Hello all wanting some advice?

[Megan.]

Hi there everyone its megan hope you are all doing great. I haven't been on here for a while struggling a bit with my anxiety i am just looking for some advice on inspiration to start dressing again i have been a bit bored with it recently thank you all for any advice you may give

megan.

[Jennifer_Ph]

Grab your favorite pair of heels, and go from there. :love:

[sarah_hillcrest]

I know what you mean. I lost all interest in it for several months. My advice is to be honest with yourself, do you really want to do this? No one is making you. Are you holding yourself back? If you find you don't want to then don't and don't worry about it. If you want to but need some inspiration head to a thrift store and buy something totally different from what you'd normally wear and try it out.

[ClosetED]

What part of the dressing brings you happiness? There are many different responses here - some get sexual release, some prefer one type of clothing over others, some hope to look as blendable as possible, others for feminine looks, others for large chest.
There is the Fictionmania.tv website with stories.
If what you have done has bored you, reach for a new level - go to a transformation service and see what can be accomplished.
just some thoughts,
Hugs, Ellen

[Alice_2014_B]

Find what you miss most about it.
Get that and get going.
I know, "easier said than done."
:)

[MarinaTwelve200]

I get "Sexual Release", the ability to totally "unwind" and relax, and finally, the artistic CHALLENGE of seeing how good a "girl" I can make myself with makeup , wigs, etc.---And different variations. There is a HIGH in doing that too

[Taylor186]

When I get bored or lose interest in dressing I just don't do it. When the desire comes back, and it always does, I start dressing again. I no longer feel the need to force it. I was a member of a support group for a few years and found having to dress and attend a monthly meeting in a period when I had lost interest in dressing was pressure I didn't need. So I stopped going and felt better for it.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Megan :hugs:, JUST GO FOR IT ! >Orchid ..o:daydreaming:o..

[Stephanie47]

Many times I found myself dressing when I really did not have the desire to be en femme. Usually, it was when the opportunity presented itself time wise. Under those circumstances I thought "Why the heck am I doing this?" I don't know why I choose to wear women's clothing at all. Something clicks inside my and I feel tranquility and peace of mind. I see no reason for trying to kick start a dressing session if the desire is not there. I read some of your prior posts. You indicated you had been going to a support group. Are you still attending? Or have you fallen away?

[IleneD]

Panties...... panties will light the spark. New panties.
or.... you could light a spark IN your panties. Pants on fire always cures boredom.

[Alice Torn]

I totally agree with Sara Hillcrest on this.

[QueenJeanette]

Panties...... panties will light the spark. New panties.
or.... you could light a spark IN your panties. Pants on fire always cures boredom.

I was just going to say panties. I see panties online and I put some on and I always go for the pink one.

[Millisense]

Hi Megan,
If any current dressing you do is not helping with your anxiety, then change something up, maybe wear something new like others have said. Or perhaps go out somewhere different dressed, or reach out to a support group and meet accepting people in person if you haven't already. If that doesn't work or you don't wish to do that then just wear what's comfortable and look for another outlet for your anxiety, any support group. I love your profile photo by the way, what a lovely pose :)

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Why force it Megan? It isn't something you have to do, why not let it take its time.

For me, the constant is underwear. I might go months without dressing fully, but the only time I wear male underwear - and coincidentally I will be tomorrow - is when I visit the dermatologist.

[Diane Taylor]

The desire to dress will have its highs and lows. Dress when you feel the urge and don't dress when you don't feel in the mood. There are no rules saying when you should or shouldn't dress.

[Tracii G]

I'm with Sarah H. on this one.
I think its a fabulous idea.

[KatrinaK]

I consider myself to be bi-gender with a fair amount of fluidity (although I'm working on all that in therapy.)

I spent enough of my life denying myself the ability to accept and enjoy the times where I identify as female. Finally I accept and enjoy the times when I do and when I don't. If you're not feeling it, don't worry about it.

It'll come back... that's the one thing you CAN count on!

[Devi SM]

Some thoughts:
Your anxiety is related with dressing? If it's so just find new things to dress, but you said that it bored you. It could be euphoria too...
Therapist?

[docrobbysherry]

Megan, I think u r SO LUCKY! I can only wish to NOT be inspired to dress!:thumbsup:

Instead, I find myself working on at least 3 dressing projects at a time!

Why would u want to dress if u don't feel like it? This isn't like going to work or paying your bills. It's more like going bowling or going to visit a cranky friend. U don't have to do it, so don't!:straightface:

[Solange]

I have to vote with the girls who said panties. To be specific, black mesh spandex in a size slightly too small. Tuck back, then run your hand over that flat mons covered by soft, smooth nylon. You'll be back.

[Megan.]

thank you all for your kind words of encouragement it means a lot to me i do not have any friends to talk to about my feeling regarding dressing so thank you all.

[BrendaPDX]

I go to thrift stores and look at the skirts and dresses, and sometimes the shoes too:battingeyelashes:

[JennB]

Ignore the barriers. I find that I many times let illogical barriers stop me from dressing. I don't have a long period of time to be dressed, I don't feel like shaving, is it worth it today, etc. But I never regret it when I do. If you are thinking about it, and it is on your mind, it probably means you want to. If you have the opportunity, just go ahead and do it and ignore any false barriers. Most of us rarely regret the feelings we have when we get to dress and enjoy some, alter ego time.

[Celee]

I’ve gone through the same thing. No dressing for awhile but be careful. When the pink fog comes back it comes with a vengeance.

[Bobbi46]

Megan , just be yourself dressing is something which will be with you for ever, do notbe frightened of it and do not try and fight it but enjoy what you have whilst you can. I do and more of us do.
If it makes you happy then enjoy the pink fog from time to time.

[phili]

Hi Megan,

Are the boredom and anxiety related? Boredom can be a way we turn down the heat on something we are anxious about. So maybe think about what it is about dressing that wasn't working, so you stopped, and the stopping feels like boredom- but the cure is not dressing again, the cure is figuring what it is you need!

[Becky Blue]

Megan, unless its upsetting you that you don't feel like dressing, just wait until the urges come back... becky left me totally for over 3 years, then one day she was back.. never understood why she left now why she came back...

[Beverley Sims]

Megan,
Look around you, what other interests have occupied your life recently?

Have there been other interests or important events?

The urge will come back with a vengeance when you settle down to more mundane activities, do not fret over this.

[Bruce64]

Go for a walk in a big department store in the ladies lingerie section, look at the lingerie, feel the fabrics and that would unleash the Tigress in you, good luck

[Judy-Somthing]

I find I need to add something new to dress-up time which makes it all worth wild.

Like a new wig or hairstyle.
A new outfit or dress works great.
Trying some different makeup techniques.
Learning how to pose/take photos etc.