Curious about Facebook accounts

[Stephanie43]

My question may be strange, but I’m curious what some of you may be doing. My wife knows I CD and is accepting. However, she’s requested that I not go out dressed. I am respecting her request, but would love to go out dressed, at least to meet and hang out with other like minded folks. That being said, this site is sort of my outlet to express my inner self as a CD’er. A place to share experiences, thoughts, opinions, advise and pics. It’s very freeing to let out 30 plus years of being hidden. So, to my Facebook question. Do any of you have an alternate FB account with your feminine side? I thought it would be fun to have a FB for Stephanie, but am a little hesitant. I mainly don’t want Stephanie to be linked back to the male me. I’m also not sure if I should put Stephanie out there on that form of social media. As I mentioned, this site has been a great outlet for me, but curious if adding other outlets would be beneficial. Anyway, just curious what other may be doing on FB and how. I’m open to other outlets and sites that any of you may use.

[Tracii G]

Use a separate email for your girl account and use a separate browser.
When its up and running block your male side and you should be just fine.
I have been doing it this way for years and I have never had a crossover problem.
I have a few friends on both FB pages but my guy posts don't show on my girl page and vice versa.

[Jaylyn]

Maybe what Tracii said but I have always been told that once your on a site you are already out there to everyone that knows how to get to your information. I worry sometimes about this site although it's been good so far. By the way my wife told me the same thing about not going out dressed and I'm just dying to try it at least once in my life. I get excited just thinking about it.
I'm not computer knowledgable to try two or three accounts but f it works give us a shout back would be fun to face book dressed.

[Tracii G]

I have lots of FB friends from here and other sites on my girl page and none have accidentally crossed over to my guy page.
There are thousands of CDers/ trans girls on FB so once you set up your page you will get lots of friend requests.
Of course you can decline the requests if you wish. I decline the fetishy types or creepy guys.

[Tamsin Secret]

On the subject of FB I would only do this if I was out to all and confident with my femme self. FB from what I understand can be a hotbed of hate even at the best of times. Personally I'm going to steer clear.

You post also sparked a quandary for me in relation to the SO not wanting you to go out dressed. I too long for this but can see this being the case in my relationship also. Trouble is I'm not sure I would be able to promise I wouldn't.

[Samantha uk]

you could start a facebook group. They can be closed groups for invited people only

[BarbraAnne]

I have four facebook accounts. One for Barbra, one for family, one for a group and one for my hobby. You just need separate e-mail addresses.

[LeannS]

Stephanie I also have a facebook account actually 4. I have 2 that are game related and 1 for my guy side and 1 for leann. I also use a separate browser when I go to my other account as to not cross paths so to speak. I did one time friend Leann and my wife asked why I was friending an ex no I didn't tell her who Leann was at that time.
but yes I did come clean.

on going out hummm go for a drive out of town sometime or go to a town or city thats is next to you. Your wife is probably scared someone will know you and it will be all over town and you be the center of all of it lol

good luck Leann

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if someone is part of a group let me know I wold like to be part of one

[ToniG]

For ease , convienience, AND security, only have the one FB acct. Do not wish to be bothered with the addl "friend" req... or have an issue IF I should return to work. Potential employers DO search Everything anymore, and do not want a problem later. We Do look at several sites and blogs, but only post on this one. Consider myself Very Fortunate, as being retired without SO to worry about--could go out everyday if felt up to it. Heart bleeds for those of you in the DADT/don't dress "prison"---as was in that yrs ago. At least you have this blog and others to help you find comfort. Toni G..

[Micki_Finn]

Be careful with Facebook. Those “recommended friends” algorithms will eventually out you to someone.

[Joanne Curl]

I have a separate Facebook account as Joanne. I keep it totally separate from my him account and I don't have any friends in common. I love having it because it's an outlet for my femme side just like coming here to this site, to spend time as Joanne.

[Sami Brown]

I asked the same question a few months ago. I did set up a second Facebook account. The only purpose is to follow a couple of TG groups. Otherwise I don't use Facebook for socializing. I don't like the meanness or giving out personal information for anybody to see.

Sami

[Tracii G]

Do not give out personal info or befriend a sketchy type person only add people you actually know from this site or a person you know in real life that you don't mind knowing about you.
The suggested friends are not a good idea IMO.
Closed TG groups are usually fine and you might actually make some new friends.

[mattfrykowski]

Be careful with Facebook. Those “recommended friends” algorithms will eventually out you to someone.

I agree with Micki Finn's comment, the algorithms could out you.

[Tracii G]

Yeah it could happen but be careful who you befriend like I said.
Don't be clicking on things you shouldn't.

[docrobbysherry]

I've had a FB Page for Sherry for 11 years. I use different servers to access the 2 Pages.

U definitely need a FB Page if u go out a lot and meet others. Because that is how all us girls connect. I have a very active social life as Sherry. Almost zero as Robert!:straightface:

[Becky Blue]

I have two FB accounts, use each on a different browser, My becky one I have blocked everyone I can think of from my other life and I make sure that I stay away from each others worlds. I have had 2 Fb accounts for 8 years and never had any issue with 'cross contamination' just have to be careful at all times.
FB is a great place to 'meet' like minded girls and chat.. look for me there anyone beckyblue8

[Heidi Stevens]

Lot of good suggestions here for you to use. My only FB account is Heidi. Limit info and watch how you friend. I do not add or accept any friends that I don’t personally know to people who know over 100 of my other friends.
I also do not accept any males unless I personally know them. Make sure your settings for who can see posts is set to friends. I’ve done ok with this method so far.

[almalove]

It may sound like a good idea but personally, I’m not a fan of FB, it’s so easy to find details about your life that I would not want out there so easy, in general I’m very private, good luck.

[Tracii G]

I'm a private person too but you need to choosy what you comment on.
I keep my page all girl and rarely comment on the trans activist type postings because they are way too radical for me.
You will find drama queens galore so I delete or block them if they get rowdy.

[Laurana]

I have two accounts. I used a second email and set my posts to be seen by friends only.

[Amy Lynn3]

I have three accounts and my problems happen because of operator error. Sometimes I forget and post on one site when I should be posting on another. Creates odd situations, such as when I posted a picture of an all in one briefer on my family page. I got messages from family members telling me how good I would look in that, along with other comments. Deny, deny, deny, deny, deny.

[Jaymees22]

I also have 2 FB accounts, but occasionally I see a friend request that should be on the other account and visa versa. I hardly ever friend someone unless there from here or I have actually met them.

[Becky Blue]

Oh and make sure your girl account is set with very high privacy levels so only friends can see your activity also you can set friend requests to be limited to friends of friends I think

[NatalieR]

I've had two Facebook accounts (and two email addresses) for years. I have a few friends (two, I think) that are on both. I've never had any cross-over between accounts or been outed. I generally post things with the security setting for "only friends" so nobody browsing my page can see very much. I am pretty certain that if people who know me in boy-mode would not recognize my femme profile pic.

On the other hand, I am not TOO concerned about being "outed" and am already out to a lot of people in my life. If someone figured it out, I feel like I could deal with it!

[Aunt Kelly]

Be careful with Facebook. Those “recommended friends” algorithms will eventually out you to someone.

This!

Facebook's reason to be is to make extremely detailed notes about what you do, and to share that information with others who might be interested in that. Primarily, that's advertisers who will pay for the data, but that tracking and linking is part of Facebook's DNA. You could avoid most of the risk by meticulously taking certain precautions, but if it would hurt to be outed to your FB friends, just tell your fem self to stay away from it.

[Rogina B]

I live as an "out"transwoman,so I come at this post from a different viewpoint than some. FB is a GREAT "outing" tool if you wish to use it as that ! You may control who you share with,but join a few groups,post comments on pictures, or comment in an online newspaper, etc, and then everyone that cares,can easily search you out. For me,it doesn't matter and I am happy if they do,and share "the intelligence" with others in my small industry[commercial fishing boats]. Most often saves me the effort of telling a potential customer that I am trans. However,in your case,I suggest you cool your jets as FB may not gain you more than you could lose as your post indicates that you operate in a top secret mode..

[mykell]

hi stephanie,
i dont trust FB at all, dont even trust my phone, so like you my wife knows but im still half in the closet.

one thing you may want to try is one of the big events like keystone : or maybe a local support venue.
i have started a pinterest account and it is private and if you saw mine the word DIVA will come to mind.
i helps keep my interests of feminine taste organized, makeup dupes, fashion, hobbies and such.

i am however out, support groups, been to keystone, volunteer at a LGBT club and such, just cant leave the house dressed, some support groups have an area where you may flip gender and change, unfortunately most dont.

i have a separate girl e.mail and use it with people i have actually met and correspond by phone and texts with some here. FB light perhaps.....

hope this can help with your situation, you look fairly young and convincing in your avatar and would most likely enjoy getting out into the wild....

[BrendaPDX]

Hi Stephanie, I have a fb account for Brenda and my drab side. I didn't know about using a different browser for each account. I had initial crossover trouble, and eventually picked up a chromebook, you can have separate logins without any crossover, I have two gmail accounts, and also picked up burner (cheap/disposable) phone for the separate confirmation phone number, google and fb kept pestering me because of the same phone number for different accounts. Welcome to the group! Brenda

[Monique65]

I have never had a FB account. Reading this forum is enough social media for me. It gives me something to do when my wife is on her FB.

[michelleddg]

I have had FB accounts for Michelle and Fred for years and years. I keep them totally isolated from each other, apply some common sense precautions (but nothing heavy handed) and have never had any problems whatsoever. Life is for the living, not the paranoid! Good luck, have fun...Hugs, Michelle

[Tracii G]

A high level of paranoia going on here so if you wish not to use it don't.
Like Rogina said it is a great tool for "coming out " if you choose to do so in the future.
When members ask I tell them what I do and don't do.Its been many years and no problems at all.
If you are afraid to walk out the front door then FB isn't for you and thats OK. Its your choice.

[Stephanie47]

I cannot speak to Facebook accounts or any other social media. I've watched my wife activities on Facebook and forums. The amount of time consumed is way too much. With reference to your wife not wanting you to be outed due to the potential negative effects is a valid point. In any marriage acts of one spouse can have a negative consequence for the other spouse. When my wife and I had "The Talk" decades ago she realized, although cross dressing is something I needed to do and she wanted no part of it, she did volunteer if I needed to join a support group she was fine with that. I looked. But back in the early 1980's even in liberal Seattle there was none. Maybe I should say I called a contact line and got the cold shoulder. From your prior posts I am assuming you are living in Florida. I would suggest checking the Internet for transgender/crossdressing support groups. If they have meetings you can stay at a local motel and go to and from the venue. I wish I had the opportunity in the 1980's to do that. Now I am too set in my ways and in my comfort zone to spread my wings. Good luck with your quest.

[Meghan4now]

Well, since several of my friends have chimed in, I will also. Yes there is a sec ops concern, however to the casual user, I am not too worried. I set up to not share too much or accept invitations from anyone who isn't a friend of a friend. Interestingly, I have never seen Meghan suggested to male me. I have seen some male me only friends suggested to Meghan.

My friend list is not too long. I generally don't accept friends from those I don't know, or at least seem very legit. And I would say that i have met a fairly large number of my FB friends, in person. For me, going out is a big draw and reason to continue to CD.

[Tracii G]

I think I only have 50 or so friends but a majority I have met in real life and they were the ones to send the friend requests so I felt it was ok.
A lot are from this site as well and while I have only met 7 from this site in person I feel its pretty safe.

[paulina]

Hello everyone. I don't really post much, but will add my two cents. I have a Facebook account for Paulina. I created a new email address and account at the same time. Haven't had any issues with any information crossing over.

[Meghan4now]

I think I only have 50 or so friends but a majority I have met in real life and they were the ones to send the friend requests so I felt it was ok.
A lot are from this site as well and while I have only met 7 from this site in person I feel its pretty safe.
Heck, that makes me feel special Doll!

[ClosetED]

I rarely use my drab FB account (set up to join high school connections) and within last year set up one for Ellen ThePrettyOne. I post higher quality and more pics there, but open only to friends and I normally only friend those who I know from here or other CD groups. I would stick with this place to share as a beginning. I use a different e-mail address and use my browser in private mode to access it, not the app. FB has not suggest drab me as being in Ellen's pictures.
Hugs, Ellen

[Stephanie43]

...you look fairly young and convincing in your avatar and would most likely enjoy getting out into the wild....

Thank you. That makes me feel good.

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I appreciate everyone’s feedback. I’m still on the fence but leaning more towards holding off on putting Stephanie on FB.

[natalie edwards]

I'm still trying to figure this out. I logged out of my boy account. I used a different email. I didn't use a phone number. First time opening the account my boy account and all my friends show as people you may know. Luckily I hadn't used a profile picture and it was about 2am so I deactivated the account.
I see some say to use a different browser. It's all being done from my cell phone. So do I use Google for one and what for the other? I have samsung internet on my phone too.
Will the fact that it's coming from my phone make the connection to my current boy account even without adding the phone number in my girl account?

Ok just tried that and it didn't work. I guess samsung internet is google too?

Just tried downloading firefox and doing it from there. Same,result. All my contacts pop-up as people i may know.

[Meghan4now]

Natalie, FB will search your phone, etc. For all kinds of info, so that is not surprising. However, if you want to maintain separation, beside just not using FB, you are on the right track, just make sure your security settings are set to only allow friends of friends access and friend requests. FB will look in a variety of folders and data, and then link with data on the www. Pretty amazing, and a little scary.

But you will need to take an attitude that if you are outed, it won't be the end of the world. Which you probably ought to consider if you dress at all.

[Sallee]

I have one Sallee Moore on FB never had a problem with cross over to Stu's account. Although on other forums I have to be careful when I comment because some just use FB as an ID in the comments of some threads. So I always logout of my FB account for Sallee

[Tracii G]

Heck, that makes me feel special Doll!

You are special Meghan. :)