Sometimes I think we are all crazy

[Nikki A.]

When you consider what we have invested in our dressing, in money, time, anxiety of being found out and in some cases loss of friendships or families we have to be a bit daft to go through all this for the few chances many of us have to dress.
In spite of all this how many of us would even think of quitting. I know there are so many reasons to stop, but I don't see that in my future. I am careful in what I spend, but I'm beyond caring (to a point) if I'm outed. "You may be right I may be crazy, but I may just be the lunatic you're looking for" Billy Joel

[Traci H]

Nikki, you took the words right out of my mouth. I have thought about posting a similar thread many times. Sometimes I just sit back and think maybe we are all nuts. But that’s just the way it is I guess. I only wish my wife could accept me. I don’t care much about any others.

[Tracii G]

You can call yourself whatever you want but personally I'm not crazy.
I'm perfectly sane and quite logical.

[Rachael Leigh]

I’m more of the mind it can drive me crazy being somewhat gender fluid but I don’t believe I’m crazy
I’m just me, I just wish being me didn’t offend people

[RADER]

I like to be comfortable in my old age, and wearing a dress or a skirt makes me comfortable.
Now you want to call me crazy??? I am just being me, and what is wrong or crazy about that.
Rader

[Melanie Moxon]

At the end of the day if you enjoy it, it's not crazy, I spend hundreds flying small aeroplanes for nothing more than enjoyment, there is no real end game, I might go commercial, I might not.

There is nothing crazy about wanting to be pretty either :o

[Nikki A.]

I agree with a lot of what you all say. It makes we laugh sometimes, women can't wait to get home and take off their bras. hose and dresses. We can't wait to get home and put them on LOL.

[Robertacd]

I'm not crazy, my mom had me tested. :p

[Hell on Heels]

Hell-o Nikki,
Quit??? That’ll be the day they pry the
mascara tube from my cold stiff hand!

Crazy? You bet ! But in a good way.

Much Love,
Kristyn

[franlee]

The one common factor in CDing that seems to drive all crazy, is WHY DO I CD? The rest is like any other hobby, habit or need you can spend as much as you want on it and without restraint and control, "to much." Time as well as money.

[Jaylyn]

This makes me laugh a little as my wife wife has said this before that I must be crazy to want to go thru what she goes thru daily. Her makeup, wearing heels, hose, and having to carry a purse everywhere. She said that all this is why she needs down time to just wear her sweats, no makeup, flip flops, and to crash in her recliner for hours at a time.
I try to pass it as a hobby ( that didn't work), so now I just tell her I guess I'm crazy for some reason I cant explain and I like CDng.

[Teresa]

Nikki,
All these thoughts must pass through our minds at some point, sometimes it can drive us and the close ones around us crazy.

I'm sure most have gone through the questions of why me , why have I been afflicted with this to coming to terms with it and eventually accept it and enjoy it . I see it that now days we are the lucky ones , if you can find the courage to take it to the stage where it becomes natural and comfortable . No matter where we are on the spectrum bringing mind and body into balance does feel so good , OK at times it may lead us to do some crazy things , I wouldn't have missed those special moments for the World !

[Tracii G]

With all the world around us so dysfunctional and being 180 degrees out of whack I am hardly the crazy one.
I'm not the one screaming in the streets making a fool of myself by dressing as a female body part and demanding others to take me seriously.

[Gillian Gigs]

My wife tells me that I am crazy for wearing pantihose, because she can't stand them. But, I love to wear them, and almost wish I could wear them all year long. So, one persons trash, is another's treasure, who's to say which is which. If I could change one thing about the world, it would be to get everyone to love one another and accept the other person in spite of their quirks and short comings.

[Alice Torn]

Nikki, Isn't it ironic!? Bizzarro world!

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Gillian, so true.

[Rayleen]

We might be crazy , most SO wonder why we need bras...with no breast. Most women hates wearing high heels,,sore feet.

Why change, you look great as a you are. Call it crazy or a bit wacky , but I 'm sure happy as a regular CDer.

Rayleen

[Nikki A.]

Quit??? That’ll be the day they pry the mascara tube from my cold stiff hand!

No Krystyn it the eyeliner they'd have to pry out.

Gillian Gigs I agree with the pantihose. But honestly if I'm wearing control top p/h, after a long day and I'm dying to get them off too. It is too bad people can't accept that we are all different. But if we can talk to one on one eventually things may be different. In the closet or not we can at least correct the people who don't know any better.

[DIANEF]

Crazy? no. Quit, ever?, no. Others may think I am crazy, but then again I just don't get people who climb mountains without ropes, or do selfies on top of tall buildings, or other equally dangerous activities. Crazy, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.

[CynthiaD]

Oh, I'm definitely crazy. No doubt about that. But crossdressing is probably the most uncrazy thing I've ever done. Spending years pretending to be male was crazy. Wearing female clothing is totally sane.

[Roberta Lynn]

Sometime a little crazy is a good thing:)

Still Crazy After All these Years: Paul Simon

[Teri Ray]

I might be crazy...........but I am not sure. I do crossdress...........That I am sure. I thought the definition of crazy was doing the same thing and expecting different results. Each time I dress..........I get the same results. But.........I still may be crazy.

[Susan Albright]

Of course we are crazy because we love to be feminine
No wait, that's not crazy, it's just the way we are!!!

[Hell on Heels]

Dont worry about it Terri.

This may go better in the
”Alice in Wonderland Quotes”
thread, but it fits here.

The Mad Hatter:
“Have I gone mad?”

Alice:
”I’m afraid so. You’re entirely
bonkers! But I’ll tell you a secret.
All the best people are.”

[krissy]

It may at times feel like that but Ill never quit.Then i would go insane LOL

[docrobbysherry]

Speak for yourself! I'm just your average CD------------:devil:

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[Beverley Sims]

Forget cattle ticks and ticks in a clock.

I am sure we have been bitten by the looney tick somewhere in our lives. :-)

[GracieRose]

Crazy? no. Quit, ever?, no. Others may think I am crazy, but then again I just don't get people who climb mountains without ropes, or do selfies on top of tall buildings, or other equally dangerous activities. Crazy, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.


With all the world around us so dysfunctional and being 180 degrees out of whack I am hardly the crazy one.
I'm not the one screaming in the streets making a fool of myself by dressing as a female body part and demanding others to take me seriously.


Oh, I'm definitely crazy. No doubt about that. But crossdressing is probably the most uncrazy thing I've ever done. Spending years pretending to be male was crazy. Wearing female clothing is totally sane.


Sometime a little crazy is a good thing:)

Still Crazy After All these Years: Paul Simon


I love it!! This thread is great therapy. :)

[Sarah Louise]

I think it depends what you mean by 'crazy'. Crazy can be more of a throw-away remark in a different context. If you take it to mean insane, then like others, I disagree.

But you also call it a 'bit daft' and I tend to agree with this.

You're right, the stress, anxiety, costs and lying that some of us put ourselves and others through is a little nonsensical - but we're not mentally insane.

And it's so much fun!

[Cassandra Lynn]

After talking to the committee in my head we've decided the answer is no......

Crazy is what I was when I tried to stuff myself in a deep dark hole somewhere inside. It never really worked, as most of you know from experience.
Once I accepted my gender gift I got much saner.

Didn't we?
Yes we did.
No we didn't!
Yes we did!
Who asked you?
They did.
Who's they?
You shut up, I didn't ask for your opinion!
Don't talk to me that way!
Talk to who that way?

Ummm, er..........excuse me, the committee is rioting. Too much coffee maybe. :D

[sometimes_miss]

We might be crazy , most SO wonder why we need bras...with no breast.
Well, MOST of us don't have female type breasts. but enough of the male population does so that they came up with the term gynecomastia. I'm one of those guys. It's mixed emotions; as a man, I'm embarrassed to take my shirt off. As a crossdresser, my bras fit.


Most women hates wearing high heels,sore feet.
Love-hate there too; though they hate how they feel, they LOVE how they look.

We're not exactly crazy, though 100 years ago, that would have been the concensus of opinion. I feel like I'm supposed to be a girl, so I feel normal in female clothing. The WHY I feel that way, well, there's a bunch of reasons possible, and each of us has their own.

[JanetW]

"But we're never gonna survive, unless
We get a little... crazy
No we're never gonna survive, unless
We are a little... crazy"

-Seal 1991

[SaraLin]

Crazy? No, no thanks, that label's not for me - any more.

I now prefer to think of myself as something of a misfit. I'm 'irregular' in that I don't fit into the standard definition of things. But then again - who really does? I remember seeing a saying that went:

Remember - you're unique - just like everyone else

How true.

As for crazy - I still remember seeing a report from one of my counselors that read in part "... is a pleasant, well adjust individual who has..." It warmed my heart greatly so see that phrase used by a professional to describe me. the fact that he coupled it with diagnosing me as having (using the terms of the day) transsexualism, was a major bonus.

[deebra]

TraciG, you say you aren't crazy; then why do you wear a bra when you have no natural boobs to put in it? Why wear heels when flat sole male shoes are more comfortable? Loose male clothes such as boxer shorts are more comfortable than bikinis or thongs that don't have the extra room for your man stuff. Why embarrass your self when you don't pass or be gaulked at? Most people would think you are crazy to CD. Is wearing clothes of the opposite gender that aren't made to fit your male body and dressing as and presenting yourself as a woman which you are not a form of mental illness?

[rachael.davis]

I agree with a lot of what you all say. It makes we laugh sometimes, women can't wait to get home and take off their bras. hose and dresses. We can't wait to get home and put them on LOL.
Transvestite - I can't wait to get home, and get into that new corset and the six inch stilettos.
transgender - I can't wait to get home, get into a pair of flats, and those new slacks and get out for some wine
transsexual - I can't wait to get hom, and get out of this d*** skirt, and what was I thinking these heels are killing me.

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No, I'm not crazy anymore - a few years ago when I was in massive denial oh **** yes, longer ago than that when I fractured my identity so that I could survive the mental and physical abuse of being a feminine boy in a blue collar/skilled trades/uniformed services family - absolutely self loathing, self hatred, and a willingness to take risks that made normal people shudder - BSF crazy.

but no, not any more, and really really happy.

[t-girlxsophie]

You don't have to be crazy to do this,but it helps 😁

[Asew]

I love all the responses to this thread.

I have two modes to my dressing. In one mode I have my "office skirt" that I swap out of my man pants and wear in my home office. This is totally about comfort and makes sense. No anatomical reason men can't wear skirts so this can be considered sane. But my other mode is full outfit with bra, fake breasts, and heels and at times it does seem crazy to go to such lengths. Why can't I be content with the something simpler? It is obviously something more than just comfort.

Even if it is crazy I don't mind. People already say I am crazy for running a 100 mile ultramarathon :)

[DaisyLawrence]

Everyone's crazy. I have yet to meet anyone who agrees with me about everything so they must all be crazy because I can't be, right?
Now, think of all the people you know and I bet the ones you think are the least crazy are also the most boring and predictable ones just plodding through life. What's the point in that? Everyone needs a bit of crazy in them.

[CONSUELO]

Sounds like the confessions of a serious golf addict. Huge amount of money spent on clothes and equipment then comes the eye-watering membership fee at the golf club, then the frequent visits to meet minimum dining requirements and several times a week you have to dress up and spend more than half a day chasing a small white ball around a big area area of greensward.

Being a cross dresser is a cakewalk in comparison.

[Cassandra Lynn]

Let's also keep in mind peeps that 'normal' is a setting on a washing machine.
--------
Deebra- not quite sure what to make of your post.
Read top to bottom, it sounds odd to me.
Was that some good natured sarcasm that I missed, or are you at the beginning of your journey and still struggling to accept yourself?
Cass

[jacques]

"Sometimes I think we are all crazy" ---- Only sometimes?
luv J

[Patience]

I found that accepting myself as I am had an overall positive effect on my mental and emotional well-being.

As the song goes: "We're never gonna survive unless we get a little crazy."

[deebra]

Cassandra I thought my thread 34 was pretty clear, sorry you don't understand. IOW why do we wear female clothes and want to be women. It comes with a lot of problems. Would I change sexes and see what it's like to be a woman, I think yes. Would I wear female clothes if it was the norm, yes. Are we a little crazy? Why as males are we drawn to be women??????

[Nikki A.]

Deebra, there are a lot of questions that you ask, that only each person individually can answer. As for me I do wear women's clothes but I don't want to be a woman per se. However if I woke up and was a woman I think I would be able to adapt easily. If wearing skirts and dresses became the norm then we wouldn't be cross dressing anymore.
We may not be society's version of normal, but maybe we are and society is crazy. I love the replies and I don't mean crazy in a bad way, just like some people are crazy about their passions or hobbies.

[mykell]

krazy is as krazy does....

Remember how I found you there
Alone in your electric chair
I told you dirty jokes until you smiled
You were lonely for a man
I said take me as I am
'Cause you might enjoy some madness for a while....

[CynthiaD]

Speak for yourself! I'm just your average CD------------

Yeah. You get more average-looking every day.

[Sarah Doepner]

Crazy is such a judgmental word. I prefer "Liberated".

Crazy suggests someone out of touch with reality. I fully embrace the reality that is defined by my acceptance of a gender identity and expression that would challenge others forcing them to hide and be miserable. Being miserable over something that can be addressed without damage, without harm to oneself or others, now that's crazy.

[Confucius]

Normal is just a state of mind. Personally, I don't want to go there.
I prefer to regard myself as an eccentric, free-spirit, a nonconformist. Since I can express myself logically, get advanced degrees, maintain a professional position for over a quarter century, and be a productive member of my community, I really don't think I'm crazy. I'm just not normal.

[Judy-Somthing]

My girl side, (If that's what it is) wants to cry. I haven't been able to dress in two years and I want to so bad.
Maybe fishing would be more fun?

[abby054]

Some insight from contemporary philosophers:

A little nonsense now and then is cherished by the wisest men.
~Ronald Dahl, Willie Wonka

It's so nice to be insane. No one asks you to explain.
~Helen Reddy, Angie Baby

[Stephanie47]

I do not consider myself crazy. I will agree life would have been a lot simpler if I was not a man who needs to emulate a woman on occasion. The question really comes down to "Why would anyone choose to go through all the negativity and stress?" It's not a choice. There may be some elements to an individual's cross dressing that does not make sense or should cause concern.