Looking vs Feeling

[Becky Blue]

I was having a very interesting discussion today with my friend Nikki Windsor. Whilst we have many things in common, we also have some big differences when it comes to dressing. Please excuse my use of the first person.

Nikki is an all or nothing Girl, when she dresses, she goes full on and spends a lot of time and care to perfect every aspect of her look. She loves makeup specially her eyes. Nikki needs to look as much like a woman as possible in order to feel like a woman and is always glamorous and dressed to perfection.

Becky is very comfortable with some very basic makeup (or none at all) and a very casual fem look. She can feel very much like a women without needing to dress as one, as she feels that GG's often go without makeup, so she really likes to feel that she is just doing what a GG does most of the time, even if this means avoiding mirrors. Of course like any GG, she loves getting all glammed up for an outing or a special occasion.

So for example Becky will use any opportunity to sleep enfemm, she loves the feeling of lying in the dark or waking up in a soft nightie. Nikki will not sleep enfemm as she can't sleep in makeup.

So Girls are you a Nikki or a Becky?

[nikkiwindsor]

Yes, I'm a Nikki and proud of it!! :)

[sometimes_miss]

I'm not exactly sure. I think that we all will do whatever it takes, to, in our own minds, tick off the box that indicates 'female' when it comes to declaring what we are. That may also change from day to day; one day maybe it includes shaving everything. Another, just wearing panties and a bra under whatever outer clothes will be adequate. For while I don't wear make up because I can't see it, I DO spend a lot of time getting my manicure just right, with rings, bracelets, and a watch only appropriate for a girl. As always, the devil is in the details.

[Esther Latour]

I must go with Becky. I sleep in a nightie, with my satin and lace eyemask but I do not even own any make up at the moment.

[alwayshave]

Becky, I am somewhere in the middle. I don't go out with complete makeup and if I am dressed, I wear a dress. However, I will sleep in a nightgown without makeup. I guess it just depends on the circumstances.

[Ariana225]

I'm going with Becky as well, it takes a long time to perfect everything in the total image, where I can feel like a girl when I sleep in a nightgown and panties

[Terri_Cross]

Most definitely more of a Becky for me. Years ago, I wouldn't have been totally opposed to a Nikki though.

[Jaymees22]

More of a Nikki but from time to time a little Becky thrown in. I have never slept fully enfemme, sometimes panties though.

[Samantha981]

In between. I get so little Samantha time, that now when I do I want to go out and will do up the full glam makeup - frankly feel I need the glam to just cover up the man face :) . But I do like to trade between dresses and heels out and more typical GG outfits - skinny jeans/leggings with long blouses, and flats. When home during Samantha time, I'll dress simply, and sleep after washing the glam off in a nightie gown.

[rachelatshop]

Hi Becky, As much as I would love to be a complete girly girl like Nicky, if that were the only way I could feel girly, I would go for long period of time between ever feeling the girl in me. Therefore no only do i under dress almost every day but at every opertunity I will add girls clothes to complete the outer girl, and only every few months do I get to go full out to be the girly girl complete with makeup.

[Rachael Leigh]

For me being an almost fulltime girl I need some makeup as well but I also sleep enfem without makeup.
everyday I wear women’s clothes at home without makeup because don’t care for guy clothes.
So I guess I’m in between Becky and Nikki
Rachael

[Dana44]

I am mostly a Becky yet I get mam'd an out a lot. So sometimes I am Nikki. but I sleep in fem lingerie a lot.

[Becky Blue]

To clarify slightly Dana, I would never step out unless i was properly made up and dressed. I love doing my makeup properly, I love being glammed up too at times, but i don't need to do that to feel femininne.

[Dana44]

Yeah I do makeup on when I go out. But with a clean shaved face and maybe sometimes when not shaved I get mam'd in male clothes for example. But I have long hair and try to keep it nice..

[AllieSF]

I am like Becky except for the nighty. I am comfortable getting dressed up more formally, which I do a lot for my 2 theater subscriptions and all those other outings, and use minimal makeup most of the time and stay away from too much makeup. I am also very comfortable as me, being me, going with minimal touches. I never felt "girly" because I really do not understand that term. I always feel like myself and am comfortable and out with that feeling.

[Emma S]

I'd have to say more of a Becky right now although that's probably more because of lack of supplies at the moment. If I had more to work with I'd probably be more of a Nikki. I want to see more of a woman staring back at me in the mirror than my male persona.

[Shayna]

Ideally a Nikki, but more often a Becky for practical purposes.

[Teresa]

Becky,
I'm more of a Becky !
Everyday is possibly more difficult than dressing to the nines, it's something I'm having to really think about when I move into my new home . Dressing will be almost everyday, waking up (in a nightie ! ) and doing basic makeup, slip on suitable clothes to walk the dog . The rest of the day taken up with household jobs and hopefully some gardening and possibly off to the shops to get my basics for the day .

I love getting dressed up but like many GGs there is a time and place , being a Nikki all the time isn't practical , I won't totally blend in which has been kicked about the forum for years , we know there are signs we give off . The question is will I be a man or a woman well the simple answer is I'll be Teresa whether it be TG or TS I will still dress as naturally as possible .

[Lilly Diadem]

Becky for me.
I don't have a wig or wear makeup anymore but I do generally sleep in a nightgown most nights.
There is no desire to go out dressed anymore so the requirement to pass no longer exists.

Smooth legs and painted toenails are the extent of my (semi) permanent dressing traits and strangely although I love dressing I find long nails and long hair infuriating although a wig was fine but when I did wear one it was removed as soon as I left the 'public' eye.

I have experienced being a Nikki for a couple of years around 20 years ago when single and a little over half my current age but my strong male frame and features would make it very difficult now even if I desired it.

At this time feeling is more important than looking and whilst I am lucky enough to have a SO that will be supportive on whatever I want to do, I am comfortable and content with my current lot.

[rachel_rachel]

I'm going to straddle the fence here and hope I don't get caught!
Bit of both to be honest.. recently I've only been dressing when im able to go the whole hog. Make up us just as much a part of it as the clothes are..

in saying that, I sleep in lingerie or nighties and have done so for a number of years. So even if I have a weeks or more growth on my face, im still feeling girly if I'm not looking it it.

[Isabella Ross]

I'm a bit of both. Like you, Becky, I always sleep in a pretty nightie and panties, but never with a wig or makeup...it's just the way that I prefer to sleep. But any time I dress during the day or to go out, it's only completely. Makeup, accessories, hair, etc. I'm all in, or all out. My particular flavour of transgenderism allows this...I'm one of those who is pretty comfortable in my man body, and, with the exception of my preference for nightwear and what I wear under my man clothes, I typically dress fully once a week on average.

[Georgina]

I'm a Becky. I wear only female clothes after work and a nighty every night, no make up. I don't want to waste all that time as I don't feel feminine. I just feel great.

[DaisyLawrence]

I'm Becky but love to be Nikki once in a while.

[nikkiwindsor]

My friend Becky has me pegged...I'm totally addicted to physically presenting myself as feminine and glamorous as I can achieve. If, outwardly, I don't see myself as feminine as possible, I'm really bothered by the misalignment between how I feel (a woman) and how I look without makeup (a man)...I really need to have harmony between my inner feminine soul and spirit and an outer feminine appearance.

[jemima_bates]

A well put question!

For me: Nikki all the way. No (or little) makeup = No Jemima. I want to banish every last vestige of my male self when I dress.

It's all about the glamour, really.

Jemima
x

[natalie edwards]

Definately all or nothing! Makeup, wig, nails, and hairless. From there bra and panties but maybe a dress, or a,skirt, or pants. All my girl shoes are heels.
Bedtime will be a cheap wig but decent looking, same makeup and a nightie or baby doll.
For me, what's the point if I don't try to look my best?

[Charlotte7]

I'm Becky. For me it's all about feeling like the girl I am rather than trying to look like a girl I can't be.

[Elizabeth G]

Hi Becky,

I'm one of those that falls somewhere in between. I underdress daily to maintain my sanity but when I have the opportunity to fully dress them it's all or nothing. Pads, forms, corset, full makeup,wig, nails - the whole nine yards.

Elizabeth

[paulaprimo]

i'm probably a combination of both...
at home, i am a Becky type. just wanting to "feel" enfemme with little or no make up
and a very casual look.
but when i go out, like my poker game i'm an "all in" type of girl and a Nikki type...
not only do i want to feel enfemme, i want to look the part.
i have to be dressed from head to toe, hair, nails and make up spot on, jewelry, the whole nine yards.

[CarlaWestin]

I'm alternately both. It's been a long road and after I noticed that the two dimensional images were extremely impressive, in video I still walked like an ape and appeared to be a man with too much makeup.
So when I'm not going for a particular look I find that minimal everything works wonderfully. Passable is mostly attitude and the fact that no one really cares anymore.

[Lana Mae]

I am sort of andro right now! Male look is with nail polish and bottom half is feminine jeans and shoes(flats or sneakers)with male tee shirt on top(embellished)! At night, feminine sleep shirt and panties. If I am en femme it is all the way! Just being me! Hugs Lana Mae

[faltenrock]

I'm the Nikki kind of girl, trying to kook as best as possible.

[Jen60]

I agree with Nikki. Anything less, and I’m just a MIAD, and it doesn’t work for me.

[DIANEF]

I'm in the Nikki camp, all or nothing when I dress. But....if I was doing this thing on a much more regular basis there may be times when I would keep it simple (indoors only of course)

[NicoleScott]

I'm a Nikki. All or nothing, full femme transformation head to toe. I love makeup, and love TO make up, emphasizing eyes and lips. In many of my posts I refer to my "dressup sessions". A few hours of dressup fun and excitement. Session dresser, not a lifestyle dresser. Not a girl, but a guy who likes to dress up at times.
When the session is over, it all comes off. I don't sleep en femme.
If the Byrds were Nikki-type CDers, they would have added a verse "A time to dress up, a time to sleep ...", but that's not in Ecclesiastes. Invoke poetic license and add it. ha

[BillieS]

I'm a Becky. I like being feminine all the time, whether casual clothes or nightgowns at night. But it's nice to be Nikki from time to time!

[Robertacd]

I don't need makeup or even need to be wearing a single article of women's clothing to feel feminine.

Drag or drab, I am still me.

[Genni]

I'm more of a Becky. I underdress always to maintain the connection with my inner femininity and dress andro in my daily life (i.e. almost always in women's jeans and shoes or boots). My daily work wardrobe is male other than women's mostly andro-looking ankle boots. I have a fair start at a makeup kit, but have only dabbled with it. Makeup just doesn't feel necessary to me. It's definitely about the feel more than the look.

[Krisi]

Well, I'm "Krisi". I don't wear a lot of makeup (neither does my wife or most of the women I know) but when I become Krisi, it's all the way. Wig, boobs and butt. Sometimes I dress casually, sometimes more dressy. I don't sleep as a woman for several reasons.

[Helen_Highwater]

I to am somewhere in the middle. If dressing at home then definitely no makeup. Wig and forms and depending upon just how much time I have, corset and hip/bum padding.

If heading out then even that can be a two stage process. Daytime shopping etc. then padding, corset etc. Usually flat shoes/boots but makeup will be as light touch as possible. If going out in the evening to dine or socialise then heavier makeup, especially around the eyes and it goes without saying, heels.

[josie_S]

I'm a Nikki, but with a girl next door aesthetic. The main thing is that I try to dress age and event appropriate. Nothing would get ME clocked faster than trying to look like a college girl or in a mini and stilettos in the mall. There's nothing wrong with any of that, but I have to present "as if" as much as possible since to me what matters is blending in and presenting as a woman. But yes, always with a little Nikki Windsor glam :smug:

[Rowan Ailbhe]

It used to just be about the clothes....but as time has gone on, the clothes and the makeup are still important....but it is more just me now. More and more female at heart.

[audreyinalbany]

I don't know if this qualifies as "all or none': usually minimal makeup unless I've got an extended period to stay dressed, but fun-on women's clothes, wig, forms and all. Usually a little lipstick is all I have time for. While I love to do the full make up and eyes, usually don't have time for it

[Lacy PJs]

As it is wath many threads like this, it seems to me that it comes down to the reason that one likes to dress. I'm in the Becky category since I'm into the feel of the material against my skin and do try to avoid mirrors at all costs. I don't want to be a woman, don't want to pass and I don't need anything other than the feel of soft nylon and lace against my skin.

I might get banished forever for saying this but if guy's clothing were made out of the same materials, I'd probably be OK with wearing that. But since it isn't, I'm also OK with the occasional nightgown, baby doll pjs or a leotard & tights from time to time.

Lacy PJs

[Steph_CD_62]

I am just like Becky, however I do not wear any make-up or a wig.

[nikkiwindsor]

True to myself as usual...just spent 1 1/2 hours this afternoon getting ready...it really is all the way for me!

[Becky Blue]

Some really great responses, thanks everyone. At times I do love to be a Nikki and take a lot of care and attention to my look when I go out and even on occasion dressing in. But to again highlight an interesting difference between Nikki and Becky. My 2nd most recent outing involved going shopping at a huge centre across the city from my house (my avatar picture in a blue top and my woman's jeans). My outfit was selected with blending in mind. I suspect Nikki does not even own woman's jeans and is a skirts or dresses only Gal.

[Nikki A.]

Well I'm also named Nikki so I need to stand up for a fellow Nikki. At least once a week I like to go all out and GO OUT. Most times at home though I just dress casual, leggings or a skirt, no make up or wig, bra optional and that makes me happy also. I guess that makes me a "Beckki"

[DavinaCD]

This has opened my eyes a little. I've always told myself (as someone who wants to develop my dressing), that I would need to go all the way with makeup etc if I was to do it properly. What ever properly may be to myself...it's interesting to see for so many of you it's nothing like that. I think it's something I'd play with but I can imagine me with a full face on so to speak.

[Ginni]

I am like both. I love to fully dress with nylons, heels, makeup, and jewelry. I also like to under dress and find it just as satisfying. Sleeping in a silky nightie is fantastic,

[Judy-Somthing]

Forty years ago I would use very little makeup but, lipstick was a must.

Now forty years later I find if I don't do foundation, contouring, lipstick, eyebrows, eyeshadow, etc. it's not a pretty site.

I tried on a few dresses last year and didn't have time for makeup and when I looked in the mirror, (NOT GOOD) I looked like uncle Bob in a dress.
I came close to Purging everything! It's probably the vision my wife gets of me when she thinks of how I would look in a dress.

[Richelle]

I am more of a Becky than a Nikky. I only sleep in femmin pajamas but like Beckcy love getting all glammed up for an outing. However with or without makeup I feel femmin and believe that my true self is being a woman

Richelle

[Becky Blue]

Interestingly even when I am getting all dolled up to go out i do attempt to look my best and I do take some effort to do my makeup properly BUT it is nowhere near the effort and attention to detail that Nikki puts in. For me near enough is good enough. So even when I am being a Nikki I am actually more of a Becky!!

[Stephanie43]

I’m Becky. As you can see from most of the pics I post, I’m a pretty casual girl. I don’t go out in public dressed, so I don’t go all out with the glam. But even in my casual style, I put on makeup (mainly to practice different looks), my wig and casual attire. Being casual is just who I am, male or female. When I don’t have the opportunity to do my makeup and hair, I still do a few things that make me feel feminine. For example: hairless body, painted toe nails and tucking. Even if my toe nails aren’t painted, just being hairless and tucked reminds me of my fem side, even if I’m in guy mode. I don’t mean to harp a lot on the tucking aspect, but I do that pretty often when home alone or running errands by myself. So for me, tucking makes me feel more feminine. I guess my point is that I don’t always have to see a woman in the mirror to feel like one. I think I may have trailed away from the original question. Becky it is.

[SaraLin]

Ironically, my wife has started teasingly calling me "Becky Home-home-ecky" when I help out (or take over) some of the household chores.

I'm not glam. I don't go out any more. And I'm DADT except for panties and nightwear. Odd compromise, but we make it work.


So - it's Becky for me.

[Sarah Doepner]

To clarify slightly Dana, I would never step out unless i was properly made up and dressed. I love doing my makeup properly, I love being glammed up too at times, but i don't need to do that to feel femininne.

Okay, I'm on the Becky Bus. Except I pretty much require full makeup to go out and attempt to be ignored. Without makeup I'd be the center of attention and I wouldn't like that at all, regardless of how feminine I felt.

[Trishpdxcd2]

I think I am a little bit of both. I can feel feminine just by putting on a teddy and some heels without any makeup, but I wouldn't be seen unless I was completely dressed.

[Fiona123]

Can i be both? I lean toward becky but i totally get nikki.

[Becky Blue]

On reflection of many of the answers above I think that its fair to say that a Becky can be a Nikki at times but a Nikki can never be a Becky. But even when a Becky is getting glammed up, she is doing it to look good not to feel more genuine... hope that makes sense.

[nikkiwindsor]

Well, as I think more about it, I'm not surprised that more gals are a "Becky" rather than a "Nikki." It mirrors what I observe among cis-gals...more women don't dress up (unless a special occasion or a night out on the town clubbing, etc)...instead, most go about the world with very little in the way of fashion (think sweat shirts, sweat pants, leggings, and the like) and very little in the way of makeup. But, there are a very few Nikkis out there!! Yesterday, I went to a salon for a "boy" haircut (yuck!) and the stylist had a cosmetology license and it showed. It was during the day and she was wearing a sensuous smokey eye with a nude lip...her cosmetics were perfectly applied in every way...definitely a very rare Nikki out among all the many Beckys! She was so kind and sweet (note: she shared with me how she's a "daddy's girl" and lives close to her Dad so she can visit and take care of him from time to time since he's getting old and has some health problems) that I almost asked her what brand of cosmetics she was wearing and how she so flawlessly applied the shadows and liner. But, I chickened out! :( BTW, she also was wearing a lot of ink too...definitely one very cool gal! I'd like to know if others have similar stories about spotting rare "Nikkis" prowling about among the many "Beckys"...note: all the other salon staff (~5) were expressing their inner "Becky"...I'm sure they express their inner "Nikki" from time-to-time...it's just too much fun to dress and glam up not to!

[DIANEF]

Nikki, I'm in your camp as I replied much earlier in this post. I worked at a store with an all female staff, most wore little or no make up, though everyone had the same uniform. But two girls in particular would wear as much make up as they could get away with bearing in mind we were serving the public, and looked pretty darned good too, and one of those two always had the most fab false eyelashes on. It inspired me to get some anyway!

[nikkiwindsor]

Diane, did you ever ask those two girls why they wore a lot of makeup...I love it for so many reasons...I'm a very creative person and I really enjoy changing up my looks and feeling pretty!

[lingerieLiz]

I'm a Becky type. I was happy going about my errands dressed in a cotton tee, bra, jeans, panties, and booties. I don't think I saw any women with makeup on. I was treated as a woman everywhere I went. If they didn't think I was a woman they didn't indicate it. I had bigger boobs than some of the women and no one paid attention.

[Robin-in-TX]

I sleep in a nightgown most nights without makeup. I am a Becky.

[MindiB]

I am a Nikky for sure. I am always made up for the occasion with the latest style.

[Becky Blue]

Nikki, I agree with your observation that we probably mirror CIS woman. But for differing reasons to them of course.

- - - Updated - - -

I decided to do a count of the Beckys and the Nikkis. To clarify the criteria I used for the count, you can't actually be both, if you are HAPPY dressing casually or without perfect makeup SOMETIMES you are a Becky. I too love to get glammed up and try and look as gorgeous as possible. I loooove makeovers, but I also love dressing casually in, with no makeup and don't need to look perfect to feel femm.

So basically you girls in the middle have been counted as Beckys of which we have 40, we have 11 Nikkis and 4 indeterminate.

[Beverley Sims]

Probably a Becky.

Although there is no halfway point with me, I am woman and dressed as such.

[Michelle1955]

A Becky.

[Glenda58]

I'm a little of both Nikki and Becky. When I go out I want dress to be as feminine as I can. But at home just relaxing or in bed night I don't wear makeup or wigs.

[Becky Blue]

Glenda that makes you a Becky i wouldn't been seen out if I wasn't looking my best.. but a Nikki has an extra level of attention to detail when she is dressing or doing her makeup

[Connief]

I'm somewhere in the middle. Going out I want to look my best, makeup, everything. When I can't do that, always something feminine under to work uniform. At home, at least the forms, hair, lipstick, and in bed always a nightie never makeup or wig.

[Denise S]

I would have to say I’m more like Becky, but would love to become more like Ni

[Joanne Davis]

I would probably lean more to Nikki.... :battingeyelashes:

[Denise S]

I am more like Becky, dressed not a lot of makeup

[Stephanie Julianna]

I'm a bit of both. I love to dress to the nines like in my Avatar and a bit dressing down like in my Profile pic. When not doing the total girl look, I underdress almost always and wear all female nurses' slacks and scrub tops and sneaks when working. I sleep in women's satin PJ's always and the wonderful feel of the smooth fabric against my hairlee body induce many crossdressing dreams.

[Jamie Christopher]

I guess I'm a bit more Nikki than a Becky; when I dress to go out, I'm all feminine with makeup etc., but not always to the nines... just totally female as best as I can.

Jamie

[nikkiwindsor]

For those of you gals that are thinking about leaning more like a "Nikki" be careful what you ask for...I have a high amount of GD because I don't look sufficiently feminine to match up with the feminine feelings I have inside...it's so very hard for me to look in the mirror in boy mode...I feel horrible seeing my male self in the mirror. I can tolerate seeing me when I'm all dressed up but even then I'm not content.

[Becky Blue]

Nikki I don't believe that being a Nikki would make GD any more or less. I get GD at times because I am stuck in drab and need to express my inner Becky...

[Becky Blue]

I think I realised that I do have a little bit of Nikki in me (Isn't there a song about that? Mambo no 5) When it comes to beard and particularly upper lip moustache shadow, I can quite safely say that I am obsessively aware of not having even the slightest bit of shadow showing under my makeup. I think its probably the quickest way to be clocked as a guy as even when a woman has a bit of facial hair its surface not a shadow.

I have solved the problem permanently by having laser and now I have no dark hairs left :) just a salute to my inner Nikki!!

[nikkiwindsor]

I tried being a Becky two nights ago...epic fail! The natural look is ok, but it's certainly not me!

[jacques]

hello
" Nikki will not sleep enfemm as she can't sleep in makeup."
Would a GG go to bed without first removing her makeup?
luv J

[SuzyZahn]

i`m Nikki 75% ( the better I look ,the better I feel),and Becky 25%,winding down,bedtime,time to rest.

[nikkiwindsor]

J, That's really too funny...I guess I'm a Becky while sleeping since I do remove my makeup (not happy about it) before going to bed!

[Stephanie47]

As an elder there is little makeup can do to make me pass as a woman. Forget about the six foot, 200 pound male inside a dress. I use to do all out when going outside the home. It was makeup and nail polish. Maybe at that time in my life I had to try to pass off myself to myself. I did take some pictures in my early 30's. Except for height (not so much about weight then) I believe I was passable. I've matured in my thinking which means I am accepting of myself. I'm a man who likes to wear women's clothing. Part of the illusion is to create breasts which are nice water filled balloons. The balloons simulate weight and bounce of a breast which is 98% water anyway. I look around and notice not all women have that Barbie doll figure. Some do not even have indentations at the hips. I feel there is no need to present that illusion. I wonder if wearing hip pads and thigh pads to create that look also makes one feel uncomfortable. At least my simulated breasts pull the shoulder straps of my bra down which is a common complaints of heavy breasted women I know. Heck, two had breast reduction surgery for medical reasons.

Most of my femme time is spent at home doing domestic chores; washing, ironing, baking, meal preparation, vacuuming, etc. There is no need to glam up to do those chores. My wife doesn't. She'd think I was crazy anyway to do domestic chores in a dress and heels. She wears pants and no makeup around the house. She does not need it. When she goes to work or even to a social function she only wears lip color. Frankly, she does not need any makeup. That's fairly good for a woman over 65. When my wife has gone out of town to visit relatives even with the opportunity to glamorize myself, it's only lip gloss and facial makeup to even out the inconsistent coloration of my male face.

So throw me in with Becky.

[DanielleDubois]

One glimpse at my photo threads and it’s obvious Danielle is a “Nikki”. A lot of it has to do with historically Danielle days can be few and far between. It used to be a couple of times a year and now I try for once a month but sometimes it stretches to 2 or 3. Therefore Danielle doesn’t feel complete unless she is dressed to the nines. There is an almost a obsessive compulsive need to have every feminine detail attended to. If her toenails are not painted or she doesn’t have long nails it just doesn’t look complete when she looks in the mirror or looks at photos later. That’s not to say I don’t try on clothes and experiment with wigs without makeup on but the goal is mainly to save time when a Danielle Day comes along.

However, in the last few weeks, I have put on a complete Danielle outfit sans makeup and then relaxed on the computer and not rushed to try on another outfit. It was surprisingly relaxing and kind of contradicts everything I have said above. Maybe after 65 years Danielle is finally growing up a bit :)

[nikkiwindsor]

This story is all about being snatched with the "full beat face"! ...Nikki is all in on glamour

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/brows-contour-lips-lashes-how-the-full-beat-face-took-over-the-internet/2018/02/13/fa1e4808-f580-11e7-a9e3-ab18ce41436a_story.html?hpid=hp_hp-cards_hp-card-lifestyle%3Ahomepage%2Fcard

[Traci H]

Like Daisy, I am a Becky, but I strive to be a Nikki! Becky everyday with Nikki on occasions when she can come out.


Traci

[Tracii G]

More a Becky than a Nikki.
I do like to take some extra time every now and then and go all out.
I dress in womens clothes everyday and not in the closet so I'm sure that has a lot to do with it.

[nikkiwindsor]

I'm the reverse of Traci and Tracii...most often a Nikki but occasionally a Becky

[Tracii G]

It is good we can be whatever we want to be in most cases.
No way I could fit in Nikki's size 3 dresses tho'. LOL

[Asew]

I am a total Becky. At some point I will eventually dress to the nines but I will still always be a Becky.

[carisa]

100% Becky, but I also love to slip into Nikki when my time permits. So that puts me above a 100% :D

[nikkiwindsor]

Tracii...you're too kind...size 3...in my dreams!...I'm more of a size 14 and occasionally will find a size 12 dress that fits. I do wish I was petite but alas I'm not

[Tracii G]

Well you always look fantastic Nikki.

[Drew GB]

I am a Becky as I do sleep in nighties although I have not yet gotten into makeup but I think that will just be for going out. I am still very comfortable just in simple girly looks but I cannot wait to shave my Stash and goatee. My wife is still not ready for me to loose it as I have had it the entire 18 years we have been together.

[Becky Blue]

You see girls Beckys have it so much better, a Becky can dress to the 9s and look and feel gorgeous (as of course do Nikkis) But a Becky can also be really happy in a nightie and panties in bed with no makeup just like a GG would be (and as I am now) :) which a Nikki of course can't do!!

I am planning a makeover & outing this week so hopefully I will enjoy dressing to the 9s and have some pics to share too!!

[Gemmacd]

I'm a Becky, although I do dress down, I do enjoy wearing a casual skirt and black oblique tights. A look I see plenty of GGs wearing.

[faltenrock]

I'm kind of both, when I go to sleep, I get completely back to male mode. I can't sleep with make-up and a wig. Also, there is my wife too.

[Becky Blue]

I tried being a Becky two nights ago...epic fail! The natural look is ok, but it's certainly not me!

Nikki can you tell us firstly what you did and secondly why it was an epic fail? how did you feel?

[nikkiwindsor]

Becky, I considered my casual "Becky" look an epic fail b/c when wearing just a little bit of makeup I just look too masculine which bothers my gender dysphoria immeasurably. Fortunately, I don't have to wear beard cover b/c my hair color is so light and the amount of facial hair I have is, fortunately for a girl at heart like me, not very impressive. Maybe I'll try a natural look again but with more makeup this time. I am allowed to apply mascara, some eyeliner, a hint brown eye shadow, an earthy toned lip, and a bit of blush don't I? If you're asking me to go with less cosmetics than that you can forget me ever trying a casual look again! Nikki

[BrendaPDX]

I am more like Nikki, if I am going to do it, I want to pass. But I don't mind casual looks, and I try to blend for where I plan to be. Fun post, I love the comments:) Brenda

[Becky Blue]

Becky, I considered my casual "Becky" look an epic fail b/c when wearing just a little bit of makeup I just look too masculine which bothers my gender dysphoria immeasurably. Fortunately, I don't have to wear beard cover b/c my hair color is so light and the amount of facial hair I have is, fortunately for a girl at heart like me, not very impressive. Maybe I'll try a natural look again but with more makeup this time. I am allowed to apply mascara, some eyeliner, a hint brown eye shadow, an earthy toned lip, and a bit of blush don't I? If you're asking me to go with less cosmetics than that you can forget me ever trying a casual look again! Nikki

Have you considered dressing and not looking in the mirror Nikki? could you not be happy putting on some light makeup a wig and some casual but pretty clothes and browsing on here for a bit.. or does being a Nikki involve copious amounts of Mirror gazing?

[IleneD]

Thank you, Becky.
I am a Becky all the way. [Love you Nikki; really do].

Until The Wife grows more accustomed to seeing Ilene (and she slowly is), and living with the new feminized me, I have infrequent times when I can fully dress (with complete makeup). I could probably do more and force it. She's seen me in full femme. The truth probably is that I don't have the time to get dolled up every day, and like most GG's I don't NEED to put on a lot of make up even for going out.
Right now, I take what part and whatever items of m CD/TG femme life I can fit into it. I always do. I'm always in something "girly", be it panties [24/7], or bra and camisole under a shirt or sweater. I'm having more time around the house to dress but it's often just a simple dress or skirt; maybe my wig and lipstick at best.
I have a couple femme items I wear for bed; a nice nylon lacy slip, panties. Sometimes I just wear leggings.
Again, I'm almost always in something feminine or girly. If I can dress up enough to go out En Femme, I seize upon it. I'm not obsessed so much these days with putting Ilene on public display (though I am suffering an unrelieved Pink Fog attack right now).
Dress and enjoy it when it's feasible. Slowly gaining tolerance (recently came out to a brother ). Slowly, The World is allowing me to be Me.

[nikkiwindsor]

Last night, I dressed up with far less makeup than my usual...no false eyelashes, no lip liner, no lining the inner rim of my eyes, just a little contour, and a neutral light eye shadow with gray smudged eyeliner on the upper lash line and outside of lower lash line. I'll work on summoning up the courage to post. And Becky, while I like to see the woman in me in the mirror I'm not glued to it! A remarkable statement, I know!

[ShelbyDawn]

I am much closer to Becky as much by desire as by circumstance.
I have gone all out and had a makeover, had my nails done and bought an expensive wig - The proverbial "whole nine yards" and I still look like a guy in a dress.
I did have a good time and I thought I looked as good as I could but, as I said, MIAD all the way.
I would love to be able to pass and perhaps, if I could come close to passing, I might gravitate more towards Nikki, but in the final analysis, it has always been about how I feel when I dress and not how I look.

It just feels right.

[Sallee]

Well I certainly love to glam it up but I also dress very casual, jeans sneakers minimal makeup, pads of course. BUt I have always thaought that if you avoid mirrors and have your double A bra and panties yo0u can be fem to your minds content. Just like a GG. It all in the mind
But I do love the act of makeup application and dressing. They are my favorite CD thing
Do what feels good and make you comfortable because your the most important person in the world

[Becky Blue]

Sallee, I think you sum up a Becky really well... love to glam up but also love to be casual like a typical GG... and yes at times the mirror is NOT my friend.

Nikki, please share your 'Becky' Pic with us

[nikkiwindsor]

Oh girlfriend, I'm not so enthralled with the idea of sharing the pic...I feel way too bare faced...I have to get use to the look first - and that may never be

[Becky Blue]

Which I guess pretty much confirms you status as a Nikki