Wife hurt her back

[Wendy me]

My wife hurt her back last week and mostsure she will be done working
So takeing care of her as I should do
Less Wendy than I would be ....

I am getting comments like omg that tee shirt
Is too tight your boobs are hanging out
You need a bra ... then I say rember I
Have that all and then eye rolls ....

No two ways abought it we are going to have
To get useta Wendy here because this is
Me and can't or won't hide been wearing spigitti strap
Tees under tight tops and of corse my sexy
Undies ....tight jeans or shorts ..... haven't put my
Hair up or done makeup in a week ..
My god I feel naked .....

[Angie G]

That not good news. Maybe you could wear a nurse outfit to take care her. A short sexy one.:hugs:
Angie

[Teresa]

Wendy,
I guess these things happen , sorry to hear your wife has hurt her back will it put full Wendy out of commission for too long ?

My wife hasn't seen me and yet I get comments between possibly looking like grandma, to being a short skirted tart , I know it's a no win situation . I guess the only thing our wives have full use of is their tongues , maybe they should try biting on them sometimes like most CDers have to !!

[Joni T]

Maybe your wife would prefer to have her HUSBAND, the MAN she married for better or for worse, taking care of her. Did that thought ever cross your mind--hmmm?
Jon

[Shelly Preston]

Wendy
Please pass our best wishes to your wife and I hope she has a speedy recovery.

I guess she will now be realizing Wendy is here to stay and there is no going back

Going without make up omg I can see why that is scarey

[Stephanie47]

Maybe your wife would prefer to have her HUSBAND, the MAN she married for better or for worse, taking care of her. Did that thought ever cross your mind--hmmm?
Jon

I'll have to agree with this. I'm a retiree. My wife works part time for full days at a time. Call her semi-retired. She works when and where and for who she wants. Her schedule gives me seven hours a day when she works to be en femme. In the spring of 2016 she had a back operation which kept her home. I expected Stephanie to be on the back burner until the new school year started up again in September. Just as she was finishing up her physical therapy she got a breast cancer diagnosis. Foregt returning to work. She missed the entire school year. So Stephanie was shoved way back into the closet except for pounding on this keyboard and perusing and buying femme attire. So, that is 18 months. I will say the marital vows of 46 years ago took precedence over wanting to be "pretty." I always have made a distinction between wants and needs. Perhaps the male dna totally took over during her illness? I did feel a diminished yearning to be "pretty." It is possible to go through spates when there is no need or compulsion to be "pretty." When I was in the army there was a total lack of desire to wear women's clothing. I think there are times when maleness totally dominates.

If the marriage is totally DADT such as mine or there is severely limited time for expression I think the health and well being of the wife may be paramount. My wife is back at work on self imposed restricted duty, which has given me some days to be en femme. As a retiree I do wonder what will happen when my wife decides to just bag it and stay home. Something for all in a DADT to contemplate.

[Teresa]

Stephanie,
Wouldn't it be far simpler if your wife could accept your need to Stephanie , the care you gave her wouldn't have been any different maybe even better . We shouldn't have to be all submissive with our needs .

[Jaylyn]

Wendy I really think that some things should take priority over our dressing. Maybe it's just me but I would think taking care of a wife would be one of these things at least for a time.

[Leslie Langford]

If the marriage is totally DADT such as mine or there is severely limited time for expression I think the health and well being of the wife may be paramount. My wife is back at work on self imposed restricted duty, which has given me some days to be en femme. As a retiree I do wonder what will happen when my wife decides to just bag it and stay home. Something for all in a DADT to contemplate.

Stephanie, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the outlook for you for when your wife decides to retire full-time is likely not pretty.

I have followed your posts for some years now - and I know that you have followed mine - and it is clear that there are many similarities between the two of us and our respective marriages...age, years married, entrenched and largely unyielding DADT relationships with our spouses etc....and yet, still taking our marriage vows and our commitment to our wives and children seriously even though at times the associated restrictions can seem stifling, if not verging on the unbearable. The main difference between us seems to be that you have remained a closeted stay-at-home crossdresser whereas I have graduated on to going out-and-about publicly en femme over the last 10 years or so...and loving every moment of it.

So let me give you a little taste of what you are in for:

I retired in 2008 (not entirely by choice, but that is a whole other story), whereas my wife continued to work full time for a few more years. But as they say, when life hands you a lemon, the best response is to make lemonade. In my case, I used the opportunity of this unexpected free (and unfettered) time to explore my "Leslie" side in depth, and eventually I began to test the waters that also involved going out in public as my female persona. It was a somewhat gradual process in my case, and it involved first acquiring an extensive wardrobe of age- and occasion-appropriate female clothing, finding a local makeup artist who worked wonders in coaxing the "inner girl" out from under the drab (literally) male exterior (and who seemed to enjoy the the experience over multiple visits almost as much as I did), having my nails done, getting professional wig and bra fittings etc., and even enlisting the help of a style consultant at one point to help me refine my look.

"Those were the days, my friend, we thought they'd never end..." as the song goes. But they did...and with a resounding crash. In 2013 my wife retired. That's when the party abruptly stopped. Yes, I could certainly see the oncoming freight train heading my way, but there wasn't much I could do about it.

Fast forward to the present day...my wife and I are both retired, and together pretty much 24/7 now. Sure, she has some outside activities, but they take her out of the house maybe 2-3 hours at a time, tops. I grab whatever "Leslie" time I can during those occasions, but it is not enough time to get glammed up the way I used to, and certainly not enough prep time for going out en femme in an even remotely convincing manner. It wasn't too, too bad in the beginning...my wife would take 2,3, or even 4 days at a time to visit relatives or to stay over with my son's family to help out while his children were still babies, but this has since dwindled to next to nothing. Also, during that time, her mobility issues exacerbated, so not unlike your wife's situation, surgery (a knee replacement in her case) was required, followed by a lengthy recuperation and rehabilitation period (read: no "Leslie" time at all) which then ensued.

The upshot to this progression is that the last time I was able to get out en femme was back in March of this year when my wife went to visit her ailing brother who had suffered a stroke. That seems like an eternity ago now, and I can't begin to tell you how much I miss not having been able to do that again since that time. And so, I soldier on - hoping that at some point I can recreate even a vestige of what I had before, but at the same time realizing that this is probably in vain and that my best "Leslie" years are behind me even though the urges (and the underlying ability to pull it off) are still very much with me.

Sorry if this sounds like a bit of a "downer", Stephanie, but the way I see it, it's probably best at this point to "psych" yourself up to realistically face the inevitable barring any unforeseen miracles, and at the very least...make the best of whatever time you have left to crossdress freely and to your heart's content before that door shuts on you as well.