3rd date

[Tracii G]

Had my 3rd date with a fellow I met 4 months ago.
Not sure where or if its going anywhere but thats OK just having the dates is nice.
1st 2 dates I was in girl mode this one was I was 50/50 mode.
He asked me to be in 50/50 mode so not a problem.
Did a few historical sites around town and visited a winery close by.
Quite a few people on the tour and we all had a fun time.
He treated me the same as he did when I was in girl mode which is what I was hoping for.
Super nice guy overall and a fun time yay !!

[Minnietheminx]

Lovely to hear hun and even if its not going anywhere its lovely to have a friend to share things with that has the same interests ...have fun!! xx

[Rosemary+]

Sounds lovelly, good luck with it

[Dana44]

Sounds nice Tracii. Hope he stays in touch with you.

[Jean 103]

Sounds good . Happy you have a friend. It takes time to build a relationship. It's great to have friends, it's not a race, you can take your time. Again I'm happy for you.

[Krea]

That sounds really great. It's good that he is ok with whichever mode you choose.
Hope it works out well for you! :)

[Tracii G]

Thanks all.
He is a really nice guy and we do have lots in common which is always a plus.
He is down for either mode I'm in but I let him choose. I don't want him to be uncomfortable in any way with my presentation.
He is 6'2" and I'm 5'4" so in girl mode it looks right anyway.

[Rogina B]

I don't want him to be uncomfortable in any way with my presentation.
He is 6'2" and I'm 5'4" so in girl mode it looks right anyway.

So,if he isn't comfortable,why cave? Seems that he is more comfortable as "straight gay"...Hold him and hug him and test him !

[paulaprimo]

he sounds wonderful Tracii and good for you!!
i'd love to double date with you... ;)

[Tracii G]

Well Rogina its still testing the waters for me.
The guy date was the best I will admit.

[Lana Mae]

So happy for you, Tracii! Best wishes going forward! Hugs Lana Mae

[Fiona123]

The important thing is that you and the gentleman are having fun together. Very important in an otherwise stressful world. It makes me happy just reading about your dates.

[Anne K]

So happy for you Tracii! Hope the relationship builds!

[Pat]

Cool! Sounds like you're having fun. I'm happy to hear that. :) Good luck.

[Tracii G]

Nice to date someone who "gets it".
No drama no needy-ness or games.

[paulaprimo]

oh!! so he "gets it"... bad girl!! ;)

[Kandi Robbins]

We all deserve happiness and it certainly sounds like you are happy! Enjoy the ride.

[sarah_hillcrest]

Glad for you, just wondering if 50/50 mode was a compromise, would he prefer 100% guy?

[Tracii G]

LOL sarah my 50/50 IS my guy mode.
No compromise on my part thats the way I am everyday he knows that.

[Ressie]

Good for you Tracii ;)

[greeneyes]

Good for you Tracy! He sounds like a nice guy. Very happy for you!

[Tracii G]

Thanks everyone I appreciate it.
Paulaprimo he just might get it eventually LOLOL.

[Julie Slowinski]

Very happy for you Tracii.

I’m sure you don’t need this, but remember that it’s still very early in the relationship - careful about letting your guard down to soon. Got my fingers crossed that your guard won’t be needed.

[Becky Blue]

Nice the hear Tracii so happy for you...

[Jaymees22]

Happy for you, even if it doesn't go anywhere it's still nice too go out with someone you like and have fun with. Good luck Jaymee

[Fundle]

1st 2 dates I was in girl mode this one was I was 50/50 mode.
He asked me to be in 50/50 mode so not a problem.


I'm new here, and showing my ignorance … what is 50/50 mode?

[Tracii G]

Fundle I dress in womens clothes everyday ie: jeans, shoes, tops light make up sometimes.
More androgynous or a bit of both genders.

Julie my guard is always on alert so don't worry.

[jennifer0918]

Yay!!!!! so happy for you darling hope everything goes well. Wow I love wine so any callers wineries drive me Krazy ; )

[Tracii G]

Jennifer there are a few in my area and the tours are always fun.
The bourbon distillery tours are interesting as well.

[toering63]

So happy for you Tracii. He is lucky to be with someone as nice as you.

[donnalee]

Glad to hear you found someone. Hope it all works out.

[JustJoni]

Very wonderful for you, Tracii!! I hope it continues to go good for you with him :)

[Elizabeth G]

Sounds promising Tracii! I wish you the best of luck:thumbsup:

[Tracii G]

Thanks again to all.

[Krisi]

Unlike Facebook, there's no "Like" button so I'll just say good for you and I hope it works out.

[IleneD]

Wow, Traci.
What a find. Go slowly and cultivate that relationship thoughtfully.
Most of all..... enjoy it. Let the magic take you where it will.

[Angie G]

hope you find what your looking for Tracii. And wishing you well. :hugs:
Angie

[Lydianne]

Tracii, this is awesome!! I'm so happy for you :). I hope the relationship develops into everything you are looking for :thumbsup:.

- Lydianne.

[Joanne Curl]

Good for you! You deserve some happy!

[Linda P.]

Happy for you Tracii. It's great to read about positive relationship news.

[Tracii G]

Oooo such positive responses and nobody is yelling at me LOLOL.

Its interesting going out as a couple after all this time.
Met him for coffee a couple of hours ago so got to have a little time together today.

[Jodie_Lynn]

Congratulations! And he is a lucky guy! I hope everything works out well. :)

[Rogina B]

Oooo such positive responses and nobody is yelling at me LOLOL.

I will as you are openly cheating on me... Are you sure he doesn't have a problem with femininity?? Are you really going to be alright with his liking of a more male expression?

[Meghan4now]

So when's the wedding? I hope you don't pick fuggly bridesmaids dresses for us :love:

[Tracii G]

No Ro I'm not cheating you LOL
He knows its me no matter how I present in fact FYI I was worried he would rather I was in girl mode all the time and not get close when we are out together as a guy couple.
Turns out he is learning how to deal with me being the girl sometimes(dressing enfemme) in the relationship.

Wedding ?? Oh my its way too early for that Meghan.
Oh and I would NEVER pick out ugly BM dresses. I would make you all wear camo coveralls.

[karrin]

Good for you Traci G, have fun and be safe. :) Karrin

[Allison Chaynes]

Congratulations Tracii.... hope it continues to go great for you!

[Meghan4now]

Oooo such positive responses and nobody is yelling at me LOLOL.

Its interesting going out as a couple after all this time.
Met him for coffee a couple of hours ago so got to have a little time together today.
Dang, my carhart's are tan.

[Kas]

GL tracii! I wish you the best.

[Lux]

So happy for you!

[Tracii G]

Just peeked in here to say thanks so much for the well wishes I do appreciate them all.

[Stacy Darling]

Mmm!!!

I'm gone for a while and you find someone new to go out with!

I'll be just fine here by myself! No, don't worry I'm Ok with it!

Stacy!

I meant to say that I'm quite happy to hear about this, the other just slipped out.
I hope that Mr.? turns out to be Mr. "Right for you", I really do. Apparently there are some nice people in this world!
Go with it Girl and best with it!

Stacy!

[Tracii G]

Stacy you and Rogina are so funny.
I never planned this it just happened. How long it will last who knows?

[deebra]

Traci does 50/50 take away from being "a girl with a guy" feeling? Doesn't 50/50 say two guys gay relationship, since he suggested it does he prefer it to you as a female? Since you are 50/50 all the time wouldn't you prefer girl when with him? Wouldn't you two draw more attention when 50/50? Are you looking forward to this going further than just coffee?

[LeannS]

Tracii I am so happy for you!!!
So WHEN are we going to meet this young man?? We have a questionnaire for him to fill out. To find out what his true intentions are??
We have questions and he has answers !!

Tracii we are just protecting our little sister is all.

Leann

[BrendaPDX]

Having a date is nice, having a second is always uplifting, and a third! I am happy for you, enjoy life and have fun! Thank you for sharing. There is someone out there for everyone; your job, find them! Take care, Brenda

[phili]

Super happy for you!
I've been wondering how much of dressing is at heart our way to attract love, and in this sense you were en femme and it didn't interfere- but wasn't the attraction, so this challenge is for your SO to keep his feelings on track when he sees you femme. But do I detect some feeling that your need to dress en femme fades a bit since you have been accepted and desired even while femme? Maybe dressing for a lover is satisfying as well. And especially a lover who has embraced your gender flexibly.

I might be having a parallel experience in that when I have had a good day out en femme I don't mind dressing masculinely for my wife.

[kimdl93]

I’m usually the one who chickens out after two dates! Hope it keeps going well, Traci!

[Tracii G]

Deebra 50/50 does for some reflect a gay relationship and thats fine with me.
To be honest I was worried he wouldn't act the same with me in 50/50 mode in public.
He treated me the same as he did when I was in girl mode.
Me in 100% girl mode does feel different in some ways but personally I feel the same way so the clothes aren't even a factor.
My presentation as a female on a date does not change who either of us are or how we treat each other.

Phili My need to dress enfemme is still there and I am not going to stop doing that any time soon he knows that.
Being free to express myself when I feel like it is paramount to me and I will give that up for no one.

[Jodie_Lynn]

Wait a sec, I'm confused: why would anyone yell at you?

I'm in a similar situation. My Mr. X and I have had 7 dates so far. I'm always in girl mode, on our dates and he is ok with it. I'd feel odd in boy mode or even 50/50. But I'm happy to hear that you are so comfortable (and him too) in whichever mode you choose.

Not that I'm pushing things, but,

When is the bridal shower???

[Tracii G]

Jodie no bridal show that I know of LOLOL.
I feel like a female all the time so modes really aren't all that far apart just the make up and fixing my hair,add a few rings and bracelets and I'm ready.
Well the clothes may be more feminine sure but I am still me either way.
Its been fun so far.

Hope your guy works out for you in the long run.

[Loveday]

Congratulations Tracii. I am really happy for you.

[Celee]

Hi Tracii. I was wondering how you two met because you know girls just love how we met stories.

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Tracii

I am glad it all seems to be going well so far.

Good Luck for the future :hugs:

[Tracii G]

BSB and Celee I met him at a small night spot with a GG friend of mine.
I wrote about it in the GM section of the forum in a thread called "admirers"
Essentially my GG friend Glenda did a set up on me.( I'm pretty sure) LOLOL.
Anyway we met and he is a really nice guy who is an admirer of MtF CDs and transgender women.
Yes I am gay to answer your question and if I were in my 20s again I would transition but at 65 I know its not going to happen.

Thanks Shelly :)