Before Joining

[TamaraD]

Just something I wondered about before joining. Do members object to non - members viewing the forums?

[ellbee]

I honestly don't care. Heck, I was a lurker, myself, before joining!


Being my first CD'ing forum I became a member of, believe it or not, I first wanted to see if it might be something for me, as well as being a good fit. And the answer is yes!

And if that description fits any non-members here reading this right now, whether CD/TS/GG/other, I say go for it! Reading & lurking can be fun & informative, but finally taking that next step by signing up is *totally* worth it! :)

[Stiletto Gurl]

I don't. I got my courage to join from reading other posts.

[Stephanie47]

I don't object. I was a lurker before joining. The subject of the number of guest vs members signed on has been discussed for a long time. I would suggest if someone wants to be secretive don't post comments that may reveal to a lurker who you are. There's also nothing to stop anyone from becoming a member and get the required posts to start perusing all of this site. I'm fairly sure if one of my family members, probably my wife, went through my posts and comments she would be able to identify me. I really do not care. I suspect there are some giggly girls or guys out there who have nothing to do than view us as a curiosity or worse. I'm sure there are cross dresser haters who also lurk in the shadows. I think many of the lurkers are MtF cross dressers who are scared to death of someone finding out. Be sure to clear you "history" when signing off.

I find it somewhat amusing if one "google's" my sign on name there is a woman on the Internet using that handle and it is definitely not me. Also, under my real name there is a gentleman who has an intensive amount of postings about his business.

[Nigella]

How else would potential members find out that this is a friendly and supportive site which is a lot cleaner than some of the so called crossdressing sites?

You must have not been bothered about viewing others contributions before you joined (https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?254013-New-member&p=4171715&viewfull=1#post4171715).

[TamaraD]

It seems a positive source of information for non-members. I just find the term "Lurker" not very inviting.

[Kayliedaskope]

In general, a "lurker" is a non-member who comes around on an open forum to look at postings, pictures, etc. They are not able to do so in a 'closed' setting, where only the forum members can see forum content. If you check the bottom of any thread, it usually shows the number of members signed on and perusing that particular thread, and also a count of how many guests or 'lurkers' are on it as well. For instance, when I was typing this post, there were nine people on this thread:three members and six guests.

And I agree that this place is a wonderful source of information.

[Jean 103]

I don't care, but without logging in as a member you are limited on what you can view on this site.

[TamaraD]

I don't think I have yet posted the required number to have mush access.

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[Piora]

Just something I wondered about before joining. Do members object to non - members viewing the forums?

Non-members have limited access to what forums are visible to them. I don't see why there would be any objections. How else would you be able to know if this is the right place for you?

[Rayleen]

Not a bit, I was reading and it gave me the confidence this was a great forum to meet friends and discuss CD and other stuff.

[Kendalli]

I don't mind at all. I looked in for a little while to see if this was the kind of forum that I really needed to help me open up and start to realize who I am. And if my posts help someone else, then I'm all for it.

[Taylor Dame]

I don't object at all. I was reading this site long before I had the courage to join. By reading, I found what a helpful and supportive group this is. I have learned a lot here and continue to do so.

[Lana Mae]

Taylor took the words out of my mouth! I have no objection and it is a good place to learn a lot! Hugs Lana Mae

[SamanthaToday]

I'm a lurker 80 % of my time on here. Only log on to comment. I look at the other boards maybe once a week. Before I registered I visited about 3 months. Think a lot of lurkers are members like myself and the remaining people deciding the next step in their lives.

[kimdl93]

Hardly. Where would we all have come from.

[Sami Brown]

I had been a member of The Gender Society, which I recommend, but was actively looking for another forum that works well on mobile devices. It didn't take long for me to decide to sign up here.

I did lurk for about six months on The Gender Society, though, before mustering the courage.

Sami

[Aunt Kelly]

Not much we can do about it, even if we did. As a practical matter, I have mixed feelings. There are things discussed here that I wish were not associated with the TG community, but with the rare exception, they are a part of the TG community and so deserve to be here as much as any other. Ever forum, regardless of topic, has it's "radical fringe" (if you will), it's purists, it's troublemakers, and it's lurkers. Compared to many online communities, crossdressers.com is a model of civility and comportment.

[Teresa]

Tamara,
I don't have a problem but it's best not to forget that it is an open forum and half the World can see what you say and the pictures you post. It is good to have some sections only open to members , the ten post rule takes out some lurkers who aren't there for the right reasons .I don't think anyone has had a bad experience being on this forum from visitors, maybe someone could ask that question in a new thread.

[Glenda58]

That's how I started 12 yrs ago

[Jennifer2918]

I was lurking for some time prior to joining. Just reading the threads gave me courage and support, which I was not getting anywhere else. I was grateful for some of the responses others were posted to posed questions.

[AubriMikayla]

I lurked around here for several months but never had the courage to post ... I finally decided to get off the pot and join in some of these lovely conversations

[TheHiddenMe]

Like many others, I was a lurker for multiple years before biting the bullet last year and becoming a poster. Like many others, I was afraid to have my identity on a crossdresser board.

And then last year I decided WTF and joined and started posting pictures--and a few months later going out. Posting on here was a step in getting comfortable.

So, no, I don't mind. Plus, there are probably a few guests who are SO's of TG partners who are looking for information. I hope our posts have helped at least one lurker/guest SO deal better with their partner.

[Charlotte7]

Of course we've got to be visible to the outside world. How else will they know we exist, what we do, what we're like, and that we offer support to all?

[Nic J]

Of course i don't mind non-members viewing. We were all non-members once!

If i hadn't been able to look at the discussions here first, i would never have decided to join. (I briefly looked at a few CDers groups on FB and decided very quickly that they were certainly not for me!) A person needs to know what sort of group they are joining.

Anyway, some sections of this forum are for members only if you have issues about privacy.

[Maria 60]

Well being this was probably my first place I openly talked as Maria, it did take me a while of lurking before I finally trusted this site. When I realized it wasn't a dating or porn site and that I was reading to what people were talking about the same problems I was going through. I knew this was a place for me but it did take awhile to take that first step, but I don't regret it.

[DIANEF]

Like others I spent a bit of time looking at this forum before joining. I had seen other forums but this one looked the best, I think I made the right decision.

[Krisi]

This forum is set up so non members (or members who do not log in) can see a very limited part of the forum. If you object to that, you should probably delete all your posts and drop out.

What many of us would object to is a member logging in and then letting random people use their computer to view the parts that non-members are not supposed to see. This is, of course, against the rules.

The bottom line is, if you're out to the public, you probably don't care. If you're not out to the public you should be very careful what you post here. Once you put something on the Internet, you've lost control of what happens to it.

[Sarah Doepner]

I'd actually prefer having the general public having access to this part of the forum as compared to the majority of other sites on the web that deal with crossdressing. The focus, respect and moderation all serve to present our stories in a much better and more honest light than you see elsewhere. This isn't to say there aren't other good sites out there, it's just there are a lot where the focus is primarily sexual and ignores the questions and challenges we face.

[AngieStone]

I suspect that we where all lurkers here at one time. For me it was very helpful to be able to just check things out before joining. I would hope that others looking for a place for support and understanding would check this wonderful site out before joining.

[karrin]

no objection here. be safe Karrin

[Ginni]

The only way to decide whether to join or not is to read what is in the forum. Prior to joining I read many Treads and liked what I read. I found people similar to me.

[Fiona123]

I would encourage folks to look before joining. I lurked for a year or add o

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