Does it matter how we dress in our own homes?

[Bobbi46]

The other day as so many other days it was another roasting day and even indoors it was so hot to this very end that I was dressed in just a bra, forms and matching panties trying to keep cool when lo and behold there was a loud knocking on my front door, the nearest and quickest thing to grab was a longish tee shirt which just covered up the top of my panties, I also noticed through the frosted glass that it was one of my neighbours who has seen me from a distance dressed but not close up but knowing who it was i opened the door to find my nearest neighbour with an ice cream box full of fresh picked cherries from his garden.
There was no change of expression on his face from start to finish we had a little chat, I thanked him profusely for the fruit and off he went. Which goes to show that if the nearest and closest are approached in the right way how we dress is up to us, without offending of course which i made sure I did not and after that acceptance is sure to follow because if on telling one can tell that someone does not agree then it is impolite to push the boat out too far, but where I live just about everybody knows about me and accepts me for what I am.

[Carole]

Haha Bobbi you got his cherry but saved your own eh??????

[Bobbi46]

Carole, my time will come!! Lol but seriously this current happening just boosts my confidence, as you say my cherry is safe for now??

[Beverley Sims]

It does if we have a problem with our spouses.

Me I am lucky, I dress how I like.

[Tracii G]

Nothing happened well what about that?
I have to ask if it was that hot why did you have a bra on anyway?

[Jaylyn]

It doesn't matter how you dress in your own home but don't answer the door unless you want who's knocking to see you.

[rhonda]

Guess all you needed was a pair shorts handy

[docrobbysherry]

If you're going to answer your door dressed? U don't care if you're outed!:battingeyelashes:

I don't have a close relationship with my neighbors. They don't bring me cherries and I don't bother them. As a CD, I have no interest in giving them something to gossip about!:Angry3:

[Patience]

Guess all you needed was a pair shorts handy

Or a bathrobe.

How you dress at home is your business. No one else needs to know, imo.

Xox,

Tina

[Rachelakld]

So long as your not bare I wouldn't care.

[Bobbi46]

Tracii G
I like to feel feminine every day without a bra and forms my day would have had no meaning to it at all. In fact I am more comfortable en femme than at any other time.
Jaylin,
Everybody round where I live knows I dress, so one day is very much like the rest and as neighbours know and have seen me dressed there seems no need to hide my persona behind a closed door any more
Rhonda,
There somehow seemed no need for shorts and due to the length of the tee shirt nothing could be seen as well.
Sherry,
You miss my drift a bit, I was relating acceptance to be seeing dressed from afar as to be seen close up, as for gossip there is no such thing going on round here, all in my hamlet know of my dressing and all of them accept me for what I am. it was a happening that passed just like any other.
Rachelakid,
You echo my thoughts exactly, for sure no way would I answer the door naked! but dressed as I was and suitably covered I was happy to answer the door, if it had not been hot I would have been fully dressed, wig and all and still I would have answered the door.

[Teresa]

Bobbi,
You'll have to get yourself one of those spicy aprons at least from the front all would have been covered up !

You've just reminded me of something that happened a couple of days ago , I was in my bra and pants and had just finished putting on my makeup when the doorbell rang . OK so what was the easiest thing to slip on well a male shirt and trousers , I managed to do one button up on the shirt so there was quite a bit of bra showing with my forms in . I answered the door to find the guy from across the road had come to tell me when he could plaster my bedroom wall , as you know he knows about me but that's the closest he's been, I apologised saying he had caught me in an in between state , full make , obvious boobs no wig , not a pretty sight !

[JeanTG]

It does if we have a problem with our spouses.

Bingo, my wife DOES care how I dress at home, and she makes it plain she hates it even if she's not home. Ours is a hostile DADT situation.

I hear ya, OP, on the hot weather. Same thing here right now but I'm drying a different approach, a nice cool linen dress, but commando underneath (no bra, no panties). It's very comfy, better than bra and panties alone I think, due to the loose fit, and well-aerated nether-lands!

[Stephanie47]

What you wear or not wear at home is your business. Or, at least considering those also stuck with you behind the closed doors. I think common decency comes into play. A woman is not going to answer the front door wearing only panties and a bra unless she is an exhibitionists or trying to lure the UPS driver into her den of inequity. :)

This sort of reminds me of a neighbor who sunned herself on the front lawn wearing a bikini swim suit and unfastening her bra band to eliminate tan lines. But, if she was running around the house in a bra and panty she yelled at her husband to pull the front blinds. If you wanted to peer into their front window you'd have to be on stilts. My wife is the same way. Our front window is seventy feet from the curb, no sidewalks, and two big trees on the front lawn. Impossible to see in at all, but, modesty prevails as she yells at my to "close the drapes!"

If you're a man who enjoys wearing women's clothing, then at least keep yourself decent and modest.

[Bobbi46]

Stephanie. I considered myself to be decent and also covered! I did not open the door in just bra and panties I covered up with a longish tee shirt, in any case I was not displaying anything sordid or unsightly or ,showing anything I should not be showing, I think I was at least covered up sufficiently considering the heat of the day. The point I made was that the whole incident reflected the acceptance of people in general and at the same time not be an exhibitionist, which of course I am not, as I hold the whole ethos of our community close to my heart.

[jacques]

hello Bobbi,
when we dress at home we have control of who we allow to see us, so it really does not matter what we wear.
it only becomes an issue when the wife invites friends in...
luv J

[Jenny22]

Bobbi, you put on the T-shirt to cover your lingerie, but I need to ask, did you take your forms out? I, too, at times wander around the house dressed as you were, but no matter how I may be dressed pretty, I never answer the door, when so dressed.

[Bobbi46]

Jenny22, No I did not take my forms out, the thought never crossed my mind actually, as I say the neighbour who came to my door had seen me in the past dressed so bearing that in mind I was just mindful to cover up sufficiently plus there was no need to ignore him, he had seen me before we are good friends too as is the rest of my hamlet (all eleven of us). I am sometimes seen going from my house to my barn nearby by, by all sorts of people (post, delivery people and such like) but of course on those occasions I am fully and properly dressed.
Also I would never answer the door just in lingerie it what be the done thing IMO but as I say I was covered up it was no big deal at all

[Rayleen]

It happened a while back, I had a bra w forms and a tight top and leggings, the door bell rang and notice the UPS truck outside.

I remembered I had a parcel coming and forgot how I was dressed. I just open the door and sign the slip and he never said anything.

Pretty sure it wasn't the first time it happened for him.

[Bobbi46]

Rayleen, you have it right there regarding delivery people they as you say have seen it all before so my neighbour seeing me as I was, was no big deal at all. Also it comes down to how comfortable one is, I was and as I say no big deal.

[Jodie_Lynn]

You are in your own home, you have the absolute right to dress any dam way you please. You can even go starkers if you want.

We all need to stop worrying so much about how others will react. With the exception of a spouse or young children, how you dress is nobody's business and you can't continue to live life according to other peoples expectations.

[sometimes_miss]

Which goes to show that if the nearest and closest are approached in the right way how we dress is up to us
Please don't assume that everyone else's 'nearest and closest' are the same as your experience.

[Barbara Black]

I'm always torn between answering the door when I'm dressed. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. But my wife generally goes along with it when I ask if I should answer it while dressed. We usually know who it is so she answers it sometimes if it is someone more official. But food deliverites are fair game. I don't 'present' myself, but sort of peek around the door as I grab the food, pay the bill, etc. Of course, I have answered it without thinking too. ha ha

[Bobbi46]

i think in this day and age there can be quite a lot of flexibility with peoples understanding of the gender differences that we have.Providing one is not out to push the boundaries on purpose but is just being and expressing their true selves there is a lot more acceptance in general, of course there will always be those who for whatever reason will not and cannot accept us for what we are. I am fully accepted here for what i am and the way i choose to live without ramming it down peoples throats all the time

[JessikaRobin7]

although arguably still at a high level (depending where you live) the quickly increasing level of acceptance or at least awareness of gender issues is helping.

Great show right now on TLC right now called "Lost in Transition." - another infomercial to teach people that the world is a spectrum. A great mix of couples on this show. Lots of places they are going we've all been.

I've never opened the door before when Jessika was home... you've inspired me to put that on my goal list. (of course not the mail lady because it's a small town and she'll just back to HQ and out me to the whole town... blah blah blah stop hiding from the world..)

I think I still have in my head "what if my landlord finds out and kicks me out"... which I suppose is crazy but still.. At worst he could charge me for having a roommate... lol

[Jodie_Lynn]

>>SNIP<<

I think I still have in my head "what if my landlord finds out and kicks me out"... which I suppose is crazy but still.. At worst he could charge me for having a roommate... lol

My landlord has access to the apartments and was in my place for some minor repair work recently. Seeing all the girl paraphernalia (make up, lingerie, clothes, etc) he spoke to me about when I got home. He told me there would be an additional charge for a second tenant. I was confused at first,, then the penny dropped and I started to laugh. I explained the situation, and even showed him a couple of pics on my phone.


Other than looking a little disappointed that he couldn't get more rent money, there wasn't a problem. Although I don't that he quite believed me until he ran into me one evening as I was going out.

[t-girlxsophie]

All depends who's doing the knocking.If my folks are paying a quick visit it's a fast change,But if it's a delivery or the postie etc well as long as I'm not,as other have said,in my lingerie then I'll answer the door en femme no problem.It helps that we live 10 floors up and there's a door entry system so I'm pretty much in control of how I am presenting when I open the door

Sophie

[CDYoga]

If I am dressed and someone is at the door I just don't answer it, but in the event it was someone that knew about my dressing I would just answer the door. However, if it was unavoidable to opening the door I would probably just get changed.

[abby054]

The ability to do as we please in the privacy of our own homes is a cherished right in the US. The concept is the stated legal basis of the Fourth Amendment to the US constitution, "The right of the people to be secure in their persons, houses, papers, and effects..." The Founders then went on to limit the government's authority to search, even if it costs them the opportunity to find evidence of illegal activity. Crossdressing is no longer illegal here, but preserving the privacy of what we do in our own homes was important enough to clearly state then and it is important now.

[mscaseyjane]

When home alone I agree that dressing as I would like is great. With a family, those opportunities are not always there. Even then, when living in a small town with extended family I tend to be cautious. An unexpected knock on the door from someone that knows I'm home could lead to some very uncomfortable conversations. As with many thing I've learned about the CD community so much is very much dependent on each individual's situation/circumstances.

[DaisyLawrence]

Bobbi.
Your neighbours are lucky to have you. Whatever peoples attitudes to transgenderism they have to all agree that us 'gender gifted' types are at least interesting. I've lived all over and had lots of neighbours, some lovely, some downright evil, and even one that turned out to be a serial killer. At the end of the day none were anywhere near as interesting as having a crossdresser living next door. Heck at least the murderer was something to talk about with the otherwise boring folks! :)

[alwayshave]

When home alone, so rare due to my step daughter, I just wear a long nightgown and just lounge.

[Tracy Irving]

I am far less likely to cool off by putting on a bra than taking one off. Just saying...

[biancabellelover]

I have a dressing gown ready in case of callers.

Michelle.

[Bobbi46]

Jessica,
The same could be applied to me, not only am I out to my hamlet where I live (11 neighbours) but also my local town council all know add to this the post ladies and men who in turn come from a sorting office i guess there must be a whole pile of people that know of me and despite this there has been no fall out from it or loss of friends.
abby,
I could not agree with you more, regarding inside our home as one friend who i told said to me " what you do in your home is your business, what you tell me stays with me" and that turned out to be true he did not use my information as a useful bit of tittle tat to pass on to all and sundry.
Daisy,
Thank you for that i guess I am lucky to have the situation that i have in that I do not need to hide behind my front door a at all.

I do not and have not ever " flaunted it" to put it one way but on the other hand after gaining a certain degree of confidence I now have no qualms in answering the door dressed, so many people know of me that it does not matter any more.

[Teresa]

Daisy,
I'm getting the feeling I've caused a bit of a stir in my new neighbourhood but at least there's no intention to hide it anymore , I come and go as I choose . Yes the guy from across the road did nearly catch me much like Bobbi, I had just finished putting my makeup on, only wearing a bra and pants and no wig when he rang the door bell ! So what do you grab to cover up , the nearest item hanging on the back of the bathroom door was the shirt and trousers I had just walked the dog in , I only had time to do one button up on my shirt so you could see my bra with forms in . He's a retired plasterer and does jobs for cash and I wanted my bedroom wall skimming after adding insulation to the wall , so he popped across to tel me when he could do the job .

[Bobbi46]

Teresa, Where was your dressing gown? might that have been quicker or would that have been too much of a give away?

[Rollermiss]

Well for me, The house is mine and my wifes. I will dress how ever I want too in my own house.

Kelsey

[Micki_Finn]

Great experience but don’t assume everyone will treat you well just because you’re polite. There are people who not only hate us for who we are and what we do, but are also willing to perpetuate violence against us simply for existing.

[QueenJeanette]

There's no greater feeling being able to wear clothing you desire. It's summer in Connecticut. For the past 2 weeks most of the day when I'm home inside the house or on the back deck I'm in lace panties and a tee-shirt. Pink Panties and a white tee or black panties and pink tee. The boy shorts are nice but yesterday I pick up some lace thongs that are nice too. I've been wearing those all day. When I'm in the garden or in the yard I put on some Jean short shorts or leggings. In the pool I'm naked all the time. I have a tall fence.

[Bobbi46]

Micki, In a way I think I am like Teresa blessed with where i live, the more I speak to people ( if and when the subject arises) about dressing without needing to or desiring to include myself I find people especially round here are more accommodating and accepting towards our community.

Recently I found out that there is another expat very close to me who is a dresser but as yet have failed to find her. I did hear that she has had no adverse criticism thrown at her. I genuinely think times are changing and rapidly.
Yes animosity can be leveled at us from time to time but I think on the whole that would be likely to occur in larger towns and cities and areas with a strong religious connection, although there must be of course exceptions.

[Teresa]

Bobbi,
I have two women's style , a black satin and lace one a silk floral one both hanging behind my bedroom door so they weren't the first item to hand .

[Bobbi46]

Also it comes down to ones comfort status and self confidence. If one is not worried who sees them dressed (appropriately) at the front door wheres the harm in being oneself? Just the other day Angus my neighbour saw me close up for the first time dressed as i was slowly turning round the sharp bend into my lane he greeted me nicely. But as I say surely its what one is comfortable in that counts best?.

[lingerieLiz]

One time when I moved the neighbor came buy while I had the doors open. He walked in and saw me fully dressed. Never said a word about it.

[Bobbi46]

Liz, IMO that is just how things should be, how we all would like life to be, placid with everybody getting on with eachother just like my little hamlet, nobody being judgemental, just each of us getting on with our lives as we feel. I think in a way I am in a very liberal community.

[Lacy PJs]

Bobbi,

Before I read the text portion of your message, I was going to say that it didn't matter until you opened the door! You beat me to it. :)

Lacy PJs

[Alice_2014_B]

Jodie said it best!
Very cool interaction too.
:)

[April Rose]

Yesterday I was practicing my guitar in a white, sleeveless top with eyelet embroidery, a Roz & Allie Floral print maxi skirt, forms & jewelry, but no makeup or wig. I finished up and headed downstairs. As I turned the corner to the kitchen, there was my wife standing talking to a woman who I did not know. It turned out she was a political canvasser. The elections in Massachusetts are already starting. I just turned and went back upstairs.

She must have seen me, but she made no indication to my wife that she did. Taking about it later, we both laughed, because my wife had answered the door in her pajamas, though it was afternoon. I guess if you are going out to do political canvassing, you're going to see stuff that you didn't expect.

[Bobbi46]

It is quite amazing how sometimes people fail to see something which is almost right in front of them, and others notice immediately, sometimes people are not concerned in what people see them in. In general i am very careful in what I am wearing and how I should be seen when I open my front door, I would never balatently open my door just in lingerie purely because it would not be right but on this occasion with a long tee shirt that covered me up sufficiently there was no problem. Being seen dressed properly is a very important thing but when one is caught on the hop like I was, I would like to add that i could not delay opening the door any more because my neighbour knew I was at home but doing what i did and covering up in an emergency was sifficient to not upset my neighbours by being seen in an undecorious state.
But out of it all this incident did illustrate how accepting people can be helped by the fact of all my neighbours knowing and seeing me from a distance dressed so seeing me up close dressed was, for me no big deal at all. But something to look back on and reflect on a happening that passed without any wrong impressions or recriminations.