Crossdresser Signal

[Sophiacd]

I'm curious if there is s subtle signal, emblem, piece of jewelry etc that identifies crossdressers to each other when we're not in our feminine mode?

[Tracy Irving]

None that I am aware of.

[jacques]

hello,
there should be!
luv J

[Rayleen]

I wear lipstick everyday, don't now if anyone got a signal, if it is one.

Rayleen

[DIANEF]

I wouldn't think so. Anything 'secret' would soon become common knowledge and I doubt many crossdressers would walk around with a visible sign identifying what they are.(maybe some would.....)

[kimdl93]

Eye shadow and mascara would be a definite tell. So far, tho, I've avoided sending any signals, nor have I looked for anyone else's.

[RADER]

I wear my bra, (under dressed) every day, that might give it away.
Rader

[KarenSusan]

I heard it suggested one time to wear a certain colored rubber band on the left wrist.

[NicoleScott]

Watch how we walk. There's the signal - dead giveaway.

[Cassandra Lynn]

There is a transgender flag; but that's more something you'd see at pride festivals and on some TG/CD friendly establishments.
Other than that, we can only rely on what visual clues we know and can see. That's problematic and forces one to make assumptions that we prolly shouldn't be making.

[Amelie]

Watch how we walk. There's the signal - dead giveaway.

I was just going to say that. And to make it even better if we could walk like John Cleese when he does his silly walk, then we wouldn't have a chance in missing each other.

[dana 1]

Like Karen said, a rubber band, but I've never noticed anyone wearing one

[Kiwi Primrose]

I wear an obvious earring, left ear only, and my chest/breast shape must be obvious sometimes. Often my shoes are heeled and feminine looking. None of these seems to have indicated anything different about me to people outside my family and close friends.

[Teri Ray]

I just checked my crossdresser handbook and I find nothing that provides the rule for this.

[denese]

the symbol for this site seems to me to be a good "sign". if you are in the know you would alrweady know what it means. if a person does not know what the symbol means and asks, the answer is simple. "this is a ying-yang symbol showing equality and balence and it is blue and pink for the equality of gender

[IleneD]

I'm going with Paul Newman's forefinger upside the nose, from the movie "The Sting"

[mbmeen12]

289399How about this?

[rachel_rachel]

no way I'd wear that.. I'm trans, not gay.

[Beverley Sims]

Not without being as subtle as a brick!

Welcome to the forum.

[Majella St Gerard]

How bout a secret handshake too.😄

[docrobbysherry]

I thot it was when you're a guy in a dress, wearing earrings in both ears?:brolleyes:

[Joyce Swindell]

What ever is done should be an "I'm a supporter" kind of meaning. Not to imply gay or trans. That way it doesn't define anyone as anything

[Tracii G]

If you do a search on this site of this subject you will see we have many post on this.
Personally I don't see the point.
If I am out in girl mode not much chance I am going to wear some trinket saying I'm a guy in womens clothes.
I have a pride bracelet and I do wear that in my guyish mode but I am gay so its not a big deal.

[rachael.davis]

Untill you pass through the initiation, and reach novice level that information is denied to you

[michelleddg]

We're the ones wearing nylons. Hugs, Michelle

[Majella St Gerard]

How about an X tattoo on the shoulder.

[Joyce Swindell]

I understand the post to be about when I'm out in male mode to wear something that identifies me as a supporter (or participant) for crossdressers.

If you pass so well when in fem then I agree there is no point to it.

[Linda Leigh]

I checked the crossdresser's handbook and did not find one

[Confucius]

Obvious there isn't one, but it would still be a good idea. Maybe we could develop one just for the members on this forum.

[Tracii G]

Confucius that has been discussed here many times so do a search and read all the posts.
Again I have to ask why whats the advantage?
If there is a forum member here from your area chances are you will know it already.

[mykell]

We're the ones wearing nylons. Hugs, Michelle

sadly thats probably true,

maybe this :
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mth0aHI_rIk

[Joyce Swindell]

I like the Ying/Yang idea. But not a color that draws attention such as pink. If you believe in the K.I.S.S. theory (keep it simple silly) two different colors (ying/yang) ... maybe red and blue?

Any other thoughts on colors?

[audreyinalbany]

this has come up a bunch of times before on the forum...I'd say a guy wearing women's clothes is a signal that you're a crossdresser

[Joyce Swindell]

Ok....so how do you start a fad or new wave ? If we give it a name and throw it out to others maybe we could get it to catch on. So lets start there...what do we want call an emblem?

[MonctonGirl]

where other guys look at her tits or ass
we're looking at her dress or her shoes
( perhaps in addition to the former )

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Again I have to ask why whats the advantage?
.

There is probably nothing but DISadvantage, whereas others will soon know the sign
and it may betray us to those from whom we wish to keep things secret.
Such sign or symbol may even become trendy for normal guys to display it.
CASE STUDY

"Barb wire" tattoo wraping around a woman's bicep once meant she was lesbian.
Rolled-up cuffs on the jeans of a young male once meant he was a prostitute
Navel/Belly-button ring on a female prostitute meant she would do "Greek" (A*al sex)
They all became mainstream trends.

[Robertacd]

Oh there are signals, subtle but they are there.

So far I am 3 for 3 on people I have met in drab and could tell they were one of us.

I can't really explain but if you pay attention you can see the signs.

[Jaylyn]

I'm not gonna wear anything that would give me away. Why would you? Like someone has already said it wouldn't be a secret any more and sure as the world is almost round tha haters of VDs would flash you a sign to see who is and who is not. Good way to get beat up or made fun of. Nicole probably hit the head on this one just watch a CD walk.

[rachel_rachel]

I thot it was when you're a guy in a dress, wearing earrings in both ears?:brolleyes:

Then that's me!!

[Kendal]

There's a handbook???? Can I get it for Kindle???
Kendal

[Rhonda Darling]

It's either a red carnation, or a flower in your hair, or a CD Secret Decoder Ring from a Cracker Jack box. I always forget which . . . .

[SaraLin]

I like the Ying/Yang idea. But not a color that draws attention such as pink. If you believe in the K.I.S.S. theory (keep it simple silly) two different colors (ying/yang) ... maybe red and blue?

Any other thoughts on colors?

hm-m-m
I've been wearing yin/yang studs in both ears for years now. Does that put me at the head of the crowd? And I didn't even know... :battingeyelashes:
I wear them 24/7 and have only gotten a few comments over the years. If asked, I'll explain that they're for my Reiki attunements. (for those who ask Reiki is a form of energy healing)

[Amelie]

Whatever item is picked for this CD signal will be the death bed of that signal. If this signal is some sort of jewelry or similar bought item. Once a piece of jewelry is know to the rest of the world that it means you're a cd no one else but cds will wear it and may cause it to go out of existence for lack of sales, unless there are enough cds to buy it, unlikely. I don't understand the cd signal thing. Most cds want to be left alone, sort of stealth. If one wants a signal then go to a cd support meeting of some sort, there they can see other cds.

[Pat]

This topic comes up regularly. My suggestion is that you get a t-shirt with big, block letters that says, "I'm a crossdresser." If people seem to take it badly, or you're afraid to blow your cover, you can always claim you're a hipster "being ironic." But then if you see others wearing it, you won't know if they're really crossdressers or just hipsters being ironic. Other than that, it always seems like folks looking for a way to be out without being out.

[BarbraAnne]

289439 These pins are available from Target online.

[Tracii G]

Amelie I agree once its out then its irrelevant.
The whole notion you can be out without being out seems a bit far fetched.
We are living in strange times because what used to me wrong is right and used to be right is wrong so thinking you could be out and not be out isn't such a stretch for some that don't know any better

[deebra]

Sophiacd I disagree with most threads, there should be a signal we wear that ID's us to other CD's. It could be a long pinky fingernail or better still a colorful ring you slip on a certain finger. And for a public that is solely into themselves it wouldn't "out" us. It would be nice to see another male/person shopping in women's clothes and you notice the ring, put on your ring and go over and say hello. Maybe go for a coffee afterwards and start a friendship since each of you would live near by. We should do this. As isolated as we are from friends, family, society wouldn't it be nice to have a CD friend nearby.

[Rollermiss]

Unfortunately even if we try and hide it. Some way it will get out and that could be embarrassing. Sorry but no thanks

Kelsey

[mykell]

well what do you know, they have them.....

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[NicoleScott]

So which one is the crossdresser signal?

[mbmeen12]

289481I Goggled and try to find a non verbal signal and or a symbol.....Wearing clothes could be just the answer. K.I.S.

[Lydianne]

Agender version 2 / paracetamol fan.

Agender void - I think I might have worn that one before :thinking:.

- Lydianne.

[redtea]

In order for it to work, it would need to have a double meaning so that people can make their assumptions one way or the other, and if asked we can lie and say it's for the latter rather than the former.

But yeah, i wear skinny jeans and once in a while pink shoes to convey a hint of being a sissy boy in hopes of getting a good dose of humiliation so i can level up and go further. Maybe not as far as "Sexy Vegan" who dances in public wearing only a speedo.

[Krisi]

Many of us hide our crossdressing from the public so wearing something that identifies us as crossdressers is probably not going to happen. For those of us who don't hide our crossdressing from the public, the fact that we are wearing a dress or breast forms will probably identify us as crossdressers.

Really, I don't see the point.

[Joyce Swindell]

I think the Genderqueer bracelet is the one to wear. Very very few people will think anything about it having a meaning at all. If anyone comments ..."it was a gift" or maybe " I found it and thought it was nice" would work very well as an answer. If they express the true meaning then be surprised!

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To continue my previous post...be surprised or be aware this person knows what it means and you could ask how they know this (as in questioning their statement). This could start a new frendship.

[Sallee]

this as come up before I think I remember some one suggesting it years ago. I guess it never happened. You can usually tell when we see another TG with our TGdar. The problem is we usually are trying to blend and pass and if we read some one it is only because of our tgdar or maybe genderdar is a better word and the person read doesn't want to be read unless in a glbt event or bar.
I think the bracket would be a great idea the first one would be the one to where. I would do it. It could be talked about in GLTB publications. It could be worn in any mode. Lets see some one get it out there

[Pat]

...our tgdar or maybe genderdar is a better word...

Almost there. I'd go with gendar. ;)

There seem to be one of two motivations at work in threads like this one (and there are a lot.) One is a way that others can signal their CD status while the person proposing the idea wants to conceal theirs and the other is what I mentioned before -- that the person wants to be out without being out. Which I model in my head as someone saying they want to paint themselves blue without being blue or getting paint on themselves. ;)

[Susan Albright]

One signal could be red painted toe nails when in drab.
Oh damn I am wearing shoe and socks.
Just a little humor

[donnalee]

Usually it's a guy in a dress.
There is a secret handshake - I could show you, but then I'd have to kill you.

[tammy1]

The CD Hand book...ha,ha,ha. "Everything you wanted to know about Cross Dressing but were afraid to ask". Hummmmm...not a bad idea. We could start one here and post with Rules and Regulations...LOL.

When i first got my ear pierced, it didn't matter who you were, you were just labled as "gay". My things have changed in the last 43 years. Just look at some "straight" men today and look for pierced ears. In the 50's rolled up cuffs meant your Levi's were too long. Barb Wire tattoes wrapping around any arm (male or female) once meant you had done some time in prison and belley-button and nose piercing were mostly seen on women of orgins from India or Mid-astern countries. Take a good look at fashion changes today as opposed to "back in the day".