You wear dresses and skirts better than me !

[Teresa]

So this little story came about because I'm thinking more about what to wear for dressing everyday. I don't want to wear trousers but I have to and have been thinking about style , I'm not a jeans person but thought some slim fit fine cords in black could look nice and at the same time practical for walking the dog , gardening and the quick shopping trips and fuel for the car . So this morning I slipped on some black holdups and panties, made sure my tuck was OK , popped some wedges in a bag and made my way to M&Co on my High Street because they have a 50% sale on . I walked in and told the SAs that I would be ditching most of my male clothes in the next few weeks but needed to replace my male trousers with some female ones and had picked out their cords on line . They were soon busy going through the racks but only came up with my size in a dark green , I asked if I could try them because to make sure 12 would fit rather than 14 . They pointed towards the ladies fitting rooms and I slipped on the trousers and popped my heeled wedges on to get a better idea . While I was doing that they were making sure they didn't have the black and brown ones I preferred so I just walked over to the sales desk in the trousers and my wedges to get their opinion on the fit , no problem we all agreed 12 was right . I decided to leave the green ones and order the black and brown ones on line and then collect in store .
I asked if they minded seeing what I looked like dressed and showed them a selection of pictures, the senior SA looked up and said I'm really sick and peeved off !! You can wear skirts and dresses better than I can , the younger one just stood wide eyed and said Wow a couple of times , she then did look me straight in the eye and asked me if I was going to transition , she did surprise me by asking that .
I left saying I would be back to collect the orders and they wanted me to promise I would come back at some point dressed . So yet again it proved just be yourself , open and honest with people and you won't have any problems , going full time really is going to be an interesting experience .

[CarlaWestin]

We do wear dresses better than some women. And I too think it's wonderful.
I've found that showing my most girly pictures to ladies to get that OMG moment is rather addictive.

[~Joanne~]

"So yet again it proved just be yourself , open and honest with people and you won't have any problems"

I really don't know if someone trying to sell me some clothes, especially if they are paid by commission, is proof of anything other than they would want me coming back.

[Sara Jessica]

...the younger one just stood wide eyed and said Wow a couple of times , she then did look me straight in the eye and asked me if I was going to transition , she did surprise me by asking that .

And your answer was?!?!

[Helen_Highwater]

Teresa,

I think the gauntlet has been thrown down. You have no option but to put on your best dress to blend skirt/top/blouse or dress and pick your trousers up fully enfemme. I would suggest on entering the shop you browse the racks for a moment or two and see if they recognise you. And of course you will have to say, "Well you wanted to see me dressed" as you go to the counter. I would be scrutinising their faces for that OMG moment.

Have fun with it.

Also, knowing us Brits, I'm with you that this was genuine interest. A real honest response.

Can I raise a question seeing that shopping enfemme is shortly to become your norm. Have you approached the bank about altering your bank cards to reflect your femme identity, i.e. to have the displayed name on the cards Teresa xxxxxx.

[Beverley Sims]

I have found especially in London they are really interested to see how you turn out dressed.

I have had some enjoyable times in fitting rooms there.

[Gillian Gigs]

There are reasons why we can wear the skirts and dresses better than many women. Two reasons come to mind. The first being that we can adjust our cup size to suit the look and make the drape of the clothes look better. My understanding is that the clothes industry makes most women's clothing for a B cup, so bigger or smaller doesn't fit as well. The second is that hip size can also affect the way skirts and dresses can look and flow.
Women tend to worry too much about how they look, but men say I look good and that adds a confident air to the way they carry themselves!

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Lovely experience- thanks for sharing it with us T.

[Teresa]

Sara,
My answer was I couldn't honestly say what the outcome will be , I'm taking one step at a time.

Helen,
I've made that simple for myself as I'm using the female version of my male name , I can shorten it to Terri if I chose or stick with the same initials . I do realise there is a list of important " To Do's " when I set up my own home. I didn't recall the whole conversation but the senior SA was telling me about a pride week held on Bondi beach when she was in Australia, she couldn't believe how much fun it was . I do believe it was a genuine response they don't meet CDers every day and most are quite intrigued by it I do find the questions interesting but so far no one has given me a difficult time .

Gillian ,
The point is they don't expect it, OK most do have a MIAD image of a guy trying to squeeze into his wife's clothes and make up looking like a cross between and drag queen and a clown .
The comment also brings me back the the point of not overdoing padding especially hips and butt, keeping it natural is working out fine for me .

[Alice B]

My wife seldom wears dresses or skirts. She is an attractive woman, especially for her age. But she is not into dresses or skirts and I clearly look better wearing them. I own more dresses and skirts than her

[Rachael Leigh]

Good for you Teresa, I’m glad your going forward wish you well in the new year my friend
Rachael

[Pat]

There are reasons why we can wear the skirts and dresses better than many women.

I don't know that I agree that crossdressers wear dresses and skirts "better than many women," but I do think there's a simple reason why they may wear those clothes well -- they like dresses and skirts. They're enthusiastic and their happiness shows. People generally look their best when they're happy.

[Teresa]

Pat ,
I feel the sad fact is the SA knew she was out of shape , it is hard to look good in a skirt or a dress when the waist line is none existent , it's possibly why she used those expressions of being sick and peeved off, not so much as how I looked but more as how she thinks she looks. It's one thing to be envious of another woman's figure but for a guy to walk in and show how good even a man could look is possibly rubbing it in . I hadn't thought of this aspect before so perhaps I should think twice about who I show pictures to in the future .

Obviously I will be going back to the shop to collect the items so perhaps I should offer a cautious apology in case I did offend them .

[audreyinalbany]

it alwaysmakes me uncomfortable whenever any of these threads lead down the 'looking better than..."road. I've actually heard it before (from a gg) and it is endlessly thrilling and ego boosting to hear, but lets remember, girls, we ( and by this I mean us mtf crossdressers, not those of you who are in transition)) are GUYS and we don't really look better than gg's

[GeorgeA]

Pat,
You made a very good observation and I agree with you (happily!).

[Eva Bella]

Agreed with Pat and some of the other posters... I think that it's true that many CD's wear dresses, skirts, heels, pantyhose, etc better than the average woman. Simply because we really WANT to. These pieces of clothing are a lot more meaningful to us.

It works in the opposite direction too. There's a sizable crowd of lesbians and early transmen who really like to wear mens suits.. often 3-pieces with a vest. And they look great in them. Contrast their enthusiasm and dedication to the average guy who hates wearing a suit and only trots it out for interviews, funerals, and weddings.. and yeah, you can also say that women can wear a men's suit better than a man.

[Teresa]

Audrey,
As you can read from my opening thread , the SA made the comments to me , using pictures isn't an ego trip , I'm at the in between stage of going from a DADT situation to living full time , the pictures are my stepping stone to become accustomed to peoples reaction . OK whether I'm a guy or something in between I will never lose those traits so I've never claimed I look better than GGs but I have had the comment made on numerous occasions that I do look as good as . The kind gender counsellor who gave me some lovely clothes made the comment several times when she saw pictures of me in some of her items , she thought it was really great her clothes were being put to good use .

[DaisyLawrence]

If I were in these sales assistants shoes I would compliment the customer showing me the pictures as well. But please remember, I would tell them they look great regardless of whether or not that is the truth. They could be an overweight hairy monster in a bikini and I would still compliment them face to face. It seems to me that no-one is going to show you photos of themselves all dressed up if they think they look a mess in them. So, assuming that they must like these pictures, it would be very rude and totally unecessary to say anything other than positive things, it's basic human courtesy. Lets not forget these people sell for their living and no-one spends money in a shop where they thought the staff were rude. If some of you girls are looking for honest opinions I suggest there may be better people to ask than those working in retail. However, if you just want a personal ego boost then they may be the best people to show your pictures to. Speaking generally of course, not about the OP who I am sure looked great.

[Helen_Highwater]

Obviously I will be going back to the shop to collect the items so perhaps I should offer a cautious apology in case I did offend them .

Definitely not. It might be better to ask something along the lines of, "Does it bother you if trans or CD'ers use your shop as in some shops on odd occasions I've felt a bit cold shouldered by an assistant?" See what they say.

I don't buy the notion that all SA's will say you look like you're wearing the King's New Clothes. We read the subtle signs, the body language. We know when someone is being genuine or not. Go with your instincts. There's a world of difference between being polite and being truly enthusiastic and interested. And it shows.

[DaisyLawrence]

I don't buy the notion that all SA's will say you look like you're wearing the King's New Clothes. We read the subtle signs, the body language. We know when someone is being genuine or not. Go with your instincts. There's a world of difference between being polite and being truly enthusiastic and interested. And it shows.

Indeed it does Helen. All I was expressing is that you can not expect anyone to say anything negative in that situation. They will always be polite and may even be enthusiastic but that does not mean they are being honest. I would always say what I thought the customer wanted to hear, what possible good could come out of anything else? If you need to know the sincerity in the comments, body language is probably your only hope (see the words as well as hearing them).

[LaurenS]

I think it was a honest opinion. It is possible - and probably happens frequently- that one can be a sales person AND be honest. In fact, the best sales people are. I’ve done sales for years, and would be offended if someone thought I was being dishonest over a pair of pants purchase.

Simply amazes me how some can see negativity in everything. If nothing else, just take the compliment at face value and embrace it.

Sounded like a great experience, Teresa!

[Teresa]

Many thanks for all you comments and replies, I know it affects some more than others but it just might be enough to encourage members on the brink to head out and try it themselves, in that respect the pictures have helped me break the ice , again I repeat it's not an ego trip but trying to build the confidence to meet people head on and not run for cover .

The real truth of the pudding is going out fully dressed what will the response be then, it's only a few weeks before I find out what the man/woman in the street think of me as Teresa. I know I'm going to find a difference between meeting the public in a hotel and going about my everyday life .

Helen,
I learned a while ago how to deal with the cold shoulder, I went from that situation to the two SAs falling over themselves to help me even to the point of ignoring other customers , yes i admit the pictures were enough to show them I wasn't fooling with my need to buy shapewear and knickers.

[Tracii G]

Kind of weird when men say they wear womens clothes better than women.

[SabrinaEmily]

In before "No man in the history of the multiverse has worn a dress better than any woman! They're WOMEN'S clothes! It's right in the name! DUH!"

:brolleyes:

No, wait, right after.


Agreed with Pat and some of the other posters... I think that it's true that many CD's wear dresses, skirts, heels, pantyhose, etc better than the average woman. Simply because we really WANT to. These pieces of clothing are a lot more meaningful to us.

It works in the opposite direction too. There's a sizable crowd of lesbians and early transmen who really like to wear mens suits.. often 3-pieces with a vest. And they look great in them. Contrast their enthusiasm and dedication to the average guy who hates wearing a suit and only trots it out for interviews, funerals, and weddings.. and yeah, you can also say that women can wear a men's suit better than a man.

Exactly. As it works for male to female crossdressers, not necessarily lesbians or transmen who haven't realized it yet, either.

[docrobbysherry]

My ex was a Vegas show girl. She moved out and left some very sexy dresses!:D

I'm much bigger than she used to be, but not these days!:sad:

Anyway, they stretched a lot and I rocked those sexy outfits! I don't post pics of them online. Because if she saw me in them she'd blow a fuse!:Angry3:

[Shely]

After reading all the posts, I have to say I feel, I do definitely wear my dresses better than my SO wears hers. I hope like hell she never finds out i said this though.

[Teresa]

Tracii,
I really don't understand your comment, I'm going to repeat again that these are not my words but comments passed on by GGs, some have not been SAs.I'm also going to repeat that I never expected these comments when I first set foot outside the door and found the confidence to take and show pictures.

Again I'm also going to repeat that I have not ever said I wear women's clothes better than a woman but women have said it to me .

My main aim now is not an ego trip but to show members who are hesitant to take their first steps that these things are possible . I feel I owe something back to the forum and one way is to help others , why is it members have to decry these actions with putdowns and sarcasm ! We are all somewhere on the TG road some need a helping hand to find themselves , don't forget this is a HELP forum !!

[Tracii G]

I never mentioned your name Teresa and I support what you are doing as far as your life.
Always be an open book is the best way to be and I agree that others can do this just as you and I have.

[Shelly Preston]

Teresa, I also hate jeans but some people look great in them.

I think like me you prefer what I would call a smart but casual look for daytime. It takes time to find what suits you and what does not. Clothes come in all styles, shapes and sizes Like everything we all make a few mistakes, but we learn and move on. I am sure you want to look the best you can. Sometimes less is more as you don't have to go for all out glamour. The sales assistants I am sure will be glad to meet Teresa. I am sure the question on transition was out genuine curiosity as it is a lot more common than it used to be.

Good Luck for the future.

The vast majority of people will treat you like any other woman. You will always get a few who will be rude or ignore you.

[Helen_Highwater]

Well it's now 2018 and I think Teresa you're in for a memorable year. I would dearly like to be a fly on the wall the day you first head out as full time Teresa.

I think there's a little bit of envy in me that can remember the butterfly feelings I had the first time I stepped out the door to spend the entire day out in the muggle world enfemme. That frisson of anticipation, the surge of adrenaline as I stepped out the car to head into a shop for the very first time, these are memories I'll treasure for a very long time.

Like you I write to offer support to those wanting to take their next steps along their CD'ing journey. I know it's not for everyone, stepping out is something you either feel a need to do or don't. No one can or should force anyone to do so.

Getting back to the post. I think there's more than a grain of truth in us wearing women's clothes better if only because for GG's they're the norm and like us in drab, things we just wear without giving it a second thought. We I suspect give each thing we put on while enfemme more thought. Everything has to be just so. As near perfect as we can make it.

So 2018, SA's of the UK look out. Teresa's coming!

[Krisi]

I think that a crossdresser who thinks he wears dresses better than the average woman is fooling himself. True, you can find some women who don't look very good in a dress but the average crossdresser doesn't look good in a dress. For one thing, unless you're wearing appropriate butt and hip padding, you won't look good in a dress. If your boobs are too big or too high, you won't look good in a dress.

When it comes to looking good in a dress, women have a huge advantage over crossdressers - they are starting out with a woman's body. The sort of body the dress was designed for in the first place.

[DMichele]

Teresa,
Thanks for sharing another one of your great experiences; and I truly appreciate the bais for your sharing...



My main aim now is not an ego trip but to show members who are hesitant to take their first steps that these things are possible . I feel I owe something back to the forum and one way is to help others , why is it members have to decry these actions with putdowns and sarcasm ! We are all somewhere on the TG road some need a helping hand to find themselves , don't forget this is a HELP forum !!

Your sharing is encouraging to me and has helped me a great deal - THANK YOU my friend.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

[Sarah Doepner]

I don't know if we wear skirts and dresses better than women, but it seems we get more practice.

Women have slowly moved to wearing pants more and more often because of convenience, comfort and warmth, so dresses and skirts aren't their first choice most of the time. With us, it's our first, second, third and often only choice. With that practice we manage to pull together outfits that flatter us and get rid of those that make us look like guys. We also take more of an advantage of padding and restraint to compensate for our build, long arms, etc, and make the dresses and skirts look like they should. If a woman and I were to just "throw on a dress" she would win hands down. But I never just throw on a dress if I'm going to be seen by anyone and it would take a lot of effort before I could level the field.

[Teresa]

Krisi,
Perhaps you could explain why women have made this comment on many occasions to me, as you well know I don't do lower padding but it doesn't make any difference . I'm going to repeat the story yet again about a conversation with Jo from my local bridal shop. When I mentioned CDers using hip and butt pading she just laughed and then added , " What makes you think we want to carry all extra baggage around with us, she then added she was envious of my figure and legs and the fact I could slip into a size 12 and look very convincing. Margaret the senior partner just nodded and added that was her opinion as well.

Whether you think I'm fooling myself or not I will be out totally in public in the next few weeks dressed appropriately and going about a daily routine .

Helen ,
Thanks for your reply. As you know I am out socially and have been for two years but I appreciate there is a difference in meeting the public in a hotel situation and meeting them in the street . It would be unfair to say I'm not nervous it will be a little different because I have to learn the art of dressing down rather than dressing up. Which brings me back to the theme of this thread , having to accept trousers of the right style for me. The soft cord ones were lovely to wear which is something Shelly commented on as an alternative to jeans .

Michele,
Thanks for that I do feel some of longer serving members she stick around and hopefully give some support, I know it's not easy coming to terms with all this and I have a major question I'm being posed with now .

[Krisi]

Krisi,
Perhaps you could explain why women have made this comment on many occasions to me, as you well know I don't do lower padding but it doesn't make any difference . I'm going to repeat the story yet again about a conversation with Jo from my local bridal shop. When I mentioned CDers using hip and butt pading she just laughed and then added , " What makes you think we want to carry all extra baggage around with us, she then added she was envious of my figure and legs and the fact I could slip into a size 12 and look very convincing. Margaret the senior partner just nodded and added that was her opinion as well.

Whether you think I'm fooling myself or not I will be out totally in public in the next few weeks dressed appropriately and going about a daily routine .
....................... .

People often say things that they don't mean just to be nice or in the case of sales people, to please a potential or actual customer. My wife once told me a skirt looked better on me than it did on her. It didn't. Sales people just want to make a sale. Or compliment someone so they will come back and buy more things. Selling you a dress is money in their pocket.

If you're not wearing hip padding, you either have unusually large hips for a male or you are fooling yourself. Again, the sales person is going to say what she thinks you want to hear. If you think padding doesn't make a difference, try this: Take photos of yourself from the rear (and front if you want to) wearing the same dress both with and without hip and butt padding. Look at the photos and see the difference. One day I may do this myself and post them just to clear this up. Another thing you can do is measure your bust, waist and hips and compare your measurements to a women's sizing chart. The results might surprise you.

Of course you can think what you want, believe what you want and do what you want. I'm not trying to criticize, I'm trying to help. Not just you, all crossdressers.

[Jean 103]

Wow, you are way over thinking this.

This kinda of things happen to me all the time.

People are people and react in kind.

I'm thin and will get this type of reaction. It is about you , but it's also about them, I try not to rub it in and will give them a nice comment. It's just what girls do.

Keep posting, I for one follow your journey. I can't wait to see how you see things like a year from now.

Love Jean

[Teresa]

Krisi,
With my forms in I'm 37" bust 31" waist 37" hips , a UK size 12 . Look at my avatar to see how it balances up, does it look like I have a major problem ?

To repeat my comment, not all these comments have come from sales people , I know when someone is trying to soft soap me and when they are being honest . All this is going to be academic when I go out full time , I will be a trim woman , there are plenty about , and I'm totally happy about that look .

[DaisyLawrence]

Wow wee. It amazes me how some 'grown ups' simply have to have the last say. Lets stop beating about the bush, Krisi made perfectly valid points in posts 34 & 38. It's a free world and she is entitled to her opinion regardless of whether or not you like it Teresa. For that matter, so did Tracii G in post number 23 (which was a statement of her own opinion and was NOT a personal criticism) but now you have alienated her from the forum. And yes, I've looked at your avatar (I couldn't miss it as you have posted about it like a gizillion times now) and no you don't have a major problem but yes I think a bit of hip padding would improve things even more (just think of all the positive comments that will bring when you are out and about full-time, if that ever happens). These replies you don't like are just general comments and peoples opinions, they are not personal attacks, it's not about you. The world is a better place if we all have different opinions, variety is the spice of life. Get over it already.

Geez! Happy new year!

[Teresa]

Daisy,
Tracii and I are good no problems, all sorted . Sometimes it's hard from replies if it's a general opinion or a deliberate contradiction , people should say in their replies if it's only their personal opinion otherwise these misunderstandings can occur .

May I ask why you added that cryptic comment ," if that ever happens !" I'm not intending to make these changes to my life to prove or disprove anything to you or anyone else . They are my needs that I'm dealing with the best way I know how .

Just a point of note the skirt in my avatar didn't have room for any extra padding , besides I will never use it , I intend to keep my appearance as natural as possible, being out for two years has been an eye opener , I truthfully did not expect the comments I have received , it's given me the confidence to believe in myself so why do I need to make changes ? There will be enough going on, I have to be happy and comfortable with my look and believe me I am .

[Rollermiss]

MMM, that is an interesting question. I may have to have friendly competition with my wife and have my girls be the judge. I will post up the results.

Kelsey

[DaisyLawrence]

May I ask why you added that cryptic comment ," if that ever happens !" I'm not intending to make these changes to my life to prove or disprove anything to you or anyone else . They are my needs that I'm dealing with the best way I know how .

You can ask but forum rules prevent me answering I'm afraid.

I'm gald you've got all this extensive experience out in public over the last few years, it would have been a terribly daunting prospect for you to go full-time in the next few weeks if the only time you had been out dressed was to a trans friendly social group in a distant hotel. It must be very confidence buiding to know you'll not only blend in but look better than most GG's. I'm happy for you, you must be very excited.

I'm also glad you're not intending to prove anything to me, perish the thought anyone would waste their precious life trying to do such a thing.

[Lydianne]

MMM, that is an interesting question. I may have to have friendly competition with my wife and have my girls be the judge. I will post up the results.

Kelsey

I propose to you a strategy: Lose the battle . . and win the war :heehee:.

Although I believe a being female competition versus an actual female is a futile effort, if you do happen to have a chance of winning or getting close in said competition, don't ;)...

If your wife stomps you so badly, that she takes pity on you and tries to help you become more female . . . ;) :we:

- Lydianne.

[Rollermiss]

Lydianne, That thought was there. Plus the girls may just side with mom.

Kelsey

[Lydianne]

@Kelsey: You and I are going to get along just fine :hugs: :smug:.

My thinking was that your daughters might have sided with you because of the chaos / fun factor. But I think in a CD-versus-GG with all things equal: makeup amounts, clothing investment, wig usage ( if allowed ), addons, etc, the result should really only go one way.. and the female most likely wouldn't need to use it all. At least, I believe that :strugglin.

From your point of view, I think there's more to be gained from an extremely heavy defeat :) .

- Lydianne.

[Teresa]

Daisy,
Maybe you should PM me if you really need to get it off your chest !

The distant hotel is only twenty miles away and my new home is only a stones throw away ( Grantham, Lincs ). Incidentally your are always welcome to join us if you happen to be in the area .

Looking better than most GGs isn't my words and I truly did not expect to be told it on one occasion let alone several and not all by SAs that may or may not have something to gain . I admit it has given me the confidence to attempt to run an art group, that is what I'm honestly excited about . That is when I will find out how well I'm accepted not as a true woman but an approachable TG person trying to fit in with society .

[HollyGreene]

Many years ago, the first girlfriend I ever told about my CDing, let me wear her clothes. (I never asked her - she just said I could wear them - except for a few forbidden items). She had a really nice dress that she loved and looked great in, but suddenly stopped wearing it. When I asked her why, she simply said "because it looks better on you!".
I have to admit that it was a better fit on me than on her because she was quite petite and the dress was a standard fit.
A few weeks after we split up, she turned up at my place to return a duvet that she had borrowed. After she left, I unpacked the duvet from the bag she'd brought it in, and folded up inside the duvet was the same dress.

[Teresa]

HollyGreene ,
What a lovely story , that dress must have felt very special after that .

[susan54]

Some women do not have big hips and there is an actual female body shape used by stylists called 'boyish', and there are clothes that particularly suit this figure. If a man were to wear a dress that suited this figure it is perfectly feasible that he could look better in it than a woman with big hips. Some women don't look good in clothes because of the way they hold themselves - it is nothing to do with their shape.

I have been told by women that I look better in some outfits than they do but they are usually trying to sell me these clothes. At a recent fashion event I was told by a dress designer that I looked better than half the women there but I think that was more the effort I had gone to. I have had a female friend refuse to wear a skirt when out with me as she refused to put her legs next to mine. But most of the time remarks suggesting you look better in a dress than a women are the women just being nice. No need to analyse it to death and no reason not to take pleasure from it, but to take pleasure from thinking you actually do look better than women is going into dodgy territory. Maybe sometimes you do, but you should not need to put women down to big yourself up.

[Teresa]

Susan,
I assume you missed my reply to others but I did mention that I have never claimed I looked better and some of the comments have not been made by SAs besides it wasn't part of a big sell . I've also said that I never expected so many comments like this from GGs I've only been out for two years and honestly thought I could be getting too old to come out at all.

I've had some very kind replies to this thread and some questioning my motives and reasoning but in a few weeks I will be totally out no matter how good or bad I look . My avatar is the true Teresa lets see what the public think on a day to day basis .

[susan54]

Teresa - I replied with the intention of defending you not criticising you. People do say the things you claimed - I then went on to discuss the topic itself. Apologies if it came out wrong.

[Teresa]

Susan,
No problem I guess I misunderstood you .

I could easily be the one with egg on my face in a few weeks time , maybe some members will be saying I told you so ! It's all a learning curve but there's no going back, either way I will keep the members informed how it goes .

[Bobbi46]

Teresa,
I can see absolutely no problems for the future and how you dress and present, be yourself and be proud!