Insecure

[Claire_ORFL]

Since I just started posting, I might as well take advantage of the collective wisdom of the group.
My wife like to read Erotica that typically features a ultra alpha male, could be an alien, mystical creature, or just a regular human alpha male. I always feel uncomfortable with the books since my dressing is probably the opposite of "alpha".

Does anyone else have this issue? The Erotica I describe is hugely popular right now. Much raunchier than the 50 shades type books.

[SamanthaToday]

Does anyone else have this issue? The Erotica I describe is hugely popular right now. Much raunchier than the 50 shades type books.

Gawd no, I find stories for my wife to read all the time, She used to go to male strippers once and a while and guys would ask me , "dont you mind".

Hell no , because She would always come home like some sort of sex maniac..

[Becky Blue]

Does your wife know about Claire? Also remember that reading erotica of a certain type can just be a fantasy.. doesn't necessarily mean she wouldn't like beta guy too in reality

[Teresa]

Claire,
I guess it poses the question , does your dressing interfere with your intimate relationship ? Is your wife looking elsewhere for a little more spice in her life while you go and get dressed ?

I guess this relates to the thread of the shoe being on the other foot ! She may not make the point about dressing male but instead is looking elsewhere for some sexual excitement .

[AngieStone]

Claire,

My wife reads the same books as your wife. Not sure about the aliens, but some alpha male Erotica. I think she just enjoys reading that type of book and it makes things a little spicy when she does get worked up, I am not complaining.

[BettyMorgan]

If you are uncomfortable with the books, don't read them.
If your wife is reading aloud, ask her to read silently or you wear earplugs.

Just because I read all the Harry Potter books doesn't mean I want to date a witch.
Don't worry about what she reads for enjoyment unless it's a book on how to pick up guys. ; )

[IleneD]

She is imagining and placing herself in the role of the alpha heroes. It's her alter-ego. Ask her some time.
As The Alpha, she knows how to relate to someone more of the Beta.

[Amy Lynn3]

Don't worry or fret about her reading what she likes. She is only being normal. Women like to know and keep up with what other women enjoy reading. When they have hen parties they can all talk about the same thing.

Keep on dressing and enjoy yourself and this forum.:)

[Linda P.]

It's totally understandable that it would make you wonder. But I would keep in mind that the reading matter we enjoy does not necessarily correlate to what we would like our real life relationships to be like. The two can be quite separate. So unless there is an actual indication of dissatisfaction, I wouldn't be too concerned.

[alwayshave]

My fiancee likes big p*nis porn, I really don't care for any porn at all. And, while not under endowed, I could never compare to the individuals in the videos she watches. It doesn't bother me, it's just a fantasy.

[Charlotte7]

You like to wear ladies clothes, she likes to read books. You both know what the other is doing so where's the problem?

[Tracii G]

Claire let it go its just a fantasy story book.
Is the fact she reads those books hurt your male ego or something?
Not performing well in bed and feeling guilty?
If you are not acting like the man of the house thats on you.
Yes you can be an alpha male and crossdress.

[Pat]

I imagine everyone has some kind of fantasy life. It doesn't mean they want that as an uncontrolled reality. Your description of the lit makes it sound like she gets into the idea of someone dominant. I know lots of people who share that fantasy -- there's an appeal to having someone else make the decisions -- but none of the people I know would stand for being told what to do for one second. Your wife married you. Presumably she made that choice based on experience of who you are day-to-day. Be the best you for her. ;)

[Claire_ORFL]

I imagine everyone has some kind of fantasy life. It doesn't mean they want that as an uncontrolled reality. Your description of the lit makes it sound like she gets into the idea of someone dominant. I know lots of people who share that fantasy -- there's an appeal to having someone else make the decisions -- but none of the people I know would stand for being told what to do for one second. Your wife married you. Presumably she made that choice based on experience of who you are day-to-day. Be the best you for her. ;)

Thanks Pat. I like that quote "Be the best you for her" :)

[nikkim83]

Meh Just another book Women are just as into sex as men are just usually more quiet about it.

[Jaylyn]

My wife reads all the time and she usually gets turned on by some of the sexual content in the books. Lately she has fallen in love with a tv show called "Outlander" I think that's the name of it. She actually called it girl porn. After every episode it seems she is turned on big time. I consider this a plus for me. You should also if the books give her a fantasy then you will reap the rewards.