Totally Fed Up

[JaniceP]

I am so sick and tired of all the PORN that comes up when looking for Crossdressing and Feminine help and stories!

I do think that we silent few, would not always want to be directed to an Adult Site just because we are searching for a MTF site.


Take Care All

:)
Janice

[Victoria_Winters]

Welcome to the internet. I’m pretty sure there is a song called “the internet is for porn”.....

[Asew]

It is really annoying. If you are using google you can add things to your search query to avoid such as -porn -video to avoid webpages with porn or video as a search term. Also with google you ignore certain sites in your results such as
-site:pornhub.com. Other search engines may have similar features but perhaps not the same syntax.

[Tracii G]

We are a small bunch here and most of the world views us as freaks and porn junkies so get used to it.
Lots of trans people are into porn and other fetishes that seem to populate sites on the internet.
If you run into a site like that you don't have to look at it just keep searching for a place you like.
I found this site by accident while trying to filter thru all the porn/fetish sites.

[KelleyB]

That's the exact way I found this forum...purely by accident, looking for something just like it.

[RADER]

When your looking for information on men wearing girls clothes, It seems all the bad
opinions starts coming out if the wood work. You are correct, this site is a God sent place
for ideas, help, and confidence building. I know it help me a lot.
Rader

[Beverley Sims]

What a terrible name for such a good site.

I think it is still appropriate as it describes us successfully.

It is how we are perceived by others and we learn to live with it.

Some places make it a forbidden site.

Oh well!

[Ressie]

I'm the opposite. I stumbled on this site 10 years ago while searching for trann porn! if it wasn't for internet porn I never would have found this site and learned about other TG issues.

[Helen_Highwater]

Part of the problem is those sites are likely to pay the search engines to promote their sites as they're in the business of making money. Either that or they structure their key words to make it more likely the search engines will find them more easily.

I actually doubt that the porn sites effect how the vast majority of folks judge us as most people don't visit them. Those that do are more towards the fetish end of the spectrum.

[DIANEF]

I was actually looking for advice about where to buy clothes and wigs when I found this forum. Before joining I looked at a few more forums but most seemed to be sites for hooking up with other CDs which was not what I was after. There were a lot of seedy porn sites too but that is an inevitable part of the internet world nowadays.

[ellbee]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SafeSearch

;)

[Teresa]

Janice,
I raised this point some time ago. I commented that people like my wife who don't want to know but may look to find some answers for themslves . Some of the stuff that comes up must scare the pants off them ! " MY GOD is my husband/partner is into all that , all he said was he wears female clothes sometimes !"

I do wonder how much damage those sites have done , and those who say it's harmless fun or you don't have to look at it are missing the point, some of that stuff is almost unavoidable . In a DADT sitaution it can be hard enough explaining the basics let alone trying to shuffle out of those activities , claiming you're not like that . We get accused of lying so where do those lies stop as far as wives/partners are concerned ?

[DaisyLawrence]

I know what you mean but there is no point worrying about it, it ain't ever going to change. My elderley neighbour once decided to look at pretty girls when he first got a PC. Next thing complete meltdown due to a virus from porn sites. All he searched for was 'pretty girls', took me all day to get him back on line. His wife thought it was the funniest thing ever. Trouble is, sex sells. As it happens this was the first site I found many years ago. I read the posts for years before deciding to sign up. I like it so much that I have since looked for others but they are ALL kink/fetish dominated so I gave up. There is some of it here but in general we are pretty wholesome folks.

Just a note to those like me that read for a long time before joining: just remember that when you start posting, even though you may know some of the members inside out, they do not know you and do not realise that you are familiar with their situation. Made a few errors there I'm afraid. Apologies ladies.

[Krisi]

I had a friend at work who was into the Chrysler PT Cruiser cars. Apparently, you could buy steel panels for these cars to make them look like panel trucks or other designs. There panels were called "skins". Well, he used his work computer to look up "skins" on the Internet. Bad idea. He got a virus on the computer so bad that I had to reformat it and reinstall the operating system and all his software (without his boss or co-workers finding out).

The Internet has changed the porn industry and like it or not, it's here to stay. Deal with it. And install a good anti virus program.

[jennifer0918]

I agree with you on this one

[Stephanie47]

I too found this site by searching through the porn listings. I've stated several times before, if a wife is going to do research on cross dressing, I suggest her husband direct her to this site. Otherwise she may be shocked and will wonder about her husband. One thing I have learned when searching for cross dressing issues is to enter a question into the search engine such as "How to walk in high heels." Youtube is a good source of information that is not tainted with porn.

[StephanieJ]

Thank you! I agree 100%. When I was married I tried to send my wife to this site for support and she ended up clicking on one of the links at the bottom of the page and being re-directed to a porn site. What's with that? Why are those there? I've never had any interest in pornography, but certainly don't fault those who do. Just wondering, do they somehow help pay the bills?

[Micki_Finn]

Face it, the Internet is what it is. You could search for brisket rescipes and come up with porn.

[Helen_Highwater]

The bird watcher who searched for "Great Tit" got the shock of their lives!

[Donna June]

I totally agree with you. It's the same reason I will probably delete my flickr account / photos. People follow or contact me and when I look at their pics, to see if I want to follow back, at least 50% is all porn stuff. I get so tired and disgusted with it.

[Shely]

Donna, i have recently linked my Flikr account here in this forum and have gotten quite a few followers already, but it does kind scare me to not know who and where my pictures may surface. I am known only to my wife and hope to keep it that way. but go look at my pictures if you like, while you still have an account. The internet has changed all most everything.

[Jaylyn]

You are so right Janice why there are a few times I have been looking for true CD sites like this one and stumbled upon porn sites. Those were so terrible it took me a couple hours to get out of those awful places....Lol
Really I agree with you though that i just don't do much prowling on the Internet anymore because of all the garbage that is on there. I've pretty much quit Face Book because I started having dresses popping up on the side as advertisements. I'm on a couple other forums on fishing and hunting and they do the same thing there.
Don't think it will ever change though.

[LeannS]

I was looking for crossdressing stuff when I found this site and it has been great my dear wife was looking up crossdressing after she found a picture of me and guess when she went yep to a porn site and that didn't sit well with her as she thought thats what I was looking for and I have no use for somebody else little junk

[Gillian Gigs]

My wife accepting me as a CD'er has everything to do with my telling her who I am, why I do it and where I might be going in the future. Communication and understanding goes a long way in a relationship. I am glad she hasn't seen the tasteless sites that abound on the internet, at least I hope she hasn't. There is an argument that says that porn is harmless, but I disagree. It does two things, one, it makes you dissatisfied with yourself and two, it make you dissatisfied with what you have(your spouse). It is like a chocolate bar, it is empty calories and leaves you wanting more without any real satisfaction. These sites do nothing for improving any legitimate CD'ing causes.

[SHINY-J]

You can look up just about anything- no matter how harmless and innocent the search is- and it will eventually end up leading to some form of porn.

Odd as it may sound, I actually take some comfort in the fact that it’s there. First and foremost, I do watch CD porn. So , I’m glad it’s a genre of porn that I can easily find. But two, the fact that you can type in crossdresser into any google or bing image search and it’s ALL porn, means that there’s no way I’m as alone and different as I feel I am sometimes.

Search engines are designed to automatically bring opup the most popular and relevant options as to what people are looking for.. There’s obviously a massive audience that’s into that genre of porn whether it’s fellow CD’s, straight guys, couples, etc... regardless of who it is, people are watching it and wanting it. So I take some small comfort in knowing that although it’s through porn, it’s a sign that we are slowly becoming more accepted.

As opposed to people claiming we are “disgusting, sick , demented, twisted,” etc... many of those people are secretly googling us when they’re alone. And in time, I think that will eventually lead to a more significant overall mainstream acceptance. Granted, it’s not going to happen in just a couple of years time, but it could happen in my lifetime...

Or maybe I’m just delusional...

Still, if you look for more specific search criteria, you are likely to find the non porn sites that are for advice, support, tips, etc...

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Janice :hugs:, I just Google crossdressers forum and I go right to this forum. >Orchid...:daydreaming:...

[Pumped]

I'm the opposite. I stumbled on this site 10 years ago while searching for trann porn! if it wasn't for internet porn I never would have found this site and learned about other TG issues.

I can't say i was looking for porn and found this site, but I do find crossdressing more of a fetish, as many here do, so I can understand why it might be found on the more questionable sites.

[Stephanie47]

Hi Janice :hugs:, I just Google crossdressers forum and I go right to this forum. >Orchid...:daydreaming:...

Sure, that's after you know what to key into a search engine. I don't have this URL as a favorite, but, access the site with no problem. When I use "Google" images pages come up with many pornography stills. From what I've read or heard in the media pornography is right up there with the most frequent searches.

The advertisements Jaylyn describes is also a constant source of irritation. For example. if I look at feminine garments at JCPenny or eBay I get advertisements on the side bar of my email account. If I had looked at some garment on JCP, Macy's, eBay, even days later I'll get a message asking if I'm still interested.

[jacques]

hello,
would "parental control" settings on your search engine reduce the number of "adult" sites it finds?
luv J

[JaniceP]

So True----------

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WOW, How wonderful. When I Google crossdressers, I get exposed to a lot sites that are NOT designed for Hetro Crossdressers who enjoy dressing Feminine and being totally Girly.

[Judy-Somthing]

I know what you mean.

[helicd]

Where it really sucks is after you've had 'the talk' with a lady you're in a serious relationship with, and then they go and do some research and come across all of their fears in fetish porn sites.

Ah, so much fun talking her down after that :doh:

[Alice Torn]

It is sad, that it is so. So many kids minds are being warped with porn, and it is addictive. I find myself sometimes looking at hertero porn, and i saw some CD porn, that made me sickened. It does excite, but leaves me feeling ashamed i looked at it. It cheapens people, making sex just a sport.

[Jodie_Lynn]

Search for "crossdressing tutorials" on YouTube or in a general search. It tends to cut down on the porn sites

[t-girlxsophie]

They do say no matter what your searching for your never more than 3 clicks away from Internet porn..

[Linda Stockings]

Janice, I'm not positive this will get you where you want to be, but google.scholar.Com is a version that I find to be much more professional in its holdings and less likely to "pounce" on you. It may be worth a try. I used to have some success with it in research.