what's better ?

[dominique]

What is better the anticipation or being dressed ?

The reason for this is that I've been looking forward to this for ages. Will it be as I think or just ok I"m dressed so what !!!

Over to you for your experiences.

Thanks.

[Vikky]

Interesting thought.
My SO is away for a few days next week, so Vikky hopes to have some playtime and I have been thinking what I might wear and do (within the house – I don’t go out). I find the main problem in such a situation is what to do once dressed. I line up some jobs around the house specifically to do enfemme, but then get them finished in no time and am at a loose end and watch TV. Its then I think, what’s so special and want to do more than just sit around.
However, this post has prompted me to think more carefully about what to do enfemme next week and find long lasting tasks to keep me occupied when enfemme. Will keep you posted.
Vikky

[Helen_Highwater]

Dominique,
I might describe it as anticipation and release. Those moments after become fully enfemme when you first stand there feeling your weight in your heels and begin to walk. That something that washes over you.

Vikky,

Many will recognise the feeling of what else can I do. You don't go out but that frustration at being all dressed up and nothing to do is one of the big drivers that brings folks to take that step over the threshold.

[Samm]

I wouldn't say the anticipation is better, but it's always there. The opportunity to actually dress (fully), unfortunately is not. It seems lately, if I can't go 'all the way' wig, make up etc... then it doesn't seem worth it. Or even satisfying.

[Rayleen]

Diminique , for me the pink fog sets in and hurrying to get dressed in the morning , then will do all morning house work done.
Its a great feeling. Only dress in house.

the second phase is at night time, dressing in evening nightie, its a delight and excitement.

Rayleen

[Tracy Irving]

It is fun to think about what I am going to wear and where I will go but it is exciting to actually do it.

[Monique65]

I believe the anticipation is greater for me. If I see a window of opportunity arising, I begin to look forward to it, imagining what I will slip into and how I will feel. After I am dressed, I do my chores around the house, then spend some quality time on this forum.

[Sabrina.K]

It's the actual dressing for me.

The anticipation is more annoying and frustrating, due to how little chance I actually get to dress.

[Ginni]

The anticipation is exciting, but being dressed is the ultimate.

[DaisyLawrence]

Whenever in proper drab I think about presenting as female all the time. I like the anticipation this brings. I also love the feeling of being my true self and never find it a let down. Which is best? I don't know. All I do know is that I love it all.

Daisy x

[Fiona123]

For me being dressed is far better. That is when I am real and authentic. I hate the waiting.

[Eve_cd]

Dressing for sure. I’m a fan of the anticipation too, but for the most part DADT is the law of the land, and probably 1/2-2/3’s of the time my opportunities go away when she changes her mind about plans.

[Krisi]

It's being dressed. Anticipation is fine but mostly I have other things on my mind.

[DIANEF]

I enjoy the anticipation, but it pales next to actually being dressed.

[Nikki A.]

Anticipation is ok, but seeing the transformation and the finished result is much better. Then you are who you want to be.

[Cheryl T]

Being dressed is my "best".
Sometimes the anticipation is shattered by things in life, but once dressed all is well.

[Jaylyn]

I also enjoy the anticipation of knowing that I will be able to dress on a particular day. I love the days I can dress as soon as I wake up and then the going thru the motions of dressing. If I can stay dressed for a good amount of time during the day the excitement will remain. The downer time arrives when it is time to get out of every thing, store it and then comes the chore of removing all the traces of makeup, the clothes, under garments and heels. If I'm in a hurry that when I leave some tell tail sign out, such as a lip stick imprint on my coffee cup. My wife knows I dress, but if my grown kids should happen to stop by or a neighbor stops by to visit about something then is when I panic. I would say my anticipation knowing I'm going to dress and the dressing are about equal till its stop and clean up time....

[EllenJo]

Since I am able to dress as much as I want to, the anticipation aspect has changed. I use to anticipate getting home after work and changing to a skirt and pantyhose and everything else. Now during the day if I have to leave the house I change into drab and have an empty feeling until I am home and back in a skirt. For me being dressed is normal and being in drab is not.

I do anticipate getting home from shopping and showing off my new things.

Hugs
Ellen jo

[NancySue]

Great question. After some thought, for me they are sequential actions. Anticipation is mental. Dressing is physical. They’re a complimentary combination which go hand in hand. I experience anticipation often, but because of circumstances am not able to execute, which can be frustrating. Dressing underneath helps.

[Krea]

Anticipation can be exciting, but the happiness experienced on actually wearing these lovely clothes is just so much more wonderful. :c9:

[Stephanie Julianna]

Both anticipation and dressing are pretty close. However, actually getting to dress is definitely the best. Getting out just makes it better. I have had a few members at my home when time allowed and we had so much fun dressing and sharing skills. There are so many girls here that I love and trust and spending time with them while dressed is very special to me.

[Stephanie47]

The anticipation could be nerve racking. I read this all the time of this site. I call it grabbing at 'crumbs of time." "Will the wife and kids be at work and school? Can I call in sick to work and enjoy myself for the day? Will the house burn down when I'm fully en femme with nail polish and makeup? Will the wife get sick at work and catch me? Yikes. I'm a nervous wreck."

I went through all that before I retired. Then the actual event exceeded the anticipation. Now? I've matured. I have the time much more often. Frankly, many time I do have the day to be en femme and it just slips (pun intended) as another day as a guy.

[docrobbysherry]

Anticipation is often stressful for me. Certainly not enjoyable. Because I concentrate on which outfit(s) I plan to wear and wonder what accessories I'll need to complete them!?:doh:

I nearly always find when the finished product appears in my mirror? I'm astounded, pleased, and excited!:D

I never anticipate those feelings, because I'm too busy getting everything rite while dressing!:heehee:

[JocelynJames]

I’m of the mindset that I need both. I’ve been dressing here and there lately but little desire to do so so it’s like going to an amusement park and all your favorite rides are closed. There have been times I wanted to dress so bad but had no clothes where I was and thought I would explode. I also have had times that the dressing didn’t live up to the hype. I just don’t know anymore.

[Beverley Sims]

I think when starting out, the anticipation of being dressed is a very powerful phenomenon.

The longer the interval between being dressed can be overwhelming.

As you progress so that urge decreases.

[Teresa]

Dominique,
I'm going to say being dressed but in comfort , it now feels natural to sit and have tea in the comfort of the hotel lounge where we meet . No anticipation , no fear, no shame or guilt , it just feels so good .

[Kimmie WJ]

Vikky,

My SO is ALSO away for a couple days next week. With anticipation, I am mentally making a list of items to buy then hurry home and put them. Sine I am not passable, I will stay inside and will most likely carry on as normal only enfemme and with the mindset of a female - hopefully. I will luxuriate in the clothing I have on and probably look at myself in the mirror several times and giggle at the sight. But hey, it will be pure pleasure! Though I have to admit, it would be nice to share some of the time with another lady to chat with, have a meal and enjoy the pleasure of being dressed.

Hope both our escapes will be rewarding.

[Diane Taylor]

Being dressed is far better than just thinking about it.

[jacques]

"What is better the anticipation or being dressed ?"
Both!
luv J

[mykell]

so i will be a decisive both, knowing that i have a safe place to go dressed and people who sometimes join me and now finding places to venture to make it a pleasure and something to look forward to.....being dressed and finding most people could care less, others still getting used to it and the compliments from GGs i have met, its hard to describe but extremely fulfilling....

[michelleg]

The anticipation of being able to dress for me is part of the excitement, I don't get as many opportunities as I would like, so when they do happen it's an exciting time. Once dressed, I love it and since I have to iron my male clothes for work, nothing says I can't be in heels and sexy lingerie or a pretty dress while doing it.

[Alice_2014_B]

It's way more fun, for me, to be completely dolled up.
However, the planning and anticipation of getting dolled up, especially for when I'm going out in public, is still very thrilling and exciting.

:)

[MarinaTwelve200]

BOTH are fun---I get to think about what I can do NEW and decide what to wear. Then actually do it when the time comes.

[Jenny22]

For me, it depends on the scene. As I can and do dress daily, neither apply. However, if I'm going to do anything away from home, both apply. I'm hoping and somewhat planning to go to DLV in April, so now its anticipation but it will be being dressed once I'm there and glammed up.

[NicoleScott]

The objective was met without pulling the trigger in "The Deerhunter". When it comes to CDing, I need to pull the trigger.

[Joni T]

OP. Only YOU can answer that question.
Jon

[Sometimes Steffi]

I'm an engineer, so I get great pleasure in the design process (planning my dressing) and equal pleasure in the implementation of the design (being dressed).

[Becky Blue]

For me anticipation is not at all enjoyable, when i know I am going to get a chance to dress and be myself for a bit I actually get a bit edgy and nervous thinking about what can go wrong and ruin my opportunity. When I know its happening I just need it to happen!!!

[alwayshave]

I love the anticipation, but when I finally dress and put my wig on, that's when I have the most satisfaction.

[sara66]

For me, I like the whole process. I like the build up, planning what to wear and the final product.
Sara

[Stacy Darling]

It's the "Anticipation" for me!
I'm in a mode of readiness at all times, and in a continual state of mental and physical preparation for my presentation! Which I Enjoy!

Dressed comes second for me, though I do have my in heaven moments when dressed!

Now that I can't separate the two, I'll have to say that it's all part of the same thing to me!

Stacy!

[BrendaPDX]

While I like the buildup, I love looking into the mirror and being taken back at the woman looking back at me; WOW! Yes, actually being dressed. Thanks for asking. Brenda

[Sidney]

This is an interesting thought. I enjoy dressing but there also other activities I enjoy . I found that sometimes the thought of getting home and changing into something "feminine " was distracting me from enjoying the moment because of wanting to be home and dressed. Finally I figured out that for me the cloths are nice but it is my inner feminine self that is the important thing not the cloths it self per say. Since I'm pretty much free to dress at home my wife suggested I start underdressing when we were out together to cut the anticipation and it works for me. So now I'm able to pretty much enjoy ALL of me most all the time. I think it's important to remember we enjoy the feminine clothing because of our female inner wiring that is there not the other way around. Dont know if this makes sense.

[Sarah Doepner]

It's two sides to the same coin. Each side is part of the experience and it wouldn't be quite the same if I only anticipated and never dressed, nor would being dressed without the planning and attention needed to look and feel my best. That even happens when I wake in the morning and know I'll just dress casual around the house, I still have a level of anticipation that is heavier on comfort than on fashion. Both the expectation and the feeling of being comfortably complete have value in my book.