Are you a Bitch?

[Judy-Somthing]

I find that when anyone tries to interfere with my time of opportunity to dress I get! Bitchie!

Since my son moved home and sleeps late on the day my wife works he says I've been unpleasant at times.
Of course I'm afraid to tell him why.
Also when I have time off from work and I think I can dress my wife seems to always give me chores to fill up my time!.

That's why I'm bitchie!

How about you?

[Samm]

My wife has been know to actually call me a bitch. But she's right, because there are times I tend to get bitchy when it comes to missed opportunities to dress.

[Tracii G]

Tell him to move out if he says you are unpleasant LOL Its your house you can be however you want.

[Jessica May]

I think I sometimes get this way too. Sometimes we just need that time to unwind.

[GracieRose]

I find that when anyone tries to interfere with my time of opportunity to dress I get! Bitchie!

Also when I have time off from work and I think I can dress my wife seems to always give me chores to fill up my time!.


So, I'm not the only one with a wife that schedules activities and finds chores for me that interfere with possible dressing time?
But as far as being a bitch. Moi? I'm the model of pleasantness, just ask me :)

[kimdl93]

Not so much anymore. But then, I only share my space with an old dog - she literally is a bitch.

[Maria 60]

Nothing wrong with being a bitch, as a matter of fact my wife tells me she can handle the dressing but can't handle when I get upset when lost opportunity. I also become a bitch when that happens. I have learned a few lessons, never tell your family members that your taking a day off, they will go out of there way to ruin it.
I don't blame you for being a bitch, I know it gets frustrating.

[Elizabeth G]

I certainly get bitchy when I lose one of my limited opportunities to dress, as my wife has pointed out to me on more than one occasion.

[Beverley Sims]

No not these days,I look on the bright side of life. :-)

[Teresa]

Judy,
Perhaps I wouldn't use bitch, maybe a bear with a very sore head is nearer the mark !

I hated it , life does feel so unfair , no one cares what's going on inside , being a husband and dad often means we don't have feelings and needs of our own . I had the lists and I got the big question of what have I been doing all day when they weren't all crossed off !

We all know the cure so how do you get to it ? For me it was socialising , at least I manged to work that concession how I don't know but counselling helped in the decision .

I'm so glad it's all behind me , I knew it couldn't go on, I had a life too which I wasn't living .

[KimberlyJean]

I get very bitchy when I cant dress. Even though I know what causes it it still gets to me.

[Rayleen]

I also could say it happened to me in the past with wife at home, I usually got out of the house to clear my frustration at times.

Rayleen.

[Meghan4now]

The important thing is that you recognize when you are. Now about that scheduling thing, a very tricky and possibly unconscious form of passive aggressive behavior. Not uncommon. You will just have to learn how to deal with it. Try not to fall into a tit for tat.

[Tracy Irving]

I could see how losing a regularly scheduled opportunity to dress would be upsetting. If the dressing is at random intervals it is much easier to go with the flow.

[suzanne]

I don't get bitchy, I get depressed. But I know what you mean.

[Asew]

Yes. I think it is the worst when you think you have a time to dress and something comes up changing the plans.

Now that my wife knows and accepts my dressing, I wear skirts most days and about once a week I get fully dressed to put away my wife's laundry and clean up the bedroom (win win since my wife hates laundry more than any other chore). So by having regularity to my dressing a missed opportunity doesn't bother me that much anymore. But when a big chunk of time is taken away it still stings :)

[Jaylyn]

I get more irritated when I get an opportunity to get fully dressed, makeup and the works and bam ne of the kids call asking if we can keep the grandkids for the weekend. My wife says I get grumpy, but I love those little buggers but dang a girl has to have a chance to get all dolled up every once in a while. I've found though it helps just wearing my panties and have the feeling of them on helps but it still doesn't sooth the beast inside that wants to see me in the mirror dressed. Guess I'm not bitchy just grumpy.

[CynthiaD]

Yes, sometimes. But only when I wear male clothing. When dressed I'm gentle as a kitten.

[Alice B]

I feel that way at times for the same reasons, but I do not act on it. Do not want to upset or screw up a wonder marriage

[Brenda456]

There is one day a week I can usually dress nice. The last two times, something has come up and prevented me from having that time to myself. It resulted in me feeling a bit frustrated and cranky. You have my sympathy.

[Connie D50]

I think in my case I pout more I'm told. Doesn't always help but I don't even know I'm doing it sometimes. :-)

[Tina Marie]

I dress most days anymore. I have become more the house wife. My wife does expect, and somewhat demands I do chores inside the house when dressed fem. I even bought a couple 50's style dressed to feel the part. I do dress full and smooth all over. When she comes home for lunch, I have her lunch ready, or dinner. Sure, there are day's I am bitchy. Whats a girl to do?

[April Rose]

My wife says that I am my cat's bitch, but I don't think she means that in the same way.:heehee:qb

[Sara Jessica]

A man cannot co-opt being a bitch. It has to be genuinely bestowed on you.

A bitchy man is just a d&#^. Or maybe an apple. But not a bitch.

[Teri Ray]

Nope I am not. Final answer

[--Nina--]

No I'm not

[Stephanie47]

Perhaps you need to have a discussion with your son and establish a time frame for him to live independently.

As to having to do chores around the house I personally do not have a problem with that. I've been retired for more than ten years. When my wife chooses to work she is out of the house for seven plus hours. I do not sit around and eat bon-bons. Nor do I prance in front of the mirror. I don my dress and heels and hosiery and proper undergarments; slip, bra and panty. Don my wig. I forego makeup. Who's going to see me? My days is full doing domestic chores; washing and iron, meal preparation and baking, vacuuming, changing bed linens, washing dishes, tending the garden. If I sat around and got nothing accomplished during the day my wife would be the one being bitchy, not me.

[Sashauk]

Never - probably because I have no one to bitch at.

[Joyce Swindell]

I asked my wife if I fit this into discription and she said "sometimes"

[Shely]

sounds exactly like what goes on around here. My wife always has designs on my time while she's working, a few things for me to do. But we did get my unmarried daughter, with son, to move out of the basement last December, which reduced my BITCH time considerably.

[IleneD]

Judy,

You are so funny and timely to speak of this.

I've been a "good boy" for an extended period and not done much dressing up, especially in a style conducive to going out. I've been busy and obligated with Guy Duties. Some of that is coming to a close now. I also have begun attending a transgender support group,... AND I am looking forward to a long lone cross country drive to the east coast. Much of that journey will be en femme. Following that, I will have over 5 weeks of the summer Alone At Home to live as Ilene 24/7.

The other day The Wife asked almost the same. She wondered if I get depressed, moody, uncomfortable, etc. , if I didn't get dressed up in some way for a long time. It was almost like she was asking an addict if he suffered withdrawals. She must have noticed something, perhaps the change when I got to dress up to go to my support meeting; all with her full knowledge. Maybe not full approval but she knew and has finally accepted the fact of my attending the group.

I wouldn't say BITCHIE. I may get a bit distant, day-dreamy or otherwise appear preoccupied. I don't get edgy about it in a nasty way. It's more like a mental longing as I plan out Ilene's next step out into the real world as a real person.

[Valentina_Rossi]

Hi!!!

I normally have only one full hour a week - plus 1/2 hour to get prepared and put things the way they were. I am in the closet, as you can guess :)

Sometimes, my SO has dangled the possibility of more time.. maybe she needs to be out of town, or have a meeting that will last longer.... and then, that gets cancelled at the last minute and I will not have to dress/express my female side.

In those cases I had some sort of emotional flashbacks, something like this analogy: you are a child with some limited money, but a wonderful candy store full of fabulous goodies has opened. You can chose what to get, and you can also take your time to savor possibility becoming reality. And then...

... the store closes suddenly, and you are left with some vague combination of loss, sadness and missed opportunity :weep:

I do not want to be dramatic, and there are much worse things that could happen. But I do tend to get grumpy, and try to distract it or hide it from my SO, since it is not her fault at all - plus she needs to put up with me, on top of that.

I hesitate to use the word "bitch" since I find it sexist, though I know its meaning can change depending on context. I was definitely shocked to hear it for the first time when I lived in the US, but that speaks more to cultural differences. And I guess I *do* get like that, even if I might not quite call it in that way :)

Love love,
Val

[Stephanie Julianna]

Timely as always,Judy. I just spent a day with Paula Primo as girlfriends all day Monday,Thread to follow. And that's the point. Since I got home there has been a to do list for the house and yard work because we have a car club meeting here on Sunday. So I have had no time to kind of review and savor that day. I bit my wife's head off twice over some little things and she luckily attributed it to being overwhelmed. If she thought it was about the crossdressing that would not be good since I finally got her to the point that I tell her when I go out to dress. So yes, I get bitchie and it is usually because I cannot be Steph as often as I would like. I guess I'm a bitch when I can't be a lady. LOL

[DIANEF]

A member I used to correspond with called me a bitch once, though in a light hearted way, and my wife says I 'sulk like a girl' sometimes. But no, I don't think that term applies to me. I used to get really annoyed if anything disturbed my time for dressing but now I accept life does get in the way and just roll with it (plus I do have much more opportunity nowadays than I used to have). There is always another day to look forward to.

[sugababe]

I am pretty much a Bitch when I don't dress.

it's a habit!

I get treated much better when dressed and people are more attentive to my needs.

[Alice_2014_B]

Eh, I don't get bitchy when I'm unable to dress up.
:)

[Becky Blue]

Becky is a very well behaved sweet kind girl and is NEVER Bitchy :brolleyes: as for her male alter ego hmmmmmm

[rian]

I agree with you ...unable to dress makes us very on edge ...as if not letting our feminine character to expose herself to the world ...is unfair to both ..