged, I have a bunch on my crappy little Flip Phone.>orchid...:daydreaming:...

[Janine cd]

I never keep any of my femme pictures on my phone. I always make sure that they are transferred to a microcard for safe keeping.

[Ineke Vashon]

My crappy little flip phone has a lot of inside pictures of my left pants pocket:eek:. I don't think I have to worry

Ineke

[IleneD]

I'm sure your workman was thinking "Wow. Nice guitar."

[Connie.Marie]

Jocelyn,
I don't know what he saw or what he thinks but I think that's a fantastic looking lady in the photo.

Hugs, Connie


PS, I was in Gardner earlier this week..

[Becky Blue]

I have never taken a picture of myself with my phone, just too risky. Camera (with a different camera card) or nothing, dowloaded straight onto my laptop which only I have access to. In a hidden locked folder and deleted off the camera card.

However knowing that things go wrong I also have my list of quick answers ready such as...
1. OMG how embarrassing thats the picture of me at a fancy dress party with a sex change theme
2. My advice to you is never bet your wife that women are soft, anyone can wear heels and a skirt all day...
3. How gorgeous is that girl I couldn't resist taking a photo of her (ONLY joking)

I love SaraLin's answer too!!

Jocelyn he probably didn't recognise you anyway, a lot would have depended on how cool you were if you got flustered he would probably start wondering why.

[giuseppina]

I suppose I am exempt from this particular problem: no phone or camera. :D

[Cherylgyno]

I use to keep my photos but a similar situation told me to delete them. C phone was on my desk. I told a GG that she could go through my phone book for some ones number. I had been admiring a pic of myself and left it on the screen. I thought that the photo was clearly MIAD in appearance. She looked at the pic then went to my phone book, called the client. A short while later she commented on the tall lady in the photo. I told her that it was a lady that I met on vacation. She said she is tall how much taller are you. I said she was wearing heels we were the same height. I neglected to add same height when both were wearing heels. Nothing was ever said again.

[JamieGdukes]

I think the worst lately is Google asking if you want to publicly post the pics just taken to a near by business. A couple wrong swipes and they are out there.

I usually take a few random pictures to advance them back into the gallery. Once they are transferred to a thumb drive...delete before the phone is left unattended.

[alwayshave]

You look good, if you have a sister, no issues.

[Charlotte7]

Care in this has to be the watchword. At the end of the day, a phone can be almost as public as other social media. It's probably best to only have on the phone what you would be happy for anyone else to know or see.

Until recently I didn't have any pictures on my phone but now I have. I don't see this as reckless I see it as being more honest as to who I am. Yes, I'm careful to bury them but they're not locked away. I'm careful if I show pictures on my phone, I make sure I know what picture is up, don't hand the phone over to someone else and don't swipe through. But, at the end of the day, for me, I'm happier that they're there.

[Krisi]

You should know the risk up front: Photos of yourself dressed as a woman may be seen by others. It's your choice.

There's a chance of course that the person who sees the photos won't realize that they are photos of you. That depends on how good your presentation is and your ability to explain who they are and why they are on your phone.

Me - no photos on the phone.

[Bella.CD]

Joss,

I think you look very passable in the pic you posted, just lovely.

You could probably use "Private Mode" on your phone to hide the pics you want to be hidden in the future.

[Angela010]

I think it has been mentioned here before but if you want to keep the pics on your phone download a free picture vault. It is an app that requires another password to view the pics. Just move the pics over to the app from your photo stream then delete them out of the photo stream.
I started doing this once my daughter was old enough to access the photos on my phone. Haven’t had to worry about it since.

I don't know why people keep ignoring this advice. So easy and safe.

[Kayliedaskope]

Me - no photos on the phone.

I like Krisi's suggestion better.

[S. Lisa Smith]

If he saw that picture, he probably thought it was a picture of your cute girlfriend.

[Stephanie43]

I have a few pics of Stephanie on my phone. Not sure anyone other than my wife would know it was me, but she knows about my CD’ing.

[Shinya]

If he knows you play an Ibanez guitar I would say he caught it.

Ibanez is the correct answer :thumbsup:

[Charlotte7]

Having a picture on my phone came in handy recently. I was out with friends and one asked me straight out 'Do you cross dress?' I have no idea where the qiestion came from, but I decided not to lie, so I said that I did. She didn't believe me until I pulled up a picture on my phone. She then burst out laughing. She doesn't know why she asked me, and only laughed because if you don't know about me, then yes, surprise is a fair reaction and I've known this person for 35 years. The next morning she passed a whole load of accessories, necklaces and the like, on to me. She has also offered to make me a dress at some point. Now, that'll be fun. I suppose it just goes to show what I was taught at a very young age, that honesty is always the best policy. Or is it?

[katiej1989]

I take pics on my phone but usually upload them to imgur and delete them almost immediately thereafter (and deleted the deleted pics from the "recently deleted" folder as well). I'm quite paranoid about it, actually. The only time I let pics stay on my phone for more than about 10 minutes is when I know I'll be alone for days at a time.

[jennifer0918]

78 I don't think he noticed he probably tought it was a lady you know.
You look so femme

[IleneD]

My iPhone 6 camera has become one of my favorite cameras. It does so much. It's handy and immediate. It takes great photographs.
YES, there are often photos on the iPhone but I keep them relegated to the TRASH bin in photo storage. They remain there for 30 days then self-delete. The thing I like about the TRASH bin is that I can still reference them for several days after shooting them. I need not worry about someone stumbling across the in the normal iPhone Photos gallery, and they disappear eventually. They're also in one place to delete by one stroke "in case of emergency".

I know all about the travails of digital photos, the iCloud (where nothing ever dies or deletes), and the extreme care required when manipulating photo files [even when one thinks they're doing things correctly]. Yes, I have been bitten by the digital dog of CD photographs that were inadvertently left on a viewing device and then found.

In the early days of my full crossdressing (a couple summers ago), a few weeks after I'd come out to my wife, we were entertaining visiting family. My daughter and granddaughter, and my wife's sister (my beloved sister-in-law) were in the great room one day with the wife. They were snacking, conversing and watching a photo slide show on the big screen TV. Up popped two photographs of me in my full Ilene glory. Thank God they were very good looking photographs where I didn't look entirely silly.
I had gone to great lengths to scrub photographs off my iPhone, the iCloud and our Apple TV device. Somehow a couple photos persisted (in the iCloud via the Apple TV, I found out). BUT...... The Family now knew the secret. My granddaughter of 5 at the time exclaimed, "Look its Boppa in a dress." Heads turned. My daughter saw. My sister in law saw. The Wife saw, and was instantly humiliated [as she explained it].

This turned out to be one of the worst self-inflicted wounds in my year of coming out. The fact that my wife and I no longer had complete secure control on the valuable information (of my CD) made things much more difficult for us. Most of all the inadvertent embarrassment I caused damaged my ability to slowly understand my growing CD and transgenderism, and to work with The Wife on working the problem together. In this one failed respect, I was "Ilene's" own worst enemy.

Be careful with camera, videos and digital storage devices.

[Charlotte7]

The elephant in the room is that if you're out, or partially out, to some but not others, then you have no control of any pictures that are taken of you on another phone, and you may have no knowledge that the pictures have been taken.

[Rayleen]

All pic are on my pc and I delete all evidences, even if my daughter is smarter than me and suspect something .

me and daughter DADT. we keep our secrets and its best that way

is in it fun to have secrets ?...hugs

[Joyce Swindell]

That's just it.....unless he says anything then I would be confident he didn't notice it was you. Now if you had stopped long enough and then looked at him for reaction then turned red......lol....no worries....most folks need more info than a fleeting pic to determine any funny business.

[JaneinFL]

I transfer them to a thumb drive immediately! Sent someone the wrong picture once! Luckily, they somewhat knew I dressed.285047