What would you tell your younger self?

[Lea]

Nothing to serious but what would tell your younger self?

1. Get facial hair removal. Not having to shave your face will help so much.

2. Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize.

3. If you find a bra you love get several because when you go back to purchase another one they will no longer make that style.

4. It's a lot of work but oh so worth it.

[Cheryl T]

I would definitely tell myself about the hair removal. I had thought of it when I was in my 20's but never pursued it. What a mistake that was.
I would tell myself to get out and find a support group. Get the confidence in yourself early and go out in public, it will change your life.
I would tell myself to get my ears pierced already, don't wait till you're older.

Most of all I would tell myself, IT'S OK. You're not alone, you're not crazy and you're not abnormal. You are You! Just be that person and enjoy your life.

[Joni T]

I would tell mineself, "Run Forrest! RUN!"
Jon

[docrobbysherry]

Women/girls r impressed by confident boys/men. Even pretty ones!:battingeyelashes:

Oh, to do with dressing? U r not TS. U simply want to appear to be a pretty woman!:daydreaming:

[Sabrina.K]

I'd say "Don't wait. Don't fight it. Do it all now"

[Tracii G]

Lighten up and don't take yourself so seriously.

[Elizabeth G]

Don't worry - It's just clothes.

[sherri]

First I would make him aware that crossdressing is a thing, cuz I really wasn't aware. Then I would tell him that the seed of gender blending is in him, that it's legit and that it's okay. I would urge him to explore it now while the good looks of youth are on his side, but I would caution him that once he tried it it would probably always be a part of his life. Next I would coach him as to how to go about it, because in those pre-internet days information and resources were hard to come by. Then I would caution him not to get carried away, that unless he discovered after a period of exploration that he was meant to be a woman, he should try hard to maintain some perspective and balance in his life because in our society there are some serious trade-offs involved in taking it too far too fast. Then I would tell him how hot he is in a mini-skirt and heels. :battingeyelashes:

[NancySue]

#1: good advice. #2, every a.m. and p.m. 3, yes & 4 yes, definitely. I’m with Sabrina...especially “don’t fight it”...accept it, the sooner the better. It’s a part of you...for the duration...enjoy it. Remember..practice makes perfect. One more...don’t purge.

[LilSissyStevie]

Buy Microsoft and Apple

[paulaprimo]

Buy Microsoft and Apple

OMG YES!!! then take that trip abroad, and come back "a broad" :D

[MusicMeister]

Don’t worry so much about what other people think, be brave and do what makes You happy.

[BrendaPDX]

I would tell myself:
1: Don't worry, there isn't anything wrong with you.
2: You are not alone, seek out new friends.
3: You are not weird.
4: Be open, tell your girl friend before or when things get serious.
5: Be honest with yourself.
Oh, and buy the following stocks...

[Nikki A.]

A young me was living in a whole different world it seems. Maybe I would let him consider transitioning, but on the other hand I would not have married, had my kids and I would miss a lot of good times.
I do think I would advise him to pick his times and places and enjoy it more. Although, honestly, besides going out, I did do a lot of dressing on my own.

[Rachel Anne]

Go out, be yourself. Enjoy life, regret stinks.

Consider transitioning when young and live the life you want to live.

[Ina Girdle]

I would tell my younger self;

You are not a freak, you are a crossdresser and there are lots of people just like you out there.

Just own it and always buy your own stuff.

It won't go away.

Don't ever purge, it does't solve anything.

And for God's sake have the courage to tell your fiancee BEFORE you get married, she won't run away and you won't feel like such a coward.

Thanks, Ina

[Richelle423]

I would tell myself keep your head strong go see a therapist and see where things are heading.accept you who you are and don't let people and society bring you down.

[Helen Waite]

Find a better place to hide your clothes!

[StephanieM]

Invest in Amazon.com, bitcoin, Microsoft and Apple. Also quit running from yourself accept who you are and talk to your dad about it.

[Kayliedaskope]

The more you stay in shape now, the better your "shape" is going to look in something hot and sexy.

Go get those damn heels already! And practice walking in them!

Have no regrets on who you are and what you want to achieve in your life.

The only one keeping you from doing what you want is YOU.




By the way, here's a sports almanac - you may want to bet on a UCLA football game .....

[Lana Mae]

Like Nikki I had a wife and kids and put this on hold for them! I did not understand back then! I might clarify to myself what was going on with me! Tell me it was OK! I don't know exactly due to having a family if I would change anything! Hugs Lana Mae

[Shawn Michelle]

Like Nikki I had a wife and kids and put this on hold for them! I did not understand back then! I might clarify to myself what was going on with me! Tell me it was OK! I don't know exactly due to having a family if I would change anything! Hugs Lana Mae
I totally agree with the family aspect, and with what Lola Mae says. I would tell myself that Michelle is going to be a part of your life, that it's totally OK no matter what the therapist told you when you were a teen, and that she will make your life more complete and happy.
But in the back of my head, there's always that "what if" I knew more about Michelle then, would I have transitioned?

[Kendalli]

I would tell myself to embrace the crossdressing and find other people that are more like minded. To go crazy with who I want to be and don't look back.

[CONSUELO]

its not a temporary fetish and the desire to be dressed will not fade away.

Find out as much about cross dressing as you can and, if possible, consider going to a good and experienced counsellor to help with that process.

Know yourself before you get into a relationship and be open about who you are.

[sometimes_miss]

1. Get the operation. Fix your face. Getting put to sleep doesn't mean your parents want to kill you. You'll wake up after the operation.
2. Don't play with that older boy.
3. Don't go home after school. Go to your dad's school and come home with him. Do your homework there and everybody's happy. (Dad was a janitor at a different school, and my older sister was tormenting and beating me all the time after school).

Life would have been very, very different, and I would never have become a crossdresser.

[Allison Chaynes]

Get a vasectomy, now.
Don't be loyal to a corporation, it won't be loyal to you.
Mellow out.

[Tina_gm]

Stop fighting it.

[DIANEF]

Don't wait for things to happen, make them happen.....

[Jayne44C]

I would say to myself, enjoy what you are and don't be ashamed of yourself. Waiting for someone who can love ALL of won't be easy and will make for some lonely times. Waiting will be worth it, trust me.....

[Judy-Somthing]

Find a way to take photos.
I wanted to take photos when I was in my teens but since I had to send them out for developing I felt it was to risky.

[sometimes_miss]

Waiting for someone who can love ALL of won't be easy and will make for some lonely times. Waiting will be worth it, trust me.....
There are millions of elderly single people who would disagree with that. While you're waiting, life passes you by.

[michelleg]

Not to feel guilty, enjoy being more carefree and embrace the clothes and the feeling of wearing them. I always thought how great it would be if there was an older female relative who would help me with dressing and makeup. I'm not sure if that would have been something that could have happened, but I did over hear my Mom, Aunts and their friends remark how I should have been born a girl or that I would be a pretty girl. When I started wearing my Mom's lingerie, I don't think she ever knew, but maybe she did and had discussed it with them.

[Nastasha]

Do not purge, keep the appointment at Robins and tell Claire what you are looking for when you walk in.

[Tina June]

Be a Man - Tell everyone that you are a Woman!
And, it is worth the effort!

[Sheila11]

Go see the world. There is more to life than work, work, work.

[CarlaWestin]

Buy Google at IPO and lot's of it!
Don't smoke, drink and keep perfect health.
Don't marry her or her.
Start doing makeup with a young face.
Never cut your hair.

[Jayne44C]

There are millions of elderly single people who would disagree with that. While you're waiting, life passes you by.

I was impulsive and got engaged to a woman who I came out to in confidence. I believed it was the right thing to do. She really wasn't honest about being accepting. She grew to resent this part of me. It was an ugly split vs an ugly divorce. I was in a fog for three years afterwards. That's why I said better to wait. It is unfortunate that so many people don't have a spouse, S.O. or partner in life. However that happens for a great many reasons, including for us 'gurls'.

[lingerieLiz]

Accept yourself. I was young back in the 50s/60s. I was open, out, and did have SA friends that were happy to advise me. I tried on a dress once and the older SA said you need to get a full slip honey. She could see my panties through the fabric. I think I should have been accepting, but then I don't have any complaints about my life. Well time was not kind as I would like to have it been.

[Becky Blue]

Great Question

Laser laser laser and more laser get rid of every hair on your face, chest, legs and arms do it now and quickly!! do it before you meet your wife who would have met you as a hairless person

[Dana44]

I would tell him get laser and do it now. Also buy stock young. And it is that you are in a fix that will be with you for the rest of your life. Yeah I did not know that when I was young.

[IleneD]

Very difficult question to answer.

I would tell me "Hang on. Everything will be OK. You're OK. It's not what you think. It's more of a gender thing and not a sexual thing. And BTW, you are going to experience good fortune and an amazingly good time in ife. You won't ****ing believe how good a thing you'll fall into."

I think I'd like to explain to that young lad what exactly he was experiencing in terms of feeling feminine, and to not fear it. And for crying out loud, start earlier than full retirement. Don't torment yourself with life long denial. You are who you are, with all the same talents and gifts that God has granted you regardless of gender.

[Lux]

- You are not alone
- there are more and more accepting women out there as the times change.
- do not limit yourself to staying at home, go out and explore the world (but play it safe)
- view a thousand YouTube make up tutorials and practice,practice,practice.
- instead of buying five cheap $40 wigs, save up and get one good quality $200 wig.
- take as many pictures of your skinny ass before you start adding pounds on as you get older!

[Christina89]

I would tell myself to tell the truth the first time when my mother found the stash I had. Life might slightly be different. Maybe she'd be more accepting of my life in crossdressing. I love it and feel if I told the truth at the beginning then my mother would have treated me as a son and the daughter she wanted.

[Aunty_Hazel]

"**** 'em if they don't like it."

[Beverley Sims]

Do laser, keep taking the pills, buy up all those stocks that you take a retrospective look at and life should be great.

Yes on reflection, everything that has been said in previous posts.

[Connie D50]

I'm 62 I would say your not alone. (no internet back then )

[NicoleScott]

Take advantage of your youth while you have it. It won't last.
Get a good digital camera with timer and/or remote shutter, tripod, and good lighting.
Dress up to please yourself, not others' expectations.

[alwayshave]

I would tell my self: You are not the only CDer; Keep you weight down; and Avoid my ex-wife at all costs.

[Krisi]

"What would you tell your younger self?"

It's been said but "Buy stock in Microsoft".

We can all look back at our lives and wonder how things would be if we had done this differently or that differently but we don't have the luxury of making those changes at this point.

[Karen RHT]

Looking back, perhaps I should have told myself to accept it, explore it, use good judgement, and enjoy it.


Karen

[oh to be rachel]

Someone said.

Stop fighting it.

So true.

[Rowan Ailbhe]

Oh....we would have some long conversations....on many subjects.

and I would now have more money than God and Garth Brooks combined...

[BillieS]

Yes to moisturizing and bras! I'd love, then and now, to have no facial hair, but I'm enough of a baby, then and now, that I don't think I could deal with the discomfort. Am I wrong about that?

And, oh yeah, the work is very definitely worth it! Wish I'd seen that even sooner.

[Pat]

I'm thinking on it... The long, circuitous path that I've taken to where I am passes through many events that I would not be willing to give up. So if I were to say anything at all to my younger self it would just be "you'll do fine." ;)

[audreyinalbany]

I would tell my younger self that it's okay to go ahead and leave the house....the world won't end

[Territx]

This is such a great question/thread!!! The 3 things I would say that are not of "financial benefit" are:

Have fun!!! -- work will be there tomorrow, family and dressing time will not always be there.
You are not alone -- like so many others, I started pre-internet and did not know what this was or what I was doing.
"I told you already: Have fun -- with this!!!"

[StaceyJane]

Don't be afraid

[rachael.davis]

if I had five minutes with me at age 20
You're transgendered, God isn't going to fix you, and She's kind of ok with you - please start transitioning.

[Mickitv]

Love who you are because changing who you are is near impossible.

[Stephanie43]

I would tell my younger self that this is a legitimate subject and you’re not weird or abnormal.

Find a group of like minded people and actually go out en femme together.

Possibly would have moved away from family just to have the freedom to be Stephanie.

Would have came out a lot sooner in order to experience more.

I’m sure there are more, but these are what jump out at me.

[ChubbyLeahCD]

I would tell myself that it’s OK that I like to be girlie and that I should embrace it sndnnot be ashamed.
Would have made life so much easier!

[Confucius]

I had several opportunities to dress up in my youth and didn't take them. I regretted it ever since. In my first job I worked in an office where I was the only male. We had a Halloween party where one woman suggested I dress as a woman at work. She thought that dressing me in a formal gown would be fun. Others, including my boss, also encouraged me to go along with her suggestions. Of course I was too afraid to do that, so I turned it down. Ever since then I dreamed about what could have been. I would tell my younger self to always take advantage of opportunities that present themselves.