Female who is attracted to a male whe dresses as woman

[ckay]

I just met a person who is a male who cross dresses as a woman. I am very attracted to this person. Any help or advice

[SHINY-J]

You are a unicorn... literally, one in a million... LITERALLY... you could probably have the pick of any straight, single CD you wanted because it’s so rare to find a woman who’s attracted to a CD.

I say go for it...

Hell, I haven’t ever met you or talked to you and I’m interested! Lol

In all a seriousness, without a little more info, it’s hard to offer advice... is he straight? Gay? Bi? Is he transitioning? Just dressing for fun? Dressing for fetish?


There are SO many different variations of us all that it’s impossible to categorize us even though the world seems hell-bent on doing it! Because we are all people and we differ so much just like everyone else.

I would say to find out what role dressing plays in his or her life and then you could get some great advice on here. It might also help to know a little about you and what you’re all about...

Good luck!

[Nikki A.]

We all are looking for an accepting mate. However it is hard to give advise without more information. Most CDs are great people, but, some have their issues, just like the rest of the population. Listen to your heart AND your head,

[Tracii G]

You find the person interesting and want to know more its as simple as that.
You are attracted to the person not so much how they dress and there is not a thing wrong with that.
Get to know each other and see if love can bloom between the two of you.

Not much to go on by your description really so how often does he dress as a woman?
Does he live full time as a woman?
Do his friends accept him as a cross dresser?
We need more info and I am sure you need more time learning who this person is inside.
I wish you luck getting to know this person you are attracted to.
Please keep us posted on what happens. :)

[Jodie_Lynn]

Just be you, and let her be her, even when she presents as a boy.

Welcome to the madhouse!

[Teri Ray]

Normal? who is to say. Is it Okay? Well it probably depends on the person you met. Crossdressers come in all forms extremely nice and well not so nice. They are just folks. Hope all works well for you.

[ckay]

Thanks for your suggestion

[AlissaMurray]

Simply said, my wife says she "see's me". Makes no difference how I am dressed, spandex n boobs or greasy jeans and a scrub concert t-shirt. I am the same person.

[deebra]

Another female to shop with with male benefits; it's a no brainer, do it!

[ckay]

Love your reply.
Getting some fashion tips too

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[CarlaWestin]

ckay, I've met several women that are honestly attracted to men that present as both genders. Or, let me say, present as gender fluid. It's refreshing and complimentary for both.
Hmm? You might just discover that gender explorers run much deeper with intelligence and emotion than your average sapien.

[ckay]

I don’t believe anyone should be categorized. We are all people and different.
I have changed so much over the years. I am still figuring out me.

I find when this person dresses to be an absolutely beautiful hot confident lady.
I must mention he is very hot as a man as well.
I am a straight female but find it quite intriguing and exciting when he dresses.
He prefers women but I guess it is rare for a woman to be attracted to a CD.

This is all so new to me and I am just trying to get to know this awesome person.

[Robbiegirl]

Welcome to the Forum, your input and thoughts are appreciated

2 quick questions

Have you seen him in lingerie or want to ?

How does his dressing style compare to yours and are you worried about competing with him when you are both dolled up ?

Thanks

[ckay]

Welcome to the Forum, your input and thoughts are appreciated

2 quick questions

Have you seen him in lingerie or want to ?

How does his dressing style compare to yours and are you worried about competing with him when you are both dolled up ?

Thanks

Yes I have seen him in lingerie.

I think we dress similar. I am not worried about competing. I think we can actually have fun with it.

[Tracii G]

You sound like you enjoy the idea as well as he does so yes have fun with it.
I dated a lady a few years ago that didn't have a problem with me dressing or the fact I was trans so nothing is impossible.

[Jean. Ann]

What could be better than finding
someone who shares your interests . I think
it is great .

JAS

[docrobbysherry]

Get offline, meet up with him and get to know each other. :)

Then, do what regular guys and girls do together. Have fun!:devil:

[Tracii G]

Sherry is right.
Go out on some dates have fun do what regular people do.
Get to know each other the regular way the CDing part is just icing on the cake.
Don't make the focus of your relationship about his CDing that could get boring real quick for both of you.

[Sherrii]

Just as you would with anyone take it slow and easy and get to know the person. If you like him still you may have a boyfriend and girl friend all in one. Sounds like fun to me. You are to be commended for having an open mind. Hope it works out for you two Sherrii.

[Aunt Kelly]

ckay,

By now you have probably received dozens of replies telling you what a gem you are. That you are here seeking insight is evidence of that. You also specifically asked for advice. So I'll give you the best I can.

I'll assume that your new acquaintance has shared with you her transgender nature, or perhaps she's out already in the circumstances where you met. Regardless, that's a good sign. It means that nothing is being overtly hidden from you. The psyche of a TG person can be a deep pool, however. So start by asking yourself if it's one the depths of which you are really interested in exploring together. Are you OK with occasional crossdressing. In public? Private? The bedroom? How about more often than "occasional". How much more? If she tells you next year, or in twenty years, that she's transsexual and needs to transition, how might you respond? I'm not suggesting that you ask your friend these questions, but you should certainly be asking them of yourself.
If you and your friend decide to pursue a relationship, honest and open communication is important to the long term health of that relationship. You'll want answers to those questions above because those issues will come up, to one extent or another.

Good luck to you.

Hugs,


Kelly

[kimdl93]

I think is easier than some might lead you to believe. From what you’ve said in your responses you’ve seen this person in many dimensions and remain interested and attracted. Yes, a lifetime may reveal new things to both of you, but no one is committing to a lifetime at this point...you’re simply pursuing a shared interest in the hope of seeing where it ay lead. Enjoy the journey!

[Sometimes Steffi]

I know several couples where the "man" transitioned to full time female, and the marriage stayed intact, and maybe became even better.

I know at least 2 GGs who married a CD/TG. In one case, it was the CD who wore the "traditional" wedding dress at the marriage ceremony. People are people, and if you like the person, get to know her better.

[Tracii G]

I have a few friends that have done a full transition and stayed with their wives and life has been just fine so it can be done.

[giuseppina]

As others have mentioned, ckay, you're a gem. If you could bottle what you have, you'd be very popular lady among us gender variants. ;)

[Dianna_ericka]

I think that you have a great opportunity to make a man very happy, if you can enjoy it and he is also in the same chanel.
I have the experience to share this side of me with my wife since very early in our relationship, and never have been a problem.
This is not a waranty of success, have to work all the other sides of a relationship between 2 humans, good look.

[Kiwi Primrose]

I didn't see any reference to "transgender" in your original posting but one or two replies seem to have assumed it.
My own experience is simple - I love women's clothing and have dressed as much as possible all my life but I have never had the slightest urge to transition.
My wife and I have been married for 60 years with the normal ups and downs living brings and she has been involved with my choices all the way as I have with hers.
Maybe you need to know more before commitment but don't just write him off.

[alwayshave]

okay, I'm a long term CDer in a relationship with a women, we will be married in May. She did not know when we met, she knew pretty early on in our relationship though I did not admit to later afraid she would leave. Just trying to say if you like this individual go for it.

[Jackie7]

I was wearing a dress 15 years ago when I met my wife, like you ckay, she thought she could have fun with this and here we are, Xmas day 15 years later, still having fun with it. Unusual, sure. Something to be afraid of, no, not at all. Many laughs together, absolutely.

[Sherrii]

After going through all the responses it seems most think you should go with it and see what happens. As I posted earlier, I too think so, from what you have said it seems like maybe you want to too. If you "go for it" let us know how thing go. Maybe get your boy/girl friend to post with you here too? Oh, in case you are wondering, I am 68, been CDing for 50 years to one extent or another. Now at home mostly dress, and corset from 33" to 28", most days from 12 to 24 hours depending on what else I have to do. My girlfriend of 20 years is good with it she enjoys the different looks. I don't try and pass/go out as I am tall enough to draw attention in male mode, never mind in female. I do under dress often when out. Sherrii

[DMichele]

Kay,
You are the exception in your open-mindedness towards your Trans/CDing SO - BRAVA! Gender is more diverse than the textbook black & white - male or female boxes that have been adhered to for generations.

I wish you and your SO the best going forward.

[paulinescotlandcd]

That's two this entire year ! First we had Minnietheminx

Biography:
I am 49 years young. Single and a lady that has for many years loved guys that dress. I have had friends that have shared this with me but sadly they have lost the feeing over the years and so i hope by joining here i can enjoy the experience with others xx

Two women that like a man when dressed as a woman - and they pop up here in the same year. Must be like winning the lottery twice in one week.

Anyway, good for you - you are, like Minnietheminx, a very rare person.

[ckay]

Kay,
You are the exception in your open-mindedness towards your Trans/CDing SO - BRAVA! Gender is more diverse than the textbook black & white - male or female boxes that have been adhered to for generations.

I wish you and your SO the best going forward.

Thank you! I really appreciate your comment.
It is all new to me and quite interesting getting to know this individual.

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okay, I'm a long term CDer in a relationship with a women, we will be married in May. She did not know when we met, she knew pretty early on in our relationship though I did not admit to later afraid she would leave. Just trying to say if you like this individual go for it.

Thank you! I like this individual and very interested. This person seems to be beautiful on the inside and out.
I really like it when he CD. I wonder if that is weird for me to feel that way.
It all makes me nervous :)

[Georgette_USA]

I see nothing wrong with a woman that can love someone who cross-dresses. I know of other woman that accept and even help their SOs.

I have met a CD and we are getting to know each other very well. To tell the truth I have only met "her" so far. But we share many details of our personal lives. I tend to take the active role and "she" has come to terms with that. "His" job takes "him" out of town a lot, so we have not had much time together.

I think that you both need to discuss just what you are both looking for, just as in any relationship.

[Jane G]

ckay, one important thing. Your partner may well identify to them self as female, despite the obvious genitalia. You need to be sure you can deal with that long term and you need to discuss that. Otherwise enjoy your partner and the fun/variety that will come with them.

[Sidney]

In reality the candy on the outside may be the initial attraction but love comes from what you find inside. Find out who he and she is. Go for it.

[ckay]

I would like to thank everyone for your advice.
I really admire this individual however I think at this time it will just be a friendship. This person lives in another state and travels often. It just doesn’t make much sense that anything serious would ever happen so I will just enjoy getting to know each other.
I am thankful to her for the influence and hope she has given me in being a passionate woman.

[marlacd]

I'm sure a lot of us would love to know how you're progressing. Do keep us posted!

[JeanTG]

I find when this person dresses to be an absolutely beautiful hot confident lady.
I must mention he is very hot as a man as well.
....
This is all so new to me and I am just trying to get to know this awesome person.

Do you have a sister? LOL!

Just kidding, but what can I say, if you're attracted and it's mutual on his part, why not get to know him better and see where that leads? The only caveat I can give, as a life-long dresser, is that it can be an obsession, and sometimes, at least me, it can tend towards narcissism or at least self-absorption. But then again none of us are perfect. Only getting to know him better will help you determine if you can live with his "dark side", something all of us have in one way or another.

[immike]

Ckay-My name is Michelle,I'm a single,unmarried heterosexual male,no kids&I love to secretly dress in womens clothes&I,too,wish there would be a lady like you,for me.I got curious one day&snuck into my mothers closet&started trying on her dresses&look at myself in the mirror on Mothers door.I got bolder&tried on a pair of her heels&slowly began practicing how to walk in heels,in the basement,away from prying eyes.I started to do this each day,after mother left for work.I got very bold&lifted a fresh pkg of beige
pantyhose,from her collection of different shades&put them on,picked out a skirt&one of her blouses&a pair of her other heels.I was hooked&the feeling of silky smooth,soft fabric against my body&silky feel on my legs,sent electricity through my body,especially
how light a womans wardrobe is:love:I slowly tried on most of her outfits,as we were the same size,so I didn't stretch anything&I began secretly ordering online,after I moved to my own home

[sometimes_miss]

Only getting to know him better will help you determine if you can live with his "dark side", something all of us have in one way or another.
Please, please don't refer to this as the 'dark side'. All that does is perpetuate the belief that there's something very wrong with wearing different clothes and embracing feminine feelings and behaviors. Bad enough that men do it, but to encourage women to feel that way disparages both them AND us.

[ckay]

Please, please don't refer to this as the 'dark side'. All that does is perpetuate the belief that there's something very wrong with wearing different clothes and embracing feminine feelings and behaviors. Bad enough that men do it, but to encourage women to feel that way disparages both them AND us.

I don’t see it as a dark side. I am glad to have met a man that is comfortable with his feminine side. He looks beautiful when he dresses

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Ckay-My name is Michelle,I'm a single,unmarried heterosexual male,no kids&I love to secretly dress in womens clothes&I,too,wish there would be a lady like you,for me.I got curious one day&snuck into my mothers closet&started trying on her dresses&look at myself in the mirror on Mothers door.I got bolder&tried on a pair of her heels&slowly began practicing how to walk in heels,in the basement,away from prying eyes.I started to do this each day,after mother left for work.I got very bold&lifted a fresh pkg of beige
pantyhose,from her collection of different shades&put them on,picked out a skirt&one of her blouses&a pair of her other heels.I was hooked&the feeling of silky smooth,soft fabric against my body&silky feel on my legs,sent electricity through my body,especially
how light a womans wardrobe is:love:I slowly tried on most of her outfits,as we were the same size,so I didn't stretch anything&I began secretly ordering online,after I moved to my own home

Michelle - Thanks for sharing about you. I hope you find a lovely lady that will embrace all of you :battingeyelashes:

[debbie409]

as many have stated most heterosexual cross dressers dream of finding an interested female the share their dressing with.
roll with it.
good luck and enjoy the journey

[JeanTG]

Please, please don't refer to this as the 'dark side'.

I was not referring to crossdressing as my "dark side", but rather the tendency towards narcissism and self-absorption that I can have as a result of it. And the tendency for this to become an obsession for me. From what I've read here, I don't think I'm alone in this.

[Kelly DeWinter]

JeanTG, I had to laugh at you post, I understood what you meant, but was hoping that midichlorians were involved and we might me able to do the Jedi Mind Trick

[immike]

Ckay-I'm still a man,I still dress in jeans&tee shirt&tennis shoes&still have manly pursuits.I just would look at a beautiful woman,in a skirt&heels&just wondered how a woman's silky pantyhose would feel on my legs&wearing a short skirt&silky blouse&step into
a pair of heels&walk.I'd love to find a woman that understands that&I would go to great lengths to let her know I'm still a guy(wink),like an endless night of passion/w champagne&chocolate covered strawberries by the bed.I just wanted to see how it felt to
dress as a woman&endure some of their problems,like a run in my pantyhose,or shoes that hurt your feet

[docrobbysherry]

How disappointed many here must be, Okay. :sad:

You're simply wondering about a date with a dresser and they were in a big hurry to marry u off!:heehee:

[ckay]

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Ckay-I'm still a man,I still dress in jeans&tee shirt&tennis shoes&still have manly pursuits.I just would look at a beautiful woman,in a skirt&heels&just wondered how a woman's silky pantyhose would feel on my legs&wearing a short skirt&silky blouse&step into
a pair of heels&walk.I'd love to find a woman that understands that&I would go to great lengths to let her know I'm still a guy(wink),like an endless night of passion/w champagne&chocolate covered strawberries by the bed.I just wanted to see how it felt to
dress as a woman&endure some of their problems,like a run in my pantyhose,or shoes that hurt your feet

Thanks for sharing! The person I met seems to be the same way. I think that is why I am so interested. He likes to dress however he is a very masculine male as well. I like the fact we can give each other tips on outfits. He looks so much beter in a dress than me. All so new to me.

[Stephanie Nicole]

Ckay I am a man that dresses at least once a week, I have met a wonderful woman this past summer and we are getting married in the Fall. When we met she knew all about my dressing as she sold me some of my clothes lol ( she worked at one of my favorite stores) we are extremely happy together. I own and worl on classic cars ( for Christmas I gave her a classic Mustang that I purchased and restored for her) as well as enjoy camping, football and a bunch of other stuff that people would term as manly, but aside from dressing I also enjoy romantic movies and shows, I try to dance ( not very successful lol but I try) and a few other things some people would call feminine. My advise is that if youlike him and think things will work for you then go ahead and enjoy yourself

[Stephanie Julianna]

First, make sure he knows how you feel. Then, let him know that you are not intimidated by his dressing. I saw your profile pic so you should not feel threatened that he could look better than you. You are very attractive and the worst case is that, if he is dedicated to looking his best dressed and has the skill and physical attributes to be gender fluid, he might be as pretty but not prettier. There are so many benefits for a woman who is accepting. If he is a crossdresser he will be a devoted mate and friend. I doubt you would never hear him complain about going shopping or ask you why you need another blouse, dress or shoes. This could be a very wonderful relationship, one that most of us can only dream of. If he is trangendered it would be different unless you are looking for a real girlfriend down the road.

[Mykaa]

all I can say is so so lucky....

[Beverley Sims]

Find out what he is about and then make a decision.

Post #2 has good guidelins.

Enjoy.

[ckay]

First, make sure he knows how you feel. Then, let him know that you are not intimidated by his dressing. I saw your profile pic so you should not feel threatened that he could look better than you. You are very attractive and the worst case is that, if he is dedicated to looking his best dressed and has the skill and physical attributes to be gender fluid, he might be as pretty but not prettier. There are so many benefits for a woman who is accepting. If he is a crossdresser he will be a devoted mate and friend. I doubt you would never hear him complain about going shopping or ask you why you need another blouse, dress or shoes. This could be a very wonderful relationship, one that most of us can only dream of. If he is trangendered it would be different unless you are looking for a real girlfriend down the road.

Thank you so much for your post and the compliment.
Any tips when we go on a date when he crossdresses

[Bianca Fay]

ckay,
Maybe just consider going for a walk outdoors (a garden tour or the boardwalk). Less pressure for both of you & a chance to have a nice conversation & continue to get to know each other better. Just a thought.

[CONSUELO]

Well of course you should be doing all of the natural things that people do when getting to know one another.
It is good that you know that he is a cross dresser and that should be one of the "getting to know you" subjects. As a member of this site you have a lot of information available about cross dressing and the various issues associated with it. I think it would be good for you to read as much as you can about the subject.

That said, I do wish you all the best in your developing relationship. I hope that the distance between you is not too much of a hindrance. Have fun and laugh a lot too. Oh, and by the way, don't think he is the prettier of you both when he is dressed. Remember that you have some significant advantages as a female. Good luck.

Oh and welcome to this site also.

[ckay]

Thank you

[jennifer0918]

Good for you.
Thank you for being accepting your 1 in 10 billion.
Love&hugs

[MarinaTwelve200]

MY psychological opinion is that its a combination of factors---He's "Nice" is one, You may feel you may have more in common with him than other men, and also you may perceive him as Less a "Threat" as far as sex and possible "dominance" are concerned.-----Quite understandable and suggests you have a healthy, open mind.

[ckay]

MY psychological opinion is that its a combination of factors---He's "Nice" is one, You may feel you may have more in common with him than other men, and also you may perceive him as Less a "Threat" as far as sex and possible "dominance" are concerned.-----Quite understandable and suggests you have a healthy, open mind.

Thanks Jennifer!

Marina - Yes, I think I do feel less threatened. We seem to have more in common. We get to give advice and tips on clothes, shoes, etc. Sometimes I am a little jealous how beautiful he looks when dressed however I love it. This relationship has always reminded me how beautiful I am and to take pride in the way I dress.