Music and emotion

[Tamsin Secret]

Hi all,

On the way into work this morning the music I was listening to made me highly emotional, literally to tears.

Do any of you relate your CD life and experiences to the words and music you hear or choose to listen to?

The emotion was so powerful, to the point I had to control myself from not breaking down :eek:

Don't panic, I'm ok, but wow it's amazing what those words and instruments can do!

Have a happy day,

Miss S

[DIANEF]

I know what you mean. There are several songs which come close to bringing a tear to my eye, though what mood I'm in at the time also has an effect. Three songs in particular; This Woman's Work (Kate Bush), Scream (Echobelly), Fit (Joe Jackson).

[Ressie]

Yes, but what does it have to do with crossdressing?

[Tracii G]

Maybe this would be more appropriate in the lounge area.
Great subject matter tho'.
Yes there are several songs that do that to me.

[Julie Slowinski]

Try the first 3 songs on the U2 album Joshua Tree and think about your tg life. Gets me misty every time.

[CarlaWestin]

There are a couple of songs that I just can't listen to because of the strong emotional effect. And I find there's sometimes more powerful emotion in the music as there is in the lyrics.

[Sometimes Steffi]

"Man, I feel like a woman. Oh, Oh."

[vicky_cd99_2]

Steffi, I feel like a woman was the song they played the only time I was on the stage at a drag show. I play jazz when I am putting on my makeup. Ressi, I guess music plays a part in at least some of our cross dressing experiences. This might not be the perfect forum but it can be made appropriate. But then I prefer the stereo on over the television.

[MindiB]

Yes there are songs that I get very emotional about because of my cancer and crossdressing that you got to keep going and work for your dreams.
I love listening to music were ever I go.

[Barbara Jo]

All music is an expression of emotions no mater what the genre or how old it may be.

Having said that....There are a few songs that can bring me to to a few tears.. if I let them as they either hit a "nerve" with me , or remind me of someone who I love very munch.
However, I try not to dwell on the negative . :)

Anyway... off hand I would say.....

One Is 'Strawberry Fields".
Another is Long Long Time - Linda Ronstadt.

[Tracii G]

Music is the link between us all in some way or another.
More than lyrics for me is the emotion of the player and how much feeling they put into it.
Some just play the piece in a technical way with no emotion others "feel " the music and pour their soul into it.

[Allison Chaynes]

I don't know about tears, but a number of Soundgarden songs, especially the past few months, hit something internally with me.

As far as my girl side goes, Garbage, Hole, and the Cardigans are my guilty pleasures.

[Jean 103]

Yes I sometimes have to turn it off or change it. It can take me to another place and time, sometimes it's good sometimes not. Last night I was listening to YES on the way home, it took me to a good time in my life.

[docrobbysherry]

Yes, as a former musician myself, I'm often struck by past emotions and memories out of the blue by a piece of music or song, heard randomly, MissSecret!:yawn:

Yes, but what does it have to do with crossdressing?
Because many of us have CD memories tied to music, Ressie!:battingeyelashes:

I will NEVER think of Heart's "Crazy on U", the same way after last May. A new T friend and I were on Fremont St. in Vegas. The other T girls had vanished into a nearby dive bar. But, we were watching a terrific live rock band perform. I was dancing and amusing the Muggles. She was taking photos of the band and me!:daydreaming:

The band quit playing at midnite. The crowd broke up. And the 2 of us were headed to the dive bar when the Fremont St. Experience began played overhead. They played Crazy on U, one of my favorites, and I was captured by the moment! I was whirling and shaking and singing like a crazy person in the middle of the street! Soon a crowd formed and began dancing and singing with me! (My friend took photos!) A nite I'll never forget!:devil:

[LilSissyStevie]

The Stabat Mater by Giovanni Battista Pergolesi destroys me everytime I hear it.

[Tamsin Secret]

So the following is what got me this morning. These 4 specific lines in the song and I was relating to how my wife must feel right now after I came out to her about my CD'ing.

Love the Way You Lie pt. 2
Rihanna

On the first page of our story
The future seemed so bright
Then this thing turned out so evil
I don’t know why I’m still surprised
Even angels have their wicked schemes
And you take that to new extremes
But you’ll always be my hero
Even though you’ve lost your mind

The words are not meant to be taken literally (the song is about violence between partners) I've just interpreted them into our situation.

The song itself is beautiful in its construction and rhianna has a wonderful voice and sings this on point. Very believable.

Anyways, that why I posted.

Look up the song. It won't be everyone's cup o tea but that's the beauty of choice! (P.s make sure you put part 2 when/if you search).


http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x2pveva


Miss S

[Shelly Preston]

here is a song which I am sure we can all relate to in one way or another.

Doris Day

"Que Sera, Sera"

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother
What will I be
Will I be pretty
Will I be rich
Here's what she said to me

Que sera, sera
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours to see
Que sera, sera


I am sure we would all love to be pretty but I am sure we don't exactly know what the future holds either.

[AllieSF]

Yes, music and songs get to me. Since I always have had difficulty in actually hearing and understanding most words in songs (modern ones) the words with the sound of the voice become another musical instrument. So, I get little to nothing from very important and great songs. However, those voices and instruments can easily transport me to a different emotional zone from happy to melancholy that many times is so wonderful. When I hear them in femme mode they sometimes have a greater positive affect on me.

[Alice B]

I have always reacted to music, sometimes very strongly. But, I have never related dressing to it. I am a very visual person and often see images or video clips in my mind that fit the music. I used to do presentations to large groups and would often have a piece of music in mind that I would design my show around.

[GracieRose]

here is a song which I am sure we can all relate to in one way or another.

Doris Day

"Que Sera, Sera"

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother
What will I be
Will I be pretty
Will I be rich
Here's what she said to me

Que sera, sera
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours to see
Que sera, sera


I am sure we would all love to be pretty but I am sure we don't exactly know what the future holds either.

When I sit down at a piano (doesn't happen very often), this is one of the simple tunes that naturally comes out. Another one is "I feel pretty". Both simple, easy to play tunes for someone that rarely tinkles the keys. A psychoanalyst might have a field day figuring what prompts these songs.

[Ressie]

I cried at the end of a romantic movie the other day. I have become teary eyed from listening to sad Country songs. I cry because all of my relationships eventually came to an end and I've been single for years now. Sad songs and romantic comedies remind me that I have no one special in my life.

So, I go shopping! Also, when I play my guitar it's played with emotion.

[docrobbysherry]

Shelly, "Whatever will be, will be", may have been true a 1000 years ago and certainly applies to some things today. But, NOT being pretty.

First off, they removed my ready to erupt appendix when I was 35. I'm 70+ now. If I had been born a 100 years ago, I would have died. Que sera sera?

Eventually, I began dressing in my 50's. But, I wanted to present as a pretty young woman. And I still do!:battingeyelashes:

My point being: In these modern times, if u want something bad enuff? U may be able to have it! Que sera no sera!:heehee:

[Ineke Vashon]

Music and crossdressing can go together. Ever since I acknowledged my own feminine feelings I've become more emotional. Songs that I've enjoyed for years with just pleasure now occasionally bring emotional tears. So, yes, I think the two go together, even if indirectly.

Ineke

[Becky Blue]

There are quite a few songs that are 'Becky's' songs, for a range of reasons they are very connected or related to that side of me. So yes Miss S i get exactly what you mean, there is one song in particular that I find hard to listen to as it makes me really sad for some unknown reason.

[sometimes_miss]

Do any of you relate your CD life and experiences to the words and music you hear or choose to listen to?
Oh, absolutely. #1: Billy Joel, The Stranger. Perhaps no other song so perfectly describes nearly all of our experiences as we progressed into crossdressing, and then, when our mate finally finds out, we learn who SHE really is. Love makes us blind to so many things about our mate's.
Take a listen, and tell me what you think:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bnlvPoDU5LY
Well we all have a face
That we hide away forever
And we take them out and show ourselves
When everyone has gone
Some are satin some are steel
Some are silk and some are leather
They're the faces of the stranger
But we love to try them on

Well, we all fall in love
But we disregard the danger
Though we share so many secrets
There are some we never tell
Why were you so surprised
That you never saw the stranger
Did you ever let your lover see
The stranger in yourself?

Don't be afraid to try again
Everyone goes south
Every now and then
You've done it, why can't someone else?
You should know by now
You've been there yourself

Once I used to believe
I was such a great romancer
Then I came home to a woman
That I could not recognize
When I pressed her for a reason
She refused to even answer
It was then I felt the stranger
Kick me right between the eyes

Well, we all fall in love
But we disregard the danger
Though we share so many secrets
There are some we never tell
Why were you so surprised
That you never saw the stranger
Did you ever let your lover see
The stranger in yourself?

Don't be afraid to try again
Everyone goes south
Every now and then
You've done it why can't someone else?
You should know by now
You've been there yourself

You may never understand
How the stranger is inspired
But he isn't always evil
And he isn't always wrong
Though you drown in good intentions
You will never quench the fire
You'll give in to your desire
When the stranger comes along.


Following that, and after my divorce learning that my chances of finding a woman who would love me including what I was, was virtuallly zero, I wound up with Gilbert O'Sullivan's 'Alone again, naturally'. And the realization that I was most likely going to be alone for the rest of my life brought me to tears. 50 years alone? Oh my god. It took years to climb out of that depression, and I still have occasional days where I just want to crawl into a hole and just disappear.
But the one that really rips my hear out, is this one: Lost in love, by Taeyeon and Tiffany of the Korean group SNSD. You don't even have to know what they're saying to feel the heartache being poured out. google for the english lyrics if you think you really need them ( search for taeyeon tiffany lost in love english lyrics and the top link will be it, I don't think I'm allowed any extra links including the two song ones), but the girls' voices tell you all you need to know about what the words mean.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0ciaYedC8Q

Well, that was the bad. Here's the good. It was during the best years of my life.
1982, first long term relationship, original song by Frankie Valli, but this one is by those same girl singers with the rest of their group: https://youtu.be/lyTzcZ696C4?t=3m10s

Pure joy.

[Alisonforme]

My name is from a song, so I guess that relates to words and music pretty directly!
And there are songs that resonate with Alison and move me deeply sometimes.

[Beverley Sims]

I hear many tunes that remind me of special events in my life, both glad and sad.

[StephanieM]

For some reason Secret World by Peter Gabriel has always made me tear up.

[Teresa]

MissSecret,
I know this comes up regular but every time it makes me think of tunes and songs that lift me up or bring back old memories.

" Leaving on a jet plane " , brings back a break up from an old GF , it was her favourite song at the time .

Then there are the tunes that just keep you on the dance floor , I have to admit dancing while dressed is far better than in drab, heels make it easier to move to the music , and feeling a dress move round your legs is something special .

One song I can't remember the title kept playing when we took our first family skiing holiday, " Until I die " is part of the title, it always makes me smile thinking about everyone falling over and just having a great time .

MissS the World would be lost without music , thanks again for jogging my memories !

[Gizmo, Debbie]

To me there is two main types of music. There is Real Music and this modern stuff that pretends to be music.

Real music is made by artists and they include emotions. it's not just what sounds good but what feels good too. Real music tells a story.
Much of the stuff passed off as music these days isn't music. It was not done with emotions in mind just sound. it's all done by somebody sitting at a computer with a focus on what "sounds good". Highly repetitive nonsense with little to no story behind it and little to no emotional content.

Two songs that always, always, put a tear in my eye are "The Hollies" with "He ain't heavy, he's my brother" and "Feargal Sharky" with "A Good Heart".

I lost my mum just back in April (to cancer. aged 60) so any song that conveys a sense of loss or a deep sense of love gets me crying. It was "Bonnie Tyler" with "Total Eclipse of The heart" just the other day that got my crying. That song never used to have that effect on me.

[Aunt Kelly]

Music is how I know that there is a Creator. I can be moved deeply by almost any form of artistic expression, but nothing can touch me like music. Vivaldi, Patsy Cline or Stevie Ray Vaughn, it doesn't matter. I don't know that it's any different for me en femme or not. It's just always there. Maybe that's because of my TG nature - more given to emotion. I know one thing though. I wouldn't trade it.
Again, thanks for a thought provoking question.

Hugs,


Kelly

[Tamsin Secret]

I have to admit dancing while dressed is far better than in drab, heels make it easier to move to the music , and feeling a dress move round your legs is something special .

Teresa,

I do hope I get the chance one day to find out :daydreaming:

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Debbie,

Sorry to hear of your loss.

I've always found comfort in Billy Joel's 'Lullabye' when thinking of those who have left us for the next world.

https://youtu.be/dcnd55tLCv8

[Teresa]

MissS,
If you were closer to our social group you are more than welcome to come and give it a try. The Xmas party is fully booked but we're having an Anniversary dinner dance at the end of January and you can get special rates for rooms at the hotel .

Go on find a frock and some matching heels and give Carole a call at Lynx Ladies .

[Majella St Gerard]

Neil Young's Harvest Moon gets to me as does John Lennon's Beautiful Boy.

[Kari_B]

It doesn't have anything do with dressing for me but when I listen to Steve Vai's "for the love of god" or anything that Chris Cornell sang I feel like crying. I'm crying now just writing this.

[April Rose]

Most recently, I was taken by surprise when the car radio played Kate & Anna McGarricle singing Billy Joel's "In The Middle of The Night" and I found my self crying. I tend to be stoic in the bad times, but can be overcome when things are beautiful. High school Bands, and choral groups, for some reason have me crying like a baby. There is something about the innocent and earnest effort that just seems so hopeful and sublime.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Miss S. :hugs:, Oh yes there are some songs that really get to me.>Orchid...:daydreaming:...

[Tamsin Secret]

Teresa,

Very kind thought. I wish I was closer :straightface:

That would be quite an entrance for a first timers outing!

[Barbara Black]

I certainly have songs that trigger the feminine in me, usually sadly, but I get this reaction to many songs that are tear-inducing. It's one of the clues to myself that shows me just how feminine I have always been throughout my life. You know, 'boys don't cry." Well, this one always has, or choked on it trying not to.

[Kayliedaskope]

As applied to my CD life, not really, except for a few that were already mentioned. "The Crying Game" always reminded me of a dear TS friend back in California about twenty years ago - I wonder where she is now.

Music is powerful. Like scents, music can trigger memories of good times and bad, take you back to the days of "remember when." Each song is a mini time machine, bringing back those memories again. How many people can remember the song played on their prom night? (Kool and The Gang, "Celebration" - am I giving away my age??). I can pretty much follow my life by what music I was listening to at the time.

As for music making me cry? Oh hell yes, girl!
(Fair warning: the rest of this post will be focusing on the songs that made my cry, and not necessarily CD'ing.)

There was a song a while back by Jeff Carson called "The Car." It was about a boy who had seen an old car (a Mustang), and had wanted it, not so much for having the car itself, but for the time spent together with his father. When the boy's father died, the boy was given a note that contained a set of keys for the old Mustang. The reason why this resonated with me so much is because, on the day the song was released, my father and I were out in the driveway under the hood of my brother's 1967 Mustang. When I contacted the radio station about the song and the memories it triggered, it turned out there were a lot of other people like me whose fondest memories were spent out under the old shade tree working on vehicles with their own fathers. And the day my father was buried, I slipped a Mustang key ring into the casket beside him and played that song for him again while I stood there and cried. "There will always be a part of us together in that car."

Another song that always, ALWAYS makes me cry is the one I played at my mother's funeral the very next year: Carrie Underwood's "I Will See You Again." It's a song about the loss of a loved one, and the lyrics (and her voice) are beautiful.

(Just thinking about both of these songs together right now has me in tears .... I miss my parents so much. :( )

There's this whole thing about 'boys don't cry', 'man up," and so on. I say f**k that. I'm crying because I'm hurting, inside or outside. It's not making me weak or any less of a man because I cry ... it's making me more complete, because I'm not afraid to show my emotions. I don't have to or need to hide that ... it's part of me ... one more part that makes up who and what I am, no approval needed.