Do you have a Trans-Gal BFF who you enjoy chatting with often on Facebook?

[nikkiwindsor]

Do any of you ladies have a trans-gal BFF who you enjoy chatting with often on FaceBook? And if yes, what do you talk about?

[Shely]

Sadly no i only have the forum here to discuss my interests in dressing.

[Micki_Finn]

Nope, I’m not a big Facebook-er

[Jaylyn]

That's a hard question to answer as I have many friends on Social media I chat with but they don't know I'm a CD so unless my friends should tell me they are I would know. Not something we often discuss. I've often wondered though if there is a site where other CDs go to visit one on one? Besides commenting on pictures.

[Kayliedaskope]

On Facebook, no. Here, yes!

[Becky Blue]

I think having a Trans BFF is a wonderful thing to have, whatever source of social media that works for you to interact. We all need other like minded people to share our journeys with and if one can be lucky enough to get close to someone all the better.

[nikkiwindsor]

Well, I certainly need to revise my post, considering the insightful notes shared so far...rather than focusing on FB alone, do you have a BFF that you regularly (say several times per week) chat with via any social media and if so, what do you discuss...just how deep is your friendship?

[AllieSF]

I do not use Facebook. I do not have enough time since I spend way too much time here. However, I do have several very close trans friends. We talk about everything. With one we talk about life and current event topics. With the other it is similar, but we do spend more a lot of time talking about next steps in the trans world. I do not mind doing that for now, but long term, no, because it is only a part of the journey to being ourselves. I prefer conversations on life in general and how to be successful living in the real world without anyone's trans-ness muddying the waters.

[Jean 103]

My FB friends are friends I have met face to face, it's a rule of mine. None of which are TG.

My BFF is a GG. We are very close, talk or meet every few days. I regularly spend the night at her house. I'll be going with her and her boyfriend to Christmas dinner at her parents.

I have a number of very close friends none of them are TG. Like Mr. K, he just texted me. He is having a rough time again, so I'm going to see him tonight.

There is a TG support group I go to once and a while. They are not what I consider friends, just people I know. But if I have any TG issues I know I can go there as they meet once a week. There is one girl there I was supposed to meet for coffee sometime, we just have never gotten together.

Then there is this place. There are a few I have traded emails with.

[Meghan4now]

Just one???? Many of the ones I converse with most I've met in person. Life, faith challenges fashion, places we've been, funny stuff, sad stuff. You know, life in general. Some are full Trans, some are CDs, all are great.

[Tracii G]

Sure I chat with some of my trans GFs on my female FB page and its usually about whatever the topic of the day is.
I also chat with GGs that are friends on my female FB page and again whatever is on their mind.
Could be clothes or shoes or husbands whatever LOLOL.

Keep in mind I don't make a point that I am trans or force the fact I am trans on my page I'm just a girl there.
Sure I don't hide what I am I just don't force my lifestyle on anyone.
I do show support for my trans GFs and treat them as women all the time.
If they want to be FB friends I am fine with whatever gender they are.
My GG face book friends treat me like a woman because thats how they see me and how I interact on my page.
Its all girl all the time.

[Teresa]

Nikki,
I have many now but I don't do social web sites, I chat in reality.

So what do we chat about , a combination of male topics and female , that's the great thing about being TG we have so many aspects to our being .

I meet up and have a game of golf and we chat mostly about members in our social group but we also have to discuss everyday matters like running a home , where we shop problems with our cars and where we just saw a great outfit !!

[Julie Slowinski]

I started on Facebook about 2 months ago - using Julie the crossdresser as my identity (I don’t have any other Facebook accounts). I friend only other crossdressers and trans women. It’s actually a community very similar to cd.com. The main difference is there is more focus on pictures and a massive amount of politics. One of my main objectives is to meet new people and in particular crossdressers interested in going out. In that regard Facebook has been quite successful. However, before meeting up with anyone, there is a period of private messaging tot find out if there is a connection (do we have the same objectives, availability etc).

Those that I have had a connection with and/or have gone out with I will usually do a lot of chatting with regularly. Talk about planning future outings but also just regular stuff (wife problems, hey what do you think of this outfit or these shoes I just bought).

Probably a third of my fb friends are trans women. I chat with them at times but much less often - we definitely have less in common so it is harder to keep the conversation going. Sometimes the conversation will devolve into them trying to convince me that I should transition, which is not cool but understandable in the sense that they think my journey should be the same as theirs. It’s funny, cuz they really think they are helping and cannot see that they are creating more confusion than clarity. It’s a good thing I’m quite confident and happy with just being a simple crossdresser. They are not all like that but it has happened more than once. There are also some trans women that despise crossdressers and think we are all perverts (there actually are a lot of crossdressers on Facebook that are quite open and a bit aggressive about their fetish side, so it’s not surprising that these trans women feel this way). Their posts are hurtful, but I have had a few successes in convincing them that most crossdressers are good people. Again, most trans women are not of this opinion, but it does happen often.

In summary, Facebook is a crazy zoo with all combinations of all kinds of people. But, let me say again that politics permeates everything. So, if that sort of thing bothers you, you might want to stay away. If you want to try it out, let me know and I’ll set you off with some nice people as initial friends.

[CrossKimmy]

I'm actually looking for friends I can chat with on Skype.

[docrobbysherry]

I have a good T friend. But, since we're both guys, we don't chat about much online or texts. Most of our talk is about where and when we r going somewhere. I find men aren't real good at chitchat. Including most here and on my Sherry FB Page. :straightface:

To be honest, most of my chats on FB r with GG's. :battingeyelashes:

[Teresa]

Sherry,
Men don't chitchat !! Want to bet? My phone calls with Carole can go on for an hour . I feel my threads and replies go on too long , I really do need to communicate but must admit face to face is the best way .

[Rachelakld]

We meet regularly for coffee, not really into social media.
We talk about clothes, science, kids, pets, make up, sex, hair, cars, Trump, North Korea, global warming, our next trip away with our wives

[vicky_cd99_2]

Facebook is where I go to keep up with family, friends and old Vets I was stationed with. No of which know who Vicky is. Those who do I see face to face. We connect through Flikr or Fetlife as to where we are going to meet up for lunch or go out somewhere. Or we just call or text.

[Tonya Renee]

No FB chat for sure! The risk involved with friend suggestions to others is just too great for me to create an account. I do have a couple of great Tg friends that I correspond with by old fashioned email. I guess that shows my age but there is no risk involved with the new snail mail!

[Rayleen]

No, I don't, but 95 % of my friends are female, Which I get along better and they are friendlier .

[alwayshave]

I have no femme FB account. But I do privately converse with individuals I have met here.

[rachel_rachel]

Not a BFF but I do know a few that I chat to.

[Ressie]

Yes, kind of. We talk about shopping, clothes, photos etc.

[Karen RHT]

I don't go anywhere near Facebook but I do have friends.


Karen

[Dr.Susan]

I have a several, a couple from here are banned, the others just don't show up here anymore and a few I have met in person as well.

[NicoleScott]

Not on FB, but I have a forum friend to exchange PMs with. At first, we discussed common interests in crossdressing. Now I'd guess 50/50 CDing interests and non-CDing common interests (hunting, fishing, life, etc.).

[Krisi]

I waste far too much time on Facebook (and crossdressers.com) but the important thing to keep in mind is, many folks aren't what they seem to be on social media. It's pretty easy to make up an identity and fool others.

I am strictly male on Facebook so no, I have no girlfriends or boyfriends on social media.

[Rhandi Spencer]

Nikki,
This is a great topic. I use facebook and have had a FB page for Heidi Spencer I use it a lot.
However the few friends I have that are Trans I use email. I have met all of them on this forum.
One friend we talk about makeup and my lack of skill, the other friend who I am very close with we talk about everything, weather, health, daily activities etc. I treat her as a woman mainly because that is who she is to me, I have never known her as anyone else. As lives have changed over the last few months I have supported her in all areas of her life as she has allowed me too. We look forward to the day we may meet. For now, it is fine being pen pals.

[Kayliedaskope]

...... the important thing to keep in mind is, many folks aren't what they seem to be on social media. It's pretty easy to make up an identity and fool others.

This is very true. I'm MUCH cooler online ..... :)

[jennifer0918]

I have only one trans BFF and I met her on my space. So our friendship has lasted for many years. I came out to her a couple years ago and this only made us closer. We chat about make up, cloths,shoes,and relationships mostly hers. Never once has tried of "convincing "me to transition. She respects my journey is one that I must navigate the best way tailored to my objective and ultimate goal. She crys with me telling me she's happy that all her struggles in the beginning made it easier for gal like myself to be able to venture out into the world .
We have plenty of girl time at the mall or go for coffee at Starbucks. We grow together and our friendship has lasted over 10 years.

[Shelly Preston]

I think with any friend you can have long conversations be they female / transgender or a guy.

Some of my conversations can last 2 or three hours.

The longest with allowances for going to the rest room was Fourteen Hours.

We talked about everything and anything.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I have a couple of trans-gal BFF, but I don't FB. We talk by email, text, phone and FtF.

[DaisyLawrence]

No. I don't do facebook (Mark Z has enough money without my help). I try to live in the real world but there are few (if any) transgender/non-binary people that I can identify with around my rural area so I come here to interact with likeminded individuals and that uses enough free time!

Daisy x

[Sarah Doepner]

I try to keep up with a couple dozen trans people on Facebook, some of them I know in real life. But for quality social time I try to meet in person. Being in a local support group helps with that and gives me the chance to touch base with them, and a few of us use that as a platform to get together more than just once a month at the meetings. We talk about nearly everything by the time it's all said and done.

As for gender identity issues, I tend to keep that between my counselor and myself or post occasional questions here. I have talked about these things with my best friends but I try to reserve that time for talk about other things if possible. I've been working through a lot of personal questions recently and don't want to put my friends in the position of counselor, I'm happy to have them as friends.

[~Joanne~]

I usually write short books, back and forth, through email, if it's a really good friend, then we chat on skype but I never use facebook for anything CD related. Especially if your not out to the whole world and don't plan on doing so in any part of the future.

[Cassandra Lynn]

Your post took me back to some really wonderful times Nikki, so thank you.
Well, they were wonderful times that came to an end for unfortunate reasons, but they still evoke happy times.

She is now, mostly transitioned, but due to tough real life events has put the final surgery on hold, but I always considered her as female. I had known for a few years by that time that I was TG, and i resided at the middle of the spectrum (which for me meant transitioning was often thought of but never fully accepted), but none of that mattered.

We met on another TG site and this goes back 8 years. It started out as just a few on site PMs and grew from there. We began chatting on Yahoo messenger and one night she told me she had very strong feelings (of the emotional variety) for me.
(she being happily married to a cis-woman, living in England and me single, also oriented towards females and living 7,000 miles away)

I gave it a days thought and realized I cared for her a great deal too, and so we kinda thought of ourselves as girlfriends - emotionally attached; there was never any sexual overtones. She made it clear she loved her wife fully and was not cheating.

Long story made shorter........ we nattered for hrs. each day/evening, as the time difference and our RLs allowed.

What did we talk about? Life, our respective days, world events....just basic stuff. Sometimes it was deep and sometimes we just made each other laugh.
We'd be on the forum and be YMing at the same time, often being catty (in a kind way) about the girls on the forum.

Unfortunately life changed, and we only just conversed again a month or so and the old spark is gone.

Ugggh, sorry for all that.........:straightface:

[Rogina B]

Facebook "done right" can be a nice way to keep up with the lives and thoughts of people you know as well as know of. I have met many people that later became FB friends,and some friends of theirs I met along the way. Yes,we get very political because most all of us are on the same page. Most always,people use their real name and I can reach them by phone as well as them with me. I steer clear of people that have a zillion friends and post a zillion pictures..They have enough fans already,I don't need to be one more. I do have few friends that message back and forth when the time works right for both of us.

[Tracii G]

I keep my amount of friends on FB to a small manageable level.
I regularly interact with may 20 or so on a more personal level.
I must be pretty cool because Rogina is one of my FB friends but shhhhhh don't tell any one.

[Becky Blue]

Social media in the right context can be wonderful, I have managed to go out for girls nights out on more than one occasion with friends that I 'met' through social media got talking and eventually got to meet..

I think that the label on FB of friend should rather be more along the line of a FB Contact, from my list of hundreds of those perhaps I have 20 friends...

[Rogina B]

Becky, I can scroll down my friend's list and know who they are and how they got there. I agree that for most people,"contacts" is a better description. And I am serious in keeping the "fictitious names" to a bare minimum. Imagine how few people would be using this forum if an actual name was used !