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Krisi
03-19-2018, 04:38 PM
This is for those who go out in public with wives or girlfriends:

1) Do you go as a crossdresser and wife (can't or don't try to pass) or do you pass or try to pass and go as two female friends, sisters or perhaps a lesbian couple?

2) What sort of places do you go?

Also, if you care to post any details or experiences, please do so.

Alice B
03-19-2018, 05:44 PM
That will never happen with my wife.Never.But, I have gone ouit with female family friends, a daughter in law, my daughter and a grand daaughter. I try to pass and get compliments from each of them. We go ouit as female friends and never as a gay couple.

DaisyLawrence
03-20-2018, 03:36 AM
I. Try to pass and go as friends.
2. Everything we would normally do, walk the beach/hills, cycling, shopping (especially clothes), coffee shop, lunch out etc etc.

Love it.

Beverley Sims
03-20-2018, 05:07 AM
We go out as friends, about the only thing I have to remind her about is not holding hands when shopping in crowds. :-)

Drew GB
03-20-2018, 06:15 AM
I have been out twice with my wife. The first time to the movies and we did not act any differently then when I go as a man. The second time we went to a club with some of my new CD friends who knew ahead of time she was my wife so I don’t think that really counts as it pertains to your question. Really I think how you two relate to each other, either as a married couple or as just girlfriends, while your out en-femme is more up to her and how she wants to be precived while out with you. But don’t be afraid to let her know as well how you would like to relate to her in public.

emma-louise
03-20-2018, 06:17 AM
went out a lot with my now ex wife we used to go window shopping in the next city but only after dark, did try it once during the day but i got a bit panicky so we cut the visit short

Teresa
03-20-2018, 06:34 AM
Krisi,
Certainly not with my wife but with Carole and met up with Sarah . Also I now attend two social groups each month .

I guess passing as a female friends , no not a lesbian couple . Last time we walked round a shopping village , which we plan to do again this coming Thursday . We have done a day with a pride meeting being invited along as representatives of the TG community through our social group.

So I have been to busy hotels and stayed over , now done the shopping trip and represented our community .

Any problems ? So far none , dress sensibly and be pleasant .

Di
03-20-2018, 06:40 AM
Back in 2005 when we first met it was me trying to convince Sherlyn she could go anywhere. We started out at some clubs and as her confidence grew we went all over. One of the things I talked her into was going to a lake park where her mom, sister and Uncle were having coffee ( an eve thing they did all summer ) they have not net me yet so I would not be a dead give away.... They did not realize or even clue in at all and from then on - Sherlyn believed me she could go anywhere.We went everywhere vacations , resturants , grocery and the past years we just lived our life going anywhere we wanted.
in the beginning we went to the clubs as a couple but as we just lived our life and going out was part of it we just were two women going out and people could think whatever they wanted. No one cares really. To me I was with the one I love living life together.

Alice_2014_B
03-20-2018, 06:43 AM
Wife and I have been out twice with me fully made up.
Once was just to do it, see how it felt.

https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?230030-Went-out-in-girl-mode-with-the-wife&highlight=


Second time was on a Halloween night.

https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?244654-Out-With-the-Wife-for-Halloween-2016-En-Femme!&highlight=


Both times we just went to some classy Adult Stores (Lovers, Hustler Hollywood, and Castle Mega Store).

Both times we just went as ourselves.
She is indifferent on seeing me as such in person, so I made zero attempts to hold her hand.


I went to a bar with a lady-friend after I did stand-up.

https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?253385-Pictures-from-doing-Stand-Up-18Oct2017&highlight=

At the Comedy Club and bar we could've easily appeared as a "couple", just no kissing or holding hands, but we were both quite flirtatious towards each other.
But then when people actually heard my voice, I don't know (I never disguise it).


I'm going out with the aforementioned lady-friend in a few weeks; it will be the very first time dressing up specifically for someone.

https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?256777-Going-on-a-date-in-Gal-Mode&highlight=

So far we've planned on eating somewhere, she wants Red Robin.

I'm thinking about shooting pool as well.

:)

CarlaWestin
03-20-2018, 06:49 AM
Never with my wife and probably never will happen. Although, that would be interesting. She dresses comfortably and often in sportsman attire.
On the other hand, I like to dress very girly even in casual passing mode.
We would certainly be an interesting couple.

Jillian Faith
03-20-2018, 07:23 AM
We go as sister-in-laws after all how many friends have the same last name on their credit cards. I dress to pass/blend as most of our outings are during the day time to various shopping malls and restaurants in our area.

Robertacd
03-20-2018, 08:33 AM
I try to pass and we go as out as a couple. We go the same places and do the same things we go and do when in I am in drab.

Jaylyn
03-20-2018, 08:53 AM
Only under dressed when out with my wife. She would never go for it but it is something I would enjoy. I'd hold her hand for sure just the same as we do when we are out shopping now.

Micki_Finn
03-20-2018, 05:02 PM
I dress to pass, but I’ve never been questioned about our relationship status so weve never had to use a “cover story”

2B Natasha
03-20-2018, 05:18 PM
Question one. Yes. I go out with my wife how ever I feel like dressing. From full transformation to just heels. Leggings and a long shirt no boobs or without. Some times a wig sometimes not. Really depends on how I feel. Luckily she doesn’t really care one way or the other. We go out as spouses at all times. We are married and that is if we both in dresses or not.

Question two. We go anywhere and every where. The theatre, movies, dinner, for a drive, the grocery, gym, art museum. You get the picture. About the only place we don’t go is shopping. I love to shop and she likes to buy. As in. Find it on the net. Go in. Buy it and leave. I call it man shopping. I can browse a whole store. Sales racks and all. I always kid her half nicking. That when we go shopping I’m bringing the iPad and sending here over to the dressing room sitting area with all the bored husbands!

alwayshave
03-20-2018, 06:26 PM
I always fully dress when out and the fiancee comes out as my fiancee.

Krisi
03-21-2018, 08:47 AM
Thanks for the replies.

My "goal" is to go out in public fully presenting as a woman with my wife. Just two women out for the day or the evening. So far it hasn't happened but I haven't been pushing it.
We (especially she) know a lot of people in our area so I'm thinking it would be best to do it in another area. There's a big festival we often go to in a city a hundred miles from home. This is what I'm considering asking her about.

DaisyLawrence
03-21-2018, 09:30 AM
Sounds like a plan Krisi. I for one hope she says yes. I reckon she will enjoy it and want to do it regularly but then again I'm a 'glass is half full' type of person. Good luck.

Jennifer in CO
03-21-2018, 09:43 AM
Waaaaay back in the old days (late 70's - early 80's), my wife and I went out as a couple. Pretty taboo for that day. Where did we go?....everywhere. Until I transitioned in 81, if I wasn't at work or with family I was "Jennifer".

Connie D50
03-27-2018, 06:09 AM
I try to pass as two great friends out for a day of shopping, lunch and maybe a movie. This same thing happen when I'm also in male mode :)

JustJoni
03-28-2018, 06:04 AM
My wife and I have been out many times together: restaurants, bars, movies, etc. Initially, my wife tried to not be too touchy-feely with me so as not to draw attention to me so I had the best chance to blend. After my confidence increased with several successful outings, I told her she should just do whatever felt natural to her, after all it's the 21st century and while we live in the midwest, it is a larger city. We have frequented the same upscale restaurant several times with me dressed (twice around Valentine's Day), and the staff seems to simply believe we are a lesbian couple.

Cheryl T
03-28-2018, 10:10 AM
we go as girl friends and we go anywhere.
Out to dinner, movies, shopping at the mall, a walk in the park, or where ever else we wish to go.

Joyce Swindell
03-28-2018, 12:18 PM
My wife and I will often go shopping and/or out to dinner. My wife is usually uncomfortable with holding hands with me in public. So we are a couple of girls usually. But one night went to dinner at TGI Friday's and I apparently was not passing very well as I got several odd looks and double takes. We didn't pay any attention to this. We were seated and when our waitress came we we ordered our drinks without reaction. When she brought the drinks she asked if we minded if she asked a question. We agreed and then she sat next to me and quietly ask what this was all about. I explained that I am a cross dresser and she said she was interested to see if her boyfriend would dress for her.
It was a great experience. She was polite and delightful.
On leaving we felt the others were still sitting in judgement of us so when we crossed the parking lot we stopped in the middle and embraced in some passionate smooching and laughed about it all the way home.

Tons of fun! You never know where your blessings come from!

SometimesDiana
03-30-2018, 02:01 AM
We usually go out for dinner and dancing. Sometimes we go shopping or catch a movie. My gf finds me attractive when I'm dressed so she isn't shy about holding my hand or PDA.

cdsamswife
03-30-2018, 04:51 AM
1. My husband dresses as much as he can to pass when he goes out and we go out just as us... just as a married couple.... We do hold hands usually..

2. We usually only go out late at night and not to places where the are other people....parks... quieter neighborhoods.... we will sometimes go to his band room... Sam doesnt want others to know so we don't go anywhere public together while he is dressed...

mattea
03-30-2018, 08:56 PM
Hi Everyone! When we first started going out we were awkward, then one day she grabbed my hand as we were walking and it just clicked. We are in love no matter what we are wearing. I am more of a shopper than she is, but she really enjoys it much more when we shop for her clothes when I am dressed.

As for trying to pass, I do my best and after reading so many encouraging stories and comments here, I also realized that I just to my best and live my life! I love being me and my wife loves the girl me so we just do it. We like to travel and usually only go out dressed away from home, I get a kick out of only traveling with the boys clothes that are on my back and then putting them away until it is time to leave.

Dana44
03-30-2018, 09:28 PM
We go out to restaurants, movie and shopping together.

Scarlett398
03-30-2018, 10:27 PM
I would absolutely love to go out to dinner, a movie, and a few bars with me dressed as Scarlett. I know one thing for sure - We would definitely be one of the sexiest couples out on the town that night. It's a fantasy of mine that will probably never happen unless I talk her into it while we are way far away from home on vacation in a more liberal part of the country.
I hope one day this fantasy of mine will come to a fruition, however, for now, it will just have to remain a fantasy!

BettyMorgan
04-02-2018, 09:33 PM
1) I try my best to pass and look as feminine as possible. I'm pretty good with my presentation and consider myself to be fairly passable. We go out as friends.

2) What sort of places do you go?
I have gone out with my SO on several occasions and we've had Girls Weekend Getaways to a close city as well as Las Vegas.
We have gone shopping, and to a Vegas show, restaurants, etc.

Unfortunately, we both decided that it was not beneficial for her to accompany me. The rude looks, and pointing, was too upsetting for her. And really, I do pass quite well - I don't look like a linebacker with a five o'clock shadow. I would walk into a store and she'd be a few steps behind and have to hear some rude comments from a sales associate to another about me. And Las Vegas was horrible. The drunk American tourists on the streets were the rudest people I've ever encountered. I won't be back to that city ever again. I suppose if you come from some hick town and are transphobic and drunk, you have to make a point to harass other people. The bottom line is, when I go out by myself in my own city, I rarely have an issue.

susan54
04-03-2018, 01:28 AM
I haven't been out in public with a partner but I have with a few female friends I met as Susan. I am comfortable with that situation but if I was dressed in public with a partner or a woman friend from my normal life I would feel very uncomfortable with doing female body language or speaking in my Susan voice as I do not identify as female even when dressed and the way I relate to these women is as a male, and my male voice is very much a part of my identity. I almost went out for an evening with female colleagues all dressed up. It didn't happen but I would have felt compelled to retain my own voice and mannerisms in that situation. I tend not to splay my legs as a male anyway so there would have been no question of manspreading in a dress if I had gone out with them. With one woman friend I acted completely as Susan in public but went back to my own voice when we were alone in the car.

I have a new(ish) woman friend I met as Susan but I also meet her as a man and so far there have been no gender-related issues.

I don't think I could do the whole woman acting thing in front of a partner. Dressing yes (I have done this) but not doing anything non-male.

Jason+
04-07-2018, 02:31 PM
1) Cross-dresser and wife. I've asked her if it would make life easier for her if I did at least try to pass but she doesn't believe it would. A mens shirt and jean skirt is easier for her to take than say a pink rose dress with red pumps is.

2) We got to the same places we would go if I was in pants or shorts. Movies, food or shopping. Sometimes down to San Diego to get her favorite Godfather's Pizza or my favorite burrito place and then to Balboa Park so I can listen to the pipe organ there.

Experiences have varied some. She feels like she catches the dirty looks as if to say "what is wrong with you to be out with him?" One person asked her if she "lets me dress like that." I believe she told that woman I was a grown #$@ man and was perfectly capable of dressing myself. :D There have been giggles and stares and people not quite as sneaky with their camera phone as they think they are. There have also been compliments on occasion and with rare exception the staff haven't treated us any differently than they do when I'm in pants.

Trione
04-07-2018, 03:31 PM
only been out dressed fully twice with wife, she did my makeup and hair so I was somewhat passable. Voice way to deep. First time was at a party and this lesbian tried to pick me up. Second time was when on vacation wife wanted to check out a lesbian nightclub but wanted me with her. we went as a lesbian couple and enjoyed the evening and all it had to offer. She passed on now so I just dress at home.