Not Sure Whats happening ?

[Debs]

Not going into detail, 15 years ago met my wife, from day one told her and showed her about my dressing , she loved it, 10 years later DADT, we have both now retired, and have a holiday home. She had no tolerance for me dressing, wouldn't go anywhere without me, so couldn't go full makeup etc.

Then 3 months ago, sends me up to the holiday home on my own 3 days a week ?, I Ordered dresses of ebay, I come home from the holiday home she has opened them, No problem dear, sorry opened them by mistake. I am not complaining, just wonder if I am missing a trick ?, am I being set up. By the way dont care who knows I dress, am retired now, so cannot get fired from my job, lol

But loving every minute

Still curious ? as to why

[docrobbysherry]

How would we know? If u really want to know, why haven't u asked her?:brolleyes:

[Raychel]

I found it on page 7 of the handbook on how to keep your Sanity

"Don't try to figure out How or What women are thinking"

Best to talk to her. lol

[Taylor186]

I love a good mystery. My thought: It's not about crossdressing.

[DaisyLawrence]

As Doc says, how would we know? so ask your wife. And as Taylor says, there could be more going on here. Bit odd for a happily married wife to send her husband away 3 days a week rather than go with him. Stranger than fiction.

[Debs]

sorry didnt really mean to ask you girls why, was just writing my thoughts, wanted to share my excitement.

[Tracii G]

Her sending you "away" for 3 days a week is a huge red flag.
Why would she do that you ask?
1. she may be having extramarital affairs.
2. same as the number 1.
I have been thru this twice so I have a pretty good idea what to look for.

[Debs]

Good, She has refused me sex for the last 10 years, hope he is good

[Tracii G]

Been in that position too but her reason was she had has sex with so many guys she felt too "dirty" and didn't want me possibly catch something from her.
I told her thanks for thinking of my safety.
The husband is always the last to know.
I hope that is not the case but some women just don't want sex after so many years for various reasons.

[Debs]

Thanks Tracii, no sex for 10 years, (thats me feeling guilty for dressing up), stopped dressing up, purged, and for the next ten years, just took care of all the bills, etc. Smiled at each other now and again, but she kept me by her side every hour. I didnt moan, I promised to look after her, so shut down, but made money and kept my promise

[CONSUELO]

How can one progress from loving the fact that you dress to a DADT situation and refusal ( I assume it is a refusal) of sexual relations to where you are today being SENT to your holiday home for three days per week. I am just having difficulty understanding this but I also get a strong sense that this is all OK with you.

[Jenny22]

Is your wife also retired? Hmmmm. There are these very small cameras that could be used in your house to record what goes on, if anything, while you are away.

[AndreaCalifCD]

Not totally clear - 3 days a week every week for the last 3 months?
If that's the case, I'd be worried.
For 3 days, one time in the last 3 months? Not so much...

[Donna St. Marten]

It sounds to me that your wife's acceptance of your dressing has worn thin over time. Now that she is retired, she has decided to make some changes. While you can no longer get fired from your job, your wife may fire you from your marriage.

[Ressie]

She might have just been curious about what was in the package. And maybe she just wants some time away from you. Or maybe others that have replied have more insight than I do.

That's a lot of time to be away from each other yet it seems to be just fine with you. Maybe you'll both find new sex partners.

[Debs]

I have never lied to her from day 1, if she doesn't want me, I can handle that (sort of), she will never be short of money, I will see to that nor will my daughters, but as you know its not all about money. Hard road ahead I think. I stopped being Debs 10 years ago when she asked me to stop, and as you know you cant stop, so since then was done in secrecy behind her back. When I say behind her back, she still knew I dressed but not in her life.

[Beverley Sims]

Life get's curious don't it. :-)

[alwayshave]

Debs, no sex for 10 years, are you married to my ex-wife ;-). Time to put a nannie cam in your house when your gone to figure out what is happening. My two cents.

[Lisa Roberts]

Maybe she is giving you room/time to dress away from her??
Lace and Smiles,
Lisa

[Debs]

yep, maybe, I have give her the world, she will never have to work again or worry about where she is living.

[Krisi]

Her sending you "away" for 3 days a week is a huge red flag.
Why would she do that you ask?
1. she may be having extramarital affairs.
2. same as the number 1.
I have been thru this twice so I have a pretty good idea what to look for.

This would be my suspicion.