Using your Girl name in Boy life

[Becky Blue]

I had a surreal experience today, I had to write a long and complicated email to someone. I had to describe a process that they would follow at their end and that process involved a lot of step for someone called Becky.

In the course of one email i had to type Becky about 6 or 7 times... each time I typed it I had a kind of out of body experience it felt really weird...then I had the feelings allover again as I proofread the email carefully.

I also triple checked that i didn't sign off regards Bec

how do you feel when you see your F name in your M world?

[halljennifer]

Anytime I meet a Jennifer in boy mode, I totally want to tell her that’s my name too. But it would be a bit awkward having to explain why a dude wants to be called Jennifer lol.

[Tracy Irving]

The name means nothing to me beyond what I would have been called if born the opposite sex. I wouldn't object to changing it but I only use it here so who cares...

[Tracii G]

I use my girl name in guy mode sometimes if I get a wild hair to do so.

[Teresa]

Becky,
I don't have too much of a problem as Teresa is derived from my male name , I may resort to using Terry and Terri which is what one on my Email addresses contains .

I admit I have signed off in the in the wrong gender , perhaps you could say I signed off as a transgender .

[Becky Blue]

Me too Jennifer, I always want to blurt it out. I met a Becky recently and I said nice name, she said thanks.
Tracy, Becky is also my name it means a lot to me. Its actually more important in many ways than my birth name as I chose it.

Tracii, I know two males Tracies actually
Teresa, good thinking makes life simple but increases the chance of errors

Today in a follow up call I had to mention the Becky person that i was writing about last night, I stumbled over saying the name a few times at first.

[t-girlxsophie]

I'm on my football club's official forum under my girls name,anonymity on there so everyone's none the wiser.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Becky :hugs:, I have caught myself starting to type Orchid on a male e-mail correspondence.>Orchid...:daydreaming:...

[DIANEF]

I was good friends with a work colleague named Diane several years ago. I told her I had always liked that name, she asked why and I made up some tale about a former girlfriend. Oddly Dianes seem to be few and far between in my part of the world.

[Lana Mae]

Since high school(1969) I have not met or known another Lana let alone a Lana Mae! Not sure how I would react! Hugs Lana Mae PS: the only Lana-s I have known have all been short!

[kimdl93]

I have an advantage. My given name is Kimberly. Even my middle name can ‘pass’ and all my identifications bear the full name.

Its kinda weird, but I always felt my name, and even my nickname (Kimmie) fit me better than they were supposed to!

[Alice B]

I use my name several times when I play golf.Drawing from two old TV shows. Saturday Night Live and The Honeymooners. When I have a bad shot (of which there are many) I yell "Alice-you ignorant ****"

[Jaylyn]

I've never met another Jaylyn, but my wife when I'm in male mode we'll see a dress or a GG wearing something hot and she will say out loud I bet Jaylyn loves that. She has also ask me while I'm in male mode if Jaylyn needs anything while she is buying makeup.
I usually look around and see if anyone is close before I answer her. I've never used my girl name in my boy life but she has in my boy life.

[Laura28]

My wife will tease me when out and say Laura would like this or does Laura need make up or panties

[BettyMorgan]

Anytime I meet a Jennifer in boy mode, I totally want to tell her that’s my name too. But it would be a bit awkward having to explain why a dude wants to be called Jennifer lol.

I haven't met anyone named Betty yet. But I do find it odd when I hear someone call me that name. I'm at the point where I'm one and the same person and having two names feels odd. And I don't know what to do about it.

[Edelia]

Many times I have been tempted to use my name as a woman in everyday situations of man, mainly work, but on the edge of the abyss I stopped and I have never pronounced my name, Edelia.

[Beverley Sims]

Bev is a shortened name for me and I have lived with it all my life.

Does not cause a problem.

[5150 Girl]

I feel like the guy side is just a persona I need to adopt from time to time to "fit in" in a few select situations. And most of the people I interact with know me both ways anyhow, so if I'm ugly and I or someone else uses "her" name it's no big deal.

[kayegirl]

My femme name is derived from the initial of my given name, so it seldom causes any problems, even appears correct on your bank and credit cards.

[Connie D50]

I do have to say every time I run across my name (Connie) I ways get a kick out of it and smile. Just last night in the show young Selden is grandma had Connie on her bowling blouse. :-)

[Cassandra Lynn]

I'm out to several lady friends and by extension a few guys. My bestie, and her daughter (both of whom I consider sisters now) are especially supportive and accepting of me.
The daughters little girl heard her mom jokingly refer to me as aunty Mike and it has stuck; and although it does cause some rather interesting and sometime uncomfortable moments, I love it.

Several of these gals will often call me girlfriend, sis and all manner of cutesy pet names in public, tho they are fairly careful.
One of them, in texts will call me 'gurl', and while I'm not a fan of that particular spelling, she uses it in good faith and is trying to be inclusive so I don't ever call her out on it.

The one thing I would really like is for them to call me Cass, which is my preferred name useage; but since there is another lady in our community named Kass, they all aren't to thrilled with my chosen name.

But hey, it's all good in the hood, cause the amount of love and acceptance I receive is more than I could ever have hoped for.

[SherriePall]

I don't use my name out loud, but sometimes will mutter under my breath something like, "come on, Sherrie, let's go." I do love it when I hear my name sung by the Four Seasons!

[nikkiwindsor]

It frustrates me to see my feminine name "Nikki" in my M world...it reminds me that very few people know who I really am and that's upsetting!

[CrossKimmy]

I've been seeing Kimberly a whole lot lately in different spellings no less. It kind of stops my heart for a second and I need to do a double take. Hehe

[Drew GB]

I have had people as I grew up call me by what is now my Girl name, partly why I chose it, sometimes they would ask if I mind but my usual answer was I don’t really care, secretly though I did like it. Nowadays I like hearing it as to me it represents my true self and I like being recognized that way no matter which role I am currently in. On the flip side I have always gone by a gender neutral nickname and now when I hear my full male name I don’t like it because it is a male name and it does not truly represent me anymore. Having said that I am debating my name and what it means to me.

[IleneD]

I sometimes use my femme name in Guy Mode out in public as a kind of sincere running joke; like giving my name to the hostess at a restaurant. If I'm by myself even in drab I will use the name Ilene just to get the reaction. The Wife doesn't appreciate the joke and once had a minor hissy in public that I dared use my femme name at a restaurant. [Table for two, for Ilene. Ilene, table for two !! ]

This topic brings me to another thought about my femme name, and the possibility of changing it.
While I dressed and underdressed and knew about my femme side for a long time, I never gave Her a name of Her own. I didn't need to. She was Me. When I joined the forum it almost demanded a female nome de plume. I used a name from my mother (Ilene) as a fill in at the moment. I always loved the ring of the sound of "Ilene", and it has old name connotations. So I've gone with it and grown to quite love and honor the name.

BUT.... as I grow more and more along my CD track and considering the possibility of full-time transition (JUST a possibility for now ! ), I have thought about also transitioning to a more conducive femme name; something I can instantly recognize and not be confused by reaction. Something where I don't have to think twice.
My natural given guy name is Tom. I've never mentioned that here because I wanted to maintain confidentiality. I've considered changing my femme name and possibly my transition name to "Tommy" or a more feminized "Tommi". Now...... when I was a small child I hated it when my aunts, mom and adults in general called me Tommy. Don't know why. I wanted to be a girl, so maybe the emphasis on a name I only recognized as male was irritating.

I'm groping for another opinion here. Should I go with a femme name that is more closely aligned with my given "guy" name?