Five minutes

[Jaylyn]

Anyone else in a DADT type situation do what I just did. Wife stepped into the shower so I ran into the bed room and slipped into my pink night gown to just get a little feeling of dressing. I do wear my panties almost 100% of the time and the feeling just left me wanting more but I can't today as we have things to get done. I felt I just had to feel that baby doll night gown on with my panties so for about five minutes I just stood in front of the mirror and let the feelings flow. I feel great knowing this has to last me for a while.somtimes it's just a small time like this that gets me thru the day. I'll think about it all day though.

[Stacy Darling]

When I do the similar it's usually because my wife so rarely leaves the house!

We do as we must!
Stacy!

[phili]

Metoo! It is my way of setting the day off to the right start, and seeing myself in the mirror, and just being still, even if for a few seconds leaves me feeling a lot more ok about being a stranger in a strange land the rest of the day.

[Mary Lawrence]

I wish I dared to do that. My wife knows I "used to dress, but stopped." The furthest I ever go now is wearing panties on occasion when she is away for several hours.

[Stephanie47]

For my that is ancient history. I call it "grabbing crumbs of time." Yes, years ago I did the same thing. I did that when I was a teenager messing around in my mother's lingerie draw. She went grocery shopping, I went into her lingerie. I have found little satisfaction doing a quick burst anymore. I know where you are coming from. Enjoy the moment. I've been able to satisfy my needs with sessions of seven hours when my wife works a full day. She does not drive. I drop her off and pick her up after work. So, there is no possibility of unexpected arrivals. My wife is contemplating a week long trip to see a cousin next year. That's when Stephanie will really come out to express herself.

[Rayleen]

What I hate most is getting all dressed, and suddenly relatives pops up at the door unexpectedly . Living alone has its awkward moments.

[KatrinaK]

Stephanie, totally hear where you're coming from. For me anything short of going all the way is purely utilitarian. In fact sometimes I find it annoying putting on the dresstech hip pads just to try something on I've ordered to make sure it fits. Sorry Diana- they may make me look like a pinup goddess with a waist cincher, but they're a pain in the butt on your lunch break!

I'm not technically in a DADT relationship. I'm not sure what mine would be called. She's acutely aware, and we discuss it. She doesn't want to participate (yet - and that may not change), but we're honest and open about it, share makeup, she asks to see pictures sometimes when she knows I've dressed. We're also seeing a specialist marriage counselor who deals with trans family issues and alternative relationships. I would like even more open communication with her, and we're working on that.

I have however been guilty of taking a 5 minute break to admire my makeup kit. It makes me weak in the knees sometimes.

[JocelynJames]

I used to do this before my wife knew. Now it’s a non-issue

[Vikky]

Hi Jaylyn

I know what you mean. I am in a DADT situation and don’t go out but am lucky enough to be able to sleep at night en femme most nights in a spare bedroom.

Even then if my SO goes out for more than half an hour for a dog walk, shopping etc I will put on a bra and forms under drab to get the ‘feel’.

Vikky

[Shely]

Hi Jaylyn
It sounds like home to me. As soon as the garage door goes down, on days I don't work, i'm up and redressing. Our DADT situation is the best I can hope for, but it sucks. I'd love to have a real discussion with her about my desires, but she knows about it and permits is, as long as she doesn't see it. It would be so much better if she could get past that DADT mode and help us enjoy the shopping, dressing etc. But a few minutes is a joy compared to nothing.

[Janine cd]

Hi Jaylyn
I'm with you in that situation. My wife is aware of my desire to dress but she has never really accepted it. So anytime that she is away for a length of time, Janine emerges from the shadows. Winter months are nice because I can dress totally under and never worry about being discovered.

[Beverley Sims]

I feel so fortunate, I have missed all this prohibition in dressing, I grew up on a different planet.

Neighbours calling was always a bind.

[Jane G]

I still do this on the odd occasion after 30+'years of my wife knowing who I am. It's a mischievous bit of fun a kind of dare, that I still enjoy.

[Sashauk]

I feel so fortunate, I have missed all this prohibition in dressing, I grew up on a different planet.

Neighbours calling was always a bind.

I know what you mean. I'm not out to my neighbours yet so I have dash and change if they pop round for anything - time I put an end to this once and for all.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jaylyn :hugs:, We have a very workable DA/DT, My:love:Wife
knows about everything but just don't want to see me while I am dressed.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~>Orchid...:daydreaming:...

[Barbara Black]

Ditto Stacy. Sometimes at night, when I've craved to be dressed all day, I'll slip into a blouse and skirt for a few minutes before putting on the nightgown and pose in front of the mirrors. Just gotta do it sometimes.

[il.dso]

I definitely prefer to be completely dressed but, yes, sometimes I'll settle for just wearing panties and try to be grateful for that.
Crossdressing and marriage is still such a challenge for many of us...

[Traci H]

Sometimes I, like some of you, just have to grab the tidbits of dressing that I can. Running a sort of DADT program, my wife seems to want to put whatever dressing roadblocks that she can. So short bursts of dressing be it a top, shoes, or a skirt can help hold me over. I undress with panties 100% including sleeping so at least I have that.

[Glenda58]

Wife goes to bed early every night So I'll put something on maybe a dress or a skirt and top. Watch some TV then go to bed in my room since I snore we sleep in different rooms I'll put on nightie or baby dolls. Am always up before her in the morning. So I don't get caught.

[Janine cd]

I've done the same thing all of you have. I will put on a sweater and skirt over my hidden under things while my wife is busy watching TV in another room. Often I will continue to stay dressed while busy on the computer and never have her discover the obvious.

[Jaymees22]

I think 5 minutes is better than no minutes, so grab your opportunities when and if you can.

[phili]

I was mulling this over this week as the thread popped up, and it hurts a little to see how many of us are what can only be called desperate for time logged in as girls.

My question was- what is it that makes it literally my highest priority in life to see myself in the flesh, even for a few seconds, dressed???

My reasons:
I am desperate for the world to see and know me as I see myself
There is so much negative feedback, I want to find out if it really is terrible/ok. wonderful.
My identity is tied up in this. I feel like I belong in this apparel. If I never get to wear it I am phony.
I want to feel real instead of imagined.
I want to see myself as others would see me
I want to see if it is as good from the inside as I imagine it will be

This is still a partly imagined experience, in that I can know what I feel and think, but I am substituting myself for the other persons, and that sows doubt. So I keep on doing it, like a bird in a cage on endless wheel.
I do new outfits, but that doesn't help the basic problem.

I thought going out and being feminine and cross-dressed with other people would solve this. It does, and I am perfectly happy when I am out. But since my home life is not accepting, when there I adopt prison behavior, hiding from the guards and walking and talking as I remember who I am. I need to occupy the feminine role a lot more of the time, to fulfill my identity, and to feel normal.


Has anyone else come up with their reason for staying with it even when it means grabbing bits of time. If it were a hobby like welding, and we never had time, we would get another hobby. it has to be something very basic and necessary to us.

[alwayshave]

Jaylyn, I have an understanding spouse, however her adult daughter lives with us, so I don't dress consistently. I few minutes helps.