My super conservative mother in law gave me panties to wear.

[Allison Chaynes]

Some of you may recall a thread I started a few weeks back where I was wondering if my MIL figured out that I wore panties when she decided to randomly fold our laundry. Turns out, she did NOT.

Fast forward a week later. I told her I sometimes wear a sports bra for the compression to support my chest after heart surgery a few years ago. A little shock at first, but then, "Oh, I guess that might work."

So that brings us to this weekend. Long story, but she's trying to sell her house in Georgia and finish getting what remains of her stuff down there to her place in Tennessee where we are now. So she drove her car, and I drove her beat up Yukon, planning to hook up to her utility trailer and pull it back. 6 hours later, truck breaks down. So I limp it to the Georgia house Friday. We're both so tired we just go to bed. The next day, we meet her realtor and start working on the plan to finish prepping the house. The realtor leaves, we go rent a Uhaul since the truck is toast, and then I have my alma mater homecoming game at 2. I was rushing to get ready. I jumped in the shower at 12:45, get out, throw on a towel and realize that thanks to my statins/beta blocker-caused-inability-to-focus, I did not pack socks or underwear and have NO time to run to the store to get any.

So, with nothing on but a towel, I ask my mother in law...." um... I have A pair of socks but no underwear. It's going to be 80 degrees, and I want to wear these shorts again tomorrow when we move.Do you have any I can borrow, just for today?" She told me that she did bot have any of her late husband's clothes there anymore, and wasn't sure hers would fit, laughing. She told me she brought a brand new pack of size 9 nylon briefs, which I told her were the same size as my wife, and I had borrowed them before in a pinch. She told me, "Here then, wash them, or throw them away, whatever, when you're done." I promised I'd stop by a store on the way home from the game and replace them, which she said was not necessary. I did it anyway.

Sunday morning, I woke up. Not thinking, because I had not had coffee, I got up, walked past her bedroom to go to the bathroom. Of course I sleep in nothing but panties most of the time. As I exit the bathroom, she is walking right past me to go to the kitchen. "Oh, they did fit. Do you need some for today?" I told her no, I got three for $1.99 at a department store, and I just figured it was cheaper and easier to split a pack with her than to buy pricier men's underwear, opened the package of panties I bought the night before, and handed her a pair, telling her again, thanks.

This is a woman who is not LGBT friendly... I was shocked she actually went with it!

[Linda P.]

A package of panties shared. Something very lovely about that.

[alwayshave]

Allison, Interesting. Probably all depends on context. If she knew you liked panties, she would not have given them to you.

[Minnietheminx]

Just my opinion as a GG .....I do think although youre saying she doesn`t know, she probably does secretly deep down have a little suspicion especially if she has also come across a sports bra and now your wearing her panties. Even if you have given legitimate reasons as to why you would wear i still think she would have a niggling doubt mainly because most guys even if without undies would refuse point blank to wear your offered panties lol.....Maybe i could be wrong!! but speaking personally if you were my son in law I would have those little niggling doubts going on in my head lol. xxx

[Ressie]

Good point Minnie. And if she doesn't know, she's gonna be wondering "what's wrong with him?" in the back of her mind.

[Kas]

she's gonna be wondering "what's wrong with him?" in the back of her mind.

I don't think that's true, Ressie. Some women just think of it for what it is, an article of clothing. If Allison acted as if he genuinely needed them, I don't think there would necessarily be any reason for her to be suspicious or think anything of it. Don't get me wrong, some women may definitely be thinking that, but many would not think twice. Maybe even the fact that she is against LGBT could mean she didn't even consider it as a possibility? Anyway, if my fiancé asked to wear some of my male underwear because hers got lost or they were all in the wash or whatever, I wouldn't think it's weird for a second.

[Jaylyn]

I have worn panties for a while now. My wife knows that I have them on most of the time, but I really think my MIL whose in her late 80s would be shocked to know. I also believe that my MIL would have handed me a pair of hers but would have never suspected me of enjoying wearing them. I also think that she would have had something to tell her neighbors and they'd all get a good laugh at my expense. Probably to the point of teasing me. MIL and I have a very good sense of humor towards each other anyway and always telling each jokes. She is the best but she'd get a good laugh at my situation. Also my MILF would never think I would dress up. She is very much against LGBs, she is friendly and nice to them as she lives in a big town but she still thinks it's wrong. I think MIL do things for their son-in-laws because they feel they don't want to cause problems for their daughters. This could be your case also.

[Allison Chaynes]

Some great thoughts and insights! I can assure all of you that there was nothing sexual about it. I think it was simply a case of need, and hopefully she didn't think anything much more. If so, oh well.

[Stephanie47]

My favorite panty is Vanity Fair full coverage nylon brief, style 15712. The panty is plain. The only panty more boring would be the same style in cotton. That's what my wife wears. There's nothing sexy or really feminine about that style. Now go to style 13001 with little lace panels and we're getting into something more feminine. Through in a nice bright red in either style and you're getting into something feminine.

Yes, your MIL may mull over in her mind, "Is he or isn't he?" However, she probably is thinking she met a valid need of the moment. Actually, she may think that you are totally secure in your sexuality because you wore the panty rather than going commando.

Good thing you replace the panty with a rather dull panty rather than some sexy thong from Victoria Secret! :)

[Allison Chaynes]

Stephanie, she gave me a Fruit of the Loom nylon brief, with lace waistband and around the legs. I replaced them with a similar Hanes brief. I agree though, style 13001 from VF is one of my favorites, as well as the more plain version without lace. Which, coincidentally, is what my mother in law usually wears also.

[Leelou]

Fun story, Allison, thanks for sharing! I agree with those that think you might have outed yourself. And that's OK! She went along with it. It was just such an unusual request. Almost all men (non-CD men) would rather go commando than asking their MIL for a pair of her panties to borrow. And honestly, I can see many conservative MIL's flat out refusing that request.

She may not be LGBT-friendly in general, but you're married to her daughter and presumably keeping her happily married, so she may be more open to accepting you for who your are than you think. Best wishes and thanks again for the fun story.

[Gillian Gigs]

Quote, "My super conservative mother in law gave me panties to wear." She gave you underwear to wear, for women I believe there is a difference. We tend to differentiate how we see things by using different words. My guess is that she was offering clean underwear so if you were in an accident and were in the hospital you had clean underwear on. You wear panties because that word has a female mental image to it. Just look at the threads that talk about panties, they don't talk about underwear. Long before I came out to my wife, I remember several times needing underwear and she offered a pair of hers to hold me over until the laundry got done. I believe that underwear/panties are not a major stumbling block to most women, either that she is as thick as a brick.

[Ressie]

OK, if I were her I'd be wondering why you didn't buy a package of men's underwear instead of more women's. She probably thinks you prefer women's don't you think?

Anyway Allison, you were brave and creative for doing this. It wouldn't work for me because of the huge size difference between me and my mother in law!

[Tracii G]

See conservative people aren't all heartless and homophobic.

[Allison Chaynes]

Tracii, I agree. Just in this case, knowing her it was shocking that it was no big deal.

Ressie- I'm broke, so I explained it as simply a cost saver. Whether she believes it, honestly, I'm not too worried.

Gillian, you make a valid point. It's in our male minds that it seems so much more taboo, I guess.

[kimdl93]

Many years ago, in my late teens I came out as a cross dresser to my sister. A few weeks later, while visiting my aunt, she out of the blue mentioned that she was starting a home business selling women’s clothing and asked me if I would to order some pantyhose! I recall being speechless for a moment, and I’m sure I turned a deep shade of red, before I sputtered out a hasty no thank you.

She didn’t pursue the subject any farther....but I also know she wasn’t starting a new business!

[Leslie Mary S]

You girls are lucky.
If ANY of my Yankee kinfolk knew I dressed I would be outed from the family.
I am also very quiet around people down here in the south, hence staying in the closet most of the time.

[ellbee]

Here's something I don't believe was mentioned yet as a possibility...


So, just how close of a relationship does your wife have with her mother?

Is it possible that she may have brought up the subject, at least scratching the surface, sometime in the past? :strugglin


Women do talk, ya know. Including mothers & daughters. ;)



Though at the same time, there was a legitimate need -- with very few "good" options, in her eyes.

So, she wanted to help out, with the lesser of two evils. The panties were not *panties*, in this case... They were simply underwear.


Anyway, doesn't the OP work at some women's clothing store, or something? And I'm assuming the MIL is aware of that?

If so, then the whole panties-borrowing thing is even that much less of a big deal, really.

[Fiona123]

She may be super conservative but also seems very understanding, kind and wise.

[ShelbyDawn]

Mothers are a special breed, MIL included. They know and see things we often never realize and are far more understanding than we think. When I was a teenager, I used to “borrow” my sisters panties. I always thought I kept my little secret well hidden until I opened my dresser to get dressed one day. All my tight whites were gone and replaced with bikini briefs. Granted, they were men’s bikini briefs, but it was obvious she knew. She never said a word.

[Allison Chaynes]

Laura, to answer your questions:

1) They're not close. Not distant, just that her mom worked all the time so she wasn't around.
2) I did work at Lane Bryant a few years ago and just left VF Outlet when I moved to East TN in August. Currently working at a different retail operation, non clothing. Yes, she knew about all that, even asked once if I got discounts at VF.

MIL has no close friends, especially up here in TN. So she tells me all kinds if weird stuff I didn't want to hear about, such as going through The Change, etc.

Tonight, my wife texted me to go to her mom's house for dinner. No big deal, we just moved into a rental house last week. Afterwards, her mom started doing laundry, and perhaps it's my paranoia, but it seemed like as she was folding pants and shirts, it was like she was in a hurry, and then she took her time folding panties right in front of me like it was no big deal. I repaired a ceiling fan for her, and for once I didn't care if my panties were showing (I know they had to be). Nothing was said. I've decided I won't make an effort to come out to her, but I won't lie or hide it, either.

I should also mention her younger daughter is a lesbian married to a MTF transwoman. MIL hates it, but isn't cutting her off or anything.