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Glenda58
06-23-2018, 11:42 AM
Got caught but my wife did nothing.

A little history here. I'm in a DADT relationship with the wife. For the last 5 years we been sleeping in different rooms because I snore and keep her up. Then she's a crab the next day. So she goes to bed early every night. and I stay up late and dress up. She has never gotten up or come into my room ever in the 5 years till yesterday morning. :eek: She went outside and automatic sprinklers were not on to water her plants and she was upset. she open the door to my room as I was standing there making the bed in my grey cotton mini skirt and embellish Tee low cut and 3" mules that I had put on the night before. She looked right at me told me the sprinklers weren't working that when I done to go fix them.


She hasn't said a word about it since then. Now I'm confused did she see me dressed or is she just not talking about it.


Now Fri. night we're going to have dinner and drinks with friends about 20 people. Now the way she tells me her friend is having a Grand Reopening of her Dress shop next to the restaurant. We get I was going to bar with some of the other men. She stops me says they food and drinks in the dress shop to come in. I see some men in so I go in with her and start looking around and get something to eat. She comes up to and says " you would like to get something here" I said no unless you were buying it for me. She said your kiting right. I said yes. The shop was Prom Dresses, mother of the bride, cocktail dresses, evening gowns. All cute but I have no place to wear them.


I think she messing with my head.

kimdl93
06-23-2018, 11:45 AM
DADT implies knowledge on your wife's part. So, I don't suppose she was terribly surprised by what she saw when she opened your door. And her purpose was to get help with the sprinklers, not to "catch" you doing something she most likely assumed you were doing. Besides, she may have been a bit curious.

Glenda58
06-23-2018, 11:53 AM
Told her before we got married about me as CD. She just doesn't want to see me dressed.

Rhondawalters
06-23-2018, 11:57 AM
I am pretty certain she saw, wasn't surprised but did not want to engage.

Stephanie47
06-23-2018, 12:00 PM
From all your prior posts I suspect she feels you're a hopeless case and you cannot be changed. Did you want her to start a fight so early in the morning or toss you a toxic comment on your attire?

docrobbysherry
06-23-2018, 12:24 PM
Your DADT. So, I'm confused by why you're confused?:brolleyes:

char GG
06-23-2018, 12:31 PM
Sounds like she saw you but didn’t want to engage. You may have “heard” her eyes roll as she walked away though.

Shelly Preston
06-23-2018, 12:32 PM
I am sure she expected to find you dressed at some point since she knows.

The thing is the issue of the sprinklers not working was important to her and she wanted you do deal with it asap.

She chose not to mention it as there would be not real point in a debate.

Millisense
06-23-2018, 12:37 PM
Hi Glenda, I'm sure she had some some confusion/insecurity with your initial admission prior to your marriage, now it seems you're having the same with her discovery, seems like a normal reaction for both parties? Are you happy with your DADT arrangement?

IleneD
06-24-2018, 11:14 AM
Glenda,

I'm a bit more circumspect on this. I have a good friend and wife who processes things, especially surprises, in this manner.
She sits on it. Stores it up. Let's it cook inside her head until she gets MORE worked up about it. It is saved for later to be used in another argument.
It is not a habit to appreciate. More open, direct and immediate communication is essential. Solve it now and don't go to bed with conflict on your mind.
I hope this isn't what happens. I don't know the other personal dynamics of your relationship, but when I find My Spouse with that appearance of something stewing within her, I ask her to spit it out. Just ask her if she had a problem with your private dressing.
Good luck, Glenda.

Glenda58
06-24-2018, 08:26 PM
I've edit the post. she took me to a dress shop.

Beverley Sims
06-25-2018, 04:41 AM
Messing with your head?

She might buy you a dress, that would mess it up. :-)

Kiwi Primrose
06-25-2018, 04:50 AM
Maybe you could ask her to help you select a new skirt. Skirts always seem to be the most innocuous of garments.