Opportunity to be all dolled up & still blend in

[Bianca Fay]

I've read many posts that (wisely) advise dressing casually in order to blend in with GG's. However, in the event I ever get the courage to step out en femme, I don't want to be in trousers & a hoodie.

While at church this morning I noticed several women wearing dresses, skirts & heels - with hair & makeup done to appropriate perfection.

Afterwards I went to the grocery store & saw quite a few ladies all dolled up, most likely having just been from their choice of service.

They were just shopping & didn't look out of place, considering the time & day. They looked beautiful & natural & - other than some appreciative glances - didn't cause any undue attention to themselves.

Today would have been a perfect day to dress like a lady while still blending in wearing a pretty dress, heels & nylons.

[Jaylyn]

Your right about blending, there are time blending may be a hoodie and jeans with holes and tears and flat bottom tennis sneakers. Other times like after church services one would been better with dresses and hair fixed with full makeup, but I have seen slouchy ladies ( as I call them) wearing pants n jeans to church). Many women just dress to be more comfortable and they think jeans and "T" shirts are the way to be comfortable. I find it ironical that for me to be in a relaxing attire I wear hose, bra, and a slinky nylon dress with heels. To each their own I guess in both genders.

[Monique65]

You might consider visiting a church in another town. You could slip in after the service starts, then take you leave before it is over. I would recommend that you make sure it is a fairly liberal denomination, though, and sit in the balcony if possible.

Afterwards, you could have a bite to eat and do a little shopping, blending in with all the other GGs who have been to church.

[Bianca Fay]

Thank you for your responses, ladies.

I should have clarified that I was thinking that it would be opportune to get dressed after the service & then head out into the world in my finery

[Helen_Highwater]

Cecily,

What you wear when "Blending in" depends upon what is, while not the most common attire being worn, that which does not look out of place for the location and time. While there may be many GG's in dresses, skirts and blouses and heels, I'm sure in you observe them closely all of it will be tasteful. heels won't be too high, skirt lengths won't be too short. Cleavage to a minimum. Certainly not a sequin in sight.

Makeup will be sufficient. Jewelry, attractive but not gaudy or bling. I suppose you could say everything in moderation.

How you dress isn't the whole story. Remember it's also about being able to walk convincingly in those heels. Having the right deportment and mannerisms and perhaps most importantly being confidently relaxed.

I really hope you're able to fulfill your wishes and get out and about. It's such a wonderful feeling.

[Glenda58]

Before I got remarried I would go to church every Sunday dressed in a dress or skirt with heels then shopping after. I would get there before mass started and leave after mass. People who come in late would get looked at the same with those who left before mass was over. My avatar is one outfit I wore to church.

[DIANEF]

My wife and I went shopping today at 'big ASDA' (our equivalent of Walmart), very busy and I didn't see a single woman in a dress or skirt. We later hit the city center and they were everywhere you looked. I always wear a dress or skirt when out and so far I seem to be able to blend without any difficulty. A frumpy 'shopping' outfit is just not for me.

[Taylor Dame]

Another time to blend in would be on weekdays from 4:30 - 6 PM. Many women shop after leaving work wearing skirts and dresses often with blazers and sweaters. Many are also wearing 3-4" heels.:battingeyelashes:

[Becky Blue]

Cecily blending is not hiding, its trying to just be seen as another woman out there. In any given spot there are some women in dresses and skirts so blending is wearing similar types of clothing to match the other women around you. For example if you went to your local shopping centre in a tight mini dress with 6" heels you probably won't blend in very well, but if you were out in that outfit at a club you may well...

[Stephanie47]

I would get absolutely zero enjoyment wearing women's jeans and a hoodie. For me it is dresses. I am not a church goer anymore. However, many women in our area attend more conservative or evangelical churches than where I was raised. For some reason Costco is a hot bed of divinely attired women after Sunday church services. Maybe with all the kids in tow it's the $1.50 hot dogs and pop? Target is another great skirt watching place for women grabbing something on the way to the office. Fred Meyer/Kroger is the same in the early morning.

Get dolled up and go for a drive, park the car, and, go for an evening stroll in a quiet residential neighborhood. That's what I do when I feel the need to be out en femme. I live in rainy western Washington State. Taking a stroll in the evening with an open umbrella offers some concealment if you're afraid to have your face seen. The comment was made about walking in heels. Many women carry their heels to and from work in a tote and wear an athletic shoe. Get a clear plastic tote to carry a pair of heels. Find a comfortable women's athletic shoe and feminize the shoes with bright colored laces.

[Beverley Sims]

When I go shopping it's usually a smart blouse or top, slingback sandals with a bit of heel, skinny jeans that fit.

Yes I usually look slim taut and I think I am terrific. :-)

[TheHiddenMe]

It's always a bit of a conflict for me.

I love dresses (my first attraction way back when) and wearing nylons and heels (and tops and skirts too). I have probably 30 dresses now, and I want to wear them out of the house.

OTOH, I know that more women wear jeans/slacks/leggings these days than dresses or skirts (at least in the US--there seem to be more dress wearing women here in Australia), and to better fit it, I should wear my legging/jeans (and I just bought some white slacks to wear upon my return to the US).

So if I plan to hit the thrift stores, I will generally try to blend. If I am going to Nordstrom (a common destination for me), it's more likely a dress.

It's the old story of the angel on one shoulder (blending with pants) and the devil on the other (dresses and skirts).

[Krisi]

Women dress up for some churches in some parts of the country. In other churches and parts of the country, they do not. Some churches have decided they would rather have a more casual dress expectation than have the people stay home.

So, you've got to observe the women where you live. Then you can dress the way they do.

[docrobbysherry]

Cecily, it sounds like u live in a small town in the Midwest? Here in SoCal, finding women out dressed that way on Sunday is like finding hen's teeth.
To find one here, you'd have better luck going to our malls any day of the week and visiting the expensive clothing and jewelry stores!:battingeyelashes:

Personally? I have no interest in dressing to blend or in visiting vanilla venues all dolled up! Way too stressful:sad:

If I want to dress up to the 9's with the girls, I simply create my own group of women!:daydreaming:

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[Nikki A.]

I go to church dressed almost every Sunday. I'm not the only one who wears a skirt or dress although I notice that the skirt contingent seems to be growing. I've even had a woman or two mention that they had gotten out of the habit and that I was one of the reasons that they started to dress up again.
An update I was invited to become a full member this past Sunday, and I even asked to read the scripture during the liturgy.