Have you switch with your partner on role reversal ??

[Lucia]

I don't know if there is any thread on this subject. I would like to know if someone that wife or girlfriend knows about his CDs habit, has switch with his partner on role reversal. Does it happen frequently ??

[LeannS]

basically I have, My wife knows that I am a cder but to what extent she probably has no clue how much I do get dressed but in a DADT policy.
I do the cooking and cleaning 5 days a week and babysit our grandson 3 days a week. Saturday and Sunday she can do what I forgot to do lol
I cook her breakfast before she goes to work and when she comes home she will have a nice dinner after she unwinds.

[CarlaWestin]

I have a friend in just such a relationship. It's wonderful for them.

[Littleg2]

Not exactly. I wouldn't call what Monnica (my so, I'm the gg) and I have 'role reversal', but I let her be as feminine as she wants and I feel this intrinsic need to protect her. I am not pretending to be a man, I have no desire to, but I treat her as a man (might?) treat a woman in bed. Sometimes it works, sometimes we need to modify it for her so we both get the best out of it. I would also never say we are acting as a "lesbian" couple might, either. We just do us, do our thing, and it works out wonderfully (for the most part - lol It is still a learning curve.).

Are you in a relationship with an accepting GG? I'm sorry, I don't know your story, I'll have to look.

-g

[Micki_Finn]

Aren’t we past the concept of “gender roles” yet?

[franlee]

Aren’t we past the concept of “gender roles” yet?

If we were there would not be any Crossdressing or Transgender.

But to the OP, yes we have and do on occasion. Back a few years ago before my health went down I took on her role almost daily for my enjoyment and to aide her with the household chores and responsibilities. It was and still is a win-win situation.

[Cassandra Lynn]

Aren’t we past the concept of “gender roles” yet?

I'll second that!

But the question confuses me a bit; if there is already a role reversal, isn't a switch putting things back? Or am I being a grammar cop?

Cass

[Tracy Irving]

I don't know if this question should be answered on the basis of who cooks, cleans, is the breadwinner, makes the bed, washes the car, kills a spider, pays the bills, picks the movie to watch, decides "our" taste in furniture, cuts the grass, clears the drain, shops for food, etc...

Or maybe we are talking about the bedroom?

Overall, in my house, we do what needs to be done and don't pay attention to who does it.

If I answer the question as written, I would say that I don't want my wife to act as a man so we aren't looking for a role reversal.

[sometimes_miss]

Nope. She allowed herself to take any role she wanted, but I had to stick to being the all male husband. Sexually, she didn't like being the top. So I guess she sort of topped from bottom, essentially dictating what was okay to happen and what was not. And if what I wanted to happen wasn't what she wanted to happen, nothing happened.

[April Rose]

Due to my wife's health issues, I am doing both roles. Because she is a very open minded, non traditional person, she has no problem with me doing all of the indoor stuff dressed as a woman, which I do every day. I sometimes like feeling like a housewife, but taking that on as a serious "role reversal" honors the patriarchy. That is something I will not do, having been oppressed by it for my entire life. Whatever I can do, in a socially responsible manner, to undermine the gender binary, I sincerely hope I have the courage to do.

[Cassandra Lynn]

Loved your post April, well said and kudos to you and your wife.

I like to envision a day (who knows if it'll ever happen, even half way, or how many hundreds of yrs it'll take) when couples no longer follow 'roles', but just do as needs done.
We each have our likes and dislikes, some are better at one thing than another (without pre-conceived gender norms), but humans if they put forth the effort, can make it work to both partners satisfaction.

Sound about right Micki?

My ex/gf who I lived with for 2 yrs, knew all of me and we shared everyday household duties without it being anything special.
But what constitutes role reversal? That's the big question here, and yeah, it would seem to imply more than household duties.

Cass

[Di]

Our relationship basically two women in love. I did role reversal when we did a few drag shows friends talked us into. Sher was Cher and I was Sonny and I was Lee Greenwood and Sher as Nancy Sinatra singing parts. We met as Sher and Di and fell in love and married.

[Beverley Sims]

Never role reversal with a partner, but some girlfriends wanted to try it out on some of the boys we knew years ago.

It was fun and we got some of those boys to do a little role reversal as well.

Yes they thought it was a hoot. :-)

[Joyce Swindell]

I've always been a bit domestic as far as cleaning and cooking. My first wife was from Kentucky and did most of all of that and I just helped when needed and took care of the garage and so on. Now with my second wife we share all that as well but more 50/50 so the proportions vary 60/40, 20/80...you get the picture. Same goes in the bedroom. She will sometimes refer to us as lesbian lovers and I'll slip a dress or negligée on and other times 100% man/women (me/her or her/me)

[Gypsy Sam]

Concur with sometimes_miss the intimacy rules are all about who ever has a vagina controls the where,when, and how. Avoiding pregnancy is one thing, but witholding affection for untold reasons or leveraging power within a relationship is another. The long run is develop your imagination to fullfill your thoughts and desires. A bird in hand is better than 2 in the bush.

[Gillian Gigs]

Is there role reversal, no not really. In our home we divide the chores and get the work done. I am retired and she is still working, so at this moment, I am doing more than her. In the bedroom, never, regardless of what I, or she may be wearing, I do the leading, that's just the way it is. The only area where she leads is when it comes to cooking, I do some of the cooking, but she decides what we are having. How I am dressed has nothing to do with roles.

[Teresa]

Lucia,
I have a feeling you are implying more than one aspect of role reversal.

To reply as others have , I did all the cooking , cleaning and most other jobs before I separated , I'm so glad I did as I can now take good care of myself .

Now the implication of CDing with gender reversal , some would love to go that route but not many wives/ partners want to play that game . OK it can go from a bit of fun wearing a maid outfit to some questionable third party involvement .

So what question are you asking and are you hoping to experince a little role reversal ? It might be hard to say how frequent it is as it usually goes on behind closed doors .

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lucia :hugs:, Not in this lifetime, Only in my dreams. >Orchid...:daydreaming:...

[Sometimes Steffi]

I'm not sure if this is what you means by switched. But once, a long time ago before my wife even knew about my CDing, we went out switched for Halloween. She went as the butler and I was the French maid.

[ReineD]

Aren’t we past the concept of “gender roles” yet?

^Agree.


My SO and I don't have gender roles, just things we prefer doing and are therefore better at. For example, I love to cook (have loved it all my life) and so I do most of it. I also love to work with my hands and enjoy doing any finishing work (i.e. tiling) around the house. We both dislike lawn work so we either both get at it or we hire someone. We each do our own laundry, our own bills, our own car maintenance. I tend to have stronger aesthetic preferences about my surroundings (i.e. furniture, decor) vs. my SO's rather utilitarian approach, so I choose the comforters, etc.

In terms of conversation, I talk about the same things to both my female and male friends: current events, politics, updates to personal lives; there are no "gendered" topics. One size fits all.

Or did you mean gender-role reversal in bed? I suppose some couples stick to traditional missionary positions and any switch might be considered a gender-role reversal. But, if couples habitually switch things around a bit, then the question is moot. If on the other hand you meant using props, you might want to ask if your wife or girlfriend is open to this. Some GGs are and some are not.

[Ressie]

Aren’t we past the concept of “gender roles” yet?

Who is we? All members here? Everyone in the world? Some people might be past roles that have been dictated by gender for centuries, but not everyone. Even if I am, the wife may have different ideas.

To the OP, Nope. Never in any relationship I've been in was it ever suggested that I'll be the girl and she'll be the guy.

[Harriettes]

My wife forbids my CD, however: She does't own a dress, owns no high heels, seldom wears a bra, has hair much shorter than mine, almost never wears make up, seldom wears lipstick, prefers to do the bills, make large purchase decisions and well you get the idea. I underwear (stealthfully) my panties and bra when I cook and most of the kitchen work, clean, laundry, put away clothes and organize her closet and dressers. I decorate the house, take care of our houseplants and flowers and on. I own dresses, wear a bra every day, own and wear slips and baby dolls and other lingerie Other than that I am the man and she is the woman.

[Rachelish]

Our Prime Minister talked about there being "boys' jobs and girls' jobs" in a cringeworthy interview some months ago, with "putting the bins out" her example of a male task. We don't subscribe to that sort of gender role split, preferring to share things fairly and according to what we are best suited to.

In my case that does involve putting the bins out but I also do all the cooking. I've only done the latter as Rachel though :)

[Jaylyn]

Not role reversal here but I grew up helping mom sweep the floor and doing the dishes, putting our own clothes in the wash basket and hanging them out on the line to dry. ( tells ya how old I am we didn't have a washing machine or dryer---try this you young ones... Lol even helped peel potatoes and we always swept the floor after each meal. Dad worked hard outside and I had the chores to attend to like milking a cow every morning before school and then turning her out to pasture keeping her calf in the pen. She'd be waiting for me at the gate to get in to her calf when I got off the bus from school. The calf would get half the utter and I'd get the other half to milk and and take to the house. I still to this day help my wife cook, and then usually help get the dishes in the dish washer, vacuum and I do nearly all the laundry.
My wife has told me many times I'd make somebody a great wife if she ever dies. Maybe so but just grew up helping around the house and working outside also, so really no reversal. Our sex life is still about the same as when we married except it has slowed down a lot on her part. The dressing used to make me very frisky but now not so much but more now just a natural feeling of peace and enjoyment. This is why I can't figure why my wife supported my dressing for so many years and now it's almost a DADT, but she still appreciates my help in and around the house, while keeping the farm going also..... GGs can't do with them or with out them. I still love mine though.

[t-girlxsophie]

We don't really construct our relationship in terms of allocating jobs,so no role reversal.for instance I can put together a lovely meal,yet I'm totally clueless with D.I.Y. Although I do most of the housework these days as my wife's health isn't the best

[LilSissyStevie]

In my experience, gender roles have always been more of a ideal than a reality. I grew up in the fifties and sixties and my mother was always the breadwinner of the family. The role of homemaker was taken by my paternal grandmother who, although she had a university degree, preferred to work at home since it allowed her to sip all day on a bottle of Seagram's while she cooked, cleaned and beat the crap out of me. My father never had a steady job after he was discharged from the Navy due to mental illness. He did provide "supplemental" income through occasional odd jobs and thievery. He was also a very good cook while my mother wasn't. My situation was a far cry from the 50's ideal presented on TV shows like Father Knows Best or the Donna Reed Show. These shows were more Utopian fantasy than anything else. The best thing my thieving father ever brought home as far as I was concerned was a beautiful set of expensive encyclopedias. I spent rainy days and evenings thumbing through them reading about different cultures and their strange and fascinating practices. So from an early age I had a pretty good sense of the constructedness of gender and also a good sense of how gender roles evolved over time and why. I'd like the victim of that crime to know that at least their encyclopedias didn't go to waste. So today the ideals about gender have changed but the reality not so much.

In my own case, I'm retired and my wife, after retiring briefly, decided to start a new career as a high school science teacher. I do most of the housework inside and out, she takes care of the livestock and pets and I take care of the orchard, vineyard and garden. She doesn't allow me to do any laundry, even my own, and she likes to cook dinner. In 23 years of marriage I never saw her use a vacuum cleaner until a couple of months ago when she asked me how it worked. Our sex life is more weird than a "reversal" of any sort although there are certain aspects that deviate radically from the traditional ideal. She has her kinks and I my emasculation fetish so we try to accommodate each other. I'm not sure what role reversal would mean in my case. I would feed the dogs and she would load the dishwasher, I guess.

[Tina Marie]

My wife is younger and still working and I am retired. I am the doting housewife and I dress the part. I do make her lunch when she can come home, cleaning, dinner and tending her physical and emotional needs. She is the strong willed person and I more subservient. Yes I am blessed. As far a "role reversal" is it reversal if we both think it should be this way?

[MichelleCD]

One of my favorite days was started by putting on a comfy dress, a dab of make up, my pink house shoes and then cleaning the house most of the day. Then starting supper. The wife works 1/2 a day on Saturdays, so she was home by about 3pm. When she got home, I ran a bath and we both got in. We shaved each other. (all over) Afterwards, she helped me a little with my make up while she was finishing up supper. Then I was dressing and put on the final touch, the wig. When I was ready, she went to the bedroom and shut the door, while I set the table. Plates, fork, napkins and candles. I didn't know what she was doing, or why it was taking her so long. But when she came out of the bedroom, she was Pete. Mustache (fake) and all. Had my billfold in her back pocket and everything. She was wearing one of my ball caps, jeans, boots and a pearl snap western shirt.
We sat down to eat and chatted. But the conversation was different. I talked to her as if she was Pete, and she addressed me as Michelle. Even swatted my bottom when I walked passed her. None of this was planed or even really discussed. It just happened this way.
After supper, we both cleaned up, made a pot of coffee and sat at the table just talking about things. Idle chat mostly. I asked her about her day. She asked me about mine. We discussed the bills, plans for the house. After a pot of coffee was gone, and the conversation had died down. She went to the closet and pulled out some lingerie she's bought me a few weeks prior, pitched it to me in the living room and said "Put this on, woman." Then she shut the door to the bedroom. I changed in the living room and waited for Pete to call me.
When it was time, I opened the door to find Pete on the bed, strapped on with a big grin on his face, in a pair of boxers with it sticking out.

The next few hours was just fabulous. Best sex ever. (Details in PM)

That was the only time that's ever happened like that. I've relived that night, many many times. We've never really talked about it. A slight mention of it, now and then.

Shortly after that, her menopause took over and well, the rest, as they say, is history.

[Amanda Katharine]

We do ours doggie style. I sit up and beg and she rolls over on her back and plays dead.

In all seriousness, we don’t really do role reversal per se. My wife told me once when it came up that she was much more comfortable with us in the role of two lesbian women than she is with the idea of her being the male. She does ask me to get up early with her on my days off sometimes and “put on something nice” as she’s told me she is turned on by watching me make her breakfast and coffee either in a dress, hose and heels or in lingerie.

In the bedroom, if we’re not doing typical man/woman roles, we’re definitely lesbos on the prowl. I’ll leave the rest to discretion as ladies don’t tell.