Charlotte7
11-02-2017, 06:28 AM
I'm new here. I found the site a couple of months ago, lurked in the background for a while to get a feel for it and then decided to register. I'm pleased that I did as I get a real sense of belonging. Having been a cross dresser for nearly 50 years, I have to question why now? What is it that has compelled me to open up on a public forum? I suppose the reason is that I want to be more open and honest about who I am, possibly as much to myself as others.
But, I see many contradictions in how I am. I am happy to openly admit here that I am a CD. I have a dress on as I type this. I have put up a avatar and not a profile picture. I find this to be a contradiction as an avatar is public and a profile picture is members only.
I present as a MIAD, I don't have a wig, I don't wear make-up, although many years ago I did for a while and have even had a complete transformation on one occasion (what a thrill that was). Around that time I went to a social group on a few occasions, which I enjoyed. That came to an end when I moved to another part of the country. In the new location I didn't seek out a new social group. I don't think, that at the moment I'm ready for that. I don't go out dressed.
I suppose that even though I'm in a happy relationship, I'm still very much closeted behind closed doors. Maybe I have joined this forum as I want to, ever so slightly, push at those doors.
And here is another contradiction, I consider myself to be a private person, and yet I'm happy, very happy, to share all of this with you. Also I have two friends who know about my dressing and that has worked well in both cases.
I suppose my biggest contradiction though is who I am happy to know about me. This manifests itself most obviously with my shopping. I'm not keen on doing online shopping as I don't want people knowing my name and address even though they would not know me, and yet, I'm more than happy to go into a shop and try clothes on where appropriate. I don't mind the SA knowing that I wear the clothes, but I wouldn't want them to see me in them.
I suppose what I'm saying is that where I was once sure in myself now, for some reason, that has changed. I am less content to merely hide behind the shutters, but how to open up? Is this because cross dressing is the last (?) taboo? Over my years many things in society have changed, and for the better, good example being gay rights and marriage. But, and here comes another contradiction again, cross dressing, can remain behind closed doors, but, as a CD myself, unless I push the door open, no one will open it for me.
I suppose one answer to all of this, is that I've started out on a new journey and we'll have to see where it leads.
But, I see many contradictions in how I am. I am happy to openly admit here that I am a CD. I have a dress on as I type this. I have put up a avatar and not a profile picture. I find this to be a contradiction as an avatar is public and a profile picture is members only.
I present as a MIAD, I don't have a wig, I don't wear make-up, although many years ago I did for a while and have even had a complete transformation on one occasion (what a thrill that was). Around that time I went to a social group on a few occasions, which I enjoyed. That came to an end when I moved to another part of the country. In the new location I didn't seek out a new social group. I don't think, that at the moment I'm ready for that. I don't go out dressed.
I suppose that even though I'm in a happy relationship, I'm still very much closeted behind closed doors. Maybe I have joined this forum as I want to, ever so slightly, push at those doors.
And here is another contradiction, I consider myself to be a private person, and yet I'm happy, very happy, to share all of this with you. Also I have two friends who know about my dressing and that has worked well in both cases.
I suppose my biggest contradiction though is who I am happy to know about me. This manifests itself most obviously with my shopping. I'm not keen on doing online shopping as I don't want people knowing my name and address even though they would not know me, and yet, I'm more than happy to go into a shop and try clothes on where appropriate. I don't mind the SA knowing that I wear the clothes, but I wouldn't want them to see me in them.
I suppose what I'm saying is that where I was once sure in myself now, for some reason, that has changed. I am less content to merely hide behind the shutters, but how to open up? Is this because cross dressing is the last (?) taboo? Over my years many things in society have changed, and for the better, good example being gay rights and marriage. But, and here comes another contradiction again, cross dressing, can remain behind closed doors, but, as a CD myself, unless I push the door open, no one will open it for me.
I suppose one answer to all of this, is that I've started out on a new journey and we'll have to see where it leads.